Five struggles I encountered being a blogger

Hi guys,

While starting to write today’s post, I had no idea what shall I write about. I literally couldn’t think about anything. Just like my brain got blanked out for some reason. So I’ve decided to simply write about struggles connected to having a blog. I have written a post about changes taking place in my life since I have this blog. However, in What have changed in more than one year of blogging? post, I focused on positive things. I haven’t written about struggles, probably most of the bloggers needs to face on their way (of course, as there are so many bloggers out there, they are not impossible to overcome). So let’s get right into it:

Keeping up with a schedule

This is something, I personally struggle with a lot. There are so many unexpected events in everyday life, that sometimes it is very hard to keep with it. Sometimes, it is so simple think, like you know you are not going to be able to post at certain time, so you are preparing post in advance, getting it ready to go and… forget to schedule it (this happen to me too often). There are also health related or family related things, you usually can’t predict. But sometimes you just can’t make yourself to actually sit and write this post which you’ve planned and thought through for a millionth time.

And sometimes it is another reason, which leads us to next point:

Lack of ideas

Sometimes we are ready sitting by the computer, but we don’t have an idea what we want to talk about. There might be different reason for that, like being tired or just sick. But sometimes it does happen without any reason. Just because it happens and this is the case, when it is relatively hard to overcome this. Simple, when you don’t have an idea, you can always write about something random and deliver a post without particular meaning or message, but a lot of bloggers cares about the quality of their post. So this is getting even harder.

Everyday’s life

This might seem weird, but a lot of us has a full-time job, family to look after, home to take care of, and many more. Sometimes it might be just hard to squeeze writing a post into an regular schedule (yeah, some people seem to forget about it, but bloggers are a regular people, with more or less hectic life; and they have to keep up with everything).

This leads us to the next point:

Time management

I’ve realised this because of starting my blog. To be able to post regularly, you have master time management, especially, if you have many other things to look after. Whether your posts are short or long, require your research or not, you need to have a time to work on them. You need to find topic, think it through and finally write it. But this is not all. After that you need to proof read it, make sure all settings are set as you want them to be, choose featured photo. And even though, all this action take only few minutes (except of writing and proof reading), in total you can get quite big amount of time and you need to put it somewhere in your schedule. And here good time management comes in handy.

You are the boss

As well it sounds, this is the struggle not only bloggers are coming across, but generally all those, who work for one selves. There is no one above you, to tell you that you should write a post, there are no consequences if you will not write. So to keep up, you have to find a motivation within yourself. You have to decide, where and when you are going to do. But what is more important: what are you going to write. And especially on the beginning, when almost no one is reading your posts, it might be a very hard task. There will be days, when you will doubt, if there is any point to keep doing it. And to overcome them, you need to convenience yourself. There wouldn’t be anyone to do this for you.

These are all struggles I wanted to share with you. They might be hard for some to overcome, for the others easy. However, no matter to which of these groups you are falling, there is one weapon helping you all the way. And this weapon is your passion. If you are passionate about your topic and process of writing itself is something you love, it will be much easier to keep going.

This is it for today’s post. I hope you like it. And if you are a blogger and you found some other challenges connected with what you do, you can share it in the comment section. I will be pleased to read them.

For now, I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

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Trespass the fence of your fear to gain creativity

Hi guys,

Today, before I jump into the content, I will say that I am just amazing. I have prepared this post on Tuesday and scheduled it for Wednesday (at least this is what I believed). But as soon as I opened a wordpress app, I have realised that in reality, I have scheduled it for today. So here it is, again late.

However, today’s topic came out of nowhere. I have been thinking, how it is possible, that some people seem to be natural in their talent, it almost looks like that they have been born and they already knew how to be good at something, while others need years and years to bring the same skill to similar level. As it isn’t topic of this subject, I will tell you about my conlusion in the next post. Today, I would like to focus on creativity. Have you ever wonder, why some people are so open, always come out with great ideas, their art work stands out (not only because of their talent, but the way how they presented the topic)? While on the other hand, some people seem to just copy everyone around, without having anything original to show?

Propably, you would call the first group creative, but why the other are not? What characteristic you need to have, to be creative? Or maybe, it is a genes work and you can not do anything about it?

I have been thinking about it since quite long time. Myself, I struggle with creativity quite often. But what I have realised, my struggle is not to have an idea, but to accept any of them. Propably, it doesn’t make sense now, but let me explain it further:

When I am trying to brainstorm any problem (if it is about my personal projects, I do this on my own), I usually have a lot of ideas how to solve it. However, some of them are being rejected, before I (at least!) looked closer at them and analysed them. Simply, I am just ignoring them and forget almost right away.

When I realised this process taking place in my mind, I started to wonder why I am doing this. I mean, I complain very often about my lack of creativity, but when I have ideas, I am not even trying to analyse them. And I came to very interesting conclusion, when I figure out, what creativity means.

For me, to come out with a good idea, you need to reveal a part of yourself. The ability of sneaking your way into things that already exist, delivering it in your way – this is what creativity is. Wheather you are an artist, you try to create a website, or try to set up a business, which will be standing out from many other similar businesses; you have to come up with something, what haven’t been done before. And here is the problem. That means, that this part of your personality or past will be exposed to everyone. In my case, it cause a fear. Eventhough, I am not aware of it. But in the back of my head, I am predicting all judgements I would hear, if I would just get it into the real world: “what a stupid idea!”; “how she could think, that this is going to work?”; “there is not even slight chance of a success!”; and so on. All this can make me put my head down and just back up. It is easier, isn’t it?

Well, not always. I have heard a lot stories of people on their death bed. They almost never regretted what they did, but almost always did regret things, they didn’t do. All these things, they were lacking courage to achieve. They wish, they haven’t pay as much attention to other people’s opinion and just live their life instead.

I am the person, who has a lot of ideas in my head, some of them might not be good. But I will never know, if I will not try them. However, I am not spending enough time, to get them ready. I still keep starting new projects, before the previous one are finished and I am ending up with nothing. Because, what if people don’t like, what I am doing? What, if they will laugh and keep pointing fingers at me?

But what is the funniest thing in all that? Reasonable part of me knows, that nothing like this is going to happen. And even if it would, I wouldn’t care as much propably. So the only thing, what could propably happen, is just a failure. Which propably will be forgotten by everyone (including myself) quite soon.

And this part of you, which you would let out with your creative way of doing things, will propably not be spotted by anyone. Just because random people don’t know you well enough, to determine what comes from your personal experiences and what have been coloured a bit, to make it more atractive. They know almost nothing about your emotions, about this small part of your soul, you are exposing to them. They can see it, but they won’t be knowing, that you did this because this and this happened. They will just appreciate it or not, but as a whole only. Not each piece of it, as they will not analyse it as deeply.

And even if your project fails, you will learn something new about yourself. And what is more important, you will be able to move to the next project, without thoughts in your head wondering: “What, if I would tried that one?”. You will just know, it wouldn’t work. And by doing this, you will teach yourself to open more. To let your creativity to be free and keep yourself motivated (if you are not afraid of surreal consequences, it will be easier for you, to do what you love).

And with this thought, I am going to finish this post. I hope you like it and, as always, I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

What can we learn from five-year-old

Hi guys,

In today’s post I am going to leave subject of self-awareness for a while (at least till the moment, when I will have some results to share with you). However, at the moment I am enjoying three days off in my work. As I have quite a lot of medical things to sort out and university related tasks, which are going to get over due soon, I have decided to take short holiday. And that makes me excited a lot. I know, I have been desperately wanting to come back to work after my dehydration thing (yeah, and how you can understand a women 😉 ), but as I mentioned, I think the reason for that was just being forced to take off.

I am also planning to get as much work on my channel as I possibly can (I have ordered microphone already and I hope that it will arrive till Monday), so I keep my fingers crossed that I will be able to get it going by the end of the next week. Of course I will share here the results of my hours and hours of work and I hope it was worthed so much effort.

Other than that, there is so much things going on next week and I am looking forward for it to come. One of the things is my cousin’s son birthday. He is going to be 5 on Thursday and he is so amazing human being. Every time I talk to him, I am learning something new. His innocence and straight-forwardness (I hope this word actually exist and I am not making it up) make me realise so much about my adult life.

So today, I have decided to share some stories, where my nephew play a main part in and I’ll explain you what have I lernt from these events.

Honesty

This story have taken place one and a half year ago on Christmas Eve. But before I will jump into the story, I am going to tell you something about polish tradition (and as far as I know, at least in UK, Christmas celebration is very different than in my back home). So in Poland the very special event is a Christmas Eve, to be more detailed, Christmas Eve’s supper. According to the tradition, people start all celebrations, when first star appear on the sky. There is huge excitement among the children, who usually are in charge of spotting it, while adults are trying to take care of last bits of pieces, to make the whole evening perfect (and there is a lot to do, as polish tradition includes twelve meals for Christmas Eve’s supper; what usually is interesting for people, who I am talking to, is that each participant have to (at least) try each of them, no matter how full she or he is or if this is something they like or not; the only exception are alergies and food intollerances). This day everyone is wearing elegant clothes, etc. So that year we were celebrating in my aunties home and me and my cousin decided to meet in her home before, get ready there and go together. When I was ready, I asked her if I look ok, she confirmed. “What do you think, Darek?”. And his answer made me laugh, as he said: “This dress makes you look fat”.

And this made my cousin mad. She started to appologise and tried to explain him, that it isn’t right to say that. However, I think, he had full right to tell this (he could say it in more delicate way, but as a child he wouldn’t know how to do it). This is something what annoyes me about adult. First of all, people who ask for opinion, but they want to hear only good things. And second of all, people asked for opinion, who lie to you, just because they don’t want to hurt you. I think this second one comes out of first, as people came across someone, who blasted at them, when they said what they think and they just want to keep their opinion in the future. Moreover, parents who are getting angry at their children, when they are saying what they think. As a result, growing up makes us less honest after each situation of this kind.

So what I have learnt from this situation, is to be honest and say what you think; and the other thing is to have distance to myself (if I ask for opinion, I prefer to hear opinion, not what I would like to hear).

Innocence

This story is much shorter than the previous one. So what have happened at one time when I was visiting them, was that Darek grabbed my bag and threw all the stuff on the floor. I have to admit, that I have gotten mad at first. But when I’ve asked him, why he did this, he answered that his mum is always doing this after their walk, so it is not a big deal.

Children are innocent by default, as they haven’t got chance to learn how to be bad, yet. They make mistakes and sometimes are getting on other people’s nerves, however they don’t do this intentionally (at least in most of cases). They are just copying people’s behaviour, these who are around them. How they would learn otherwise? They don’t know all written and unwritten rules playing a huge part in adult’s world.

This taught me to be understanding, as we can hurt the person, who didn’t have an intention to do anything wrong. The best way is to talk first 😉 at least you will know that blasting at them is a right thing 😉

Curiousity

This is propably the best one. Children are just striving to learn about the world. They keep asking questions, and they won’t stop till they fully understand what they want to know. How I see it with my nephew? Every time when I am doing something, Darek keeps asking questions: what are you doing? Why are you doing this? Why can’t you do this this or that way?

Children don’t know about the rules you need to follow, if you want to leave in society. They don’t worry about getting knowledge and skills for their future job, yet. They just strive to get knowledge just for the sake of… having knowledge. Simple as that. But what is even more amazing, they don’t just want to know, they want to understand, too. And this is ability that a lot of us, adults, are missing.

These are all things I am going to mention today, eventhough there are many more. I am sure, if you are lucky to spend time with children, you can find many of them by yourself.

For today, I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

P.S. Today’s post is one day late, but since tomorrow, I am going to go back to regular schedule (Monday, Wednesday and Friday). I hope you liked today’s post and I will be happy to read, if you can think of any other things to learn from the children.

What next, if we are self-aware?

Hi guys,

As you might have realised, I became interested in the topic of self-awareness recently. At the end of the proccess, I would like to understand as much about myself, as I possibly can. I am a kind of person, who sometimes make decesion being influenced by emotions. And eventhough I was regretting it after, I couldn’t change it. Most of the time, I was not aware why I am doing it. It was just happening.

Many times I’ve heard from other people, that I behave like a spoiled child. I just wasn’t able to control some of my reactions. Especially, when someone has driven me mad. I would go on and on on a subject, till my anger disapeared and I could say my sorry. At that moments I had seriously felt like a child, the only difference was that this time no one asked me to say sorry, I just knew I went over board and this is what I should do.

And eventhough it isn’t happening to often (it is quite hard to drive me mad, luckily), but these rare events make me feel really bad about myself. So I have decided to make notes about everything connected to this situation: my emotions, feelings, even weather and my general well-being. The point of it was to figure out, what makes me loose control and blast without any particular reason (seriously, situations when it happened wasn’t as important as I used to think when I was hurting people around).

And as I mentioned before, I used to act being influenced by emotions. I think, this is something most of us is dealing with. Even if only occasionally, it is still quite embarassing, when it happens. So this is the reason, why I want to eliminate this kind of behaviours from my life. Just to be able to get over them every time, when they decide to hit.

At the moment, I am conducting a research on how to fight with them. And as soon, as I will find some ideas, I am going to share them with you.

Of course, proccess of learning about myself isn’t done. There are still many things I want to change. However, I will deal with one change at the time.

Today’s post is a short one, but I hope you enjoyed it any way. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

What have changed in more than one year of blogging?

Hi guys,

Mondays became my favourite days recently. I usually have so much to do, but all my tasks for the day make me really excited. I had to delay my YouTube channel, as it turnes out that there are a lot of noises in the background, so it would be quite annoying to watch (yeah, I’ve got so excited, that I didn’t think about listening it till last moment). However, it doesn’t mean that I have stopped working on it. While I am saving money to buy a proper microphone, I am preparing episodes, so after I can add a voiceover and they will be ready. It will hopefully help me, in case of any kind of emergency happening in my life, after it will start. They will be just ready to upload. And YouTube is a first task for me for Monday.

I also write a post on Monday, which literally make my day. I wouldn’t even suspect it, when I first started. I had a feeling that I will just write few post and I will get bored of it. However, I have been posting for more than one year! Of course, there were times, when I haven’t posted anything for a long time, but mostly it was caused by some emergency (like my recent visit to the hospital).

So today, I would like to share with you, what have changed in my life, since mymotivation.blog exists.

Let’s move right into the content.

I became more organised and stopped procrastinate as much

It might sound funny. How in the world one website might make you more organised? And how it influences your procrastination? I am not sure, if I will be able to explain it, but having a posts schedule made me keep planning all other tasks around my posts. Not only that, it helped me to actualy stick to this plan (yeah, I am not perfect; I have worse days too, but most of the time it is true). The reason for this is that I feel very bad, when I will not make it on time with my new post. Even if sometimes, there is not even one person reading it, it is so fun to actualy write something and be able to see it on my own website. And there is such rewarding feeling, when I can manage to do it on time. But to be able to keep it up, I have to make sure that other tasks are done, too. First of all, tasks have a magical power (seriously!). One day you are adding them to your to-do list, with the feeling that you still have a lot of time to get it done, while next time when you see them on the list, they are so close to the due date, that you have no idea what to do to be on time. So if I will let more than one task become urgent (or sometimes one time consuming is enough), I will be propably forced to put all other tasks aside and focus on what needs to be done now. And mostly in this situation, my blog post used to be late or left till other things were accomplished.

I have progressed in planning bigger projects

This is a very important one for me. Although I haven’t became a master yet (what you can see on the example of my YouTube channel), I became much better. Before, I used to plan my projects by starting planning job. This is what have happen with this blog. I have started posting, without any idea what or how I am going to keep up. For some of you (especially more experienced bloggers) my blog might be something, what does not really make any sense. I am posting since more than one year and it is very hard to find any focus of this blog. Sometimes I have this feeling too. However, this is my first serious project; requiring commitment, a lot of creativity to find an inspiration for a topic of each post. And in this project I have made a lot of mistakes, which are very precious lessons for the future. The most important of them, is to try to imagine the whole proccess, before you go for it. Visualise all steps you need to take to do, whatever you are trying to do. And after: do your research! This is something what I couldn’t figure out. That it is worthed to hear opinion of more experienced people, find out what kind of mistakes they’ve made and what advises they have (there are tons of blog post’s and YouTube videos about almost everything) and after that sit and plan your steps, try to figure out, what kind of obstacles you might find on the way and how you want to deal with them.

This leads to the next point:

I have learnt a lot about myself

This might be quite weird as well, but sharing your thoughts and feelings is giving you a lot of materials to come back to. Just reading my old posts makes me realise what shall I change in myself and let me understand better my thinking proccesses. And believe me or not, but sometimes, when I am reading my old posts, I am finding so many things about myself, that would annoy me in the other person. But it also gave me an opportunity to see, how much I have already changed during this time. And I believe, this is something usefull to know about yourself.

My English improved

This might be a bit unbelievable for some, as I still have a lot to do with my English skills. However, personaly I can see a difference already. First of all, writing comes much easier to me. On the beginning of my journey I had to check up a lot of words, which I needed to express my thoughts. Now it does happen occasionaly. And eventhough I know, I still make a lot spelling mistakes, maybe sometimes I am missusing words, however I am already proud of my progress (especially, that wordpress app on the phone doesn’t highlight spelling mistakes). There is also one more aspect of writting in the language which is not your native one. And what I want to talk about, is fear. When I was starting, I was anxious that people will start pointing my mistakes in negative way (I wouldn’t mind pointing them for learning purpose), call me stupid, illiteratare, etc. And it was not only on the blog. Before I would be scared to send any message to my boss, or friends because there might be some mistake. But I have understood, that people don’t care, at least as long as they are able to understand your point. So if you are in similar situation like me, I would advise you to ignore other people’s opinion and start writting as much as you can, because this is the best way to actually improve your writting.

I found place, where I can just throw all my thoughts out of my head

This is a good one, too. This blog became a place, where I can just write everything, what is in my head. My observations, opinions, feelings, frustrations, etc. This leaves my head so light, give me some place for new ideas. Journal would propably do same work, however keeping up with the journal never happen to me. So this is a perfect solution.

And these are all things, which have changed in my life (at least these, which I am aware of at the moment). I hoped you have enjoyed it and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Forbidden friut tastes the best

Hi guys,

Today is a third day since I have returned to work. And I have mixed feelings about it. First of all, I hate being out of work doing nothing. I know that health is the most important (that is the reason, why I haven’t do anything; usually, I tend to break doctor’s rules). However, last few days, my head felt very heavy, eventhough I slept much more than usually. And I felt generally tired. As my employer believed me that I was unable to work (he visited me in hospital), he did not need to see my doctor’s leave and as I feel much better than yesterday, I’ve decided to forget that I can stay at home till end of the week.

What I’ve realised recently, staying at home on doctor’s leave makes me feel much more unwell, than I actually am. Maybe it is just a think, that I sleep a lot, but simply, I don’t like it. I feel like I am not able to do anything. Like nothing has sense. What I have learnt, returning to work makes me feel better (any way, my boss doesn’t let me do too hard work straight after returning back; this actually cause my mixed feelings).

There is one saying in polish (and I am not sure, if it exists only in polish language; you can let me know in comment section, if in your country you have it too), which goes: “Forbidden fruit tastes the best”. That means that if you shouldn’t be doing something, you will do it. Just because it is forbidden. I can’t explain, why it happens this way, but when I think about it closely, it really does happen to me quite often.

Since I was a child, I remember that things, my parents asked me not to do, always seemed more attractive. I think,6 it was some kind of adrenaline. You know, this voice in my head: “What if I will get caught?”. Or maybe it was just a need of independence? Whatever it was, it was worthed breaking rules. This feeling, that: “Hey! I did it and I am still ok!”.

However, things being forbidden very often are some kind of a hazard for our health or safety. Propably this is a reason, why we are not supposed to do them. Similar is with my work.

I have to admit that I like my job in general. But there are some aspects of it making me not want to go there. Every here and then I just pray for few days off. A little time to rest. However, any time I am on a doctor leave, I can’t wait to go to work. There is some force out there pushing me and staying at home makes me feel worse. And this time I’ve started wondering, why this is happening. Does it mean that I am a workaholic? Or maybe it is kind of my forbidden fruit?

I came to a conclusion, that it must be the second one. This kind of thing, when I don’t really want to do something and I need a break, but because it is a forced break, I am getting frustrated about it. Does it sound weird? For me it does, eventhough I am guilty of it. And as I am thinking about it more, I am realising that this is not a first time when I am doing it.

Ok, but why am I actually thinking about it? It is just happening, isn’t it? Well, I believe that if we want to take real control over our life, we need to understand what causes our behaviours. As long as we are not aware of them, we can’t really prevent them. And on the other side, if there is some behaviour, we want to incorporate in our life more, we should determine what needs to happen to make us behave this particular way.

And I believe that self-awareness is a neccessary tool in self-development. How can you change something, if you don’t know what is going on? It is like if you would go to doctor with a headache and he would give you random medicines without figuring out what is the problem. This would be weird, wouldn’t it?

That’s the reason why I think, that first thing to sort any problem, is to figure out what causes it. If you can prevent it, you can stop this problem to occur again. Or, if it is about behaviours, better understanding of yourself will improve the control you have over your emotions and will help you to make more reasonable decisions in the future and give you chance to think them through before, instead of acting afected by emotions.

And with this thought, I am going to end this post. Have a productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Importance of hydration

Hi guys,

Last week has been a very hard time for me, as on Sunday I ended up passing out again. I have been admitted to the hospital, where they found out that I am dehydrated quite a lot. They kept me in till Friday evening, as it was a bit worse than they first thought. For this reason, my wake up at 5 challenge has been stopped and, except results from my first week, I have no experiences to share with you about it. At least at the moment, as as soon as I’ll get some energy back, I am going to attempt it again.

However, I’ve decided to share some advises, I’ve got in a hospital, which might be usefull for you (especially that in many places it is middle of summer now).

But before I will tell you what I have learnt, I will explain myself. Since hot weather did hit London, I keep drinking a lot. Up to even 4l a day (in my work there are huge ironing machines, so it is always few degrees watmer than outside). It’s not that I forgot to drink. And that will start my list of advices:

Make sure that you are sipping your weather throughout your day

This was my main mistake. I was drinking a lot of water, however bigger amounts at the time. But as I found out, human body can take much smaller ammounts of fluid within 10 minutes. That means, that if you’ll get dehydrated, it is going to take some time to absorb enough water needed to replace the ammount you lost with sweat. What is worse, when it is hot, you keep sweating all the time, so gap between water your body should absorb and water it is actualy absorbing is getting harder to reduce. Having bottle of water with you all the time and keep sipping from it ensures that your body has always some sources to hydrate yourself, without neccessity of creating this gap. Moreover, if you feel thursty, it means that your body is already dehydrated. So make sure you will not let your body reach this feeling.

Make sure you supply your body with electrolytes

This is the thing, I wasn’t aware of (mainly because I haven’t pay attention to it). While you are sweating, you lose not only water, but electrolytes, too. They play very important role in our body. Some of them are responsible for absorbing water, other one to make sure your muscles works properly (heart is included in this) and some ensure our’s brain work. I’ve been advised to drink at least one isotonic drink a day, if I sweat a lot (make sure they have eloctolytes). But also to have certain things included in my diet on daily basis, like bananas, tomatoes juice, and some more.

If you can, avoid exercices and leaving your home when it is too hot

Of course, not always you can do this. Some people, work physically and they can’t do much about it. However, if you can choose between doing your shopping early in the morning and afternoon, when the temperature is the highest, first one will be a better choice.

Try to cool down your body, whenever you can

Do you have an opportunity to go to swimming pool? Make an advantage of it! Is it not the case? Cold shower will do, too. But remember, make sure water won’t be too cold. Just a bit colder than you are and after, gradually lower the temperature. As it might cause shock to your body.

These are all the advises I want to share with you today. I hope they will be helpfull for you and I’ll see you in my Wednesday post.

Stay hydrated and productive (by the way, it is very hard to stay productive when you are dehydrated; so here is one of the reasons why it is worthed to take care of it 😉 )

Daria

Goals? But what are they?

Hi guys,

Today’s post is going to be about goals. I think, having goals is very important, as it gives purpose to your life. But goals aren’t all the same. In fact, there are no two goals, which you can say, they are same.

Let’s take for example two people wanting to have £100 000 on their account by the end of the year. And you might say: “Their goals are same”. But goals are much more complicated than just name. They have a story behind them and their purpose purpose.

Let’s stick to the example above. We can’t say that having £100 000 is their goal on it’s own. For one person this amount might be the savings for the worse time, for other it can be necessary to pay for a treatment of family member, another might need it to prove his or her status. And these are only some of possibilities. There are much more out there. Propably, if you have similar goal in your life, you might want to use it in completely different way.

Similarly, each of them might be influenced by different feeling. There will be people, who will be frustrated, because at the moment they are struggling to pay their bills; other might became responsible for the other life, as they became a new parent, and they want everything what’s the best for their child; and other might be just jealous, because their neighbour has £99 999 on their account, so they need at least £1 more (I know such people, even if before I thought that they don’t exist – well, they do).

But to achieve any goal, you need to have strong believes driving you towards success. No matter, why you want to achieve particular thing, if your reason is very important for you, there is great chance that you will eventually get there. No matter what other people will say, how tired you will be. Deep inside your heart you will know that this is what you are suppose to do.

Long time ago I had a friend. Both of us were a bit different then rest of our colleagues, so we became very close. She was doing very well in school. She never went out, if her homework wasn’t done; if we had an exam within next few days, she wouldn’t even pick up her phone (eventhough she new the subject better than our teacher). Most of the people thought that she is just very ambitious, however the truth was that she wanted to be the best for her dad. He suffered from cancer and she wanted to make sure that in case if something will go wrong, he would die being calm about her. She just wanted to reasure him, that she will manage, no matter what. That even if he wouldn’t be able to be with them, she is responsible enough to take care for the family. At that time, (we were 13 or maybe 14) in her mind, this was the way to prove all this.

One day, before I knew the reason, I’ve told her that she is lucky, because she loves to learn and she can actually motivate herself to do it. She answered that she hate studying.

Even after hearing her reasoning, I couldn’t understand her. I was learning for myself and very often it was hard for me to grab a book and study. Even if I loved (actualt, I stll love) studying. She was doing it for her father and she was doing very well (I could even say: perfect). And it wasn’t fear of punishment to make her do this. All this was just blowing my mind at that point.

However, no matter that no one understood it. For her it was so strong feeling that nothing could stop her. She could stay awake at night, to make sure everything is perfectly done (I mean, can you imagine yourself doing this at the age of 14? That time I was hoping that someone will do everything for me 😉 and I will be able to keep rsdting till end of my life 😉 ).

So this is what goals are about. They are not just things we want to do. They are a result of our experiences, feelings and ambitions. I even think that they are always proving something. Sometimes we are just proving to ourself that we can do particular thing, the other time we want to prove it to the whole world. That’s why goals are very special (at least in some way).

Moreover, they are defining who we are. They make us wake up in the morning and follow the path towards them. Whether it’s easy or extremely hard, we are just moving there. In our own speed, trying to face all difficulties. And that makes us special, shows our personality (even if only to ourselves). We are getting upset, when we are failing; sometimes we just give up, but if we strongly believe in our goal, we will get up after each failure. Retaking this way (very often very hard way), just because we know what is waiting for us at the end of it, make us unbreakable in some meaning. And for us, it is one of the most important thing, whether it’s easy life for our child; pride of being better than our neighbour; or just our own contentment. For us, this is all waht does matter.

This is all for today’s post. I wish you very productive day and I hope that all goals you did set or will set in the future will be the ones, you just won’t give up on. And I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

P.S. I will not include my thoughts and experiences connected to my challenge today. I’ve decided, that for next 4 Sundays I will just publish an extra post, where I will tell you all about the whole week. I am making notes on the daily basis (just to make sure I will learn as much about myself, as I possibly can during this challenge) and I will use these notes to tell you how whole my week went. In much more details, than I would be able to describe it at the end of the regular post.

Having routine and creativity

Hi guys,

Today I will be talking about something I have mentioned in my last post. I said that having a routine can make you more creative and now I will explain you why. So let’s get right into the topic.

Human’s brain is the most productive, yet, still not fully understood muscle of our body. It’s not responsible for only thinking processes, but it actualy keeps us alive (what you propably already know). It regulates breathing, digesting, our hormons level… It informs us also, when we feel pain, are hungry or thursty. And it does all this automatically. We don’t have to put any effort for example to digest, it just happens.

But brain is responsible for activities, which we are more aware of. It allows us to learn new things, to analyse our surrounding and to make decision.

And the ability of making decision is directly connected with routines and creativity. For example, if you are a runner, no matter how good you are, at some point your muscles will be too tired. You will get crumps and you just need some time for them to recover. Similarly with brain. It makes decisions almost all the time. Shall I get out of my bed? What shall I eat for breakfast? What shall I wear today? What shall I do next? All this are decisions, we are not even taking notice of. But our brain does. And as we are moving towards the end of the day, our brain is getting more and more tired. Sometimes even happens that at the end of the day, we are not able to make even very simple decision. Propably you came across someone (or even you were the one), who have been asked a simple question like: “What movie shall we watch?”, will answer “I don’t know”, or “It doesn’t matter, you choose”. And it might happen, if you want to see both of these movies any way, otherwise it can be a symptom of your brain being tired of making decision.

So what does routine have to making decision? Basically, if something become your routine, you do this automaticaly, without even thinking. You don’t need to decide what to do, as your brain is already programmed to do certain things. So because of it, there is a lot of brain’s energy being saved, to do other things, like being creative.

If you follow successfull people, you might have noticed that many of them are actually keeping decisions (at least some of them) to the minimum. The most known example (well, I found the most information about it) is Mark Zuckerberg, who developed facebook. He is known, that all the time he is wearing same kind of clothes, even in same colour. Taking on account amount of money he is earning, it is not caused by the fact, that these particular clothes were on sale at the time when he was buying them. And a lot of people who analyse his habits say that this is the way, to eliminate “What shall I wear today?” problem.

Similarly, having a routine helps you avoid a lot of decisions. Mostly, you don’t have to thing, what to do next. You just do this automaticaly and at the same time your brain is resting and you have much more energy for being creative.

So this is it for today’s post. I hope I’ve explained you corelation between having a routine and creativity. I can’t confirm yet, if it does really work, as my planned activities haven’t become my routines yet, but as soon as it will happen, I will let you know.

For today, I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

PS. Let me tell you how next two days of my challenge went. On Monday I couldn’t fall asleep at 23, so I ended up being very tired on Tuesday. I couldn’t really get too much done because of it. And again, falling asleep haven’t gone as planned. However, on Wednesday I managed to wake up at 5am. And I thought that I will fall asleep while standing (it hasn’t happen of course). When I am finishing this line, it is 20:45 so I am going to start my evening routine now and I am going to let you know how it went in my next post.

Purpose of having routines

Hi guys,

Today’s post is going to focus on the challenge I am taking now. I will tell you about my preparations; how my routines look like and my observations after first day of the challenge. Let’s jump right into it.

First, let me remind you what all this challenge is about. For next four weeks, I am going to wake up at 5 am (instead of 7:30 or later) and during this extra time, I am going to get some of my tasks for the day done. If you want to check, why am I doing so and where this idea came from, please see my previous post A morning bird? Let’s give it a go!, where I am describing it in more details.

So my preparations started yesterday. After getting all my chores done, I have spent some time to decide, how my routines are going to look like. And here is what I came up for my evening routine:

  • Stop all devices (phone, laptop, etc.)
  • Eat supper and dring cup of tea
  • Plan next day (especially tasks for the morning)
  • Take shower
  • Keep bottle of water by the bed
  • Read book in bed till you’ll become sleepy

As I want to sleep at 23, I need to start all this at 21. It is very simple and not demanding routine. There will be no more work since the minute I start this routine, just getting my brain ready to get some sleep.

With morning routine it was a bit harder. I want it to be a productive time (as this is the point of waking up earlier), so I wanted to keep all activities associated with getting ready, as short as it is possible, so I have decided on this:

  • Drink some water
  • Have a 5 minutes of stretching
  • Have breakfast
  • Take shower and get dressed
  • Prepare cup of coffee
  • Start working while sipping your coffee

I supposed that first five points of my morning routine are going to take me something between 45 minutes to 1 hour. So hopefully it will not be later than 6 am, when I will be able to start working. As this first hour will basically make me ready to go, I will be able to work till 8, before I will need to leave my home for work.

Sunday is my day off, but I’ve decided to keep same routine this day, too. The only difference will be, that I will be working a bit longer and have lighter breakfast than during regular day (to be able to have breakfast with my husband, when he will wake up).

And here is first day of my challenge. Unfortunatelly, it turned out that instead of 5:00 am I woke up at 5:30 am. But still, it was close 😉 and it already made huge difference. My morning routine haven’t gone so smoothly as I thought. Propably, because it haven’t became my routine yet. But also, I haven’t realised day before that my coffe is finished, so I had nothing to wake my brain up. I have to admit that I did not fall asleep at 23 at Sunday. My evening routine went much better, but I think that it is still quite shocking to my body to sleep so early (usually, I sleep at 1am or even later and on Sunday I was asleep at 1:30).

Any way, even if not everything went perfect and my brain wasn’t fully awake, I managed to get one quite big task done in the morning. I started another one, too. However, after coming from work I was tempted to go back to bed or have a coffee at least. What made me a bit distracted. But having the hardest task for the day done, kept me motivated and I have accomplished almost all I have planned (and today was a very busy day). But provided that I am already sleepy, I hope that I will be able to fall asleep quickly today.

To sum up. First day of a challenge was generally more productive than usually. Mostly, because my hardest task being done in the morning (I kept repeating myself that the hardest is behind me so I can manage everything 😉 so-called self-motivation 😀 ). But it had it’s downs, too. I felt sleepy for pretty much all day. However, I thing that being tired is a good price for achieving most of the goals in the busiest day in the week. I also predict that, as my body will switch to sleeping this way, tiredness will not be the case any more.

But this is just first day. We all know that everyone is different and it might be perfect solution for me, but it could be just waste of time for other people (and still, I can’t say that this is good for me after just one day). I will keep sharing my experiences for next four weeks and hopefully I will be able to come to more precised conclusion at the end of these four weeks.

And this is it for my today’s post, as it is time to start my evening routine 😉 By the way, I think I haven’t told you, why setting up these two routines is so important. First of all, your body can work on auto-mode, if activities you are doing became your habit. In the case of evening routine, my body should start recognizing that it is sleeping time, just because there were particular activities taking place, which usually end up in being asleep (this is another thing I will confirm or deny at the end of following four weeks). Morning routine has slightly difgerent purpose. It should just save my energy on deciding what to do next and by having it in my routine, and improve my creativity this way (but I think this is topic for another post).

For now I wish you very productive day and I’ll see you in my Wednesday post.

Daria

PS. I haven’t realised till now that my post haven’t been published yesterday. So here it is 😉