12th day: why do people change?

Hi guys,

It’s already 12th day. I can’t belive, how fast our time goes. I still have a feeling, that I had settled this blog yesterday and at the same time I know, that it changed my life completely, like 180° turn. So I think, it’s great opportunity to talk about changes.

Very often we can see two people, who seem to do everything together. Like they never separate. They are just so similar: same hobby, dreams, goals… They spend every minute together. Like anyone else exists.

But after some time something goes wrong. One of them (or sometimes both) realizes, that they don’t have too much in common any more. When they’re meet, they have very little to talk about and almost nothing to do. And each of them thinks: “This other one changed. He/she used to be my soulmate, but now we are strangers to each other”.

And here is very important question: why all those changes have happened? People should be always same, shouldn’t they? Otherwise they aren’t themselves any more. They are becoming someone else. Someone new.

I have been thinking about this quite a lot (I’ve started long time before an idea of this blog appeared in my head) and I’ve came to some conclusions. Let me point them out:

Environment

You can say, what you want, but people around influence us a lot. Very often we adopt some of their behaviours, without even thinking about it. This is one of those things, which happen automatically. And some people will call it “learning process”, while for others it will be just copying. But no matter how you are going to name it, it’s going to happen.

Dreams and goals

This is quite important thing. While setting goals, we need to be aware of who we need to become, to actually achieve them. Each activity we are going to do, will require different behaviours, habits and even ways of thinking. For example, if our dream is to have a child and at the moment we are completely unorganized and carefree, we need to change it (well, at least if we want our child to survive with us). When we want to travel the world and we hardly can afflrd to make it till next payday, we have to have a closer look into our spendings and try to save some money. And many, many other.

Our “experiences bag”

Well, let’s make something clear: no matter what we are doing we are human beings. We make a lot of mistakes. And even if we get up after failures, we still keep them in our mind, so next time when similar situation happen, we know at least, what should we avoid and we look for other solution.

Financial situation

Ok, here we can say whatever we want, but we need to admit one thing: money change people. I am not saying that always for worse (very often happen), but for better as well. When we have enough money, we don’t need to think about where to get some from. We can afford for more, so we are trying new things, getting new experiences and learn from them. That changes us a lot.

Roles, we are playing in life

Well, most of people change, when they get job, when they become husbands, wife, or parents. Their priorities change, so they need to change their life to adjust to new situation.

Things we learn

This is kind a simple. When we learn new stuff, we understand more and our way of thinking changes according to what we know.
And those are things, which came to my mind so far. If you have any other idea, don’t hesitate to let me know in comment box below. I will love to find out what do you think about changes.

I don’t thing, that changes are bad. They are the best prove, that we are actually doing something with our life. That we develop ourself. Even if we change for worse, there is a possibility, that we are going to realize it and we will change again, this time for better. And as long, as all those changes don’t stop us to be who we are, they cannot be bad (at least not so bad). And this is my conclusion 😉

And because it’s late already, I will move straight to today’s summary:

Being active – checked 😉

CSS lesson – checked 🙂

Next few chapters of Sunday book – checked 🙂

Two chapter of book – checked 🙂

Today’s post – checked 🙂

And, of course, plan for tomorrow – checked 🙂
For now I wish very productive day and a lots of good changes in your lives (there is never so good, that it cannot be better). And I’ll see you in next post 🙂

Daria

9th day: because after every storm, good weather is coming… finally

Hi guys,

Today I will start my post with some announcement: finally I picked book, which I am going to write about on Sunday. And I am actually looking forward to it. While doing my research I found quite a lot of very interesting titles. I think, those posts are going to be great fun for me (and I really hope, that for you as well 😉 ). I wanted to add, that idea of doing this kind of stuff wasn’t mine originally. I have no idea how about English websites or blogs, but in polish one there are some people doing this. But I will try to do this slightly different, including myself in it. I hope you’ll like it (as these post are going to be dedicated to my readers only. I will benefit as well (by actually learning some different ways of motivation), but you are my motor in this project, for what I want to say one think: thank you).

Ok, so now let’s move to my day. Every one who lives in London knows, that today’s weather was great. Sunny and warm. Like a dream, but in reality 😉 so as I opened my eyes and realized how beautiful is outside, I had a lot of energy to use 😉

So after my breakfast I have finished my HTML course and found CSS one. Both of them are very short, as they are introducing only basis of those languages, but for the beginner like me, they are perfectly fine 😉

Still I am not very well, so I haven’t enough courage to take my bike, but I had long walk instead 😉 I went to park, where for first 20 mins I was just walking and enjoing nice weather and after I’ve sat down on grass and I’ve red few chapters of my book (which, by the way, seems to be one of the better ones). When my eyes got tired enough, I decided to do some research and find some book for my Sunday’s post (and this is what I’ve done, tomorrow I need to pick it up from library).

This activity finished my visit in park, as reality (read: hunger) came to me and I needed to do some grocery shopping, do my chores, and have my dinner  😉 .

What I’ve done after is to draw how my website is going to look like. What is going to be where and contain what. Even if it had been done on piece of paper, I am very happy about it, as this small thing is going to help me a lot, when I’ll start actually coding.

Another thing is, that I’ve done revision of my Arabic lesson and I finally got how to pronounce all letters properly or at least close to right way (my husband helped me a lot to get that right, so huge thank to him).

And I’ve prepared plan for tomorrow. Even if it’s going to be a busy day, I am looking forward to it.

But while we are talking about excitement about work to do, I will share one thought with you. Actually it didn’t come to me just like that. I’ve been asked question: “how can you be excited about work? Normal people are excited, while work is done, so they can rest. What’s wrong with you?”.

What’s wrong with me? Well, I don’t know. But what I am pretty sure about, is that it depends what goals you want to achieve and what is going to be fun for you. For example, I am trying to make my dreams such a way, that no matter if I am actually going to achieve them (of course I hope I will), as only working on them is going to be fun for me.

Maybe it’s because I am born as an introvert. I like spending time with people, but time I’m spending alone, let me stay who I really am and keeps me happy. That’s why most of my goals I need to do on my own, as for me this whole way to achieve them is giving me peace of mind. And this time on my own helps me interact with other people and be ready for compromises, as I have quite a lot of time, where only my opinion matters. No suggestion, no complains.

I know it sound very selfish. But this is true. Everyone is different, but all of us have similar roles to play in our lifes. We are workers, family members, friends, students and many, many more. And it depends on us how good we are going to be in each of those roles and every of them. And to be good in as many of them, as we can, we need to find our way. And this is my way.

Similar is with this blog. Even if after ten year only five people will read it, it will be fun for me any way. Just because only proccess of writing posts every day, makes me feel good.

This way of living was introduced to me through my friend. As every day when I was trying to contact her on certain time (it was around five hours every day) she wouldn’t answer. She was calling it her own time. And when I asked her, what does she do during this time, she said, she is doing some project, which will never be seen by world. Why? Because for her act of doing this was more important, than results. She was doing something what belongs only to her. Anyone told her, that she should do this or that different way, or she should change this and replace that. Everything was completely like she wanted. That amazed me.

Any way, let’s do today’s summary:

HTML course – checked 🙂

Book red – checked:)

Being active -checked 🙂

Arabic revision – checked 🙂

Plan for tomorrow – checked 🙂

First desing of my website – checked 🙂

And today’s post – checked 🙂
This is going to be everything for today. I wish you very productive day 😉

Daria

Day 5th and 6th: Sometimes everything just go wrong. And does business kill art?

Hi guys,

Yesterday and today were rainy days in London. Personally, my mood and motivation depend on weather a lot. This is how I work: a little sun outside and my face is bright with huge smile, but when outside it’s gray and it’s raining, the only thing I want to do is sleeping. Of course I can’t afford to sleep whole day, so I just carried on in zombie mode (thought for today: person who invented coffee should be called a hero).

And even if today I felt a bit more motivated and work seemed easier, yesterday I’ve checked some activities on my goal’s list as well. Unfortunatelly, my router decided, that he is not going to work either. Well, sometimes happen. That’s why today’s post is a combination of two days.

Today I am not going to bore you with any thoughts or something. It could spoil your mood (which I hope is great at the moment 😉 ). But I’ve decided to add one more point to my goal list and this is what I am going to tell you about.

But first, let me start with some explanation. As you may know, I’ve started this blog to get some more motivation, some short term reward for my work (which is possibility to write about this in my post and share with you). But of course when you get same reward every day, it becomes your routine and you are not waiting for this any more (it haven’t happen to me yet, but possibly can in the future). And here comes greatness of my blog: if the other day I will decide just to let my time go by without doing anything, I won’t have anything to write about. And this will become huge punishment for me. I am going to have this feeling, that something is missing. That I haven’t done something, what is such a fun for me. And this keeps me going. Even if I’ve started less than a week ago, this blog became my weapon in hard war with procrastination.

Even yesterday, when I finished my post and I’ve failed with posting it here, I felt that something I am actually waiting for isn’t going to happen. And I’ve understood, how important this blog already is for me.

So what I intend to do is to give some love to this. Make it more valuable for you. So I decided to do more things: first of them is to keep adding one motivational quote every month (I have two already, very important to me – but those quote’s stories I’ll tell you in one of the future posts). Second thing is, that I am going to add one review of self-development connected book every two weekes (not exactly review, just main points of book. Why? I think, self-development is very personal thing and something what does work for me, might not work for others and reverse). First book-post is going to appear on my blog on Sunday 28th of May. I hope you are going to like it. I haven’t choosen any particular title yet, but I am going to have a look and pick something 😉

Ok, previous part was just edited post from yesterday. And I’ve changed my mind. I’ll share one thought with you. Something what is sitting in back of my head, deeply inside. One simple question: does business kill art and some kind of sensitivity needed to actually do something creative (whatever kind of art we are talking about)?

Let’s take writters for example. Many times I’ve read book, which blew my mind. I just couldn’t belive, how someone can write something so good, how is it possible? Author is selling huge amout of copies and you just can’t wait till next part will be finished. Every day you are thinking, when I can read it? When it’s going to be published?

And finally this day comes. Next part is avaiable in every bookshop and you are first in long long queue to get it. You can’t resist and you start reading on the way back home. First chapter, second and the other one. Wait… Something’s wrong… You read next chapter, and next. But still, something is missing. Is it the style of writting? No… Story doesn’t seem to be interesting. It looks like all misery, unexpected situations, which were happening in first part are gone now. You are able to predict what is going to happen in next scene, it’s just too simple.

How do you feel? Well… disappointed? And your thinking proccess cannot stop. What’s happened? How it’s possible, that such a good writer, wrote something like… this?

But whatever happened, is past now. You’ve even started to forget. Your brain works again, thinking about regular, everyday’s stuff. But some time after you see interview on TV or you just read it in newspaper. Your author, being interviewed. Memories come back, you want to know, what he has to say as an explanation.

Itroduction. You don’t understand too much. Some single words like: bestseller, best author of our time are coming to your mind, but it doesn’t matter to you. You are waiting for one answer, just one.

And it doesn’t come. Another disappointment. And your brain start thinking again. And finally, in the middle of the night your answer comes, simple and genius at the same time. Just one question have been asked, and indirect answer for your question, completely different. This magical question was: How long it took you to write your books? And answer: first one year, second one three months…

And now you know: next part was written too quick. Author hasn’t spent enough time, to make it perfect like first one. It was written in hurry. Simple like that.

Why? Was it contract, stating that next part should be written by this time? Or just craving for more money? Or simply, book was written to please readers or publishers and have been changed on the way?

No matter what the reason was, it wasn’t author’s book in 100%.

And here is the problem. For author, writting became way for earning money. And this is perfectly fine. The only problem is, that process of writting had been lost on the way. Writting became craft for craft. Book wasn’t written for having fun, doing something what was his passion. It was for any other reason. There is no more unique personality in there, something what is neccessary to perform any kind of craft. Business killed it.

That’s why here is my request (you don’t have to listen it, as I am not any kind of artist, but I need to share it with you): if you do any kind of art, make sure you keep it in your unique way. When someone offer you money for that, go for it. Just don’t forget, that you should do whatever you do for yourself first, after for any other reason. And that way your art will be always great. Just think about it: if someone offered you money for your passion, you must be great in it. So don’t change it.

Ok, this day had gotten so long already, so I am going to share short summary of two days only.
5th day’s summary:

Chapter of book have been red – checked 🙂

One HTML lesson – checked 🙂

Arabic lesson revision – checked 🙂

Plan for next day – checked 🙂

Post – written, but not posted 😦
6th day’s summary:

Chapter of book – checked 🙂

HTML lesson – checked 🙂

Arabic lesson – checked 🙂

Post on this blog – checked 🙂

Plan for tomorrow – checked 🙂
Unfortunately, it’s been raining so I couldn’t force myself to go by bike to my work, or at least walk. So being active – failed 😦

And for now I am going to take my way in my bed’s direction. I wish you all to make what you love and always be yourself. Have a productive day and I see you in my next post tomorrow 🙂

Daria

4th day: nothing to complain about?

Hi guys,

I was working today and what I’ve realized is, that most of my posts are started with  complaints. How hard my day was, how tired I am and stuff like this. Well, today  was quite easy day. No unnecessary stress, nothing unexpected to do. Even I’ve came from work much earlier than normally, as we’ve done all work before time came.

On my way back, I’ve done some shopping. It isn’t my favourite activity, so every time when I am going on my own, I put my earphones on and I am just thinking (by the way, sometimes very interesting thoughts come to my mind 😉 ).

Today I was thinking about money. But don’t get me wrong, not how to become rich or that it would be nice. I was wondering how it’s possible, that people who don’t have enough money to spare (actually they can’t afford for anything except paying their bills and some food) can be so good buddies. You can talk to them about everything, they are just normal. But when they get better job and their situation changes, they are changing as well.

For exaple, I had one friend. We know each other since we were little children. I am not sure, but it is possible, that when we were three or four years old (any way, since I remember we were always together). Any of us had too much money, even if we haven’t pay bills (advantages of living with parents 😉 ), but we always had something to do together. It was great time.

Everything changed when three years ago, when we were twenty three. I moved to London and after two months she has started new job. What is important: well paid job. And don’t get me wrong, I am very happy about this. The only think is, that as more money she had, as less things we had to talk about. She started doing stuff, which other people do, she is eating only food what is good to eat, just to take photo for instagram. And stuff like this. And even if this is the same person, I can’t find my friend in her any more. That is making me very sad.

That’s why please, have it in your mind, that no matter how much money you have (and of course I wish you to have as much as possible 😉 ) always remember who you are. Even if you can afford for more, you make use of it and have fun, but don’t change your personality because of that. Just keep your mindset same 😉

Ok, but let’s leave my shopping thoughts alone and come back to my goals 😉

Today as I said was good day and a lot of stuff have been done.

First and the most exciting one was my first Arabic lesson which was just great 🙂 And it makes my: learn Arabic – checked 😉

I’ve red three chapters of book, what means: website content and English improvement – checked 😀

And what I am proud of the most, is the fact, that I’ve done are two HTML lessons – checked 🙂 😀

And my plan for tomorrow is done as well – checked 🙂

And whole day today I was traveling by bike, so being active deserves for huge CHECKED 😀

And now, proud of myself, not very tired but very happy instead, because of what I’ve done today, I am moving in direction of my bed. Today earlier than usually, but as everything had been done, why not? So for today I wish you all sweet dreams and very productive day tomorrow. And just to remind you: never forget, who you are, no matter how much your situation will chenge and you can be sure: your friends are going to be grateful for that.

I see you in tomorrow’s post 🙂

Daria