2020 as a year of setting up good habits

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about setting New Year’s goals in general. What is the purpose of making this unofficial agreement with yourself? Why on the beginning of year, not at any time?

For this second question answer is very simple. With each year starting, there are a lot of people everywhere (literally everywhere) reflecting on their achievements, failures and events happening the year before. They are getting excited for things they want to achieve in the upcoming year. This kind of remind us that “hey, we’ve made these resolutions a year ago, let’s see how much did we manage to actually do”. They could have been made at any time in a year, but let’s be honest. Who is actually checking progress of our actions just like that? Or maybe I am the only one who needs New Year to make sure that goals will be at least reviewed?

And with the purpose of setting goals at all, there is a more complex thing to think about. I’ve came across two opinions. First stated that setting these goals actually motivate you to take an action. Second, that focusing on your goals, writing them down and seeing list of your commitments works quite opposite. For me both of above are correct to some extend. Although, I am setting goals each year, not always I am actually achieving them. But I think I found a solution.

First of all, I am not dreaming about my goals. My list works for me as a reminder and guide. Each goal has also a working plan, where it is divided into smaller parts and steps to achieve each of these parts. And finally, I am scheduling goals related task into my to do lists on weekly basis (as I plan in weekly intervals). After some time I will share with you my process of planning.

This way, my goals are not just a nice bullets in my planner. Kind of “one day” things. They are actual tasks, scheduled to work on. Like immediately. Not one day. Making sure that each week, there are some at least small steps being made towards achieving them.

And that’s it for today’s post. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Set up a routine which works for everyone at home and stick to it

Hi guys,

Today I will talk about last of my 2020 resolutions. As you could see in this post, I have decided to focus on some things which are very important to me at the moment. It might seem that I went easy on myself this year (and this is most likely true), but I wanted to set goals, which will be possible to achieve. A lot of them (if not all in some way) are connected to my financial situation, as this is the biggest problem at the moment. Although, I know that there are a lot of people in much worse situation, I am also aware that in case of any emergency, we will struggle to get back on our feet, if we will not fix it as soon as possible.

This is one of the reasons why we need to set up a routine. Having me and my husband working full time is helping us to keep paying our debt relatively quickly. But it also makes it very hard to manage. We were advised to employ someone to look after our son while we are in work. But I can’t trust any stranger to look after such small baby, especially that even if something would go wrong, he wouldn’t be able to tell us. This forced us to work in different shifts and as I can’t imagine being all day away from my son, I’ve chosen night shift (night shifts are hard too, but at least when I am working, little guy is sleeping most of the time).

There are some small things I would like to achieve in our family life, even though me and my husband are working on different shifts. I wish to be able to spend as much quality time with my son as it is possible, I would like to spend time with my husband and make sure that both of us can have time for ourselves (whether it is for working on personal projects or just relaxing). I want to make sure that our home is clean and that there is always food in our fridge too. It might seem impossible, especially with a small child. Some of you might think that I am neglecting my son just because I am working full time and I, dreaming about free time, might seem like a horrible mother. But I am a true believer that sacrificing all your dreams and goals for a baby will not do well for you and at the end for your child. Also, I think that being able to get an extra income is good for my son too. Hopefully, very soon will be able to put some funds aside for his future, we’ll be able to buy a home, so wherever life is going to take my son, he’ll always have a place to come and forget about all his problem. And finally, we’ll be able to provide for his development, give him opportunities to find his way, by simply being able to afford things, he wants to try.

Kids are very amazing and they learn unbelievably fast. But at the same time, they are not reading books or taking various courses secretly. They are learning by watching their surrounding. Especially in the beginning of their lives, we, as a parents, are all their world. I want to create believe in my son’s head that he can manage a lot of things, without neglecting anything, as long as he will try very hard. And that if you work hard on something you love doing, you can steer your life in any direction you want.

Altgough, I would like to share our routine now, I haven’t found any so far. We are still testing and keep changing small bits and pieces of it. I might be even wrong and I can’t make it work for all of my requirements, but about this I am going to tell you, when we are going to find something what will be at least the best for us.

And this is it for today’s post. I hope you enjoyed reading it. If yes, I will appreciate if you will like this post and leave your thoughts in this subject in the comment section (I will be happy to read and reply to every single comment). But for now I wish you all a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Have at least 1 hour of ‘working for your future’ every day

Hi guys,

Today I would procceed to explain my 2020 resolutions. As you’ve already seen by the title, I am going to handle in this post having a 1 hour of work for the future. But before I’ll explain why I’ve decided to have this resolution, I’ll try to explain you what I actually mean by working for the future.

As I mentioned in my very old posts, my my goal is to have a passive income, which will allow me not to have to work any more. I don’t intend to stop working in the closest future, but I just want to have this possibility if I want.

To create a passive income, you could have to ways: you can invest money, which is not an option for me (at least not at this point of my life) or invest time for working on such projects, which will keep bringing you money afterwards, without you spending time on them any more. As I am going for this second option, I work on certain projects, which I call projects for the future.

So why I made it as a 2020 resolution? Answer is simple: because I started working on some projects in 2019, but I haven’t been consistent. There were days (before my son was born) when I’ve spent 8 or even 10 hours in one day working on it, but after it has been left for months and months. This way of handling it was a huge time wasting. When I returned to work after very long break, I had to spend at least 1 hour to figure out what have I done so far, go through all my notes I’ve made on the way. Spending just an hour every day, will not allow me to forget about my progress, so although I work just 1 hour a day, it is a very productive hour (it depends on the fact, whether my son sleeps for the whole hour, but any way, my son will be priority no matter what).

Also, having to be focused just for 1 hour doesn’t seem as hard, as if I were to schedule 5 hour in one day a week. And any way, if I can work longer, there is no problem with that either. 1 hour is just minimum of the effort I intend to make during 2020.

That’s it for today’s post. Please keep your fingers crossed that I will actually manage to make this resolution happen. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Keep your bullet journal with you at all times and set it up before you are going to use it.

Hi guys,

Today I will continue my little series about New Year resolution. As you must have seen in the title of this post, I will explain why I’ve decided to include keeping my set up bullet journal with me where ever I’ll go.

Let’s get right into the topic. Firstly, why bullet journal? And answer for that is very simple. As the idea of bullet journal is that you are designing it by yourself, it gives me flexibility to include everything I need in one place. Also, I can alter the amount of place needed each month for my planning accordingly to the amount of things I have to do. Thanks to that, I can’t run out of the space and be forced to keep writing my important things in random places and have to look for them when I need it. On the other hand, there is no waste of space when I don’t need as much space as I could have in pre printed planner.

Another advantage in my opinion is that process of setting it up itself is very relaxing. This year I’ve decided to make my bullet journal very colourful, with a theme for each month and a lot of doodles. This way I hope to practice drawing (at least exercise my hand to be able to make decent simple pictures). This was one of the reasons, why I went for a traditional journal, instead of any app (they are apps for bullet journaling available too, if you are more of I-keep-everything-online person). The other reason is, that I am not relying on battery level in my phone. I don’t have to be worry that, if app I am using will disappear from the market, all my schedules, plans, etc. will be gone with it.

Very important thing in my opinion is the fact that drawing and playing with colours in my bullet journal really boost my creativity, which is very important for me now, as I am working on my own apps. It will require a lot of decisions to be made, problems to solve and ideas, which will allow me to make my app a decent product. Creativity will be very appreciated, when I will run over a difficult problem.

Also by setting it regularly, I hope to work on my responsibility. As you might have noticed, there are a lot of things ‘I will do’ and I mostly end up not even starting them. Having this one thing I have to do on a monthly basis, is a beginning of working on my personality. But this is a subject for another post.

Let’s get into the part of keeping my bullet journal with my all the time. There are a lot of situation in my life, when idea comes to my mind. Although, I do all my best to remember it, I tend to let it be replaced by every day things. Having my bullet journal with me, will allow me to record everything and think about sense of it whenever I’ll have some time to spare. This way, I hope to be more focused on present, instead of trying to think about the future. Having it set up upfront will make prepared for anything popping out throughout the day (hopefully).

I hope that this short post explained you the reason, why having bullet journal on hand is so important that it became my 2020 resolution.

That’s it for today’s post. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

2019 review – what have happened and how it has changed my life

Hi guys,

Or maybe better welcome again? I haven’t been posting for a long long time. And here I am. With new energy and ready to start all over again.

Was it a burn out? Definitely not. There were just a lot of circumstances, which made me extremely drained and posting would make my plate over filled. I needed to put my life together first, just to be able to come back once and for good. And I can’t say I did it already, but I hope I’ve gotten on a right path finally.

But what have actually happened? Why I couldn’t find at least a bit time to say that I am alive, that everything is going on well? Let’s be honest. I could find a time for this, but before informing you, I wanted to think what to do first. No more promises, just actions. So before I’ll let you know about my plans for 2020, I will quickly give you some insight into my 2019. Here are some of the main events that changed my life:

My son was born

This is probably the most life changing thing that could ever happen – new addition to the family. This small human being, who becomes your bigger love since the day you are pregnant, the most energy draining ‘chore’ you have, like an 24 hours 7 days a week job. No holiday, no doctor’s leave.

At the end of the day, you start thinking that you can’t do it any more and again there is a crying coming from the cot. You take this little guy, who wraps his hands around your neck and fall asleep momentarily. You put him back into the cot, with “sshhhh” sound and you get a smile in a sleep. And for this one little smile, it is all worth it.

Of course, don’t get me wrong. Maternity does not contain only hard things (I mention them just to show how easy is to forget about them). There are much more good moments. First smiles, first laugh, first word… There are the times when my baby falls asleep in my arms and I can’t stop looking at his perfect face, although I am drained myself. Small little hand going in your direction, when he see you after a long time (five minutes in the bathroom is already too much 😉).

All parents out there have a clue how my child changed my life. How many new responsibilities are you getting with just a tiny human. But at the same time, my son became my biggest motivation. He is the one, who makes me get up from bed each morning; he is the one, for who I am ready to hustle, as long as I will be able to spend time with him; and finally, he is the one, who’s future matter to me.

I have moved – twice

For those who have been here for longer, you knew that I moved the home in February. However, we had to move right before Christmas too, as our old place have been sold. This was a great challenge. Especially with the little one, who finally could enjoy presence of both parents for the entire days.

I started a full time job

Also, if you have read my old posts, you know that when I found out that I am pregnant, I’ve lost my old job (officially not lost, but got my hours reduced to 3/week). So I’ve started to work during the weekends through agency and stopped whren my son was born. Having him in a NICU, we both could not work. My partner took off (unpaid), had to wait till I return to work till my son is a out of hospital and at least a bot older. But when he was around 4 months, there was no choice. We were simply not managing it. I had to go back to work in the weekend (which haven’t helped much, but was better than nothing) to finally find a full time job, which is perfect, because I work when my son is sleeping any way.

I took a gap year in my university

This time I already had too much on my plate. I was working full time at nights, looking after my son during day time. Losing two of those days each week, were just too much for me. I was missing this little guy too much. And I don’t think it was easy for him either. Yes, I am in my gap year.

Our finances went on minus

Yes, this is a hard thing. Having baby born comes with many new spending which you can’t think beforehand (especially if this is your first baby). Being unemployed and with my husband not working for good 1 month (when my son was in hospital and a bit after), forced us to borrow some money from our friends, so we could make it. We are still paying it back, but slowly getting to the point, where we are ok.


And here is the time to come to my 2020 resolutions. There are only few of them, so I can focus on them and actually be able to say that I did it. Let me just put them in a bullets today, as times goes, I will explain what some of them means to me and how I think it will help me:

  • Get debt free
  • Have list of projects, but focus on maximum two at the time
  • Keep your bullet journal with you at all times, set up it before the time, when you are going to use it
  • Have a 1 hour of “working for your future” every day
  • Spend as much quality time with your son, as it is possible
  • Set up a routine, which is working for everyone at home and stick to it
  • Save at least £5000 by the end of 2020

These are all of my 2020 resolutions. Some of them are obvious, some will be explained in following posts. I hope you enjoyed this post. Since now, there will be one post each Monday, Wednesday and Friday.

I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria