Isn’t it easier just to give up?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about giving up. I think that all of us at some point experienced a time when everything seems wrong. You have this great plan of action and suddenly something pops out, your kid is not fond of following his routine, or you just don’t want to do anything. And your to-do list keeps growing and growing. One day there was just one task moved to the next day. But as tomorrow came, you had to make it up and another two or three tasks didn’t get done, another day another few and you don’t even realise when your to-do list became this huge papyrus that messengers unroll in cartoons.

This is what happened to me recently (and still I am trying to come out of it). I had to over-plan my days a bit. My days got jammed with tasks, as I am going to go on holiday after one and a half weeks and hope to get ahead with my work. And tonight, as I was crossing my tasks in my app, I realised that (including overdue tasks) I have fifty-something things to do tomorrow. No, it isn’t a mistake FIFTY-SOMETHING THINGS TO DO TOMORROW. It wouldn’t be as bad, if not for the fact that next two days I need to be at work from morning to afternoon. And my next days have also loads of things planned.

Before I started writing this post, I was wondering what is the point of even attempting to get it done. There will be probably more coming the next day than I had to do the previous day. So I decided to give up at first. But as I thought about it a bit longer, I realised that this isn’t an option. Although it seems easy now because I would get to rest and forget about all these tasks, it will bite me back after. Some of my tasks are time sensitive, so I will have to get them done during my holidays. So better to try and get as much as I can before I enter the plane, so I will be able to enjoy my time off much more.

But that all situation got me thinking about something else. Why my first option was to give up. It happened by default. No thinking about pros and cons, just right away give up? I have been thinking about it for a while and I think I know why. At the time when we feel overwhelmed, giving up seems to be the easiest way. It lets us sort out the problem without any effort. Just forget about every single thing on your list and the problem is solved. This is an easy task, isn’t it?

But if we just stopped for a minute and think about it a bit more, would we still think so? These mountains of laundry to do wouldn’t be very helpful in forgetting about it. This very important project for work neither. And the guilt. The guilt of not being able to complete what we planned.

We can’t forget about the most important thing: guilt, that we didn’t even try. We could get so much more done and make our life a bit easier in the future but we were too busy giving up. So is giving up an easier option? I can’t answer this for sure. It depends on each person, I guess. But I’ve been living with the guilt of not trying for way too long and this time I am going to push through it. And before my holidays I will do as much as I can. Maybe not all, but at least my time off won’t be jammed with things to do as much as it is now.

And this is all for today’s post. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Just become better! It’s… easy

Hi guys,

In today’s post, I would like to focus on getting better. Not getting better than this guy who seems to have it all but better than you and just you yesterday. Changing anything in life requires us to get some skill or set of skills, sometimes a different attitude or different priorities. What is sure, if we want to see change around us, the only thing we are changing is ourselves.

Let me give you some examples. If you want to have a clean home, you need to change your habits or maybe learn how to clean (I know it is hard to believe, but there aren’t any magic gnomes who wash dishes after you or do your laundry). If you need more money, you need to learn new skills to be able to earn more or you need to learn how to spend more wisely. And if you look at any change you want to make in your life, it requires you to adjust one or the other way.

. So how to make any change easier? Just become better! It seems simple, while in reality changing yourself is the hardest part of it all. Throughout our lives, we’ve developed a lot of habits that make our life easy. We’ve created our routines, so a lot of times we are not even aware of the things we do. If we want to change anything, first we need to gain awareness of what are we doing now. Let’s take for example saving money. I think most of us would like to do it, but there is always not enough to put aside. So the first thing would be to realise where is our money coming from and how much each month are we getting. Where do we spend our money, which of our spending is a necessity and which isn’t and so on. Maybe we are not earning enough? So how to change it? Shall we get another job, start a side hustle or downsize our home? When we realise what the problem is and what options we have to resolve it, then we can try and decide which option is the best and what shall we focus on the most.

You could ask how do I know, that this is what we should do? I have no idea, but I am sharing my thoughts here and gaining awareness about myself is what I am trying to do now. As I will keep changing myself, I will share my results with you. It might work, might not. But I will never know till I’ll try.

And that’s all I wanted to share in today’s post. I hope you enjoyed reading and if you want to try anything I’ve written about, let me know in the comment. If you already using this technique, let me know if it works for you. And if you disagree, I will be happy to read your opinion. In the end, we are all here to learn.

But for now, I wish you a good day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Changes are the struggle

Hi guys,

Today I would like to write about changes (like it is the first time I have ever done this on this blog). I think we can all agree, that I’ve proven in my previous posts how big of a struggle changes are for me. And here I am, writing this post early morning, after a sleepless night (if someone asks, I am trying to get into sleeping at night, after years of working night shifts). Well, that change goes very well, don’t you think?

I was hoping that working during the day will fix all my productivity problems. Like a magic wand, a good night’s sleep will help me to get more energy and motivation to get simple tasks done. Out of a sudden, I will become this well-organised person, who just gets her stuff done like no one else… Oh, but I forgot that changes are a struggle. To get a good night’s sleep I need to be able to fall asleep relatively easy. But I can’t. Usually, as soon as I am falling asleep, either my son is waking up, reminding me that it is time to start our day, or I need to go to work.

Sometimes, I think about the time when I used to work in my previous job. I was exhausted, as there were not many hours to sleep during the day, but at least I knew I will sleep at least a few hours each day. At this point, I keep assuming that I don’t need to sleep during my son’s nap or else I will not be tired at night. However, in the end, I end up not being able to fall asleep at night. As soon as I lie down, I feel hungry, or I just remember that I was supposed to do this or that. On the other hand, I struggle to get anything done during the day. I am very tired and starting any task seems too daunting. When I start, it goes quite ok, but thoughts about how tired I am and how much I have to do makes me unwilling to start anything.

So here I am, trying to figure out what else can I do. Writing this post as a way of expressing my desperation? Or maybe the better world will be a disappointment? Any way… Here I am… Changes are the struggle…

But changes are also an opportunity. They allow you to grow, improve your life, and become better yourself. They are a chance for you to find out how to would be to do something differently. They get you out of your comfort zone. To summarise: changes are a struggle, but they will become normal one day. After you adjust to them they are going to be a part of your life. That makes this struggle worth going through. It will get better one day, so let’s go through this adjustment phase as well as we can and let’s enjoy changes in our life.

Daria