Catching up… it isn’t fun…

Hi guys,

Today I would like to write a short post. I am on my journey in catching up with my to-do list. Although every day fewer tasks are being moved forward than the day before, the number is still terrifying. But I know that getting on top of everything is going to be a long journey and slowly but surely I am getting there.

I had some moments of helplessness today, though. It was hard to push through them, but I did. I also have to agree, that doing any work with a toddler running around isn’t the easiest thing. However, I keep getting him involved in more and more chores. At the moment, it slows me down, but I hope that in the long run, he will grow into an independent young man. Having his diagnosis made me crazy about independence. I know that he has his struggles and apart from ‘normal’ things, he’ll have to learn how to cope with them. But he is a very bright boy and watching him learn new things brings me a lot of joy. Even though he slows me down, he motivates me to push and not give up. And this is the real motivation. The one person, who makes me want to get up out of bed no matter how low I feel (‘wants’ isn’t the right word, he forces me to leave my bed sometimes) and I am very grateful for that. It is hard to stay in a dark place when there is this little sunshine jumping and running around.

And that’s it for today’s post. Just a quick check-in. I hope you enjoyed reading it anyway. I wish you a very important day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Day off… This is what I needed!

Hi guys,

Today, I spent my day with my family. We visited my brother-in-law and simply took some rest, without worrying about anything. Like no deadlines are here and my to-do list isn’t breaking at its seams.

And I have to tell you that I needed this day. Quality time with my husband and son put me in a much better mood. So here is one more adjustment to be made to my planning system, which is to keep my Saturdays off. And I know it isn’t going to be easy at first, at least till I will catch up with my tasks. One day off every week means that I have to schedule tasks for other days of the week. But it will also provide me with great motivation throughout the week. And let’s be honest, I have to learn to make realistic plans, so as a human I need this one day that I am going to look forward to.

However, I haven’t forgotten who I am and I have decided on some rules regarding my day off:

  • No thinking about stuff to be done (or could have been done, if I weren’t taking a day off)
  • Fully focused on my family and I
  • The only thing I can do at the end of the day is to plan for the next day (but I can leave it and plan in the morning on Sunday)
  • Adding a task on Wednesday to plan Saturday’s activities (or creating a list with all family-friendly things to do in our area)

And our plans don’t have to be too elaborate. It can be just having a picnic or visiting a museum or our family. What is important to spend this time together and make our bond even stronger?

And this is it for today’s post. If you have some ideas about what can we do on our day off, feel free to let me know in the comment section. And I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Oh… So I need a logical thinking?

Hi guys,

Today I realised one thing and I would like to share it with you. As you might know, for a long time I have been trying my best to find my organised self. And oh boy, was it a bumpy road… Trying different types of planning, reading countless articles, and watching millions of youtube videos on the topic and the results are the same: failure. Nothing seems to work for me. But here is the thing, no matter what kind of planning I decided to try, I’ve never given it a thought. I just simply threw all the tasks, every single thing I need to do in my new system and got it running. Although it might seem like a good way (action is better than thinking about the action), my planning hasn’t got any structure and logic to it.

Today, I have been thinking about some ways to keep myself busy at work. As I can’t use my phone, I keep finding myself being bored quite a lot and my time just stops there. So I analysed what I am doing and how I would manage to get myself busy whenever I had a free while in my station and that’s when it hit me. My tasks also can be divided into tasks which require my full focus, but usually, there is some waiting included, like when my editing program processes my files for smooth work or when my video is uploading. Taking into account that my current computer isn’t the first generation model, sometimes it takes hours. And I am finding myself starting at my screen at that time. Feeling like I am wasting valuable minutes of my day. And getting more and more behind. Of course, I know that I will not get a noble price for my realisation, but I am not intending to.

I hope that with this knowledge, I will be able to get much more done during the day and as a result, my to-do list will be becoming empty at the end of each (or almost every day). Of course, I have a lot of things to make up, and one more task which is to re-organise my list, but I also understand that getting organised is rather a marathon than a sprint. And running a marathon start with preparation. As better prepared you are, as easier your run is going to be.

So let me prepare myself for my marathon. And I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Life-work balance and reality

Hi guys,

Today, I would like to share my thoughts about the life-work balance. This is a topic that might sound simple (just don’t bring your work back home and you’ll be good) but in reality, it is quite tricky. To begin, it is important to recognize which activities would you consider work. For me, going to work is undeniably one of them, but housework (maybe except cooking) is work as well. And we probably know that there is always something to do at home (especially with toddler making sure that their toys are scattered around the entire surface of your place).

So when I was planning before, I was considering any cleaning-related task as a ‘life’ part. I wasn’t paid for that (and I am still not). So when I looked at my schedule, it looked that I have quite a lot of life in it. However, recently I reevaluated it and came to conclusion that it isn’t as much of a rainbow, if you look at the time which is really for me to relax and do whatever I like. It is even harder now, when I want to spend some quality time with my son too, I finding myself getting my chores done late at night when my son is asleep. This make me go to bed late and as a result I am more and more tired each day.

What is the solution to this problem? To be honest, I don’t have any yet, but I am working on this. I don’t know, however, if it is possible to achieve it. To eat cake and still have a cake. But this is my new problem to solve. Hopefully, I will come up with some remedy, that will help me feel like I have my life well-balanced. And if I will, I’ll let you know.

However, that’s all for today’s post and I’ll see you in my next one.

Daria