“If you can walk on the water, take the boat” by John Harricharan

“If you can walk on the water, take the boat” written by John Harricharan is a story about John, who is having some issues with his company recently. Out of a sudden there is very strange and intriguing man showing in his life – Gideon. As it turns out later, Gideon is working for God.

To be honest, as I’ve started reading this book, I was thinking, that it must be some kind of joke. It seemed to me, as I am having story for children in front of my eyes. But as I went deeper into it, I’ve realised, that no matter what kind of  book it is, I (and I hope you as well) can learn a lot from it.

I have been thinking for quite a long time, which way shall I expose to you, what have I red. It would be easy, but I don’t want to tell you, how this story finishes. Just in case if some of you wants to read it. What I’ve decided, I am going to present some quotes and short comments to each of them (note, there are much more valuable quotes in this book. What are you going to read here, is only peak of the iceberg of them).

Take some time to enjoy life. Everyone has same measure of time (…). It’s what you do with your time that’s important.

Gideon

Why I had picked this quote? Because this is something I used to think a lot about. I was wondering, how it can be possible, that some people can do double or even tripple amount of work than the others having same amount of time.

As I mentioned before in one of my posts, I am procrastinating kind of person. And well, I think my wondering proccess was one of the excuses, to make me not to do my work.

Well, this is the problem with our nature. We can do anything, just not to do what we need to do. And it is very important to be aware of this.

(…) you’ve been ‘going through’ experiences instead of ‘growing through’ them.

June, John’s friend

This is another thing, which seems very important to me. As a human-beings, we are making mistakes. We are going through many failures. But what we don’t do (at least some of us – including me sometimes) is we don’t learn our lesson. We are trying to errase everything what, according to us, was bad, without even trying to come to any conclusion.

The result of such behaviour is, that very likely we are going to make exactly same mistakes, as we are not trying to find out, what was the reason of our failure.

You care, so you try to make everything work right. When nothing seems to work right, you worry and become fearful and because of the fear, you short-circuit yourself.

Gideon

This is another quote, that catched my eye. Maybe, because very often I am guilty of it. When something goes wrong, we start to worry, instead of looking for solutions. We are scared of consequences of our action, so we just sit and worry. According to me, this is something worth, to be aware of.

To exist without chalenges would be boredom as its ultimate

Gideon

I have picked this as well, because I know a lot lf people, who don’t even try to do anything, but comain all the time, that they are bored (I think I was like this as well at some point). They have some dreams, but instead of trying to achieve them, thay are getting bored.

This is making me a bit sad, as so many people trying all the best to get a stuff done are complaining for lack of time, while others are wasting their time for getting bored.

People must learn that they are all shipmates on the common voyage of life and that they cannot sink their shipmates without sinking themselves.

Confucius (met on one of time-travels)

This is last quote I want to share with you in this post, but not least important. According to me, this is lesson, everyone should learn, no matter what he/she is doing. You cannot try to make other’s life hard. Maybe not right away, maybeater, but anything you do to someone, is going to come back to you. So it is worthed to make sure, we are helping others, instead of trying to pull their legs.

All of presented quotes are coming from book “If you can walk on the water, take the boat” written by John Harricharan and as I mention above, there is much more of them.

Failure is a part of a success (day zero)

Hi guys,
I haven’t been here for so long time. I was even considering to leave this blog for good, as anything seemed to go right. But I just can’t. Every single day of my absence I used to miss it a lot. But let me explain, what was going on with me during all this time.

As you might know, I have had internet problem recently, but every second or third day I was able to post something. Finally I’ve got it done, now it’s working correctly. When I was in my job, I was thinking, that finaly I’ll be able to keep publishing regularly. I couldn’t wait to do so.

But two hours before end of my work-day an accident happened. Me and my workmate were geting some washing done. One step of procedure is to spray  them with bleach and put into washing machine, so my friend strted doing it. He wanted to scare me a little and while being sure, that spray is locked (it wasn’t), he pretended to spray into my eyes (and he succeded).

I’ve been taken to emergency by ambulance to hospital. Luckily, it wasn’t anything serious, but I wasn’t able to use my eyes for some time. Now, they seem to be much better. Today I have even came back to work. Temperature caused a little pain to my eyes, but it isn’t any major pain. Similar to this, when you haven’t got enough sleep and they are just tired. So I’ve decided to come back, this time for good, I hope.

There is another think I wanted to explain: why I wanted to leave my blog and stop publishing anything here. The reason is very simple: I’ve given up. When I was in hospital (few hours only) I was thinking quite a lot and what I’ve realised was, that no matter how much I am trying, I always fail in long run (of course I am talking about regalar publishing here). If there aren’t any internet problem, there is work, if not work, some accident and always something. And that time I’ve decided, that there is no point of trying. Why shall I waste my time, if I can’t do this properly? That was my opinion and I was sure, this is what is going to happen.

But after two days I’ve realised, that in fact I miss it a lot. Actualy I can’t wait, when my eyes condition will alowe me to write some post. I understood, that no matter how many times I’ve failed, proccess of writing posts brings so much fun into my life. So I’ve decided to start all over again, but this time I am not going to give up easily. Obviously, I couldn’t publish anything for last two (or three) weeks, as I was suppoused to save my eyes. But internet problem could have been sorted easily. I could have asked my husband and use his phone (as he has unlimited data). But I had choosen easier way (I’m not sure if I had mention this, but I am master of excuses 🙂 ). So this time I want to fight as hard as I can, to overcome difficulties and fail only if I’m realy not able to manage. Let’s see how it is going to work.

But why I actualy decided to continue? Well, my parents always thought me, that looser is not the one who will fall down, but the one who will not try to get up.

So here I am. I’ve gotten up. And I’ve lernt my lesson. I was thinking to share my thoughts with you, but I have a feeling, that this post is already too long.

Now, I am going to bed. I wish you productive and joyful day. And I see you in tomorrow’s post 🙂

Daria
PS. I’ve started my day counting from the beginning, as there were a lot of days, when I couldn’t do anything. Todays post doesn’t include summary, as I was getting my eyes used to work again (writting this post took me whole day, as stil my eyes are getting tired very quickly). So today’s day is numbeed as 0.

PS2. Self-development book’s post is going to be published on Sunday, as it was planned before. And I am going to do all my best to have one book every Sunday.

18th and 19th day: what did they teach you?

Hi guys,

It’s next day (or to be more precised two days) when I was in work. Well, after my short break, while I was in Poland, I haven’t even realised how much I missed it. I complain a lot about it (you know: work too hard, people too anoying and stuff like this), but only few days off made me long for coming back.

And those two days were very hard, as our muslim part of team is more and more tired. But already half of ramadan is done, so soon everything is going to come back to norm.

Yesterday I’ve slept quite a lot. To be honest I don’t know why. Normally around 4-5 hours of good sleep is doing it’s job. But yesterday I felt asleep, before my neighbours came (any way I wouldn’t have bother them late). It looks like you have to forgive me two days in one post for some time. Let’s hope, at least this much I’ll be able to do. And of course book on Sunday 😉

Ok, but let’s go to my today’s post (excuses are done for today 😉 ). Last post was quite depresive, so I’ve decided, to write about something more positive today 😉 and what (or who) I want to talk about today are our teachers. But not those, we remember from our schools, more or less capable to do their work, but about our life teachers. People who showed us, how this world works, what is right and what is wrong and who influenced us the most, so now we are who we are. Do you know who I am talking about? Of course our parents (or other people who took care of us when we were children).

Why I want to talk about this? Because today in work one of my work mates was complaining a lot. He was saying that it’s too hot, too much work and stuff like this, while he was just sitting and doing nothing at the same time (well, except superwising others how to do his job properly). Everything has started to boil inside of me, as one of the worst things for me is using others to get your job done, without even trying to do it on your own. And what is even worse: taking money for that. But don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind if someone asks for help, but help, according to my knowledge, means you are doing and someone is giving you hand, because you can’t manage or just to get work done quicker. Deffinitely not when someone is working and you are busy with your phone.

So I’ve just told him, that he is behaving very bad and showing disrespect to all of us, working there. And he told me one sentence:

“This is what your parents tought you?” (When I’ve told him, that he is very spoiled person and he should do his work, as he isn’t old or sick – only one year older than me)

Well, the answer is yes. This is what my parents were trying to teach me for whole my childhood. That you have to know how to work hard and you have to always respect other people and their work. According to my work mate, my parents made huge mistake, when they were bringing me up, as they shouldn’t have let me tell everything what I thing, if I am not asked (well, to be honest I haven’t say everything, what I wanted. Lucky him).

So here is my question: as a parents, shall we teach children to tell their opinion? Or shall we just warn them to keep quiet, if there is something wrong happening around?

I’ve been thinking about this for long time and what I think is, that we should teach younger one to react. As this might help others (who can’t face people and do whatever they are asked to).

Nowadays, very often there are bad things happening around us. Starting from school: children being bullied, and crowds of viewers (or worse, camera operators), and finishing on streets where someone is being robbed and so many people around pretend not to see.

It happened to my dad one day and what I’ve heard from him, I wouldn’t wish even to the worse enemy of mine. But what was really sad, after this incident, unable to move (because of his ankle completely dislocated), whithout phone (has been stolen during robbery) he was asking people for help. Just simple call for police or ambulance. And no respond. After two hours of crawling in mud, one women stopped and helped him. Only one out of many, many passing by. The only one who knew, that you need to react. And she hadn’t only called. She stayed with my dad (even if she must have been scared, as it was night already) till police came and after came to me to inform about my dad’s accident.

My dad was lucky. At least this only one women, who possibly saved his life (I suppose staying all night in rainy weather wouldn’t be the savest thing to do). And there are a lot of people who are not so lucky. Who are getting frozen, because they’ve just had stroke or heart attack and people took them as drunk and went away. Or so many being beaten in front of crowd pretending to be blind.

So yes, we should teach our children to react. In safe for them way, but react (if you are afraid or simply can’t help, at least call police or ambulance. This is going to help a lot). Simple thing, but can safe someone’s life.

Ok, and this was conclusion. So I will carry on with my summaries 😉 today two in one as both of those days were very similar:

Being active – checked

Arabic practise – checked

CSS lesson – checked

Second motivational book: chapter with notes each day – checked

Chapter of book – checked

Plan for next day – checked

And today’s post (only for today) – checked
For today I wish you a productive day and courage to help others. And if your parents (or whoever else tought you this, be very gratefull for them. Well, you should be gratefull for parents any way 😉 ).

I am heading to bed now (after saying “thank you” to my neighbours of course). And I see you in next post.

Daria

16th day and 17th: and again?

Hi guys,

Next two days and another fail. Completely out of control. On Saturday night, there were another terrorist incidents. The worse thing if you are alone at home and you know that your relatives are somewhere in the city. You are trying to call them, but no signal. Well, you are not the only one trying. Network is not able to manage this.

And this is what I’ve done. I’ve been sitting at home and running out of my mind. I was worrying if my dad is going to come, if my husband is safe on his way back from work. And most of all: trying to call them.

Fortunatelly they came. It has taken longer as city centre was paralised. They were lucky. But I’ve started thinking about other people. Those who’s family members or friends weren’t so lucky. Who were waiting same as I was, but they haven’t heard sound of the key in the door. They couldn’t hug their family members. They’ve recieved bad news instead.

Mostly we are thinking: “Well, it’s sad. I feel sorry for them, but it doesn’t boder me. My family was home”. But what we don’t realise, next time it might meet us or our parents, children, brothers, sister or friends. Or us. We can’t be sure for tomorrow at all. We can’t even predict, if we’ll come back from simple grocery shopping. Maybe it’ll be our last yourney?

And here huge problem comes for those of us, who will do this realisation. Because no matter what is going to happen, we need to carry on like everything is ok. Like we are going to live for ever.

Someone told: “Work like you are going to live for ever, live like you are going to die tomorrow”. I can’t remember now, who’s words are they (not mine for sure 😉 ). But this is exactly what we need to do. We are working most of the time, to make sure we can have better future or at least survive.  And we are doing this, even though we have no idea who of us is going to be alive.

All of this freezed me for a while. We are living in such dangerous time, so we are thinking about this (at least I do). But to be honest, even if we would live any time before or after all those attacks, we wouldn’t be sure as well. What is my conclusion? Life is unpredictible. Any time accidents happen, people are getting sick and we can never be sure, when is our last day going to be. We never know, if person who is just living to work or going for holiday is going to come back. But any way, life is worth living, worth fighting for better future and most important: worth being a good person.

Very often people are arguing about so silly thigs. They are hurting each other. I am doing this as well, mostly unintentionally. Or I am just getting upset with my husband or father, because they dared to breathe (I am not getting upset for breathing, but similarly “huge” deals 😉 ). But this is what it is. If something is going to happen to anyone, try and make sure, you are not having any bad emotions towards this person. For instance I was so glad yesterday, that all of us have left home happy, talking to each other and just being happy. Otherwise all this would be even bigger nightmare. This knowledge, that any of them might not come back and last memory would be huge fight. After all, they are some of the closest people to me. And I think, live is too short for fights. Especially if there is no real reason to argue. But even if there is, we should try and sort it out calmly. To make sure, there will not be any words said, we are going to regret after.

Changing subject, just a little bit, today in work I’ve been talking to one of my mates. He said:

“Daria, I haven’t belive you, when you’ve told me those terrorist aren’t muslims. Now I do.”

“What made you change your mind?” 

“Well, when they’ve been doing all those things any time, with ‘Allahu akbar’ on their lips, I was sure they are muslims. But if they do this in ramadan… even I know, it’s one of the biggest sins for muslims”.

I’ve shared this conversation just to make you understand, that by calling all muslims terrorists, people are very unfair. They are hurting all REAL muslims, who are good people, always ready to help.

Dou you know, what came to my head. Another quote, I will not bring it exactly, but the meaning is: if you want to win with any country, first damage it from inside. Strong citizens, who can work together are harder enemies, than those who are enemies for each other.

In my opinion, this is what they are trying to do. Make all of us be enemies to each other. And what is sad, they are achieving their goal. And now, it’s up to us: are we going to be strong societies, who will fight real enemies together, or are we going to destroy our countries on our own, by fighting each other instead and doing job for them?

Finishing all my thoughts, I am going to move to my two days summaries.

16th’s day summary:

Chapter of book – checked

Arabic practise – checked

Small project in HTML + CSS (started) – checked

Plan for next day – checked

Being active – checked

17th’s day summary:

Chapter of book – checked

Project HTML + CSS (finished)- checked

Being active – checked

Arabic lesson – checked

Chapter of next motivational book – checked

Plan for tomorrow – checked

Two day’s post – checked
And for today I wish you very productive day and a lot of appreciation to people who are always with you and who won’t leave you no matter what. Do all the best, that time you are spending together will be quality time, not world war.

For now I am going to sleep. I’ll see you in tomorrow’s post

Daria
P.S. Unfortunatelly my internet still doesn’t work. Router had been changed, but it looks like this wasn’t the case. But my neighbours let me use their wi-fi to keep publishing my posts so any time, they are home in the evening I’ll be able to share my thoughts and everything what had been done. I hope my internet will be sorted once for good soon 😉

And post with book will appear on next Sunday. I will do all my best to publish them every Sunday, instead of every second one. But I’ve decided to keep Sunday as a day, when they are going to see daylight (another polish saying 😉 ). I hope you’ll forgive me this delay.

Announcement!

Hi guys,

I haven’t been here for quite long time, as so many bad things happen last week. Next morning after publishing my post, I’ve got message, that my 27-years old friend passed away. It broke me down. In my age girl, a few days before we were making holiday’s plans.

I went for funeral to Poland and I just haven’t been able to focus on anything. I’ve just been thare for her family, alone with my own thoughts. I was trying to be strong for them. But in reality I went through a little break out.

When I came back to London, I’ve lost my documents. Just to make it even worse….

Now I am better and I am ready to go back to my goals and dreams. So I’ve decided I am going to start again tomorrow. My book post will appear as well. Today I am going to extend my break, just to put my thoughts as they should be.

So I see you guys tomorrow in proper post and in my book review.

Daria