Five struggles I encountered being a blogger

Hi guys,

While starting to write today’s post, I had no idea what shall I write about. I literally couldn’t think about anything. Just like my brain got blanked out for some reason. So I’ve decided to simply write about struggles connected to having a blog. I have written a post about changes taking place in my life since I have this blog. However, in What have changed in more than one year of blogging? post, I focused on positive things. I haven’t written about struggles, probably most of the bloggers needs to face on their way (of course, as there are so many bloggers out there, they are not impossible to overcome). So let’s get right into it:

Keeping up with a schedule

This is something, I personally struggle with a lot. There are so many unexpected events in everyday life, that sometimes it is very hard to keep with it. Sometimes, it is so simple think, like you know you are not going to be able to post at certain time, so you are preparing post in advance, getting it ready to go and… forget to schedule it (this happen to me too often). There are also health related or family related things, you usually can’t predict. But sometimes you just can’t make yourself to actually sit and write this post which you’ve planned and thought through for a millionth time.

And sometimes it is another reason, which leads us to next point:

Lack of ideas

Sometimes we are ready sitting by the computer, but we don’t have an idea what we want to talk about. There might be different reason for that, like being tired or just sick. But sometimes it does happen without any reason. Just because it happens and this is the case, when it is relatively hard to overcome this. Simple, when you don’t have an idea, you can always write about something random and deliver a post without particular meaning or message, but a lot of bloggers cares about the quality of their post. So this is getting even harder.

Everyday’s life

This might seem weird, but a lot of us has a full-time job, family to look after, home to take care of, and many more. Sometimes it might be just hard to squeeze writing a post into an regular schedule (yeah, some people seem to forget about it, but bloggers are a regular people, with more or less hectic life; and they have to keep up with everything).

This leads us to the next point:

Time management

I’ve realised this because of starting my blog. To be able to post regularly, you have master time management, especially, if you have many other things to look after. Whether your posts are short or long, require your research or not, you need to have a time to work on them. You need to find topic, think it through and finally write it. But this is not all. After that you need to proof read it, make sure all settings are set as you want them to be, choose featured photo. And even though, all this action take only few minutes (except of writing and proof reading), in total you can get quite big amount of time and you need to put it somewhere in your schedule. And here good time management comes in handy.

You are the boss

As well it sounds, this is the struggle not only bloggers are coming across, but generally all those, who work for one selves. There is no one above you, to tell you that you should write a post, there are no consequences if you will not write. So to keep up, you have to find a motivation within yourself. You have to decide, where and when you are going to do. But what is more important: what are you going to write. And especially on the beginning, when almost no one is reading your posts, it might be a very hard task. There will be days, when you will doubt, if there is any point to keep doing it. And to overcome them, you need to convenience yourself. There wouldn’t be anyone to do this for you.

These are all struggles I wanted to share with you. They might be hard for some to overcome, for the others easy. However, no matter to which of these groups you are falling, there is one weapon helping you all the way. And this weapon is your passion. If you are passionate about your topic and process of writing itself is something you love, it will be much easier to keep going.

This is it for today’s post. I hope you like it. And if you are a blogger and you found some other challenges connected with what you do, you can share it in the comment section. I will be pleased to read them.

For now, I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

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Trespass the fence of your fear to gain creativity

Hi guys,

Today, before I jump into the content, I will say that I am just amazing. I have prepared this post on Tuesday and scheduled it for Wednesday (at least this is what I believed). But as soon as I opened a wordpress app, I have realised that in reality, I have scheduled it for today. So here it is, again late.

However, today’s topic came out of nowhere. I have been thinking, how it is possible, that some people seem to be natural in their talent, it almost looks like that they have been born and they already knew how to be good at something, while others need years and years to bring the same skill to similar level. As it isn’t topic of this subject, I will tell you about my conlusion in the next post. Today, I would like to focus on creativity. Have you ever wonder, why some people are so open, always come out with great ideas, their art work stands out (not only because of their talent, but the way how they presented the topic)? While on the other hand, some people seem to just copy everyone around, without having anything original to show?

Propably, you would call the first group creative, but why the other are not? What characteristic you need to have, to be creative? Or maybe, it is a genes work and you can not do anything about it?

I have been thinking about it since quite long time. Myself, I struggle with creativity quite often. But what I have realised, my struggle is not to have an idea, but to accept any of them. Propably, it doesn’t make sense now, but let me explain it further:

When I am trying to brainstorm any problem (if it is about my personal projects, I do this on my own), I usually have a lot of ideas how to solve it. However, some of them are being rejected, before I (at least!) looked closer at them and analysed them. Simply, I am just ignoring them and forget almost right away.

When I realised this process taking place in my mind, I started to wonder why I am doing this. I mean, I complain very often about my lack of creativity, but when I have ideas, I am not even trying to analyse them. And I came to very interesting conclusion, when I figure out, what creativity means.

For me, to come out with a good idea, you need to reveal a part of yourself. The ability of sneaking your way into things that already exist, delivering it in your way – this is what creativity is. Wheather you are an artist, you try to create a website, or try to set up a business, which will be standing out from many other similar businesses; you have to come up with something, what haven’t been done before. And here is the problem. That means, that this part of your personality or past will be exposed to everyone. In my case, it cause a fear. Eventhough, I am not aware of it. But in the back of my head, I am predicting all judgements I would hear, if I would just get it into the real world: “what a stupid idea!”; “how she could think, that this is going to work?”; “there is not even slight chance of a success!”; and so on. All this can make me put my head down and just back up. It is easier, isn’t it?

Well, not always. I have heard a lot stories of people on their death bed. They almost never regretted what they did, but almost always did regret things, they didn’t do. All these things, they were lacking courage to achieve. They wish, they haven’t pay as much attention to other people’s opinion and just live their life instead.

I am the person, who has a lot of ideas in my head, some of them might not be good. But I will never know, if I will not try them. However, I am not spending enough time, to get them ready. I still keep starting new projects, before the previous one are finished and I am ending up with nothing. Because, what if people don’t like, what I am doing? What, if they will laugh and keep pointing fingers at me?

But what is the funniest thing in all that? Reasonable part of me knows, that nothing like this is going to happen. And even if it would, I wouldn’t care as much propably. So the only thing, what could propably happen, is just a failure. Which propably will be forgotten by everyone (including myself) quite soon.

And this part of you, which you would let out with your creative way of doing things, will propably not be spotted by anyone. Just because random people don’t know you well enough, to determine what comes from your personal experiences and what have been coloured a bit, to make it more atractive. They know almost nothing about your emotions, about this small part of your soul, you are exposing to them. They can see it, but they won’t be knowing, that you did this because this and this happened. They will just appreciate it or not, but as a whole only. Not each piece of it, as they will not analyse it as deeply.

And even if your project fails, you will learn something new about yourself. And what is more important, you will be able to move to the next project, without thoughts in your head wondering: “What, if I would tried that one?”. You will just know, it wouldn’t work. And by doing this, you will teach yourself to open more. To let your creativity to be free and keep yourself motivated (if you are not afraid of surreal consequences, it will be easier for you, to do what you love).

And with this thought, I am going to finish this post. I hope you like it and, as always, I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

What can we learn from five-year-old

Hi guys,

In today’s post I am going to leave subject of self-awareness for a while (at least till the moment, when I will have some results to share with you). However, at the moment I am enjoying three days off in my work. As I have quite a lot of medical things to sort out and university related tasks, which are going to get over due soon, I have decided to take short holiday. And that makes me excited a lot. I know, I have been desperately wanting to come back to work after my dehydration thing (yeah, and how you can understand a women 😉 ), but as I mentioned, I think the reason for that was just being forced to take off.

I am also planning to get as much work on my channel as I possibly can (I have ordered microphone already and I hope that it will arrive till Monday), so I keep my fingers crossed that I will be able to get it going by the end of the next week. Of course I will share here the results of my hours and hours of work and I hope it was worthed so much effort.

Other than that, there is so much things going on next week and I am looking forward for it to come. One of the things is my cousin’s son birthday. He is going to be 5 on Thursday and he is so amazing human being. Every time I talk to him, I am learning something new. His innocence and straight-forwardness (I hope this word actually exist and I am not making it up) make me realise so much about my adult life.

So today, I have decided to share some stories, where my nephew play a main part in and I’ll explain you what have I lernt from these events.

Honesty

This story have taken place one and a half year ago on Christmas Eve. But before I will jump into the story, I am going to tell you something about polish tradition (and as far as I know, at least in UK, Christmas celebration is very different than in my back home). So in Poland the very special event is a Christmas Eve, to be more detailed, Christmas Eve’s supper. According to the tradition, people start all celebrations, when first star appear on the sky. There is huge excitement among the children, who usually are in charge of spotting it, while adults are trying to take care of last bits of pieces, to make the whole evening perfect (and there is a lot to do, as polish tradition includes twelve meals for Christmas Eve’s supper; what usually is interesting for people, who I am talking to, is that each participant have to (at least) try each of them, no matter how full she or he is or if this is something they like or not; the only exception are alergies and food intollerances). This day everyone is wearing elegant clothes, etc. So that year we were celebrating in my aunties home and me and my cousin decided to meet in her home before, get ready there and go together. When I was ready, I asked her if I look ok, she confirmed. “What do you think, Darek?”. And his answer made me laugh, as he said: “This dress makes you look fat”.

And this made my cousin mad. She started to appologise and tried to explain him, that it isn’t right to say that. However, I think, he had full right to tell this (he could say it in more delicate way, but as a child he wouldn’t know how to do it). This is something what annoyes me about adult. First of all, people who ask for opinion, but they want to hear only good things. And second of all, people asked for opinion, who lie to you, just because they don’t want to hurt you. I think this second one comes out of first, as people came across someone, who blasted at them, when they said what they think and they just want to keep their opinion in the future. Moreover, parents who are getting angry at their children, when they are saying what they think. As a result, growing up makes us less honest after each situation of this kind.

So what I have learnt from this situation, is to be honest and say what you think; and the other thing is to have distance to myself (if I ask for opinion, I prefer to hear opinion, not what I would like to hear).

Innocence

This story is much shorter than the previous one. So what have happened at one time when I was visiting them, was that Darek grabbed my bag and threw all the stuff on the floor. I have to admit, that I have gotten mad at first. But when I’ve asked him, why he did this, he answered that his mum is always doing this after their walk, so it is not a big deal.

Children are innocent by default, as they haven’t got chance to learn how to be bad, yet. They make mistakes and sometimes are getting on other people’s nerves, however they don’t do this intentionally (at least in most of cases). They are just copying people’s behaviour, these who are around them. How they would learn otherwise? They don’t know all written and unwritten rules playing a huge part in adult’s world.

This taught me to be understanding, as we can hurt the person, who didn’t have an intention to do anything wrong. The best way is to talk first 😉 at least you will know that blasting at them is a right thing 😉

Curiousity

This is propably the best one. Children are just striving to learn about the world. They keep asking questions, and they won’t stop till they fully understand what they want to know. How I see it with my nephew? Every time when I am doing something, Darek keeps asking questions: what are you doing? Why are you doing this? Why can’t you do this this or that way?

Children don’t know about the rules you need to follow, if you want to leave in society. They don’t worry about getting knowledge and skills for their future job, yet. They just strive to get knowledge just for the sake of… having knowledge. Simple as that. But what is even more amazing, they don’t just want to know, they want to understand, too. And this is ability that a lot of us, adults, are missing.

These are all things I am going to mention today, eventhough there are many more. I am sure, if you are lucky to spend time with children, you can find many of them by yourself.

For today, I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

P.S. Today’s post is one day late, but since tomorrow, I am going to go back to regular schedule (Monday, Wednesday and Friday). I hope you liked today’s post and I will be happy to read, if you can think of any other things to learn from the children.

What next, if we are self-aware?

Hi guys,

As you might have realised, I became interested in the topic of self-awareness recently. At the end of the proccess, I would like to understand as much about myself, as I possibly can. I am a kind of person, who sometimes make decesion being influenced by emotions. And eventhough I was regretting it after, I couldn’t change it. Most of the time, I was not aware why I am doing it. It was just happening.

Many times I’ve heard from other people, that I behave like a spoiled child. I just wasn’t able to control some of my reactions. Especially, when someone has driven me mad. I would go on and on on a subject, till my anger disapeared and I could say my sorry. At that moments I had seriously felt like a child, the only difference was that this time no one asked me to say sorry, I just knew I went over board and this is what I should do.

And eventhough it isn’t happening to often (it is quite hard to drive me mad, luckily), but these rare events make me feel really bad about myself. So I have decided to make notes about everything connected to this situation: my emotions, feelings, even weather and my general well-being. The point of it was to figure out, what makes me loose control and blast without any particular reason (seriously, situations when it happened wasn’t as important as I used to think when I was hurting people around).

And as I mentioned before, I used to act being influenced by emotions. I think, this is something most of us is dealing with. Even if only occasionally, it is still quite embarassing, when it happens. So this is the reason, why I want to eliminate this kind of behaviours from my life. Just to be able to get over them every time, when they decide to hit.

At the moment, I am conducting a research on how to fight with them. And as soon, as I will find some ideas, I am going to share them with you.

Of course, proccess of learning about myself isn’t done. There are still many things I want to change. However, I will deal with one change at the time.

Today’s post is a short one, but I hope you enjoyed it any way. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

What have changed in more than one year of blogging?

Hi guys,

Mondays became my favourite days recently. I usually have so much to do, but all my tasks for the day make me really excited. I had to delay my YouTube channel, as it turnes out that there are a lot of noises in the background, so it would be quite annoying to watch (yeah, I’ve got so excited, that I didn’t think about listening it till last moment). However, it doesn’t mean that I have stopped working on it. While I am saving money to buy a proper microphone, I am preparing episodes, so after I can add a voiceover and they will be ready. It will hopefully help me, in case of any kind of emergency happening in my life, after it will start. They will be just ready to upload. And YouTube is a first task for me for Monday.

I also write a post on Monday, which literally make my day. I wouldn’t even suspect it, when I first started. I had a feeling that I will just write few post and I will get bored of it. However, I have been posting for more than one year! Of course, there were times, when I haven’t posted anything for a long time, but mostly it was caused by some emergency (like my recent visit to the hospital).

So today, I would like to share with you, what have changed in my life, since mymotivation.blog exists.

Let’s move right into the content.

I became more organised and stopped procrastinate as much

It might sound funny. How in the world one website might make you more organised? And how it influences your procrastination? I am not sure, if I will be able to explain it, but having a posts schedule made me keep planning all other tasks around my posts. Not only that, it helped me to actualy stick to this plan (yeah, I am not perfect; I have worse days too, but most of the time it is true). The reason for this is that I feel very bad, when I will not make it on time with my new post. Even if sometimes, there is not even one person reading it, it is so fun to actualy write something and be able to see it on my own website. And there is such rewarding feeling, when I can manage to do it on time. But to be able to keep it up, I have to make sure that other tasks are done, too. First of all, tasks have a magical power (seriously!). One day you are adding them to your to-do list, with the feeling that you still have a lot of time to get it done, while next time when you see them on the list, they are so close to the due date, that you have no idea what to do to be on time. So if I will let more than one task become urgent (or sometimes one time consuming is enough), I will be propably forced to put all other tasks aside and focus on what needs to be done now. And mostly in this situation, my blog post used to be late or left till other things were accomplished.

I have progressed in planning bigger projects

This is a very important one for me. Although I haven’t became a master yet (what you can see on the example of my YouTube channel), I became much better. Before, I used to plan my projects by starting planning job. This is what have happen with this blog. I have started posting, without any idea what or how I am going to keep up. For some of you (especially more experienced bloggers) my blog might be something, what does not really make any sense. I am posting since more than one year and it is very hard to find any focus of this blog. Sometimes I have this feeling too. However, this is my first serious project; requiring commitment, a lot of creativity to find an inspiration for a topic of each post. And in this project I have made a lot of mistakes, which are very precious lessons for the future. The most important of them, is to try to imagine the whole proccess, before you go for it. Visualise all steps you need to take to do, whatever you are trying to do. And after: do your research! This is something what I couldn’t figure out. That it is worthed to hear opinion of more experienced people, find out what kind of mistakes they’ve made and what advises they have (there are tons of blog post’s and YouTube videos about almost everything) and after that sit and plan your steps, try to figure out, what kind of obstacles you might find on the way and how you want to deal with them.

This leads to the next point:

I have learnt a lot about myself

This might be quite weird as well, but sharing your thoughts and feelings is giving you a lot of materials to come back to. Just reading my old posts makes me realise what shall I change in myself and let me understand better my thinking proccesses. And believe me or not, but sometimes, when I am reading my old posts, I am finding so many things about myself, that would annoy me in the other person. But it also gave me an opportunity to see, how much I have already changed during this time. And I believe, this is something usefull to know about yourself.

My English improved

This might be a bit unbelievable for some, as I still have a lot to do with my English skills. However, personaly I can see a difference already. First of all, writing comes much easier to me. On the beginning of my journey I had to check up a lot of words, which I needed to express my thoughts. Now it does happen occasionaly. And eventhough I know, I still make a lot spelling mistakes, maybe sometimes I am missusing words, however I am already proud of my progress (especially, that wordpress app on the phone doesn’t highlight spelling mistakes). There is also one more aspect of writting in the language which is not your native one. And what I want to talk about, is fear. When I was starting, I was anxious that people will start pointing my mistakes in negative way (I wouldn’t mind pointing them for learning purpose), call me stupid, illiteratare, etc. And it was not only on the blog. Before I would be scared to send any message to my boss, or friends because there might be some mistake. But I have understood, that people don’t care, at least as long as they are able to understand your point. So if you are in similar situation like me, I would advise you to ignore other people’s opinion and start writting as much as you can, because this is the best way to actually improve your writting.

I found place, where I can just throw all my thoughts out of my head

This is a good one, too. This blog became a place, where I can just write everything, what is in my head. My observations, opinions, feelings, frustrations, etc. This leaves my head so light, give me some place for new ideas. Journal would propably do same work, however keeping up with the journal never happen to me. So this is a perfect solution.

And these are all things, which have changed in my life (at least these, which I am aware of at the moment). I hoped you have enjoyed it and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Forbidden friut tastes the best

Hi guys,

Today is a third day since I have returned to work. And I have mixed feelings about it. First of all, I hate being out of work doing nothing. I know that health is the most important (that is the reason, why I haven’t do anything; usually, I tend to break doctor’s rules). However, last few days, my head felt very heavy, eventhough I slept much more than usually. And I felt generally tired. As my employer believed me that I was unable to work (he visited me in hospital), he did not need to see my doctor’s leave and as I feel much better than yesterday, I’ve decided to forget that I can stay at home till end of the week.

What I’ve realised recently, staying at home on doctor’s leave makes me feel much more unwell, than I actually am. Maybe it is just a think, that I sleep a lot, but simply, I don’t like it. I feel like I am not able to do anything. Like nothing has sense. What I have learnt, returning to work makes me feel better (any way, my boss doesn’t let me do too hard work straight after returning back; this actually cause my mixed feelings).

There is one saying in polish (and I am not sure, if it exists only in polish language; you can let me know in comment section, if in your country you have it too), which goes: “Forbidden fruit tastes the best”. That means that if you shouldn’t be doing something, you will do it. Just because it is forbidden. I can’t explain, why it happens this way, but when I think about it closely, it really does happen to me quite often.

Since I was a child, I remember that things, my parents asked me not to do, always seemed more attractive. I think,6 it was some kind of adrenaline. You know, this voice in my head: “What if I will get caught?”. Or maybe it was just a need of independence? Whatever it was, it was worthed breaking rules. This feeling, that: “Hey! I did it and I am still ok!”.

However, things being forbidden very often are some kind of a hazard for our health or safety. Propably this is a reason, why we are not supposed to do them. Similar is with my work.

I have to admit that I like my job in general. But there are some aspects of it making me not want to go there. Every here and then I just pray for few days off. A little time to rest. However, any time I am on a doctor leave, I can’t wait to go to work. There is some force out there pushing me and staying at home makes me feel worse. And this time I’ve started wondering, why this is happening. Does it mean that I am a workaholic? Or maybe it is kind of my forbidden fruit?

I came to a conclusion, that it must be the second one. This kind of thing, when I don’t really want to do something and I need a break, but because it is a forced break, I am getting frustrated about it. Does it sound weird? For me it does, eventhough I am guilty of it. And as I am thinking about it more, I am realising that this is not a first time when I am doing it.

Ok, but why am I actually thinking about it? It is just happening, isn’t it? Well, I believe that if we want to take real control over our life, we need to understand what causes our behaviours. As long as we are not aware of them, we can’t really prevent them. And on the other side, if there is some behaviour, we want to incorporate in our life more, we should determine what needs to happen to make us behave this particular way.

And I believe that self-awareness is a neccessary tool in self-development. How can you change something, if you don’t know what is going on? It is like if you would go to doctor with a headache and he would give you random medicines without figuring out what is the problem. This would be weird, wouldn’t it?

That’s the reason why I think, that first thing to sort any problem, is to figure out what causes it. If you can prevent it, you can stop this problem to occur again. Or, if it is about behaviours, better understanding of yourself will improve the control you have over your emotions and will help you to make more reasonable decisions in the future and give you chance to think them through before, instead of acting afected by emotions.

And with this thought, I am going to end this post. Have a productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria