Just look forward to something and life is going to be much easier

Hi guys,

When I am starting writting this post, I am in train, going back from my uni. It’s already 8 pm. My classes finished at 4:30, but I’ve decided to stay and work a bit on my assignments. It makes me scared, as deadline of two of my assignments is on Monday, 4th of December, so if we don’t count today, I have only three days to get them ready. It wouldn’t be so bad, if not the fact, that one of them is hardly started so far. First one took so much time and efford.

Any way, today I would like to share with you some advice, which have changed my life for better.

But first, let me tell you story behind it. When I was a child, I loved school (I still do), but what was scaring me was, that each next year of my education was bringing more work, than the one before. At some point, I’ve hardly managed with all homeworks, exams, speaches, projects, etc. I’ve started hating school. Every day seemed to me same: school, coming home, studying, going to sleep. Weekends same, only I haven’t go to school. This was making me so unhappy.

One day, I’ve decided to leave school (obviously my parents haven’t let me do this) and when I’ve informed my dad (D), I could see corners of his mouth rising a bit.

D: ‘Why do you want to leave school? Not that long ago you loved it?’

I: ‘I did, but know I don’t. There is so much to do, I have no time for anything else!’

D: ‘And this is the reason to leave school? In your life you will always have more and more to do. Now your only responsibility is your school. When you’ll grow up, there will be work, children, house… Maybe even more.’

I: ‘But I still want to leave.’

D: ‘I can give you some idea. When you will have some free time?’

I: ‘When holidays will come.’

D: ‘Ok, so when you feel, like you can’t manage, just write what you want to do during your holiday. Every time one activity.’

I: ‘But it will only give more work!’ (Yes, that time writting was for me huge job 😉 )

D: ‘Do this just for three days and we will talk that time’

For three days I was writting activities. I had quite a lot (unfortunately, I don’t remember what exactly, but it is not that important). After that time I came back to my dad.

I: ‘Here is my list. It didn’t help me. I still want to leave school’

My dad hasn’t even looked at my list.

D: ‘How would you feel if you could do any of those activities now?’

I: ‘I would feel relaxed and happy’

D: ‘So now, every time, when you feel you have too much to do, just look at your list and think, that ok, now there is a lot of work. It is hard. But holidays will come and for two months you will be doing only stuff from your list (I think in most countries is different, byt in Poland summer holidays are for two months).

I: ‘But there is still long time till holidays comes!’

D: ‘Yes, but now you have your list, something you will look forward to, so it’s going to be easier’

To be honest, I haven’t believed him. Now I do. Since that time, I always have something, what is going to happen in the future and what I can’t wait for. If I don’t have, I create new one.

It seems silly, but it really works (at least for me). Now, again there is so much to do, sometimes I have a feeling, that I can’t manage, not this time. But very quickly I realise, that Christmas is just round the corner and plenty of time waiting to be used. And work is becoming easier (of course, I don’t want to spend my free time on worrying about pending tasks, so better to get them done before Christmas 😉 ).

With this thought I am going to leave you now. I wish all of you to be able to find something to look forward to. And of course, I wish you a very productive day.

I’ll see you in my next post

Daria

Today’s photo is old as well, but if we are talking about Christmas, it seems perfect to me. It has been taken by me last year when I was in Poland and those decorated trees look just adorable 😉

What is the purpose of our life? And why is it worthed to be a good person?

Hi guys,

Have you ever think, what live actualy is? Why we are here?

Long time ago I’ve watched on TV a document about evolution of humanity, where it has been said, that the whole purpose of our being is reproduction. Fine. But still, why do we need to reproduce ourselves, if there is no purpose of human rase existing on this planet?

Ther are some people, who state that their found their purpose. They feel amazing with what is going on around them. On the other hand, we have tons of existence, who has no clue, why they should be alive. And finally some, who decide, that this is the right time, to end their lifes.

To be honest, I have no clue what is purose of life. I’ve heard opinion, that religion. Maybe, but it would mean, than many people who are atheists, shouldn’t be existing. I think, it must be something else, something what includes every and each person in the whole world.

Although I don’t know what is the purpose of life (except my personal opinion), I have some idea, what life is (and at the same time I know almost nothing). But this is, what life is about. Contradictions.

Life is so easy to predict: people are being born, they grow up, set their own families and die. But on the other hand, we can’t be sure, whether we are going to make it to the next day, even hour. So all those things, which are supposed to happen, might not be our things (except death, of course).

It is believed, that if you are good person, your life is going to be good as well. At the same time, bad things happen to everyone, they don’t do exceptions at all.

And finally, as better you are, as more people you are going to meet, who will be there just to keep pulling your legs.

Being good is much harder, than being bad. Let’s take very simple example: if you need money and you have no rules in your life, you are going to simply steal them, or get in any other way (of course if it seems to be easier and quicker than working for them). If you are good, you would prefer to starve, than steel. Feeling of guilt wouldn’t let you carry on your life properly.

Another thing is, if you are good, some huge word unknown for many bad people, is one of your best friends: empathy. Other people’s problems are yours as well. You can’t just walk away if someone around you is in trouble. You try to help, find solution.

What person am I? I don’t really know. I think there are not such a people, who are either good in every situation, neither who are bad all the time. I am trying to be as good as I can, but sometimes, even if I have good intention I make something worse, than it was before I’ve got involved. And on the other hand, person might be just excellent example according to one group of people, but the worse evil in the eyes of the other group.

But to be honest, why shall we try to be good people? It is so hard.

Well, because only being good can help you get real friends, who will be there, no matter what. And who will pass your story about all good stuff you’ve done during your life further.

For me, this is purpose of life. To leave something good behind. No matter how small this thing is going to be. It might be just couple of people keeping you in their memories. Or leave something, what will help new generations. Some knowledge, product, or anything. Something what they can use.

Coming back to reproduction: maybe being human just for this purpose doesn’t make any sense. Everyone can have children. But if we take as a reason for being in this world fact of bringing up children, to make sure they will grow as a strong and good people, this is completely different story. I personally think, that this is one of the most important reasons to live. And at the same time, this is one of the hardest tasks I know, even if I haven’t got any children yet.

These are all of my thoughts about purpose of life. It was supposed to appear yesterday, but as I am in the middle of changing my flat, I have no internet connection at the moment. Hopefully today it will be fine. Now, I am in my universtiy, where I’ve decided to post, what have been written yesterday.

The other think is, if you have red my last post you might have realised, that I’ve changed my schedule after posting it. I hope, you like it and if you have any ideas how to change it, please let me know in the comment below. Only what needs to stay same are Mondays and Tuesdays as my days off, as I need to prepare for my university. Especially now, when deadlines are round the corner.

For now I wish you very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

PS. I’ve add picture I’ve taken long time ago. I found it recently. It looks like in the children’s story. I think, is it worthed to live for views like this, so I think it goes perfectly with today’s post. I hope you enjoy!

A lot of changes? Let’s try to adjust to them!

Hi guys,

I haven’t post anything for quite long time again. Well, this time I’ve got a feeling that I’ve lost purpose for this blog. When I was writting my first post, I wanted it to be my motivation, my weapon to fight with procrastination. But after, there were some changes. I had to cover my friend in her work, while she went for holiday, some personal stuff, my own holiday… All that made me too lazy. Maybe a little scared, too. Huge to do lists made me sick. I felt like no matter what, I can’t manage.

After everything came back to norm, but in October I’ve started my uni and things became crazy again. What I’ve realised is that there will never be a good time to actually start working on my own projects. That’s why I’ve decided to organise myself such a way, that I can work on each of my projects. Now I’ve learn that I need to do everything I can to float, otherwise I’m going to drawn.

So before I’ll go into details, let me tell you, what my actual projects at the moment are:

  • First of all my uni. It’s not a ‘real’ project, but there are a lot of diferent smaller and bit bigger project to do.
  • Second project is website designing. I’ve prepared one project (which by the way is almost ready – ONLY content left 😉 and some other bits and pieces)
  • Recently, I had some more ideas for applications, but my programming have been left behind. Now it’s time to learn it properly 😉
  • Last but not least is this blog. As I mentioned, I have a feeling, that I’ve lost purpose of it. But let me explain later in this blog, how I intend to change it.

These are my main personal projects and goals at the same time. If you’ve red my first posts, you might know that a lot of things I love doing are not included, like books, self-development, etc. But it only looks like.

As you might know, my first website (I have already two more ideas in my head, but more complicated so I need to learn more first, before I’ll jump into it – and finalise my first one as well) is going to be book’s reviews website.

And self-development will be included in this blog. And here we come to changes. This blog is supposed to be full of motivation for me and for everyone (ar at least some) of you, who are spending their time to actually read it. It should have some value. Some point.

At the moment it seems to be completely reverse. So here are changes, which will be made during this weekend and next week, connected to this blog:

  1. Next weekend (2nd and 3rd of December), my blog will change visually and organisationally. Posts are going to be categorised. I’ll try to include some pictures in them, so it will be more enjoyable for you to read them.
  2. Every Saturday there will be new post self-development related. They will show main ideas from different books about productivity, time management, etc.
  3. As I am going to learn programming, I am going to show you proccess of learning. It might be usefull for all of you, who like me want to learn it, but keep leaving it aside. I will be showing you, what I have actually learn every week. Try to explain you, at least basis. My programming days will be Friday and Sunday and programing posts are going to appear same day.
  4. Wednesday and Thursday are going to be my uni days, so I am going to publish posts about my thoughts, interesting things I was reading about, etc.
  5. Monday and Tuesday are going to be my days off and there are going to be no posts published. In case if I’ll know, that I can’t do something on time (too many homework, or something took more time than I thought), I will be able to ‘make it up’ or make in advance during this days. Otherwise it is going to be time for my family and friends.

Till Monday, there won’t be any post published, but you can expect new organization in my blog. Let’s hope it will make it easier to navigate and more appealing for you.

Now I am going to sleep, so tomorrow I can start my work with fresh mind. I wish you all very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria