The most important thing in the world

Hi guys,

Today I would like to share with you another thought of mine. I am a big fan of making lists, trying to predict as much as I can and simply: be prepared. Unfortunately, most of the time my plans stay as plans, never completed, very often just started. Although, since I remember, I always wanted to change my life. Make sure that I will never have to tell my kids that they can’t try a new hobby because we can’t afford it. I also wanted to make sure that I will get my own home, so when my children grow up, they would always have a place to call home, where all their memories will be waiting for them. I dreamed of being able to take them to many places in the world, so they can see how different, yet same, people from various counties are. I wanted to show them the beauty of nature. I wanted to teach them that it is good to stop sometimes and just stare at the sunset or the beautiful view.

Now, I have a wonderful son. Although we still live in a rented home, we can’t afford to travel the world, I can say that I am the happiest person under the sky. I watch this little guy growing, learning so many things each day and I know that I don’t need anything more from life.

And of course, I still do have all those goals in my mind. I am trying each day to make my goals and dreams to become a reality but at the same time, I know what is important in my life. At the moment, I live to be in the present time. I want to make sure, that I am showing the world to my son and watching him exploring his surrounding by himself. I want to be there, to hug him, when he falls. I want to hear every word he will ever learn. I want to show him, that money isn’t the most important thing in the world. That the most important is, who do you share it with? Memories? He will not remember that he had to move multiple time, that he was going for a holiday every second year instead of twice a year. But he will remember that time when we had the best time playing together when we made cookies together or just sat on the sofa and watched cartoons.

Didn’t I know this before? I did, of course. But just a couple of days ago I truly understood that.

Ok, so what with my New Years resolutions? They will still stay valid and I will work hard to achieve it. But first, I will make sure that my son has the best mother I could possibly be. Not perfect, as I will never be perfect. But the best I could be. My goals will be getting done after quality time with my son. Not trying to make it shorter to work on all these goals.

Wish me luck. And I wish you great progress with your resolutions if you did make a list of them. For now, I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Christmas: same like every year, yet so different

Hi guys,

Today is the first post after Christmas. Every year around this time, I think about my past, I go through my good choices and the worse one’s, I am trying to analyse what exactly brought me to the point of my life where I am now. I also look at my present. I try to see all the good things, that very often I tend to take for granted. I am trying to be grateful for all the things (not necessary material) I have. But I think about every change I would like to see in the future too.

In this post, I would like to tell you about one thing that I wish to change, although it doesn’t depend on my at this point. And it will explain, why Christmas is a very depressing time for me. I will try to show my opinion about changing the rules given by myself to myself. I’d also like to share a story about appreciation and personal growth. And finally, a story about changes and adapting to them.

I’ve divided this post into the three parts. My childhood, adulthood and future Christmas. It reminds me of Charles Dicken’s A Christmas Carol, which, by the way, was my favourite book to read in December, when I was a kid. In this case, future Christmas is about my plans.

Starting a story, when I was a child, we hadn’t had a lot of money. Throughout the year my parents struggled to provide food for me and my two brothers. It didn’t happen often, but there were days when we went to sleep hungry. However, Christmas was always different. I used to believe that my parents get some special power during this time because there was always plenty of food. Polish tradition includes a twelve dishes meal on Christmas eve. Of course, we don’t eat full twelve plates of food, but it is said that you have to take at least a bite of each of them, otherwise you’ll lose as many teeth during the following year. At that time I didn’t know that they were borrowing money to make memories for us, but Christmas always was a very special time in our family. On the 25th of December, there were always gifts waiting for us under the Christmas tree. Usually small, but Santa Claus doesn’t forget about any child on this special day, does he?

Christmas was also special because this was the only day of the year when all family gathered together for a day. In our two-bedroom flat, there used to be over thirty people. All cousins, aunties and uncles. We had a lot of fun playing and waiting for the first star to appear in the sky. We sang Christmas carols, built snowman and threw snowballs at each other.

Everything started changing when my grandma passed away. Some of my aunties didn’t want to come, because it was hard for them. There were so many great, but also painful, memories. My grandma’s favourite place stayed empty, as no one dared to take it. We could almost feel my grandma sitting there. Especially for the first couple of years after she died, we were just waiting for her to start her story about the time when she was young. It has never happened again.

Another turning point in our family tradition was after my parent’s divorce. Half of the family wouldn’t attend, as they felt awkward and anyway, my mum lost her interest in preparing a huge Christmas Eve meal. That’s how on Christmas there was only my mum, my brothers and me left. It was still amazing, but already a lot of magic has been lost.

Here we are coming to my first adult Christmas. I newly moved to London and I couldn’t afford to buy a ticket to Poland, so I stayed alone. I haven’t got a lot of friends here yet, and most of those who I consider friends went back home anyway. I wasn’t in the mood for preparing a great meal just for myself, so I’ve spent all this time in my bed crying and hoping that I will be able to spend next Christmas with my family.

However, next year I didn’t get a holiday for Christmas and I was trying to convince myself that I don’t need to celebrate this holiday. It isn’t so important.

Years later I am a mother. Although Christmas is still a very depressing time for me, I’ve decided to keep organising a great time for my son, same as my parents did for me and my brothers. I hope that when he grows up, he will remember the time when we decorated the tree together, cooked great food. I hope that he will keep in his memory the excitement of opening a gift and wondering what is inside. And finally, I hope that he will remember having a great time with his family.

To conclude, for me Christmas lost a lot of magic. I don’t have much to look forward. I regret not being able to appreciate this time when I could, but I want my son to feel this magic the same way as I did as a child. And although now we are in the middle of the pandemic, I hope, that we will be able to gather with all family next year and celebrate it all together.

And that’s it for today’s post. I wish you all very merry Christmas and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

New resolutions?

Hi guys,

I have been thinking about whether or not shall I upload this post or not. All you, who follow me for a long time know, that it isn’t one of my strength to make my resolutions happen. However, I, as probably most of us, had an opportunity to think my life through this year. And the place, where I am now, definitely, isn’t the one I want to stay for too long.

And although I wanted to change it multiple times, with rather poor results so far, I am much more determined to make it happen in 2021. So let’s get to the roots of this blog and please allow me to present you my New Year’s resolutions:

Pay all my debts

This one is quite self-explanatory. I have been working on this goal for the last two years and it is the only goal actually on the progress to being ticked off out of the list. For 2021 there is not much left and let’s hope that for 2022 I will be planning the amount of savings to have instead πŸ˜‰

Manage to have Β£10/month passive income

This goal has been reviewed probably a million times. The amounts were changing each year, or the amounts of income streams. Anyway, it did not work as planned. So for this upcoming year, I’ve decided to focus on getting a passive income of any kind, without focusing on a huge amount. To get to big amounts, I need to start first.

Get my son singed in for a regular fun activity

As you might know, I have a little son, who is going to be 2 in April. He is an endless energy volcano. And as he is growing and getting more aware of what’s going on around him, I want to find some fun activity for him to have fun and let some of this energy out. I hope to test a trampoline park and a swimming pool first, to see how he likes it. And I’ll go from there.

Get a hang on meal planning

Since I’ve returned to work, homemade food isn’t an everyday thing in our home. I even wonder sometimes if we shouldn’t get the best customer award from Just Eat. So the skill of meal planning and pre-prepping is something that I will appreciate a lot. And my family too.

Start exercising

Exercising has been a goal that everyone should consider in my opinion. I have been putting it away using the excuse that I am working physically. However, as my work includes lifting, I realised that my back muscles are very weak and it will be nice to take care of them.

Work on personal projects

Here is the tricky one, as in the previous years I have been working on them a lot. However, I always lacked consistency. This year I am going to assign some time for this work and treat it as if it was my contract job.

That’s are all of my new year’s resolutions. For some, it might be not a lot, for others, too many. For me, it is something that is realistic to achieve and I hope to carry on with it.

If you have thought about your resolutions already, please share them in the comment section, I will be delighted to read them. For now, I wish you a very productive day, and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

One more thing that I’ve learnt since having my son

Hi guys,

Recently I’ve been getting caught in watching my son’s development. It is an amazing feeling to see how every day he is being less of a baby and how every day he is learning something new. These simple things for me and you like walking, holding a spoon or simply communicating what he needs at any given moment, make him more independent.

And we could say, that such a small creature can not teach us anything. He is the one who is learning, isn’t he? For me, looking after him is the hardest, but at the same time the most rewarding lesson in my life. So today I would like to share with you one more thing that my son has taught me.

Let me tell you the backstory first. The company I used to work for has closed down a month ago and before all workers have been laid out for a while, so as a result, I haven’t been at work for quite a while. But as I’ve got the news that there won’t be any returning to my previous workplace, I’ve decided to look for the new one. After consulting with my husband, we got to the conclusion that the best option for us would be if I would start working part-time, so I wouldn’t be too tired to look after our son. However, we all know what times we are living in, and we all know that it hasn’t been so hard to find employment since a long time as it is now. So when I got a full-time job offer, I just took it. This way, here I am working over 40 hours a week during nights and watching my son in the day time. But I have to admit: although sometimes my brain switches into zombie mode for a while, there are moments when IΒ just want sit in a corner of my bed and cry, I am very grateful for having this job and an opportunity to still have a lot of time with my son.

Nevertheless coming back to the story, when I am very sleepy, it takes me a bit more time to figure out what my son is asking me for (he doesn’t talk apart of few single worlds, he communicates his needs and wants by showing us). And he keeps telling me on his way, till he gets what he wants. No matter how long it takes me to understand him, he doesn’t give up till I’ll finally realize.

Where is the lesson? You might be thinking now. All children do this, as otherwise, we would be leaving them hungry, in dirty nappies and even forgot about them sometimes. That’s, of course, true, mother nature made them able to survive this way. As they don’t know any of the world’s rules, there are no impossible things for them. Danger doesn’t exist too, that’s why parents grow invisible eyes on the back of their heads, but this is a story for the other time πŸ˜‰ But having no limits (at least in their heads), children do fight for what they think they should have (read: everything).

As we grew up, we learnt that we can’t have whatever we want. On the way, our self-esteem got lower too, so even things that are within our capability seem impossible to get. We are not good enough to pursue this or that profession, we are not able to earn enough money to buy a home or car or whatever else we dream of. We can’t and that’s it.

On the other hand, children will keep looking for the other way to get what they want. They will not give up (at least until something else will distract them). Their small goals, which for us are worthed nothing, for them are everything that they want to live for at that moment. And they just go for it.

To conclude, a very important lesson from my son is to stay persistent on the way to achieving goals. Get failures quickly and try the other way. Because you cannot have a destination if there is no road to lead to it. And even if there is no road, you can still be the one, who will build a new one for others to follow.

That’s it for today’s post. If you have a different lesson to learn from children, please share it in the comment. I will be happy to read all of them. For now, I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Message to the future me

Hi guys,

Today’s post is going to be completely different than any of my posts before. I would like to share with you what I would like to say to the future me. I hope it will bring some value to you. Here it comes:

Daria!

I hope you are doing great! When you are reading it, you have probably forgotten that you’ve even written it. But here it is. When I am writing it, it is the 19th of October 2020. The world is upside down. I hope that you’ll read it at the end of 2021 and that by that time everything will return to the norm. I hope that you found a job by this time or figured out how to make money on your own.

At the moment I am not getting a lot of sleep as your son has trouble with sleeping at night. But I know this time will pass. And although there is the time when I am losing it with him, I also can’t get mad at him. I think this is the reason why little children are so cute and mothers naturally fall in love with them. Otherwise, it would be extremely hard to look after them. Maybe by now, it got much easier? But even if not, I am sure that you are doing great, just because you give all your heart and strength to give him everything you can and everything he deserves.

At the moment I have a lot of ideas in my head. There are possibilities and opportunities. It is hard to decide what to do. You probably remember that company where we worked, recently closed down. Due to pandemic, they had not enough money to keep it running. You also remember that while working there you saved some money but that your savings are getting smaller each week. It’s not easy to find a new job nowadays, a lot of businesses closed down. But slowly, everything is going to come back to the norm and all this will be another story to tell our grandchildren.

But why I decided to write this message now? I haven’t done it since childhood. Well, the answer is simple. Although I believe that there is going to be better soon, I am also aware that it hasn’t to happen by the end of 2021. A bit over a year is a lot of time and very little at the same time. At the beginning of 2020, I’ve made a new year’s resolutions. And some of them I’ve already completed, but some of them I will need to reconsider. This year has been weird and unpredictable for everyone. There was a lot of uncertainty and to be honest, it still is. But we have pushed through almost all year. Was it easy? It wasn’t. But it was worth it.

And here is the most important thing. The reason why I am writing all this. I hope, that even if it is hard, you haven’t given up. That no matter what, you are pushing through all the difficulties, that you pass through all obstacles and that there is nothing to stop you. I hope, that even if projects I am planning now to start will not work as you wish, you will keep searching for something new to do. And if they will, that success will not change you. That you will always remember who you are and what does matter in life.

I wish you good luck with everything you are doing now and I can’t wait to become you and see on my own how are we doing. I see you in about a year and keep smiling.

Daria from the past

I hope you like this kind of post and that at the end of 2021 I will be able to read it and hopefully share my thoughts with you. I wish you a very productive day for now and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

5 morning habits that might make your day better

Hi guys,

Today I would like to share with you some of the ideas of things you can include in your morning routine. As we all know, starting the day in the right way does improve the entire day. And although I made a similar post recently, this time I will focus more on so-called ‘me time’. I feel that I tend to forget about my wellbeing. In an everyday rush, it is very easy to jump into all these tasks waiting for each of us. Sometimes we are so busy, that we can’t even notice problems starting in our heads. In extreme cases, there might be depression. But also some mild cases, where people start losing interest in caring for themselves, seeing people, or even going out at all. All that doesn’t have to be a depression, but it could, so if you experience any of them for a prolonged time, make sure to discuss it with a professional who can help you. I will share with you things that make me feel better if include them in my morning routine (please note that I am not a specialist, so I am not able to tell you what to do if you experience these symptoms for the prolonged time (if they happen sporadically, they are most likely normal), but hopefully options I will present to you might prevent them from occurring.

Without further I production, let’s move to the morning routine habits that help me feel better during the day

Delay using your phone as long as you can

It is not a secret, that many of us grab their phones as a first thing in the morning. I think that many of us would agree that mindless scrolling through social media and checking emails is very often the first thing we do in the morning (after snoozing our alarms thousands time).

Unfortunately, it is one of the worse habits we could have. We had no time to wake up properly and our brain is already bombarded with so many information. We might come across an email requiring us to do something and during the morning routine, our brain will analyse the way to get it sorted. There will not be a while to relax and spend some quality time with ourselves.

Drink at least a glass of water as soon as you wake up

We all know that after a long time asleep, our body gets dehydrated. We haven’t provided any water for hopefully eight hours and ‘restocking’ it might be a perfect idea. Are you a big fan of morning coffee? Don’t worry! You can have it too. Just make sure that you drink some water first.

I am not a big fan of the taste of water (yes water has a taste πŸ˜‰) but adding some fruits to it helps a lot and make it a thing that I look forward to drinking.

Have a nutritious breakfast

I used to be ‘no breakfast’ person for most of my adult life. It made me feel sluggish for the beginning of the day, but I haven’t associated it with my eating habit. Since I’ve taken an effort to make and eat my breakfast, I feel much more energised for the entire day. What I also noticed, even if I don’t feel hungry but take this first bite any way (or sometimes just smell of my food get into my nose), I am realising that I am hungry.

Have a workout

You don’t have to get ready to go to the gym or run a marathon. But having just a bit of stretching in the morning, or a bit of jogging will load you with a lot of energy for the day. I always thought that it would make me tired for the entire day so I tended to push it till late afternoon. It works quite opposite, though. Just a bit of exercise charges your battery for all the tasks that are waiting for you throughout the day.

Make or revise your plan

There are three types of people in the world if we talk about planning. The first group has no plan or no written plan. Rest could be divided into those who plan in the evening or those who plan in the morning. No matter which group do you belong, it is wise to at least have a look at your plan, before you’ll start checking off the boxes. It will just refresh your memory (this is why you made a plan in the first place). But if you plan in the evening, you might realise that some task cannot be done today or maybe you would put them in a different order. Remember, that in the morning our brain is fresh and it is easier to focus and see some connections, which our tired self cannot see.

These are all five habits, that I think might help you to have a less stressful day. You could also include a prayer or meditation, but as it depends on what do you believe in, might differ. A great thing to consider is to spend some time with your family or roommates, but especially at the moment, for someone who lives alone, it might be impossible.

I hope that they’ll help you in any way. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

What is procrastination for me?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk to you about the subject, I think all of us know very well. Although I was talking about it so much, even on this blog, there are still so many things to consider, so many tactics to try. Especially, that we are all different by definition, we all had various experiences, that made us who we are. Our genes are the most amazing thing we could think of. All of us have a DNA code, which is built of the same pieces in all of us, but at the same time, just playing with the combinations, it made us so different. All this make it very difficult to find a golden way that works for everyone. That’s why knowing that I was talking about this subject so many times, today I’ll tell you about procrastination again.

I wish I would not procrastinate in my life at all. I do imagine myself having everything done and as a new task appears, getting it sorted right away. Unfortunately, this isn’t the case for me. At least not always it is. I mean, I am ‘productive’. You could hardly find a while in my day when I don’t do anything. But somehow, I keep finding myself trying to manage all my deadlines. I don’t have many things to do that are controlled by anyone. I don’t have a boss who would make me focus on my work. There is no one to guide me through the hierarchy of my tasks. Even more, I am the one who assigns the tasks to myself.

When I was in my full-time job, I was dreaming about a situation like this. Freedom, I can work whenever I want, I can take a day off whenever I want. But at the same time, I have to make sure that I have anything to do, that I will start earning money at some point, that my today’s actions will lead to earning money sometime in the future. I’ve decided that this is the best time. If I will not take some steps now, there won’t be a better time in the future.

But taking steps isn’t as easy as it seems. Being experienced procrastinator makes it easy to to find an excuse. Why? Because starting anything brings responsibilities, brings fear, and finally, brings uncertainty. I could work my butt off, but I might not succeed. I might give up, being just a step of achieving my goal, just because I won’t see it.

Starting anything brings some responsibilities. Whether I would like it or not, I would have a lot more tasks, some deadlines… But most important, more excuses. There will be tasks to be done urgently. If not, there might be consequences. There will be taxes to pay, contracts to sign and all these legal stuff that a lot of businessmen and freelancers complain about. But every procrastinator knows that there will be many excuses not to start too.

Since I have become interested in procrastination, I’ve been looking for its definition. But not an official one. The one giving an answer and understanding. I just wanted to know what is the nature of my procrastination. How can I fight it? Can I at all?

When I was analysing it recently, I think I did understand it. Procrastination is a fear of starting. Because starting brings responsibilities and consequences. And sometimes, we might not be ready for it. I know it from my example, that if I start, I can work for hours, forgetting about hunger, sleeping or taking a break. But the scary thing is starting. Because starting means that I will eventually finish it. Starting means that I am committing to bringing it to an end. Even if I am not doing it consciously. But at the moment of starting, I hope that at some point I’ll have a finished product, not a job left undone. And this is scary sometimes.

And of course, I know that all this post might be useless for many people. I know, that everyone might have their own reason to procrastinate. And here is the solution in my opinion. To beat procrastination, you must start by finding the root. Only being aware of it will help you. This will be your weapon. In one of the cartoons, I used to watch as a child, it was said, that the best weapon is to know your enemy. Knowing his strengths and weaknesses will be your advantage. The only weapon helping you each time.

I think that I found my weapon and I understand my enemy much better. I have much more confidence and I am winning a lot of battles already. Now, my goal is to win a war. I can’t eliminate procrastination out of my life. I know it already. I have to teach myself how to silence it whenever I might need it. I have to become the one, who wins every battle. Because this war is going to last.

Daria

PS. I hope you like this kind of post, where I just throw stuff out of my mind. Please leave me a comment below with your opinion and as always I wish you a very productive day.

Fear of success

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk a bit about one of the factors, which in my opinion, decreases our motivation and what goes with it, our productivity. Most of us already know that we can be scared of failure. It has a bit to do with other’s opinion. We don’t want to be the ones called looser, so often we don’t take the risk. But what with about success? Could it be scary too? Is it possible that something we are dreaming about, is actually holding us back? And if yes, why is it so?

I’ve been asking myself these questions for some time now. And I came to two conclusions. First one is very similar to being scared of failure, which is other people opinion. The second one is the lack of purpose. Let me elaborate it a bit.

Starting from people’s opinion, in an ideal world, when we succeed, we should experience joy and hear a lot of congratulations. ‘In the ideal world’ are keywords here. Most of us probably heard about someone achieving their goal and we heard people insinuating about it. Something like when a person buys an expensive car, there is someone saying: ‘He must have stolen money for it’ or ‘She must have had an affair with her boss’. Probably most online creators can agree, that as soon as their work became more popular and recognised, there were more and more mean comments just for a sake of spoiling one’s mood.

The other one is the lack of purpose. Having our dreams makes our actions directed towards achieving them. As soon as we get where we want, what are we supposed to do? Of course after a while of happiness that comes at first. We might lose a direction, fall into stagnation. The solution for that is to simply have a list of goals and as we achieve one, we can start our journey towards the next one. But for this, we have to start dreaming big and split our huge goals into manageable steps. This way, we always have some route to follow. And we can reduce (if not eliminate) lack of purpose out of our life.

That’s all I wanted to share with you in this post. I hope you enjoyed it. Feel free to share your thoughts in the comment section. I will be delighted to read them. For now, I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Where is the world we know?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to share with me some thoughts regarding the current situation basically all over the world. And reading this post, you could be taking a different place. I personally know people, who are panicking and if they could, they would close themselves in the basement with all the toilet paper and pasta they bought. Some of my friends, on the other hand, don’t believe that this virus exists and all this is done to control people all over the world. There are also people somehow between that. They believe that virus exists and it is dangerous for some group of people, but not all. So they do not need to worry, as they are out of the risk.

I could discuss my opinion here. What and why I think a certain way, but because I am not an expert, I won’t. I wouldn’t give you advise if you came to me with any medical problem, as lack of my knowledge in this field could put your health or even life in danger. We have exactly the same thing here. Coronavirus is a disease and I simply don’t feel educated enough to speak publicly about it.

However, whether you believe that this virus exists or not, it has a huge impact on your and your family’s life. You could lose your job, or maybe you have been put on unpaid leave, your children are at home, while you might be working from home too. A lot of services are taking longer, we went through a phase, where shelves in shops were pretty much empty. There were cases when mothers couldn’t buy nappies for their children, simply because they weren’t available. Many people became homeless. For many families, the future is as unsure as it never was. All this is being called ‘the new normal’ and most of us got used to it already. Especially that most of the restriction has been lifted and we are able to live our ‘new normal life’ in a bit more similar way to our old normal.

Did it make it better? Well, definitely did. But we are still living in ‘the new normal’ reality. There are many people looking for jobs and realising that there isn’t as many. We don’t know if or rather when the lockdown will take place again. How many more companies will bankrupt? Will we be able to survive? And finally, how the world will look like when coronavirus will get under control, no matter what does it mean. How long it will take for people to gain trust that there is no risk? How long it will take for the economy to return to the state from before? Will it ever be the same?

I don’t think anyone knows the answer to this question. We need to wait to see what will happen. Most of us knew since the very long time that world changes constantly. Our world is different than the one our parents lived in, their was different than their parent’s one and so one. But I don’t think any of us suspected that it can change so fast. That is a matter of months, the entire world will be at home waiting for news and hoping they will be good.

So here we all are, trying to adjust, missing our families and looking forward to the time, when ‘our new normal’ will become ‘used to be normal’ and we will be free to live our lives as we want again. We hope, that we will manage to survive and that all this will become just an interesting story for our grandchildren. Many of us will probably start it something like this:

‘In 2020 all our lives turned over by 180 degrees. We’ve got an opportunity to realise how unstable our world could be, that one event might make us lose everything we have. But also in 2020, we understood what really is important in life: family, friends and all people around. Because when we were locked at home, with all the technology, with all money we had, we understood how much we missed our closest ones. We will never forget this feeling’.

I want to end this post slightly unusually. I would like to ask you for a favour for yourself. As soon as it will be safe, visit your friends and family and give each of them the biggest hug you are able too. And remember to appreciate all those who care about you, as they are more important than all the goods and wealth you’ll ever be able to collect.

And that’s it for today’s post. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Social approval

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about something what, in my opinion, all of us know. And yes, I was supposed to post an opinion about the book. But I am forced to do so next week. I hope you will forgive me πŸ˜‰

But for now, let’s move to the topic of this post. Need for social approval exists in us since the early childhood years. As soon as we are starting playing with other children, we are getting more and more ‘dependent’ on their opinion. On the beginning, we might have just cried when other kids wouldn’t play with us, we wanted to have toys or clothes similar to them. But as time goes, we basically kept changing our opinions according to the trends ruling in a group of our closest friends. And finally, there is the time coming, when we realise that all this was for nothing and we simply start discovering our own style. We could say we are growing out of this. But do we, really?

As I’ve started this blog, I’ve heard a lot of voices from my closest ones that this is just a waste of time and my energy. They were using an argument that it will not make me any money. No one understood, that not everything has to be made for money. That I might need a place, where I just spill my thoughts out without worrying about how much I am going to make. And here I am, in my third year of blogging. I haven’t earned a penny since then, but I haven’t even tried. But I’ve got a lot of satisfaction. Each comment, each like. It seems nothing, but I take it as I made someone’s life a bit better. Maybe they’ve learned something from me, maybe they are in a similar situation and got reassured that there will be a better day, or perhaps they just had a bit of reading they’ve enjoyed. No matter what, it is worth it.

Having a blog is like having a psychologist who doesn’t give advice, but let me figure them out myself. It is like a journal, where I can throw all my thoughts to just empty my head. And it is also a place, where I can go back and see what was in my head a year or two ago. Place, where I can see how I’ve changed and judge, if I am going in the right direction.

But why I am telling you about all that? I just hope, that at least the only advice you’ll take from this post, is you do you. Whatever brings a smile on your face or just let you relax and forget about your problems, even for a while, this is what you should be doing. And don’t worry, if people say you are wasting your time or make fun of you. If you enjoy it, that’s what matters.

And I hope you’ll find your thing if you haven’t so far or if you did, that you will do it with your head held high. This thought is the last I wanted to share with you in today’s post. I hope you enjoyed it. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria