Today I would like to talk about a topic, which you can find a lot of questions about everywhere in the internet. There are a lot of people sharing their way of working with small baby at home, how they can to fit these two full time jobs (yes, having a baby is a full time job too, with no holiday or sick days). Answer is very simple: prioritize and make sure you are getting your stuff done whenever you can. Get as organised as you possibly cab.
I used to watch a lot of youtubers explaining how do they manage to work full time, while looking after baby or babies. They usually mention a lot of ways to make things they are doing last for as long as possible, like cook for three days, do light cleaning (like dusting, picking up stuff, etc) every day, and leave proper cleaning for one day a week. There are also advises to work while your children are asleep or busy with themselves (most of cases are for youtubers who work at home) and many more. However, the most common advice, repeating in almost every video I saw, was to use help of your family, like parents, cousins, etc.
Well, definitely great advise, there is only one problem in my case: both me and my husband are immigrants in London. My family lives in Poland, so it is a bit far for them to pop up whenever I need. My husband is from India, you can guess they might find it even more difficult to come.
First thing, is that we are trying to set our routine, which we are still working on. It is not perfect (I would say, there is still more to do, than it has been done already), but slowly, changing one thing at the time in our’s son’s life, we keep making it work well for us. I can’t say, there aren’t any obstacles on the way. When we wanted to move his sleeping time just for one hour earlier, we ended up with the little guy not sleeping during the nights at all for aprox. a week. But he is getting used to the new things. Also, he is ten months old now, so he likes to play on his own for a bit longer than he used to (usually no longer than half an hour and I need to sit not too far to make sure he won’t have any dangerous ideas), so this is the time I am using to plan my work day. After that I play with my son, take him for a walk, feed him again, change his nappy and it is nap time for him. It usually lasts for at least one hour, up to two. After he wakes up, I feed and change him again and spend some more time with him (yes, my life consists mostly of changing nappies 😉 ), before I need to leave to work. My husband is back from his work around half an hour before I need to leave, so this is time when he takes over looking after the little one while I am getting ready to leave.
Also, there are these moments when my son just sits on my laps and keeps falling asleep or play with my clothes or some toys. That time I am trying to do as much as I can too (although I can’t call it the most productive time of my day).
What about my chores? How does my home look like? Well, it is not as bad. Me and my husband share responsibility of keeping home clean. We do whatever it needs to be done. We have also some hacks, to make the process easier. For example, we cook more than we are able to eat and freeze the left overs, we do washing, when pile gets really big, this way we make sure that the washing machine isn’t running half empty. And we take turns in cleaning all the areas in home such a way, that each of us has just a small area to clean each day (let’s be honest here, except bathroom, kitchen and keeping floors clean on a daily basis, there is not such a thing like everything has to be clean every day). For some it might sound a bit weird and gross. But this is how it is. You can’t eat a cookie and have a cookie at the same time. You must give up on something, to be able to do something else. I can’t resign from my full time job just yet, as our finances would look horrible; I don’t want to sacrifice time for my son; the only thing left is home. It will not be spotless for some time, but it isn’t dirty either. So we can manage it 😉
And that’s it for today’s post. I hope that you enjoyed reading it. If you have some advices, please share them in the comment section below, I will be glad to read all of them. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.