Catching up… it isn’t fun…

Hi guys,

Today I would like to write a short post. I am on my journey in catching up with my to-do list. Although every day fewer tasks are being moved forward than the day before, the number is still terrifying. But I know that getting on top of everything is going to be a long journey and slowly but surely I am getting there.

I had some moments of helplessness today, though. It was hard to push through them, but I did. I also have to agree, that doing any work with a toddler running around isn’t the easiest thing. However, I keep getting him involved in more and more chores. At the moment, it slows me down, but I hope that in the long run, he will grow into an independent young man. Having his diagnosis made me crazy about independence. I know that he has his struggles and apart from ‘normal’ things, he’ll have to learn how to cope with them. But he is a very bright boy and watching him learn new things brings me a lot of joy. Even though he slows me down, he motivates me to push and not give up. And this is the real motivation. The one person, who makes me want to get up out of bed no matter how low I feel (‘wants’ isn’t the right word, he forces me to leave my bed sometimes) and I am very grateful for that. It is hard to stay in a dark place when there is this little sunshine jumping and running around.

And that’s it for today’s post. Just a quick check-in. I hope you enjoyed reading it anyway. I wish you a very important day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Day off… This is what I needed!

Hi guys,

Today, I spent my day with my family. We visited my brother-in-law and simply took some rest, without worrying about anything. Like no deadlines are here and my to-do list isn’t breaking at its seams.

And I have to tell you that I needed this day. Quality time with my husband and son put me in a much better mood. So here is one more adjustment to be made to my planning system, which is to keep my Saturdays off. And I know it isn’t going to be easy at first, at least till I will catch up with my tasks. One day off every week means that I have to schedule tasks for other days of the week. But it will also provide me with great motivation throughout the week. And let’s be honest, I have to learn to make realistic plans, so as a human I need this one day that I am going to look forward to.

However, I haven’t forgotten who I am and I have decided on some rules regarding my day off:

  • No thinking about stuff to be done (or could have been done, if I weren’t taking a day off)
  • Fully focused on my family and I
  • The only thing I can do at the end of the day is to plan for the next day (but I can leave it and plan in the morning on Sunday)
  • Adding a task on Wednesday to plan Saturday’s activities (or creating a list with all family-friendly things to do in our area)

And our plans don’t have to be too elaborate. It can be just having a picnic or visiting a museum or our family. What is important to spend this time together and make our bond even stronger?

And this is it for today’s post. If you have some ideas about what can we do on our day off, feel free to let me know in the comment section. And I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Oh… So I need a logical thinking?

Hi guys,

Today I realised one thing and I would like to share it with you. As you might know, for a long time I have been trying my best to find my organised self. And oh boy, was it a bumpy road… Trying different types of planning, reading countless articles, and watching millions of youtube videos on the topic and the results are the same: failure. Nothing seems to work for me. But here is the thing, no matter what kind of planning I decided to try, I’ve never given it a thought. I just simply threw all the tasks, every single thing I need to do in my new system and got it running. Although it might seem like a good way (action is better than thinking about the action), my planning hasn’t got any structure and logic to it.

Today, I have been thinking about some ways to keep myself busy at work. As I can’t use my phone, I keep finding myself being bored quite a lot and my time just stops there. So I analysed what I am doing and how I would manage to get myself busy whenever I had a free while in my station and that’s when it hit me. My tasks also can be divided into tasks which require my full focus, but usually, there is some waiting included, like when my editing program processes my files for smooth work or when my video is uploading. Taking into account that my current computer isn’t the first generation model, sometimes it takes hours. And I am finding myself starting at my screen at that time. Feeling like I am wasting valuable minutes of my day. And getting more and more behind. Of course, I know that I will not get a noble price for my realisation, but I am not intending to.

I hope that with this knowledge, I will be able to get much more done during the day and as a result, my to-do list will be becoming empty at the end of each (or almost every day). Of course, I have a lot of things to make up, and one more task which is to re-organise my list, but I also understand that getting organised is rather a marathon than a sprint. And running a marathon start with preparation. As better prepared you are, as easier your run is going to be.

So let me prepare myself for my marathon. And I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Life-work balance and reality

Hi guys,

Today, I would like to share my thoughts about the life-work balance. This is a topic that might sound simple (just don’t bring your work back home and you’ll be good) but in reality, it is quite tricky. To begin, it is important to recognize which activities would you consider work. For me, going to work is undeniably one of them, but housework (maybe except cooking) is work as well. And we probably know that there is always something to do at home (especially with toddler making sure that their toys are scattered around the entire surface of your place).

So when I was planning before, I was considering any cleaning-related task as a ‘life’ part. I wasn’t paid for that (and I am still not). So when I looked at my schedule, it looked that I have quite a lot of life in it. However, recently I reevaluated it and came to conclusion that it isn’t as much of a rainbow, if you look at the time which is really for me to relax and do whatever I like. It is even harder now, when I want to spend some quality time with my son too, I finding myself getting my chores done late at night when my son is asleep. This make me go to bed late and as a result I am more and more tired each day.

What is the solution to this problem? To be honest, I don’t have any yet, but I am working on this. I don’t know, however, if it is possible to achieve it. To eat cake and still have a cake. But this is my new problem to solve. Hopefully, I will come up with some remedy, that will help me feel like I have my life well-balanced. And if I will, I’ll let you know.

However, that’s all for today’s post and I’ll see you in my next one.

Daria

Creating a routine is a long, long, long process…

Hi guys,

Today I will talk about quite a familiar topic in this blog which is creating a routine. After almost three weeks of holiday, there is finally the time when I am supposed to start getting things done, moving forward with all the goals I have. And although I am managing some things, like cleaning and organising my home (it is still not perfect, but acceptable and if I will keep it up, soon enough I will be able to brag about my organised and easy to clean place). On the other hand, my other things are staying well behind.

After my holiday, I am finding it very hard to get up in the morning and set to work. I spend at least three to four hours prepping breakfast for my son, making and drinking my coffee and getting us somewhat ready for the day. It frustrates me because I can’t get ahead with my work, even if I am finally able to get up early.

So again, I’ve decided to create a routine, where I can have tasks done from various aspects of my life. And I know this is going to be a great journey, but also demanding and well… long. But this time I will keep adding task after task, till I will be happy with what I get. So let’s see how it goes, but for now that’s all for today’s post. I’ll see you in my next one.

Daria

Are holidays a part of being productive or just an excuse to procrastinate?

Hi guys,

I am finally after my holiday. I went to Poland, where my son met his grandmother and uncles for the first time. And as you might know from my previous post, I am on my way to becoming a productive person, being able to set realistic goals and achieve them. What is worth mentioning is that these are my first holiday in around five or six years. I have had some days (and even months) off work, of course. However, they were caused by the circumstances making it impossible to rest, like my son being born, the pandemic, my dad’s funeral or just a simple illness.

This time I came to Poland to visit my family and enjoy time with my son. I can see him interacting with his family and show him the city where I grew up. Although people say that going on holiday with a toddler isn’t REAL holiday as still, you have to take care of a child, just the surrounding changes. For me though, looking after my son brought unbelievable joy. Especially, since I had nowhere to be at any certain time during the day. We just went whenever we feel like it. No rush, no time-related stress. I almost forgot that such a thing is even possible.

On the other hand, some things kept me away from being able to fully relax. There was this to-do list waiting for me to act on these multiple tasks. And, as I had only my electronic version of the list, I did something that only made sense: I deleted it from my phone. I understood, that just having it with me at all times, would stop me from enjoying my time. However, I am just myself and it wouldn’t be me if I wouldn’t analyse it after coming back. My main concerns are, did my holiday help me get at least a bit more productive afterwards? Could I do anything before going, to make my time even better?

So let’s answer my first concern. I spent just one day back home, but so far I was able to get stuff done without hours of thinking about them. And as I am thinking now, I’ve gotten quite a lot done without feeling overwhelmed or exhausted at the end of the day. My today’s to-do list is almost empty now and I feel proud of myself.

And the other concern: could I do anything before going to make my rest better? The answer is simple: yes. I should have taken care of all the things which I intend to be regular, like writing on this blog or uploading videos on my channel. I could prerecord some videos and schedule them, I should have scheduled at least a few posts to be posted during my holiday. But on the other hand, I felt very overwhelmed before my holiday. Having my to-do list deleted forced me to plan all my tasks again (even I can understand that it is impossible to make up hundreds of tasks) and although my days are still overplanned, I did cross most of the tasks off of the list. And, gosh, does it feel great?

So in conclusion, I think that my holiday improved my productivity and I will try to go somewhere again, even if it is going to be just one day trip. However, I will try my best to get ahead of my schedule beforehand, so my everyday things aren’t going to be neglected.

And that’s all for my today’s post. I hope you’ll have a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Isn’t it easier just to give up?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about giving up. I think that all of us at some point experienced a time when everything seems wrong. You have this great plan of action and suddenly something pops out, your kid is not fond of following his routine, or you just don’t want to do anything. And your to-do list keeps growing and growing. One day there was just one task moved to the next day. But as tomorrow came, you had to make it up and another two or three tasks didn’t get done, another day another few and you don’t even realise when your to-do list became this huge papyrus that messengers unroll in cartoons.

This is what happened to me recently (and still I am trying to come out of it). I had to over-plan my days a bit. My days got jammed with tasks, as I am going to go on holiday after one and a half weeks and hope to get ahead with my work. And tonight, as I was crossing my tasks in my app, I realised that (including overdue tasks) I have fifty-something things to do tomorrow. No, it isn’t a mistake FIFTY-SOMETHING THINGS TO DO TOMORROW. It wouldn’t be as bad, if not for the fact that next two days I need to be at work from morning to afternoon. And my next days have also loads of things planned.

Before I started writing this post, I was wondering what is the point of even attempting to get it done. There will be probably more coming the next day than I had to do the previous day. So I decided to give up at first. But as I thought about it a bit longer, I realised that this isn’t an option. Although it seems easy now because I would get to rest and forget about all these tasks, it will bite me back after. Some of my tasks are time sensitive, so I will have to get them done during my holidays. So better to try and get as much as I can before I enter the plane, so I will be able to enjoy my time off much more.

But that all situation got me thinking about something else. Why my first option was to give up. It happened by default. No thinking about pros and cons, just right away give up? I have been thinking about it for a while and I think I know why. At the time when we feel overwhelmed, giving up seems to be the easiest way. It lets us sort out the problem without any effort. Just forget about every single thing on your list and the problem is solved. This is an easy task, isn’t it?

But if we just stopped for a minute and think about it a bit more, would we still think so? These mountains of laundry to do wouldn’t be very helpful in forgetting about it. This very important project for work neither. And the guilt. The guilt of not being able to complete what we planned.

We can’t forget about the most important thing: guilt, that we didn’t even try. We could get so much more done and make our life a bit easier in the future but we were too busy giving up. So is giving up an easier option? I can’t answer this for sure. It depends on each person, I guess. But I’ve been living with the guilt of not trying for way too long and this time I am going to push through it. And before my holidays I will do as much as I can. Maybe not all, but at least my time off won’t be jammed with things to do as much as it is now.

And this is all for today’s post. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Just become better! It’s… easy

Hi guys,

In today’s post, I would like to focus on getting better. Not getting better than this guy who seems to have it all but better than you and just you yesterday. Changing anything in life requires us to get some skill or set of skills, sometimes a different attitude or different priorities. What is sure, if we want to see change around us, the only thing we are changing is ourselves.

Let me give you some examples. If you want to have a clean home, you need to change your habits or maybe learn how to clean (I know it is hard to believe, but there aren’t any magic gnomes who wash dishes after you or do your laundry). If you need more money, you need to learn new skills to be able to earn more or you need to learn how to spend more wisely. And if you look at any change you want to make in your life, it requires you to adjust one or the other way.

. So how to make any change easier? Just become better! It seems simple, while in reality changing yourself is the hardest part of it all. Throughout our lives, we’ve developed a lot of habits that make our life easy. We’ve created our routines, so a lot of times we are not even aware of the things we do. If we want to change anything, first we need to gain awareness of what are we doing now. Let’s take for example saving money. I think most of us would like to do it, but there is always not enough to put aside. So the first thing would be to realise where is our money coming from and how much each month are we getting. Where do we spend our money, which of our spending is a necessity and which isn’t and so on. Maybe we are not earning enough? So how to change it? Shall we get another job, start a side hustle or downsize our home? When we realise what the problem is and what options we have to resolve it, then we can try and decide which option is the best and what shall we focus on the most.

You could ask how do I know, that this is what we should do? I have no idea, but I am sharing my thoughts here and gaining awareness about myself is what I am trying to do now. As I will keep changing myself, I will share my results with you. It might work, might not. But I will never know till I’ll try.

And that’s all I wanted to share in today’s post. I hope you enjoyed reading and if you want to try anything I’ve written about, let me know in the comment. If you already using this technique, let me know if it works for you. And if you disagree, I will be happy to read your opinion. In the end, we are all here to learn.

But for now, I wish you a good day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Changes are the struggle

Hi guys,

Today I would like to write about changes (like it is the first time I have ever done this on this blog). I think we can all agree, that I’ve proven in my previous posts how big of a struggle changes are for me. And here I am, writing this post early morning, after a sleepless night (if someone asks, I am trying to get into sleeping at night, after years of working night shifts). Well, that change goes very well, don’t you think?

I was hoping that working during the day will fix all my productivity problems. Like a magic wand, a good night’s sleep will help me to get more energy and motivation to get simple tasks done. Out of a sudden, I will become this well-organised person, who just gets her stuff done like no one else… Oh, but I forgot that changes are a struggle. To get a good night’s sleep I need to be able to fall asleep relatively easy. But I can’t. Usually, as soon as I am falling asleep, either my son is waking up, reminding me that it is time to start our day, or I need to go to work.

Sometimes, I think about the time when I used to work in my previous job. I was exhausted, as there were not many hours to sleep during the day, but at least I knew I will sleep at least a few hours each day. At this point, I keep assuming that I don’t need to sleep during my son’s nap or else I will not be tired at night. However, in the end, I end up not being able to fall asleep at night. As soon as I lie down, I feel hungry, or I just remember that I was supposed to do this or that. On the other hand, I struggle to get anything done during the day. I am very tired and starting any task seems too daunting. When I start, it goes quite ok, but thoughts about how tired I am and how much I have to do makes me unwilling to start anything.

So here I am, trying to figure out what else can I do. Writing this post as a way of expressing my desperation? Or maybe the better world will be a disappointment? Any way… Here I am… Changes are the struggle…

But changes are also an opportunity. They allow you to grow, improve your life, and become better yourself. They are a chance for you to find out how to would be to do something differently. They get you out of your comfort zone. To summarise: changes are a struggle, but they will become normal one day. After you adjust to them they are going to be a part of your life. That makes this struggle worth going through. It will get better one day, so let’s go through this adjustment phase as well as we can and let’s enjoy changes in our life.

Daria

Don’t expect different results, while doing same things

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about changes. The reason why I’ve decided to talk about changes (I might have had very similar if not the same title of the post down the road already), is because I’ve changed the one thing that was spoiling my productivity, which is my job. For a very long time, I’ve been working night shifts and as a result, I was running on little to no sleep. Friday night was my last shift in that job (I liked it, just the timing wasn’t as convenient). And as stress connected to me phaving to get ready on time ended, I slept the entire 24 hours. Good thing that we have my auntie visiting us and she took good care of my son, while I was on my visit to the dreamland. I was a bit anxious about my decision but this situation convinced me that this was the right choice. I am still going to work but this time during the day, around my husband’s schedule. However, having a night for sleep seems to be the best choice I could have made.

And I am not going to lie, I still feel a bit anxious about this change. Am I going to manage in my new job? Is it going to be a better solution for my family time-wise? I have no idea, but there is no point in being stuck in a bad scenario, just because of fear that the new one is going to be worse. I might regret it in the future, but hey, I will be able to look for another job, if this isn’t going to work out. This is the worst-case scenario, the better one is that I am going to love my new job and it will serve my family much better than my current job does. So what am I losing after all? Not too much. I might gain a new experience and a great place to work, and at the same time be present for my son. And don’t get me wrong, I was there for my son, but towards the end of the week, when my husband and I had a day off, I’ve slept through the entire day.

So what is the situation at the moment? First of all, I am trying to get used to a new sleeping routine. It has only been a couple of days, so I can’t fall asleep in the evening. Second of all, I am dealing with all paperwork for my new job. While writing this paragraph I am on my way to getting basic training. After there will be only documents to upload, and a contract to sign and I will be able to start work next week. I am also planning to finally get my home organised this week but as always, we’ll see how it’ll go. At the moment there is a huge heat wave where I live and it makes it hard to get to work. But as always, I’ll do my best to push through.

Next week I am going to start my work in a fast food restaurant. It will be challenging on the begining, but all jobs so far were, till I got ised to. And I will also have more time to work on my own projects, so fingers crossed, you’ll be able to read my posts on more regular basis.

And this is all I wanted to share in today’s post. Changes are hard and if you are going through any at the moment, remember that the situation you are used to now also was a change back in time, so I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria