Don’t expect different results, when you keep doing same things all over again

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about an aspect known probably by most of us. Either we are guilty of doing it or at least we know someone, who’s description I am going to present to you now.

Imagine the person, who says: “I would like to change my job, but there is no other job for me”. When asked: “Have you try to apply anywhere else?”.
“Yes, I did. But I haven’t got any response.”
“Have you thought why?”
“They all were requiring certain skills, which I don’t have. But I will keep trying to apply.”
“Have you done anything to get those skills?”
“No, but I will keep applying till I will get my dream job”.
This was just example. Person, who tries to get something, knows why he is not getting it, knows, what he should do to change it, but does nothing. Just keeps doing same, not working things, hoping that next time results will be different.
He might be lucky and that might be the case, but as he keeps trying with no desired results, chances for that are very low.
Any way, the person feels that he is doing his best. He keeps thinking that everything will change one day, even if he is making same mistakes all over again (in this made up story, he doesn’t get skills necessary for his dreamed job).
Although this isn’t a real story, I think all (or at least most) of us were in that place at least once. I like to call this kind of situation as ‘one day I will…’ time. After these three dots you can put whatever you want: one day I will get new job, start my business, travel, spend more time with my family, get skills I’ve always dreamed of and many more. Possibilities are endless, as many people as many cases (and also there are some, including myself, who could think about a lot of things to include in this statement). You know, this ‘I need to get my life together. One day I will…’
The only problem is that our life is passing by, it will not stop and take a break, just because we want it to. We also tend to forget that changes take time. We can change our attitude right away, but to see results of these changes, usually takes some time. It is very important thing to realise our power and believe in our ability to change the situation we are in.
Especially, that our actions might not work and we need to look for some other ways to make changes. If we will not give ourselves a chance to make a mistake, who else will?
So today, I have a challenge for each of you: think about your perfect life and decide what is your first step to get there. And most important: take this step, no matter how bouncy and hard this road seems to be.
That’s it for today’s post. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.
Daria

Power of believing in yourself

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about believing in yourself. I think that this is an important part of success. Especially that doing something different might make other people want to advise you and convince about pointlesness of your plan. They will find a lot of reasons why you shouldn’t do, what you intend to. They’ll point out everything that can go wrong and some of these black scenarios might scare you to death.

You can even know some people who tried to go similar way, but they failed. However, the most important word here is ‘similar’. Even if you are following their steps quite closely, you are completely different person: you might be in the different stage of life, your values are not the same either and, what the most important, your goals and dreams might lead you towards different place. Moreover, even if all above are same for both of you, still you are different person. And what a lot of people forget, in everything you do, you are leaving part of yourself (how ever weird it sounds). That makes everything you do very unique.

The only thing, which can help you stay motivated is believing that you can success. It is also important to hear what people around you have to say, as they probably don’t want anything wrong for you. While listening to their reasoning, just try to determine whether disadvantages, they are presenting to convince you, are really disadvantages in your opinion. As I have met a lot of people who were saying that they wouldn’t be able to work in a way I do, as they are tired enough after their regular job, while for me it is not a problem at all.

But let’s focus on believing in yourself. If you analysed all pros and cons of the project you are working on from your point of view, you are able to know what you might lose. You should remember that all kinds of bussinesses are connected to some kind of risk and if you are ready to take it, just go for it. Even if you fail, you’ll learn something for the next time. And this might be the most valuable lesson in your life, which can turn your life for 180°.

This is the reason, why I am starting so many projects (not all of them I am sharing here), which teach me something new. Although, they are not very beneficial in financial meaning and they might be seen by others as time-wasting, they have got me ready to start working on the biggest of my projects so far. And still I have a lot to learn, a lot of mistakes to do and tons of hours of work in front of me, but this experience I’ve gained (and I am still gaining), will make it much easier than it would be otherwise. The only thing keeping me motivated is a fact that I truly believe in success. And I know that one day my projects will allow me to take my son, who is going to be born soon, for holiday without worrying about finances. I think this will compensate me all this time I am spending on work now.

And with this thought I am going to leave you today. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria