12th day: why do people change?

Hi guys,

It’s already 12th day. I can’t belive, how fast our time goes. I still have a feeling, that I had settled this blog yesterday and at the same time I know, that it changed my life completely, like 180° turn. So I think, it’s great opportunity to talk about changes.

Very often we can see two people, who seem to do everything together. Like they never separate. They are just so similar: same hobby, dreams, goals… They spend every minute together. Like anyone else exists.

But after some time something goes wrong. One of them (or sometimes both) realizes, that they don’t have too much in common any more. When they’re meet, they have very little to talk about and almost nothing to do. And each of them thinks: “This other one changed. He/she used to be my soulmate, but now we are strangers to each other”.

And here is very important question: why all those changes have happened? People should be always same, shouldn’t they? Otherwise they aren’t themselves any more. They are becoming someone else. Someone new.

I have been thinking about this quite a lot (I’ve started long time before an idea of this blog appeared in my head) and I’ve came to some conclusions. Let me point them out:

Environment

You can say, what you want, but people around influence us a lot. Very often we adopt some of their behaviours, without even thinking about it. This is one of those things, which happen automatically. And some people will call it “learning process”, while for others it will be just copying. But no matter how you are going to name it, it’s going to happen.

Dreams and goals

This is quite important thing. While setting goals, we need to be aware of who we need to become, to actually achieve them. Each activity we are going to do, will require different behaviours, habits and even ways of thinking. For example, if our dream is to have a child and at the moment we are completely unorganized and carefree, we need to change it (well, at least if we want our child to survive with us). When we want to travel the world and we hardly can afflrd to make it till next payday, we have to have a closer look into our spendings and try to save some money. And many, many other.

Our “experiences bag”

Well, let’s make something clear: no matter what we are doing we are human beings. We make a lot of mistakes. And even if we get up after failures, we still keep them in our mind, so next time when similar situation happen, we know at least, what should we avoid and we look for other solution.

Financial situation

Ok, here we can say whatever we want, but we need to admit one thing: money change people. I am not saying that always for worse (very often happen), but for better as well. When we have enough money, we don’t need to think about where to get some from. We can afford for more, so we are trying new things, getting new experiences and learn from them. That changes us a lot.

Roles, we are playing in life

Well, most of people change, when they get job, when they become husbands, wife, or parents. Their priorities change, so they need to change their life to adjust to new situation.

Things we learn

This is kind a simple. When we learn new stuff, we understand more and our way of thinking changes according to what we know.
And those are things, which came to my mind so far. If you have any other idea, don’t hesitate to let me know in comment box below. I will love to find out what do you think about changes.

I don’t thing, that changes are bad. They are the best prove, that we are actually doing something with our life. That we develop ourself. Even if we change for worse, there is a possibility, that we are going to realize it and we will change again, this time for better. And as long, as all those changes don’t stop us to be who we are, they cannot be bad (at least not so bad). And this is my conclusion 😉

And because it’s late already, I will move straight to today’s summary:

Being active – checked 😉

CSS lesson – checked 🙂

Next few chapters of Sunday book – checked 🙂

Two chapter of book – checked 🙂

Today’s post – checked 🙂

And, of course, plan for tomorrow – checked 🙂
For now I wish very productive day and a lots of good changes in your lives (there is never so good, that it cannot be better). And I’ll see you in next post 🙂

Daria

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