Just look forward to something and life is going to be much easier

Hi guys,

When I am starting writting this post, I am in train, going back from my uni. It’s already 8 pm. My classes finished at 4:30, but I’ve decided to stay and work a bit on my assignments. It makes me scared, as deadline of two of my assignments is on Monday, 4th of December, so if we don’t count today, I have only three days to get them ready. It wouldn’t be so bad, if not the fact, that one of them is hardly started so far. First one took so much time and efford.

Any way, today I would like to share with you some advice, which have changed my life for better.

But first, let me tell you story behind it. When I was a child, I loved school (I still do), but what was scaring me was, that each next year of my education was bringing more work, than the one before. At some point, I’ve hardly managed with all homeworks, exams, speaches, projects, etc. I’ve started hating school. Every day seemed to me same: school, coming home, studying, going to sleep. Weekends same, only I haven’t go to school. This was making me so unhappy.

One day, I’ve decided to leave school (obviously my parents haven’t let me do this) and when I’ve informed my dad (D), I could see corners of his mouth rising a bit.

D: ‘Why do you want to leave school? Not that long ago you loved it?’

I: ‘I did, but know I don’t. There is so much to do, I have no time for anything else!’

D: ‘And this is the reason to leave school? In your life you will always have more and more to do. Now your only responsibility is your school. When you’ll grow up, there will be work, children, house… Maybe even more.’

I: ‘But I still want to leave.’

D: ‘I can give you some idea. When you will have some free time?’

I: ‘When holidays will come.’

D: ‘Ok, so when you feel, like you can’t manage, just write what you want to do during your holiday. Every time one activity.’

I: ‘But it will only give more work!’ (Yes, that time writting was for me huge job 😉 )

D: ‘Do this just for three days and we will talk that time’

For three days I was writting activities. I had quite a lot (unfortunately, I don’t remember what exactly, but it is not that important). After that time I came back to my dad.

I: ‘Here is my list. It didn’t help me. I still want to leave school’

My dad hasn’t even looked at my list.

D: ‘How would you feel if you could do any of those activities now?’

I: ‘I would feel relaxed and happy’

D: ‘So now, every time, when you feel you have too much to do, just look at your list and think, that ok, now there is a lot of work. It is hard. But holidays will come and for two months you will be doing only stuff from your list (I think in most countries is different, byt in Poland summer holidays are for two months).

I: ‘But there is still long time till holidays comes!’

D: ‘Yes, but now you have your list, something you will look forward to, so it’s going to be easier’

To be honest, I haven’t believed him. Now I do. Since that time, I always have something, what is going to happen in the future and what I can’t wait for. If I don’t have, I create new one.

It seems silly, but it really works (at least for me). Now, again there is so much to do, sometimes I have a feeling, that I can’t manage, not this time. But very quickly I realise, that Christmas is just round the corner and plenty of time waiting to be used. And work is becoming easier (of course, I don’t want to spend my free time on worrying about pending tasks, so better to get them done before Christmas 😉 ).

With this thought I am going to leave you now. I wish all of you to be able to find something to look forward to. And of course, I wish you a very productive day.

I’ll see you in my next post

Daria

Today’s photo is old as well, but if we are talking about Christmas, it seems perfect to me. It has been taken by me last year when I was in Poland and those decorated trees look just adorable 😉

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What is the purpose of our life? And why is it worthed to be a good person?

Hi guys,

Have you ever think, what live actualy is? Why we are here?

Long time ago I’ve watched on TV a document about evolution of humanity, where it has been said, that the whole purpose of our being is reproduction. Fine. But still, why do we need to reproduce ourselves, if there is no purpose of human rase existing on this planet?

Ther are some people, who state that their found their purpose. They feel amazing with what is going on around them. On the other hand, we have tons of existence, who has no clue, why they should be alive. And finally some, who decide, that this is the right time, to end their lifes.

To be honest, I have no clue what is purose of life. I’ve heard opinion, that religion. Maybe, but it would mean, than many people who are atheists, shouldn’t be existing. I think, it must be something else, something what includes every and each person in the whole world.

Although I don’t know what is the purpose of life (except my personal opinion), I have some idea, what life is (and at the same time I know almost nothing). But this is, what life is about. Contradictions.

Life is so easy to predict: people are being born, they grow up, set their own families and die. But on the other hand, we can’t be sure, whether we are going to make it to the next day, even hour. So all those things, which are supposed to happen, might not be our things (except death, of course).

It is believed, that if you are good person, your life is going to be good as well. At the same time, bad things happen to everyone, they don’t do exceptions at all.

And finally, as better you are, as more people you are going to meet, who will be there just to keep pulling your legs.

Being good is much harder, than being bad. Let’s take very simple example: if you need money and you have no rules in your life, you are going to simply steal them, or get in any other way (of course if it seems to be easier and quicker than working for them). If you are good, you would prefer to starve, than steel. Feeling of guilt wouldn’t let you carry on your life properly.

Another thing is, if you are good, some huge word unknown for many bad people, is one of your best friends: empathy. Other people’s problems are yours as well. You can’t just walk away if someone around you is in trouble. You try to help, find solution.

What person am I? I don’t really know. I think there are not such a people, who are either good in every situation, neither who are bad all the time. I am trying to be as good as I can, but sometimes, even if I have good intention I make something worse, than it was before I’ve got involved. And on the other hand, person might be just excellent example according to one group of people, but the worse evil in the eyes of the other group.

But to be honest, why shall we try to be good people? It is so hard.

Well, because only being good can help you get real friends, who will be there, no matter what. And who will pass your story about all good stuff you’ve done during your life further.

For me, this is purpose of life. To leave something good behind. No matter how small this thing is going to be. It might be just couple of people keeping you in their memories. Or leave something, what will help new generations. Some knowledge, product, or anything. Something what they can use.

Coming back to reproduction: maybe being human just for this purpose doesn’t make any sense. Everyone can have children. But if we take as a reason for being in this world fact of bringing up children, to make sure they will grow as a strong and good people, this is completely different story. I personally think, that this is one of the most important reasons to live. And at the same time, this is one of the hardest tasks I know, even if I haven’t got any children yet.

These are all of my thoughts about purpose of life. It was supposed to appear yesterday, but as I am in the middle of changing my flat, I have no internet connection at the moment. Hopefully today it will be fine. Now, I am in my universtiy, where I’ve decided to post, what have been written yesterday.

The other think is, if you have red my last post you might have realised, that I’ve changed my schedule after posting it. I hope, you like it and if you have any ideas how to change it, please let me know in the comment below. Only what needs to stay same are Mondays and Tuesdays as my days off, as I need to prepare for my university. Especially now, when deadlines are round the corner.

For now I wish you very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

PS. I’ve add picture I’ve taken long time ago. I found it recently. It looks like in the children’s story. I think, is it worthed to live for views like this, so I think it goes perfectly with today’s post. I hope you enjoy!