Disadvantages of working a lot

Hi guys,

My last post was about changes caused by working more. And as you could see, all of them were very positive. However, I have noticed some disadvantages too, so today I am going to tell you about them.

Without further introduction, here are negative things about this situation:

You are constantly tired

Working a lot, gives you much less time to rest. Even if you are working this 14 hours, you still need to add some more time for getting ready for work, commuting, etc. If you add to this working on your personal projects (even if like me, only 2 hours) you have about seven hours for sleep left. But, except work, there is personal life too. Propably you would like to spend some time with people who matter to you; you might have place to live and connected with it chores; different kind of appointments and meetings. And all that takes a lot of your time (well, at least a lot of my time). So very often I end up with 2 hours of sleep, sometimes bot even this much. As you can imagine, I look like a zombie somtimes 😉

You are forgetting more

This point is kind of connected to the first one. Insufficient sleep makes your brain less sharp. In my case, I can remember about big things, but these small one I tend to just forget. Like for example, I have prepared this post in the morning on Friday, but I forgot to schedule it. So instead of having a post at 8p.m. (UK’s time), it appeared on Saturday in the morning 😉

Your health suffers

Ok, you can say whatever you want, but lack of sleep decrease your immune system a lot. You might think, that it cannot be as bad. Well, since last week I am able to do anything, only because of huge amounts of paracetamol I am taking (even if I know that in long run it is very bad for me). And also, (I am not sure if it happens to every one), I am having headaches quite often.

You are getting angry very easy

This is kind of dangerous. First of all, you can be very rude to innocent people around you. Second of all, you are more likely to give up on your personal projects. Especially if you’ll meet any obstacles on your way. I think, this is also connected to first point of this post.

These are all disadvantages which I can think about at the moment. You might ask me, if it is worthed to work so much. Well, my answer is simple: if you are in situation requiring it, it is worthed. However, I would advise you to take this challenge only for short time. I am coming back to normal schedule of work after one or two weeks. And I won’t lie, I can’t wait for that moment.

However, I have to admit, that I have learnt a lot during this experience. Mostly about myslef. I was able to see things, I couldn’t see before. I believe, that it made me a bit better at planning my time and actualy sticking to my plans. It is also showing me, how much I can handle. This makes me a bit less worried about my projects. Mostly, because of the awareness, that in case if I will invest a lot of my time at some point and I will fail, I will be able to work this way again and quickly make up my money lose (if any would appear because of the failure).

And this is it for today’s post. I wish you very productive day and I’ll see you in my Monday’s post.

Daria

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What have changed, since I have less time?

Hi guys,

Today, I am writting another post in a bus. It’s been already two weeks, since I am working 1.5 time and I have to admitt, that it hasn’t been as hard as I thought it will be. But what is the most important, is that reduce in my free time, makes me work on my personal projects much more productively. Before this, I used to push my tasks away till the day before deadline, now I can’t afford such action, as it would leave me without possibility of finishing my task on time.

So let me explain you, what have changed during this time:

Just one thing at the time

I’ve always have a problem with too many tasks to do. One of the reasons for that was that I wanted to acomplish too much at the time. Maybe you remember my first posts, when I talked about my goals. It was a lot of projects, which I wanted to carry at the same time. Now, when time isn’t the thing I have too spare, it finally got into my head, that I need to bring one project to the point, where it doesn’t require as much time from me as while setting it up. After move to the other. Well, very simple, isn’t it?

Say no, when you need to

Ok, I have been talking about it before. I was saying, that finally I can say no, when someone asks me to do something, I really don’t want. Before I thought I was, but now I really don’t have time for too much. So “no” became one of my favourite words.

Prioritizing tasks

This has a lot to do with first point. Lack of time doesn’t allow me to do tasks, which are less urgent, while there are a lot of with short deadlines. Similarly, I had to eliminate all task which are not important. At the moment I have huge to-do list saved on my computer, where all tasks are sorted by due date and importance. And I just deal with each of them, starting from first to the last (well, to get to the last it will be a long way; especially, that every day there are new tasks being added).

Using every minute

This is the point, which is the best for me. Before I wouldn’t start any task, if I had less time than I needed to actualy accomplish it. At the moment, even if I have only 10 minutes, I am at least starting next task. And this turned out to be a life changer for me.

Awareness

This might seem not very important, but believe me: it is. Having less time makes you more focused on the task you are doing. You can’t be distracted by each message coming on your phone, you can’t watch “just one” episode of your program. At the moment I realised, that 15 minutes on YouTube equals 1/8 of all time I have planned for work for the day. And it motivates me to stay focused and watch it when my work is done. Any way, it will not be gone that time 😉

And that’s it for today’s post. I hope you enjoyed it. As always I wish you a very productive day.

Daria

Buying e-books, which are containing already existing blog posts?

Hi guys,

Today, I would like to talk about something, what made me thing a lot in the last couple of months: what is the purpose of buying e-books or books with content from website of the author? I mean, why would you pay for something, what does already exist on the internet? For free!?

As you might have noticed, there are some bloggers writting about certain topic and at some point, they decide to write a book or an e-book and simply sell it. I know a lot of polish bloggers and people appearing in YouTube whi do that. And recently I discovered Pat Flynn, too. I found his podcast “The smart passive Income” recently (well, I found it long time ago, but recently I have started to go through his podcast’s episodes). If you are any how interested in making money online, you propably know this guy very well already.

In one of the first episodes, he is saying that he made an e-book out of his blog post (at least mainly) and in his case, this e-book you can get for free (I am listening to very old of his episodes at the moment, so it could have changed). He explained it’s purpose to be a way of organising a knowledge for a reader, just to make it easier for him to come back to information he needs at any particular moment. He said, that online content is not as convinient, as sometimes there might not be an internet connection, so reader can just read an e-book and have all he needs at any time and organised, without a necessity of jumping across subpages of the website.

I have agreed with this statement. And, especially in Pat Flynn’s case this e-book is for free, so it doesn’t make that much of the difference. If it is for free, you might as well take an advantage of it. But still, it didn’t get into my mind, why people would want to pay for it. If you’ll find an interesting article or blog post, you can always take a notes and you don’t need internet connection to access them again, don’t you? So why waste money?

But something changed in my way of thinking recently. I was working on one of my projects, when I’ve got an emergency call and had to leave my home, just to spend around an hour in the underground. I had so many fresh ideas, but I was missing some information, to put it at least as a draft or notes on my phone, while having nothing more to do. And that time, unconsciously, I have thought: “If I would have saved it on my phone!”.

And this made me understand something. Nowadays, money aren’t the most valuable currency we have (even for most of people who can do a lot to get more money). Time became much more important, according to me. If you don’t have time, you won’t be able to earn money, spend time with your family, rest, etc. And this is the most “fair” currency of all we have. No matter who you are, you have exactly 24 hours every day. Each minute, either wasted or productively used, will never be returned to you. It will just pass. And all benefits of these actions (or lack of them) you’ll see in the future.

I am not sure, if there is such saying existing in English, but in polish we say: “Someone is trying to buy some time”, when for example child is being asked to clean his room, but instead he is trying to involve his mother in the conversation, so she will not ask him about this now. But in reality, he is not buying it. Those minutes, when you procrastinated are gone, and will never come back to you.

I have came across a material online (unfortunately, I can’t remember where), where time was compared to money. You can spend it in many ways: have fun, relax, or invest in activities which will benefit you in the future. No matter what your choice is, it is inreversible. The only thing you can’t do with time, but you can with money, is lend it or borrow it.

I like this way of seeing the time. I am very sad, that I haven’t note it somewhere at the time when I heard it. Hopefully I will come across it again and I will update you, as I belive it is worthed to see an original material.

But just to sum up, buying e-books I have mentioned above, is some kind of investment. You spend your money, to ensure that you will not waste your time in the future. Is it worthed? I think: yes, it is. Money naturally comes and goes. Whatever you spend, you can always spend some time and earn again. However, time being wasted once will never be returned to you. You can’t get it back. So using solutions, which can help you to get your task done and save your time too, seem to be perfect, don’t they?

And with this thought I am going to finish today’s post. I wish you all very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

What sits in the tired mind?

Hi guys,

Today, I did understand how important is good time management. And by good, I mean the one which works for you well, even if it is just a simple to do list with time assigned to every task. If it workes for you, that means it’s good (simple, isn’t it?)

As you might have realised, I am up to testing new and new solutions to find the best way for me. When I was younger, I could do much more things to compare with current days. And of course, I was procrastinating. But any way, at the end everything have been done on time. Now it looks a bit different. My procrastination leads me to being late all the time. It is not something I wish it would be the case. On the other hand, handing my projects over in last moment isn’t the most desirable thing for me too.

That’s why I am very happy that I understood how it’s happen that I always have so many urgent task and how to pevent it. However, there is still a lot to do, to bring it to right state. Especially, that I am working up to 14 hours every day. Again.

And it might sound funny for some of you to work so much. For me it does too. But, like everyone, I have my bills to pay, food to buy, and all the spendings we all have. This is something, I need to take care of in the first place. It would be hard to manage any work on my own projects, if I wouldn’t have place to live and food on my plate.

And all this is not to show how hard it is, or to get people saying: “Poor you!”. First of all, there is a lot of people who have worse than me. Who are working much more and still can’t manage to the end of the month. Or who, because of situation, can’t take any job.

So what is the reason? I hope, that when I will bring my projects to the point, where they are bringing some incomes and my life will become easier (at least money wise), it will be proof for all. That everyone, who will come across this post will realise, that this is possible to achieve any goal, it is just a matter of how much you want it and how much you are able to sacrifice.

At some point, I used to think that I can’t get too far. Just because I had worse start than many of my friends. I remember being jelause about them, that their parents could afford journeys abroad for them, where they could learn English; private tutor, to make sure they can understand material we are learning during the classes and many more. I was doing well, but there were some topics, for which I needed a lot of time to understand, while sitting till late night and going through my text books.

And I had my dad. That time I didn’t appreciate him so much. But many times, when I was struggling late at night to understand something, he would sit with me and explain till I will be fine. That time I was quite angry, because while all of my friends could sleep, I had to learn. Just because I didn’t have a tutor. I didn’t appreciate, that my dad just came from his second shift and instead of going to bed, he was spending this time with my homework or preparation for test.

When I grew up, I was still thinking that your family welthness determines how far you can go. My opinion changed, when I’ve met some friends, who had a better start. And now, when we aren’t dependent on our parents, we are at the same point. Some of them even worse than mine. I’ve realised, that it has to be something else, than the place you grew up. And this missing thing in my old idea is me (or you, if you are thinking about your situation).

What is even more interesting, I think that I have even easier. Because my parents couldn’t afford to give me money for everything I wanted, I had to learn how to survive without many things or to learn how to earn for them. And I am sure, that if you are in similar situation, you know what I am talking about.

So this is an advantage. A lot of people will find it hard to work on their personal projects along with professional job. For people, who has less, it is even harder. But we got used to work hard for a long time. And no matter how long we spent outside our home, just making sure that everything is payed on time, we can manage to work just an hour longer at home. Fighting with our eyelids closing on their own. We don’t need to be rewarded straight away.

And this description doesn’t describe only people from poorer families and still, people sometimes are growing up in greediness. But in a lot of families, where parents work a lot to provide for the family, they tend to buy their children. In case if theybwork like this to survive, they can buy toy for their child, to reward their children’s time spend without their parents. They are teaching their children that everything they want, will be given to them on a silver plate. Unfortunately, in real life you need to work for everything. And it doesn’t necessarily have to be any hard job. But what is the most important, it has to be wise work.

That’s all for today’s post. It turned out to be just throwing out my thoughts from my head. I even had some trouble to give it any title. So I’ve just called it what it is.

But any way, as always I wish you very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

You are a sum of all your habits

Hi guys,

Yesterday I have watched another video on YouTube. And the man, who is the owner of channel said one very important sentence (he said many more of them, but this is the one I am going to focus on today):

You are a sum of all your habits.

Why this one, generaly not very hard thing to figure out ourselves, catched my attention? Well, the answer is very simple. In my case, things which seem to be easy, comes to my mind only if they are said aloud. Otherwise my brain tends to ignore them.

And hearing this sentence made me to analyse my behaviour, starting from the time I was a child. And I can agree with this in almost 100%. I had some habits, which have been defining me in the eyes of my family members. Moreover, almost all of my childhood’s habits actualy didn’t stay with me till now. I am completely different person and at the same time my habits are different.

But what scared me a lot is that I have realised about so many current habits, I would prefer not to count into sum of me. And some of them are some kind of characteristic being used by my friends to describe me (I’ve just took my birthday cards, I’ve got six month ago and read all customised wishes; not these being ready-printed on the card). And so many of my friends associates me with some of those habits! Something, what I used to not pay attention to, is so visible to my environment. And I’ve decided that this is a time for changes. Time, when I will conciously decide what habits I want to keep and which of them are going to be removed from my equation. And I will try to work on it as hard as I can, gradually. Just to make this equation work for me.

Of course I will do my research first and if I will learn something new, I will share with you here.

And with this comitment, I am going to finish today’s post. I wish you all very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Let’s talk about different kind of planning

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about a YouTube video I watched recently. It is available here – Black mirror – 1%. Unfortunately, the whole video is in polish, but there are English subtitles available. And I highly recommend to watch it.

If you plan to do so, please watch it before you read further (there will be spoiler included 😉 ) Otherwise, I will shortly tell you what this video is about.

There is a couple coming to the clinic, where there are about to get some examination of the child, which they are waiting for (women is pregnant). As we can learn after, this kind of examination is being performed worldwide since thirty years and it is compulsory. It’s purpose is to determine unborn child’s behaviours, talents, etc., so government can provide right support for each child. For example, if child is about to be a genius, they need to make sure that he or she will have provided everything what is needed to progress. The whole programme is accurate in 99 to 100% and database is updated daily.

However, the couple’s child is being classified in very rare group – 39.22. As parents-to-be learn, this is a group where murderers, psychopaths, and so on are classified. They are being informed that their child is going to be separated from them as soon, as it will reach age of six and it will be moved to special place where good care will be taken of it.

Parents are getting very angry, they are trying to find other solution, they are arguing, trying to change the verdict somehow. However, when they are finding out that there is nothing they can do, they are returning home. They take a decision that there is the time to remove a child and women is going to the bathroom to get it done. Meanwhile, husband is getting phone calls, but he is ignoring them. He doesn’t know, that update of the data in the clinic they have visited, classifies their child into the other group.

All this movie has moved me. It shows a behaviour which takes place even nowadays (fortunately not in such extreme form). It shows planning someones life. In this video, child is not even born yet. But in a lot of cases in the real life, parents are trying to decide about their children’s future. They want them to become a doctor, lawyer, or whoever else they wish to, without consulting it with a child. What even worse, without considering their preferences. As a result there are many doctors-to-be at the best universities, who are so unhappy. In the future, we will have a lot of doctors who don’t feel that they are doing what they should have been. In the worse scenarios, there are parents attending their child’s funeral, as their beloved son or daughter has committed suicide, due to being forced to do something what they hated so much. Or just because they where not able to meet their parents expectations.

I think, this is a great message for parents or parents-to-be. We are all only human and we make mistakes all the time. I am almost sure that even while deciding about our own life, we can’t be sure we are right. While deciding about other’s life is even harder. Knowing (as we can thing) all about someone, doesn’t mean that we really do. And if we decide that our child has to do this or that, we can make huge mistake, and this small kid is going to pay for it for the whole life. In the case of this short movie, there was only 1% chance of mistake. However, this couple has lost their child because of that.

I am not parent now, so maybe I don’t know much. And probably I shouldn’t give advice on this to any one. But if you want to listen, please make sure that instead of trying to force your child to follow any particular path, make sure you are providing a great support in the field your child is interested in. There is a possibility, that your son or daughter will not earn millions each month, but at least she or he will be happy. And remember, you never know. Maybe your child will find great way to turn their passion into the way of earning money for living.

And even if they will make a mistake, they will always have a lot of ways out. Nowadays, you can change your profession at any age. And people are doing it on daily basis. Even in my university, there are so many people who are much older than I and who pursue they current dreams. Similar with me. This is my second subject I study, as first one turned out not to be this dreamed one. And even though I graduated, I don’t feel like working in my profession.

So please, make sure that you are supporting your children, instead of planning their life ahead. And I am pretty sure, they are going to achieve greater success in a field they love, than by doing something they hate.

And with this thought I am going to finish today’s post. I wish you all very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

P.S. There were no post in the last week, for what I am really sorry. But I was working on something big (well, for some people it will be nothing, but for me it was very big deal). I will tell you about it soon, as I still have a lot of work to do. But this week my main goal, is to keep posting according to schedule (Monday, Wednesday and Friday), so I am going to make sure to write posts during this week

You will not get productive, if you will not change the way you think.

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about productivity (especially that this blog is some kind of motivation for me to keep going), more detailed: why is it so hard to be productive?

Of course I haven’t conducted any research about it, I will be talking about my experiences only. As recently I am spending a lot of time on reflecting about my habits and behaviours. It became some kind of madness of mine, but at the same time I am learning a lot about myself.

What I have realised recently (and I heard this from many of my friends too) that the hardest part of being productive is to actually start any task. After it just goes. There is some voice in our heads reminding about all these things, you need to do before (yes, watching an episode of your favourite serial on netflix is included in this).

Second is to overcome any obstacles instead of finishing work for the day. I catched myself on this so many times. There was some task I had no idea how to start or I’ve just found myself stuck somewhere in the middle and I used to just “take a break” to have fresh mind before I’ll do it. However, usually I ended up working on this task right before the deadline.

Recently, I have also realised one more thing. I don’t know if you remember one post, when I was so excited about grouping task according to importance and urgency (basically: important and urgent; important, but not urgent; urgent, but not important; neither urgent or important). And just few days ago it came to my head that important and urgent group contains task which should be done right now, but at the same time it is the biggest group so it didn’t help too much to prioritise them, as their deadline was just right the corner. But when I analysed it closer, I have came to a conclusion that those task are migrating from important, but not urgent group if we procrastinate them too much. So now, I am trying to include as many tasks from this group as I possibly can (you know, these tasks from first group take most of the time), so hopefully one day I will wake up with the feeling, that there is nothing important what I have to do like right now.

And another thing is to know how to say no. I have been talking about it before, but when someone asks you to do something you really don’t like to do, you need to say no. It is that simple and can help you save some time for things YOU like to do 🙂

And with this thought I am finishing today’s post. I wish all of you very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

P. S. I have scheduled my post for yesterday, but I haven’t realised that I need to sync it, while using wordpress app. So today one day late. Hope you’ll enjoy it any way.

You said: “How long have you slept?”

Hi guys,

Today I am going to talk about something connected to productivity and what is so hard to master (at least for me), namely: working safe and healthy. Ok, I don’t perform any dangerous activities; my work (except work I am doing for living at the moment) I spend in front of different types of screens. Whether it’s my phone or laptop. There are no hazards at all, are they?

Well, actually there are many. First of all it is a sitting job, where you don’t move that much. Second of all, screens usually are relatively close to your eyes, what in extreme situation might even lead to losing ability to look far (your eyes are not able to adjust to see from far). And last, but not least, I can think about is that people working on comupers are losing sense of time (you know this intention when you are planning to work one hour; you check the time after five minutes – at least you think so – just to realise that you’ve spent three hours already).

I’ve red this in one article (unfortunately, I haven’t saved it as abookmark before my battery died and can’t find it any more) and I’ve became a bit concerned. I am guilty of all of this! Well, I am guilty of many more, like uncorrect way of sitting, working in poor lighting and maybe even more I can’t think about now.

I need to do some changes! And I wouldn’t be myself, if I wouldn’t make some plan 😉 I’ve decided to handle one of those things at the time and figured out that the most disturbing at the moment is loosing sense of time.

Ok, but why is it a problem at all? At least in my case, I usually work in the evenings. And whenever I start working on anything on my computer, I set time I want to spend on it (mostly it is two or three hours) and next step is to get ready to bed. Unfortunatelly, when the time is gone and my alarm goes on, I am usually in the middle of doing something, so I am just finishing this small piece of work. However, this small success is so exciting, that I am starting next one and I don’t know how, but when I finish work for that day, I realise that I’ve spent five or six hours already. Generally, I am happy about it, as this is clear sign for me that what I am doing is what I am supposed to do. But what makes me concerned is that my sleeping time gets reduced by this. This is more serious problem. Lack of sleep leads to worse concentration, tiredness and in extreme cases – it is a huge factor helping depression to develop. And over all, it is hard to enjoy your life, when your head keeps falling down and your eyes are closing on their own, isn’t it?

That’s why I decided to change all this. And I am trying to leave my work no matter what I am doing at the moment (I just usually leave note for myself, to make it easier to understand next time, what my idea was). It’s not always the success, I still fail a lot with it. However, I hope that finally I will get the habit of finishing my work after time being set is done. And I will move to next one. Just one thing at the time.

This reminds me one story from university in Poland. Once a week we had our classes in room next to the place, where IT students had. What made me laugh that time was the fact that they had some kind of competition. And the winner would be the person who slept less. And one of them asked the other:

First: How long have you been sleeping?

Second: Two hours only.

First: It’s still too long! I haven’t slep at all!

It wasn’t a good tactique, as more, not always mean better.

And with this thought I am finishing today’s post. I wish you enough sleep each day, so you can get more work done in shorter time and I’ll see you in my Friday’s post.

Daria

How do our experiences from past influence our present?

Hi guys,

Today, I would like to talk about something, what touches each of us every day. By this I mean our experiences from past. Of course, each of us have different experiences, comes from different background; but what we all have in common, is that no matter what our experiences were, they are still having impact on our today’s life.

What is interesting? Even if you’ll take two people with similar experience in the past, this particular experience might have completely different impact on each of this person. And to make it even more complicated ( 😉 ), it depends on other experiences each of this person had and how they coped with it.

Why I am talking about this? As a child, I’ve been playing hide and seek game with my friends. That time I was spending my holiday in my grandma’s home. While searching for a perfect place to hide, I’ve realised that basment’s door aren’t locked (even if usually they were) and I’ve decided that this will be the place, where I should be hiding in.

I went down and to make it even harder for my friends to find me, I’ve sat behind two bags of potatoes. I was hidden perfectly, so they couldn’t find me too quick. It took them so long that I have fallen asleep.

When I finally woke up, I was so angry that they didn’t even try to find me. Just forgot about my existence. Ready to make huge rumour, I went to the door just to realise… that they are locked. Of course, I haven’t panicked straight away, as I knew that someone is going to walk by the door, I will make noise and they will ask my uncle to let me out (only he and my grandma had a key to the basement door). However, no one came (I didn’t know about it at that time, but my grandma already mobilised all village to search for me in bushes and everywhere where it was possible). When I became hungry (and at that point a bit scared) I’ve decided to have some jam, my grandma used to make and store in the basement. And when I moved the jar, I saw a rat, who propably got scared too (well, I’ve started screaming, so this could be the reason), as he just jumped and started running away. I was so terrified, that I’ve run to the door and haven’t stop screaming till my grandmas neighbour haven’t found me (I am not able to determine how long it took).

After all those years, I am able to laugh about this situation. However, I can’t help my mice’ and rats’ phobia. Whenever I see one, you might be sure I will change my location within less than 1 minute. I am getting some kind of super power that time, believe me 😉

Similarly, because of years of being in and out in hospital, I can’t just pass by someone who is hurt without helping. How I know that this particular experience cause this behaviour? Because I can see all these people I was sharing hospital rooms with, every time when I see someone in pain. Some of them were crying all night because of constant pain, some passed away being just a children (for long time I thought that children don’t die – unfortunately they do).

And they are many of things from my past playing a huge role in my life. Some kind of them are making me who I am. Some of their influence I would like to remove from my life; the other make me proud of myself (yeah, for sure it is modest 😉 ) and the rest are just neutral for me. But they are there, causing certain reactions during certain events. And they are just part of me. Whether I like it, or not.

If you ever regretted any of your behaviours, try to determine if there is any expierience of your past, which cause it. Understanding the reason, might help you overcome unwanted results taking place now.

And with this thought, I am going to leave you today. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my Wednesday’s post.

Daria

Where do you want to see yourself after ten years?

Hi guys,

Today, I would like to talk about the future. And by future I mean quite long period of time. Have you ever thought, where do you wish to see yourself after ten years? If yes, what do you see? How much does it differ from the place where are you now? And finally: do you take actions to actually get there? Propably picture you see is something ideal. But do you think, you will be really happy when you’ll achieve all that? And quite important thing: does this picture include only or mostly material goods?

This questions are quite important (at least according to me). Nowadays a lot of people dream about nice car, luxurious home and even yaht or private plane. And of course there is nothing wrong in dreaming about all those things (or having any of them), but what is worse is to not seeing anything else.

I was talking to one of my friends long time ago. We were trying to figure out our dreams. And he listed all of above things. I asked him why and answer made me really worried. He said that it is because after he would be able to lay down on his couch, watch tv and, if he would get bored of it, he would just move to his yaht or go for a trip. Ok, but where are other people? I don’t even mean helping others, just someone to enjoy all these stuff with. Maybe wife or just friends coming over sometimes. But he didn’t want to. For him it was important only to have these stuff, just for sake of having them.

When I’ve told him that I don’t understand, he answered that eventually I will. Well, it have been many years now and I still don’t understand. Now, we are living in different countries and what more important: in different time zones. This doesn’t give us much time to talk (to be honest we hardly talk, as every time when I wake up, he is in work; when I come back from my work, he is already sleeping), so I have no idea if his dreams have changed over time. I hope they have and now he includes someone else in his dreams. Someone very important to him.

Why do I think that wishing only for material goods is so bad? What makes so big difference, if you are enjoying your stuff with someone, instead of being alone?

First of all, naturaly humans are meant to live social life. And every one and single person I know, no matter man or women, child or adult, extravert or even introvert; they all need contact with other people. At least up to some level. I consider myself as slight introvert, but still I do need to spend some time with others (I need my alone time too, but if I wouldn’t be meeting other people, I would gone mad very quickly).

Second thing is that material things are not constantly same atractive. What I mean by that: you can buy the newest phone you can find on the market, but any way, within month, there will be something newest and better. Running after the vision of having the very best gadgets will never make you happy. Something, what makes you proud today, might become useless the very next day, month or year. New technologies are approaching market as often as never before and I think it is worthed to realise it. And any way, finally each gadget will become boring for us.

And what is more important, material goods are just temporary. We have something – after sometimes it’s damaged. One day, we might loose all money we have and not be able to buy new one. But true and honest relationships are there for us. No matter what is going on. This is how we make our memories, just by spending great time with other people. And if by any chance something happen to us, our family or friends can do, what any kind of technology does – they can support us, even if only by good words or time spent with us, when we are for example stuck in bed. I think, this is worthed considering.

And as you can see, it is so important to care for relationships, make sure you have some people around you first and after chase your dreams about material goods.

And today I am going to finish my post with this thought. I wish you all very productive day and I’ll see you in my post on Monday.

Daria

P. S. You are very welcome to share your opinion about this subject in the comment section. I will be happy to read them.