Three things I didn’t know before having a child?

Hi guys,

Today I will share with you some truth about life, I had no idea about before my son was born. In many religions children are seen as a gift, great blessing from God. But whether you are religious or not, I will share with you my observations on this topic. I might not know everything yet, as my son is just 1.5 years old, but I’ve already noticed a lot of changes in my life.

So here are my subjective truths about life:

You feel like getting your things sorted

If you have been following my blog for a longer time, you probably know, that I am master of procrastinating. If procrastination was a valuable skill, I can guarantee, I would be a millionaire (if I wouldn’t procrastinate it too. I used to always have so many excuses. And my to-do list was getting longer and longer each day (well, it still does, but this time I really have a reason). Sometimes for hours I was trying to convince myself to start doing any of my tasks, but it just never worked. Sometimes I wouldn’t drag myself out of the home. I just felt that I am too tired. Oh, past me, you have never knew what tired mean! But still you used words like exhausted.

Since I have my son, I kind of have to use any time I have to do something, otherwise I might not get an opportunity to do so later. Plus, there is one more aspect. I could think about not working, leaving in the cheapest place in the world, but now I am responsible for this small human being, who gives me so much joy each and every day. I just feel in my heart, that I want to do as well, as it is only possible to make his start into adulthood easier. I also wish that when he will be ready to start his own family, we will have our own home, where he will be able to come with his wife and my grandchildren; where there will be mommy’s dinner waiting on the table. Just simple his place, where he will be able to come and stop, even if just for a while.

You can really stretch time

As a student or young working women, I used to think that there is so much to be done each day, that it is impossible to accomplish. I used to come back from school or later from work and felt so exhausted, that I couldn’t even think about cleaning or cooking. Working on any personal project was literally impossible; because when? And this way my life was passing by, just near me. All the skills I wanted to learn, all the project I haven’t participate in because lack of time… It will never come back to me.

On the other hand now, having just 3 to 4 hours a day for my personal work and cleaning, cooking, etc., I’ve realised how much I can get done, if I’ll focus on my tasks. And as I said many times in this blog, the way how productive I am isn’t perfect, probably it will never be. But just simple fact that I know I have just these 3 to 4 hours help me the most productive me and at least moving forward a bit each day.

Cold coffee isn’t that bad

Although I seem more productive than I used to be, I also have to stay awake sometimes for the entire night. This happens when my son has his stomach problem, it used to happen when he was teething or when he had an awful rush. I can’t plan when he is going to sleep, how long he is going to sleep or anything really. And I think that this is the think all mother know: the fact that you’ve made your coffee, doesn’t mean you’ll get to drink it soon. On the other hand, it is so hard to go through the day without this extra kick of caffeine. Especially, if you were drinking a lot of it before having your child.

All this makes your brain thinking of any way to get your coffee as soon as it is only possible. I am pretty much sure that first person in the world who did put a mug full of coffee into microwave was a mother. I used to do it myself, as I couldn’t stand drinking it cold. But as time went and my son became more and more demanding, plus he wants me to share EVERYTHING with him, my only way to get a coffee is to keep sipping it, sometimes for many hours, when he doesn’t look. It is easier with tea, because as long as it is not too strong I can let him get one or two sips. But because of health hazard (and of course fear of extra kick of energy in a toddler who seem overactive and never tired already) coffee is out of the picture for years to come.

And these are all three things I’ve learned. I am aware that my posts are much shorter than they used to be and they are more of my thoughts without any research recently. There are no more post strictly on productivity or motivation, but still I am trying to smuggle some of the tips or just my opinions about some aspects of it. But I hope to get on the top of my disastrous home by the end of the week and I will put much more effort into writing them.

For now I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

The most important lesson of productivity

Hi guys,

Today I would like to share with you the most important thing (at least in my opinion), that you have to know about the productivity. Something, what not every productivity guru will tell you (just to clarify, I don’t think I am any kind of productivity guru; I am just a small blogger sharing her struggle with everyday life).

There was a time when I shared with you that my to-do list is huge, as I have procrastinated too much. I was working my guts off to get on the top of it, but no matter how much I did, there were so many new tasks coming in, that I couldn’t manage it any way.

In the last week, I felt again how it is to get my to-do list overloaded with urgent things to do. Some time ago, we had an accident at home, as our neighbours flooded us and the ceiling in one of the rooms started falling down. Fortunately, this was our spare room, so no one has been hurt. Unfortunately, this was a spare room and we turned it into the place where we kept all stuff that we wanted out of our sight. And here is the part, which makes me ashamed of myself, which is that there were bags still unpacked since we moved in, which means since December.

Last week, while my landlord fought with the insurance company, I was trying to get it sorted. I won’t lie, I haven’t managed to do it yet. There were some bags with our clothes, my son’s clothes that are meant to be given away or sold, as they don’t fit him any more, little bits and pieces of everything you could imagine. Two bags of documents waiting to be sorted… And there is still one big wardrobe of bags which I haven’t even touched yet.

Last week my washing machine was working constantly during the day. Although I managed to wash everything from that room, our regular washing bins are already overfilling. I don’t want to even mention a huge pile of ironing waiting for me on the sofa in the living room. This is the hardest part, as I can iron only when my son sleeps. He loves all kind of wires, so he is tempted to pull the iron down each time when I turn to put an ironed clothes back. So just for his safety, I don’t iron when he is awake.

There is a lot of complaining in this post, you could say. And you would be right. But I also think, I have a right to complain. I have a right to feel overwhelmed. And this is today’s the most important thing you have to know. Although planning is very important for being productive, there will be a time when everything goes different than you planned. It might put you down and you have the full right to give up and take time to feel whatever you feel. You are just a human and so much as human.

The only thing is that make sure you’ll get yourself together quickly and come back on track as soon as it is possible. Get as much done as you can and eventually you’ll manage to get on the top of whatever happened. This is what I am saying, sitting in a home looking like a hurricane went through it. But regardless, I just feel, that I will manage to get it done soon.

And this is all I wanted to share with you today. I wish you as less hurricanes in your life as it is possible. But I also wish you the strength to go through your hurricanes, as they are there to make you stronger.

Have a productive day.

Daria

How to set goals to make them happen?

Hi guys,

Being a person, it is normal that we have something we try to achieve. Our goals might be small and not complicated at all, but they can seem like a trip to the moon too. The second group of goals is the one where a lot of things never happens. Often we don’t even try to get closer, as we are just sure that we will not be able to get there.

Today, I will try to explain to you how to make these goals realistic in our heads and how to set them, so we are actually getting closer to achieving them.

As an example, I will make buying a home. I feel like many of us might dream about it and at the same time, it might seem like something impossible to do. We might think that we earn too less or that our credit score is so low. Or whatever else the reason is. I also think, that buying a home is quite a complicated task itself, which makes it a great example to explain it. It is also one of my goals, so I went through these steps myself, which makes it much easier for me to talk about.

So with setting such a big task, the best thing is to go from general to specific. In that case, our goal will be just to buy a home. It is quite straightforward. Not much to explain.

Next step is a bit more complicated. Here you need to come out with all the things you think must happen. You don’t have to think about the order at this point, just write everything that comes to your mind. It could be something like: ‘I need to find a property’, ‘I need to save my deposit money’, ‘I need to get a mortgage’… You can come with as many things as you can. But let’s say you came up just with these three.

The third step is to put your list in the right order. I mean, you will probably not look for a property to buy, if you still haven’t got any savings for a deposit. It would be pretty much waste of time, as till you’ll save enough your dream property might be bought by someone else. On the other hand, you will not get a mortgage, if you haven’t found a home and you will not be able to buy a home if you will not get a mortgage. That makes these steps on the same level.

Having this done, you need to take your first thing from your list and analyse it properly. You can make a sublist to decide where you can get this extra money from. Just come up with as many ideas as you can. It can be something like finding an extra job, reducing going out for dinner, selling all unnecessary stuff, or whatever fits your situation. After take the next thing and also make a list of what has to happen or if it is a simple task, just write all your options to achieve it. And when you’ll get point go through your list and see which of these simple tasks you can start working on now. You might start saving money towards a deposit, you could also try to improve your credit score if it is low, maybe you could find an additional source of income to speed the things up.

As you’ll get this first steps almost done, start working on all next steps you can think of. Let’s say you already have a fair sum of money saved, so you can start looking on properties within your budget or see how much more will you need for the property, which is more expensive. You can start talking to banks to find out how much they can borrow you and what you can do to improve the deal you’ll get from them. All this will depend on the steps you will come up with on the beginning.

But to sum up, the main thing is to split a huge goal into as small tasks as you only can. And keep getting them done one by one. The other important thing is to review your tasks from time to time. Maybe you found out that you will need some insurance, or you’ll have to do some other things you couldn’t know when you were just dreaming, but you found out on the way?

I hope this post was helpful and that you enjoyed reading it. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

10 habits that will change your life for better

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about some habits, that have great power to make our life easier and more productive. I’ve started incorporating them into my daily routine and although many of them aren’t my everyday thing yet, I can already see how better my day is when I do this easy (as we could think) activities.

So without further explanations, let’s move to all those life-changing habits.

Get up early

This is the one I am struggling with the most. Especially, since I had my son (ok, he is just an excuse, I had a problem with this before he was born too).

However, every day, when I manage to get up before him, I have some time for myself, I can get ahead with my tasks (at least these requiring me to focus). Having this one or two hours each day, when everyone is asleep makes a lot of the difference.

Of course, I could tell you to wake up at any ‘optimal’ time, but such perfect time does not exist. I’ve read a lot of blog posts and articles about the power of getting up at 6 am, or 5 am. Some even swear to everything that is important to them that 4 am is the time when you should get up and start your day.

Although I believe them, I still don’t agree with them. I don’t think getting up at 4 am would do any good for a person, who let’s say finished their shift just two hours before. But the fact is, that if you’ll get up earlier before your normal schedule, it will definitely help. At least if you won’t spend this time scrolling through your social media.

Open all windows at your home as soon as you wake up

This seems to be so random and not important thing, that I wouldn’t bother to do this. I’ve read about this so many time before, but I have never seen any purpose of it. Of course, I did open them at some point during the day but didn’t see why would I open them as a first thing after waking up.

Well, when I started to follow it, I had to admit it has changed my life. First of all, my home is fresh and airy before I am done with making breakfast. That makes me more likely to do some work when I am ready to start getting my things done.

Don’t make your bed to soon

This can seem like a nightmare for those, who like me were growing up with mums who really paid attention to it. For me, there was no way to leave my bed unmade for longer than 10 minutes since I woke up.

But in reality, there is very good reason to leave making your bed till a bit later or even not doing it at all. Leaving it uncovered (but not messy), for some time with an open window, will help you to have a good night sleep in fresh bedding.

Have a nutritious breakfast

This one never had to be explained to me. But anyway I was always eating very bad breakfast or haven’t got any at all. I’ve started working on the quality of the first meal in the day, I started having much more energy than I used to.

If you are a coffee drinker, it might be even more beneficial to you, as in my example, breakfast helped me not crush as quickly as I used to.

Get at least a bit of exercise

This is quite obvious. In polish (I am not sure about English) we have a saying: “in the healthy body healthy soul”. Keeping yourself in good condition help to reduce stress and pain associated with prolonged sitting or standing.

And the good news is, that you don’t need to spend money on expensive equipment or gym ticket. Just a bit stretching and walk or run in the fresh air will do the thing. And you’ll not even realise when you’ll start loving it.

I can’t say I am running regularly, as not always I have someone to leave my son with. But I am able to go for a walk almost every day. It is good for my son too 🙂

Review your plan

This is the thing, I am most guilty of. I have my to-do list prepared and it is just waiting for me in my bullet journal, but when I’ll get ready, I just keep getting my tasks from my memory.

Reviewing your to-do list after every task will help you to decide which task is the best to do next (if you haven’t written them in the order) and at the same time, you’ll not forget about anything.

See what can you do, before the real day starts

Before I will talk about the importance of this habit, let me explain what do I mean by real day. This is quite connected to the first point, where I told you about getting up earlier. For the purpose of this post, the real day will mean the time before your normal wake up time.

Why is this one so important to me? As for the most part of the day my son is following my each and every step, he has to try doing everything I do and basically he is in the age of being interested in everything, I have to have my eyes all around my head. That makes it impossible to do anything what requires me to focus (first of all, my son would be climbing one any way; second of all: if he wouldn’t climb, he would be looking for some way to explore the highest shelves in our house, what could end in taking him to ER after he would have fallen).

So every time, when I manage to wake up before him, I am getting as much of writing posts, recording videos, montaging them, etc as I possibly can. Of course, after having my breakfast. If I think about it, ironing is one of these tasks too. I don’t really understand it, but my son loves every kind of strings, wires and other long objects. As I am ironing, he tries to pull the wire and it is quite stressful not to let him get hot iron on his head.

Clean as you go

I don’t know how it is in your place, but my one has a magic power of getting dirty. You know, I’ve just washed the dishes, after made tea and heated up some food, I turned around and my sink is full of the dishes… AGAIN!

Or I hoover and mop the floors. Meantime my son wakes up I feed him and my floors are all dirty. Just in no time.

For some time I was even wondering if there is a point of trying to keep my place clean. But soon I found a solution (to be honest my mum used to say it to me all the time when I was a kid, I just wouldn’t listen to her). It is just one very powerful sentence: clean as you go. I started with my dishes. Most of the time or make something to eat or drink, I try to wash everything straight away. To help myself with the floors, I bought a small hand hoover and every time my son decides that the best place for his rice is on the floor, I clean it right away.

This way, my home stays relatively clean at all time and I am not getting frustrated all the time.

Stay hydrated

I find it very important too. I have never paid a lot of attention to how much I am drinking. But quite recently I had these horrible headaches, which wouldn’t go. I was stuffing myself with painkillers, I was trying to catch extra naps whenever I could. But nothing helped.

Actually, my mum was the one who suggested that I might be not drinking enough. Well, since I started drinking at least a 1-litre bottle of water or other drink, I seem to have more energy and what is most important, my headaches are completely gone.

Plan your next day

This is very important too. It is very important to prepare your to-do list in the evening before. It will help you stay on the top of your tasks the next day when you wake up early. The trick is, you don’t waste your time on thinking what you have to do, you just pick a task from your list and get it done.

If your planning system is good, you will be also less likely to forget about important things, deadlines, appointments, etc.

And these are all habits I wanted to share with you today. I will be happy to read your recommendations of habits.

But this is it for today’s post. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Ps. I’ve forgotten to press schedule when I finished this post, so we have almost 5 hours delay today. Normally, posts will be live every Monday, Wednesday and Friday at 11 pm UK time.

What is going to change in this blog?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about all the changes in this blog, that are going to happen since now. If you have followed me for some time, you might have noticed that I haven’t been posting regularly for the past months. There have been some posts here and there, but there were months where there was not even one post published here. It wouldn’t be so bad if not the fact that there were multiple months in a row, where there was no sign from me at all.

Now there is a time when all of this is about to change. I have decided about the schedule and this time I am going to stick to it. But before I’ll tell you when you can expect posts, let me tell you what was going on with me for all this time. And there are no excuses. This post isn’t meant to show how hard my life was, because it wasn’t.

For the past months, I’ve been struggling to decide what I want to do with my life. We got to the point with my husband, where I don’t really need to work full time any more as his salary is enough to get us from month to month with an opportunity to save a small amount each month too. That allows me to work just part-time so we can have some funds for any extra spending we might have. However, I still work my night shifts full time, as my company is about to close by March 2021, maybe earlier.

After thinking for months, I’ve decided to continue working at my current place, until they either close down or put me on redundancy and during this time I would like to save as much as I can and work on my personal projects as if they were my part-time job. I also want to educate myself on various ways to get more productive and organised, because especially while I have my full-time job and my son to look after, I will have to learn to get as much out of my time as it is possible.

All this brings me to the point, where I am now. I’ve never thought of this blog as the way of making money and I would like to leave it this way (unless I’ll find a way to monetise it without having to change much). I want to keep it as my place, where I can share my thoughts, worries and basically all the things I have been doing so far. So I came with a schedule which will be as follows:

On Mondays and Wednesdays, I will be posting regular posts which you have seen many so far, while on Fridays there will be a post with self-development related book, where I am going to present you main ideas explained in that book. This should keep me accountable for educating myself while bringing some value for you.

I hope you like the idea. I hope to see you at my new post on Monday, when is the first day since my schedule is going to work.

For today, I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you at my new post.

Daria