Planning’s traps

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about quite important thing to me. As you might have realised already, I plan my year, month, week and each day. I keep my bullet journal for that purpose. And although I admire my system, I can see some potential traps connected to it too. I have fallen into most of them myself, some stopped me from getting my things done at all for a while. So I’ve decided to share all of them with you in this post.

Just before I’ll start, I would like to note that all this isn’t to scare you, but to make you aware, so if you’ll become a victim of any of them, hopefully you’ll take an action as soon as possible.

Let’s move into the traps:

Overloading your TO DO lists

This is quite common. You’ve probably heard about it millions times already. But this is a big one. We tend to overestimate how long each task is going to take us. This is going to happen quite often, especially when you are just starting your adventure with planning and scheduling. However, even if you are a pro, master of planning and creating your schedules, there might be a time, when something out of your control will cross your plan. Let’s say you need an internet connection to complete most of your tasks and during the most busy day, you won’t be able to connect. Or there will be some other emergency, like broken pipe or anything else. You might find yourself in the situation, when at the end of the day you look at your TO DO list and there is nothing to be ticked.

I am usually very disappointed and unmotivated. I completely lose any will to carry on for a couple of days. Especially, if tasks from the previous days have to be done any way and adding them to the next day, where everything seems to be packed up and ends up carried on to the next day, where there are again tons of things to do… I think you get the point. It might get you on the loop, where each iteration leaves you with more and more to do every next day.

If you want to avoid it, you can do one of the two things. First is to simply plan as much, as you can handle each day, with leaving some time for emergencies. But if it is not possible for some reason, you might try to assign one day a week (or month), when you are not planning anything. Just keep getting any pending tasks, to clear your TO DO list before the next planning session. This way you’ll create an escape from loop mentioned before.

Forgetting to update your plan

If you are anything like me, you might find yourself in the situation, when new things keep coming up at any time of the day. I tend to forget to put it into my schedule and… simply forget about it after less than 10 minutes. Although, it doesn’t sound like very serious thing, you might realise that you work very hard, but there are a lot of things just dropping out of your hands.

Solution to that is very simple and a hard at the same time. You just have to make an habit of adding all this incoming tasks into your plan right away. It is so easy, but everyone who tried to make a new habit will tell you, how hard job it is.

Not achieving your goals

All plans should lead to some bigger goal. However, sometimes you might work a lot on something and not be able to see any results. This might leave you very disappointed. Seeing all the time you’ve spend, might make you think that there is no point. Only thing you need to remember is that some stuff are just taking more time than the other. But if you’ll still think that you’ve just wasted your time, it might be a sign that either the way you’re working is wrong, or the entire goal is just not for you. This might be analysed and you should be given an answer.

These are all traps I wanted to share with you today. I hope they were helpful. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Designing your dream life

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about something what is very important, yet mostly forgotten. I want to talk about dream life. All of us have some idea, how they would their life to look like. What they would like to do for a living, or not to have to work any more and have time for their passion.

Personally, I wish that one day I will own my property, not to be forced to move as often as I do now. I want to have a passive income on such level which allows me to pay all property related things and live decently.

Although, these seem like financial goals, they are just my way to achieve an alternative goal, which is to be able to spend as much time with my family as I want. I want to be able to visit my mum in Poland without begging for holiday first.

All this stuff require me to build my passive income such a way, that I will be able to receive a bit more money each month, than my regular spending. This would give me an opportunity to live my life with enough time for things that really matter: family and memories for my family.

This is my dream life and I am sure that most (if not all) of us would like to be in a place which is different than the current one. Maybe it is being a debt free, or being able to travel freely. Maybe just like me you want to simply have time for your family, without facing the fear of losing roof over your head.

Whatever it is, you might be in a place where I used to be. Thinking that it is what it is and you have to take it. That there is no point to try, as it isn’t going to change anyway.

Well, I have a good and a bad news for you. All in one. Let me quote:

Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right

Henry Ford

You have much more control over your life and, what’s more important, over your mindset. You can sit and keep taking everything as it is (and it is completely fine, if you chose so) or you can become more proactive and start changing your life bit by bit.

Let me be honest, before I’ll share my tips to design a dream life. Not everything is going to work plus it might turn out that your dream life isn’t as dreamed as you might think now. At the same time, it is important not to give up. Otherwise how are you going to judge, if you’ll never get there? And what is very important, the journey is what matters.

But let’s get to my tips (or steps) of designing a dream life:

Step 1: Analyse

This should be done even before you start thinking about designing your dream life, it might be a good idea to analyse your current situation. My way to do it is to write all this things that I like in my life on the one site of a paper and everything what I want to change on the other site. You can include everything, what you want. In my case some of the good things will be my family, the fact that we can afford to pay for roof over our head, that we have food on our plates, etc. Small things that I like, let me see, that my life is not a nightmare. Thinks I would change, is to move to our own property, to have a passive income, to spend more time with my son, etc.

As soon as I have these two list, I start asking “why” questions to things to change. For example, why do I want to move to our own property? Because I don’t want to keep moving. Why don’t you want to keep moving? I don’t want to have my son to change his school because of that. Why? It would take a sense of belonging out from his life. Why? Because his surrounding would be changing all the time?

As answers start being about one thing, or I simply don’t have any more of them I move to the next one. And all this till I’ll get definite answers for all of the things on this list.

That time I am going back to the other list and check if there are answers connected to things from it. As more I have, as more sure I am to be on the right path. And then, I move to the next step.

Step 2: Action plan and action itself

This is where all the hard work starts. You just need to pick up one of the things from your things to change list and write as many options or ways to change it as you could. But don’t get caught in a ‘there is no way to change it’ mindset. Let’s say you have picked to have a passive income one. You could create a digital product, you could write a book, or invest. For simplicity we have these three options only (in your it is good to include more in your action plan). You can go through everything you came up with and pick one of them again. If you’d have an cash laying around (except your emergency funds), you could chose investments, but there might be some risks connected to it. And let’s be honest, probably not many of us have money to invest. So you might decide to write a book. Think what your book could be about. Will it be a fiction, or non fiction book? Prepare an outline and start working on it in your spare time.

And here there are two things that can happen when you finish: you’ll either succeed or fail. In the first scenario, you need to decide whether you are happy with level of income you are getting? Will it decrease over a time? Are you fine with that? If no (or you failed), pick another option ( like creating your digital product) and start all over again. Just remember to learn from mistakes you could have made on your way. If yes, pick another thing from things to change list and repeat step 2.

All this might seem easy, but it is hard in fact. Changes are rarely happening within a days or even weeks. They are more likely to take a lot of time. But this is what it takes. Hard work, to get where you want to be or at least as close to that place as possible.

That’s all for today’s post. I would like to hear from you, what changes would you like to do in your life? Or maybe you are already living your dream life? Share it in a comment section below. I’ll be happy to read it.

For now I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria