Today I would like to tell you about processes. Lately, I have realised that the entire life of each person is made of smaller and bigger processes. We are growing, eating, learning, building new relationships… All of these are some kind of processes. It doesn’t happen within minutes, it can take even a years.
There are also some processes, we don’t have too much to do to change them or decide how they will go (for example, you can’t decide how tall you’ll grow) and the other are highly dependent on our actions. To build good relationship, you need to spend some time with the person, get to know each other. Your time and behaviour during your meetings will determine, if this person will become your friend, your partner or just one of the colleagues.
But what I wanted to focus on today, are processes connected to self development. Here we have a lot of processes going on. First of all, figuring out that you want to change is a process. It doesn’t happen over night (at least not always). There must be some events, making you realise that something is not right; this one thing has to happen to let you know, that this is the time to start all this changes. And finally you are coming to the point that you are starting to incorporate new habits into your life.
Habits are processes itself, but the longer process connected to them is making some activity a habit. This can take as short as a couple of weeks (especially, if we are talking about bad habits we are incorporating, while we are not aware of it) or as long as couple of years. And with the second type, there is one problem. There are very hard on the beginning. You must keep reminding yourself about this new thing you want to do, you have to fight your procrastinating self and finally, you have to be consistent.
I have mentioned in one of my previous post, that having a routine is very important and helpful, however I haven’t mentioned that actual process of building this routine is very hard. You might think: “What is so hard in doing different things than I usually do? Especially, things like drinking the water as a first thing in the morning, or having a good breakfast?”. And I have to agree, it is simple in theory. As soon as you’ll find any small hardship (like I haven’t prepared my water the day before or I need to go to the shop and buy fresh bread), you are very likely to give up for the day. You might think something like: “Ok. Today, I’m going to leave it, I will come back to it tomorrow, it is just one day…”. But in reality, this one day might change everything. Next day you will become less willing to do it, after less willing to even thing about it and try to produce some kind of excuse, and finally you will forget about this great habit you wanted to have.
So building a new routine or incorporating new habits are very complicated processes. There is constant war between doing well and failing, but after retrying it again and again, we will succeed. This trigger another process, which is a process of building self-confidence. We will have ups and downs, but each time we are trying again, we are getting this feeling, that this time it will work, I can do it!
And this leads me to a conclusion. We need to be aware in which processes we are involved, as all of them are cross connected. They influence our life, and might have a great impact on our life, but they might be also destructive. For each process you have to sacrifice accurate amount of energy, otherwise you might become too overwhelmed or too lazy to get it to the end. And this unfinished process might have an impact on your life, even if it will only decrease your self-esteem.
I am going to leave you with this thought. I hope you like this post and I will be glad to read your opinion on this topic in the comment section.
For now, I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.