How to be creative? And what for?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about creativity and it’s importance. I will also share some tips, how to train your creativity.

But before we’ll go to training, let me explain, why I think that creativity is important. If you’ve read my last post, about changes in job environment, you might know that with technological development a lot of professions might disappear. However, I do think that it doesn’t mean that skills you need to do these jobs will become useless. The only think is to find the other way to use them, in order to provide for yourself and your family. And here creativity will come in handy.

Even now, there are a lot of universities producing unemployed graduates with huge loans to be paid for their studies. Even if their job haven’t disappear, there are so many specialists in their field, that finding a good job is being considered something close to mirracle. And very often these educated young people are forced to take some low paid job, or to stay unemployed, hoping that they are going to be part of mirracle.

At the same time, there are some grduates with the same degree, who managed to create very well paid job for themself. They just used their creativity to fill a gap between what people need and what market has to offer to these people.

That’s why I do believe, that creativity is one of the most important skills (or maybe characteristics will be a better word) in today’s world.

Ok, but what can you do, when you are not creative at all? Firstly, I think that this is a pure lie. Each and every of us is creative. The only difference between people who succeed and these who don’t is what these people do with their ideas. One of the examples for that might be my friend. Around five years ago he wanted to write a story or, if it’d turned like this, a book. He had great idea, I had an opportunity to read some fragment and I really thought that it will be very good job. However, after few days, he decided that there is no point, there will be no one who would like to read it. And he gave up. But I still think, that only if he wouldn’t give up that time, now he would be a very good writer.

So this is the main point of this post: to realise, that all of us are creative. We just can’t believe that it would work, so we are leaving our ideas far behind, just wondering what would happen if we would try.

However, we are never so creative, that we cannot be any more. So I will present you some of my tips to boost your creativity (most of them I found on various YouTube channels and blog post, but as it was long time ago, I will not be able to mention where exactly).

First of these excercises is to create a problem each day and write as many solution to solve it as we can (I put my minimum as five). Examples of such problem might be: “I lost my job out of blue, what I am going to do?” or “I found that I no longer have place to live, what I am going to do?”. This examples are quite challenging, especially that you have to find five possible solutions to them. But you can choose something less depressing, like “I want to develop an application, what it will be?”.

Another thing, I do to feel more creative, is that I am writting all crazy ideas that come to my mind. Each of them will do, if only while having them I was thinking: “this is pointless”. And from this list I pick one and try to make it happen (by the way, this blog is one of these ideas and so is my YouTube channel). They not always turn out to be good ideas, but at least I tried.

And last, but not least, have a hobby which requires you to create something. It might be writting, painting, drawing, making movies, designing clothes, etc. You don’t have to show it to anyone, if you don’t want to. Just do it for yourself, and do everything crazy what will come to your mind with it. You’ll see the difference very quickly, trust me. And who knows? Maybe it will become one more skill to help you in the future?

And with this thought I am going to leave you today. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

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What shall I study to find a job after?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about something what have been bothering me for a long time, namely: new responsibilities. As we are all living in rapidly changing world, where we can’t really be sure what is going to happen tomorrow, we are exposed to many unexpected situations. On the top of this, more and more often we can hear, that soon robots are going to replace people in many jobs.

Sometimes, during conversations with my friends, I am finding out that they don’t see any point in further learning, as it will leave them as another uneployed master or phd diploma holder. And unfortunatelly, very often they are right. Especially if they are associating their education with standard institutions only, like schools, universities and some kind of courses on top of that. Even now, we have a lot of people being graduated with the best possible marks, but still struggling to find a job of their dream. But on the other hand, there are a lot of people, who hardly graduated from primary school, but doing great any way.

So what in reality matters when we are trying to plan our future? How to choose a degree, which will not end up as three years being wasted, leaving us with student loan? While thinking about answers for these questions, I came up with some tips for myself:

  • Whatever degree you choose, make sure you have a plan

This is very important thing for me. Starting a university, you are going to learn a lot of various things. At the same time, you are not going to need all knowledge, which you are going to get there. Having some kind of plan might help you decide, on which subjects do you need to focus more and which of them require you to have just some basic knowledge. Even if during your course you’ll change my mind, you will still have basic knowledge to explore the topic much quicker.

  • Make sure that you are going to learn something, what is interesting for you

This is something what a lot of people are forgetting about. Studying for even just three years might be quite a hard task. But if you study something what makes you bored… well, I wish you good luck… But if you are thinking that it is just three years, you can survive it, remember that there are many years of work in choosen profession ahead of you. So maybe it is worthed to consider, wether you really can survive?

  • Don’t focus just on your university work

I think, this is the most important thing. While you are learning, try to find as many opportunities as you can to gain some experience. It is connected with your plan. You might try to gain skills, which you will be able to take advantage in your future work of (and they don’t have to be gained in your dream field of work). Try to meet as many people from your future field. They are experienced and they can keep advising you during your learning process.

  • Don’t stop learning

Having your dreamed job, doesn’t mean that you are done with learning. As I mentioned at the begining, today’s world changes with light speed and you need to keep up with it. So make sure you do and you’ll be able to sleep with peace. If you think that your profession might disappear in short future, learn something new, so you’ll have more opportunities when you are forced to look for new job.

To summarise, living in changing world requires from us much more awareness and taking responsibility for our choices. We can’t think just about present, but we should consider how our skills might help us in the future. Just in case, if what we intend to do, does not exist any more.

And with this thought I will leave you today. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Why to plan, If I am going to change them over the time?

Hi guys,

Last three posts have been about planning for the New Year: setting your goals and working on them to actually achieve them. This topic is very long and we touched it just a bit. To go very deep into it, we could spend hundreds of posts on explaining various ways of planning for different people. As I’ve mentioned before, each of us is different. All of us are at different stage of life, experiencing different responsibilities, having different priorities, facing various difficulties… All of this makes different solutions more suitable for each of us. As I am not an expert, I don’t want to tell you what you should do and I am not able to give you any direction, which will lead you towards your goal for sure. In my opinion, there is no one solution, which will be perfect for everyone.

However, today I would like to focus on something else, which is actually connected with planning. As I was going to bed last night, I’ve decided to watch something on YouTube, before I will fall asleep. I saw an episode of a of Mateusz Kupilas’s podcast. He summarises his 2018 year. But he said very important thing (which will not be quoted here, just paraphrased). He said, that he never found himself in a situation, when at the end of the year, he thought that he from the past was right, while planning this year. That his goals and things he wants to achieve changed over the year. (If you are interested, here is a link toΒ Mateusz Kupilas’s video, which is in polish and maybe I don’t know where to look for but I couldn’t find subtitles).

So after hearing such statement, there is one question popping up into the head, which is: “If everything change, what is the point of planning ahead?”. In mentioned above video, this question is answered too. The whole point of planning is actually quite crucial, as it is a kick start for our action.

And I can agree with that completely. Of course each of us is going to keep changing. Each event happening in our life makes us a bit different, some situations change our priorities. We are getting older too. This makes us more experienced, we are more likely to think about settling down (no matter what that means for us). As we go we can realise, that what we wanted so much at the beginning of the year, might loose on it’s importance as we go. Or it might be same important, but there is something else being more important and will be better to focus on it at first.

That’s why it is important to look at your plan as at something which is going to change. If it will not, you know what to do. Otherwise, you can just adjust it a bit to your needs. Make sure that it will not put your down. After thinking a bit on this subject, I see my plan as a map shown on GPS. As you travel, it might change proposed way, as there might be some accident, or maybe it will find some solution, which will lead you quicker and easier to your destination.

That’s why, it is very important to me to plan my goal and some steps to achieve them. As I go, I might realise, that steps I need to take are not the best for me for some reason, but at the same time I might find the other way to achieve my goal. And if it will be more convenient at that time, of course I am going to go for it. Any way, I will get to the same point, eventually.

Before I’ll end this post, I would like to share one more advice (or maybe not advice, you can decide how are you going to look at this), but try to make your life as constant search. I’ve learnt this from my experience. If you think, that something is not for you, just change it for something else. Look for other solutions, for small things you might change. And I can promise you, that you will end up with ideas, which are meant for you. They will cause a drill each time, when you’ll think about them. The only thing is, that you have to give them a chance, see if after going through the rough time (which will most likely come, when starting new things), that this doesn’t mean that this is not for you. Very often beginnings are hard, what is going to happen after is important. But remember also, that each experience will teach you some lesson. Even if this lesson will be that this particular thing is not for you.

And this is it for today’s post. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Another point of view about changes

Hi guys,

As I said last time, I am returning to my schedule and this is the first post being on track. I have decided to postpone it a bit, because of all my deadlines in university and Christmas preparation, but here I am. I can’t believe that I have managed with catching up in my university. At the beginning it seemed manageable, but as I started working on all assignments, I’ve realised that there is much more to do than I thought. Any way, everything is ready now, so let’s move into today’s topic.

I am about to touch the subject, I have been talking about on this blog many times. However, today I would like to share a bit different point of view at it. Today, I am going to figure out, if there is as many changes as I thought there are. Obviously, they are some. Our environment changes, people around us change and finally each of us changes too. We experience new things every day and as a result we start looking at everything in a bit different way. And here came my question: as our perception changes, is it possible that in reality nothing else changes? Is it possible that because of the fact that we change, we look differently at things and we think they have changed, while we are the ones who are different?

I would like to share with you two examples. First of them are all the things we used to like as a children, but we don’t like them any more. In my case, there will be a lot of cartoons I used to watch as a child. That time they seemed very interesting and funny, I couldn’t forgive myself, when I missed even one episode (especially that at that time it was impossible to catch up online after) and basically it was so huge part of my life. Recently, I have been watching some of them again with my cousins and I can say that some of these old cartoons are valuable (however much more boring than they seemed to be in the past), while the other are just stupid. And looking for something funny in them does not make any sense.

The other thing is Christmas. I remember that as a child I used to wait for it since summer holiday ended. I couldn’t wait to meet my cousins, all family, to find out what Santa Claus is going to leave under the tree… All this made this time very special. It was hard to wait so long and so many times I wished that Christmas happened more than once in a year. At the moment, there is no such excitement. There are gifts, there is a family and of course I still enjoy it. But it is not the same any more. Maybe it is because of all magic, I used to believe as a child. Well, I don’t any more… And although Christmas is still very similar to this from my childhood, there are same people (more or less) coming to celebrate, the whole experience is completely different. Not as joyful as it used to be.

These two examples (well, I have some more, but I think you’ve got the point πŸ™‚ ) shows, some things, which haven’t changed in a long time. But the way how we look at them make them completely different, than they used to be. So sometimes it might be worth it to stop and ask this one question:

Did anything change around me? Or it is just me, looking at it in the different way?

And with this questions I am going to leave you today. I hope you enjoyed this post and I see you on Wednesday. I wish you a very productive day

Daria

PS. By the way, I hope your Christmas were amazing and very merry. I haven’t got chance to wish you all the best before πŸ˜‰ And of course I wish you a happy New Year!

Getting rid of the worse habit of mine. New challenge!

Hi guys,

Today, I am going to talk about very important part of self-development, which is getting rid of bad habits and I will take on the new challenge.

As I mentioned in few of my previous posts, habits are a very powerful tools in achieving anything you want. You want to learn something? Make a habit to spend time to master this skill. You want to be stronger? Make habit of exercising every morning. Just simply include it in your routine and before you’ll realise, you will be doing it on autopilot. Without wondering about all excuses.

However, not every habit is good. There are some, which are devastating for us. But before I will tell you about this group, let me tell you, how one of my friend explained me, what habit mean (please note that this is not an official definition):

Habits and addictions are actually same. Bad habit is called an addiction and good addiction is called a habit.

Why I have mentioned that? First I will tell you, that I am writing this post on Saturday and Sunday. Although, it will be published on Monday, I want to keep it as a preparation for war with the worse of my habits, namely: smoking.

This is one of my bad habits, I had a lot of attempts to stop. As I still struggle with it, you can figure out that they were just failures. Sometimes, things you want to get rid of, are being so rooted in your everyday life, that you are reaching for them automatically. This is how it looks like with my smoking. I have been smoking for about eight or nine years, but I have reached amount of 20 to 30 cigarettes a day. I started to smoke so much after beginning of this year, when there were just too many things happening and I couldn’t handle it. However, I really can see an impact of smoking in my body, but in my mental balance, too. I became much weaker, very often I need a break to catch some air, even if I just walk a bit quicker. But what is the worse, I became very prone to getting frustrated. It doesn’t make me blow or anything. But inside I can feel it. My failures from the past, the amount of money, I have to spend each week and finally, this shade of possible diseases I can get from smoking. All this makes me stop right away, but at the same time, there is this voice in my head saying: “You will fail again, don’t waste your time and effort!”.

Well, this is going to change, when you are reading it. This time I just know, I will be able to take control in my life and my schedule won’t be driven by cigarettes breaks. This time, I had done a great research and I know that being aware of symptoms connected to nicotine withdrawal, will help me to overcome them.

So here it is! My first day of not smoking! So far it is not that bad, but I also know that real struggle will start tomorrow. Keep your fingers crossed.

I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

P.S. To be more precised, this is first half day of not smoking, as I had three cigarettes left from yesterday. But it is first day of my challenge. If you are interested what tricks I am using to make sure I am not smoking, let me know in the comment section below. They might be useful if you are at the same place as me.

What have changed in more than one year of blogging?

Hi guys,

Mondays became my favourite days recently. I usually have so much to do, but all my tasks for the day make me really excited. I had to delay my YouTube channel, as it turnes out that there are a lot of noises in the background, so it would be quite annoying to watch (yeah, I’ve got so excited, that I didn’t think about listening it till last moment). However, it doesn’t mean that I have stopped working on it. While I am saving money to buy a proper microphone, I am preparing episodes, so after I can add a voiceover and they will be ready. It will hopefully help me, in case of any kind of emergency happening in my life, after it will start. They will be just ready to upload. And YouTube is a first task for me for Monday.

I also write a post on Monday, which literally make my day. I wouldn’t even suspect it, when I first started. I had a feeling that I will just write few post and I will get bored of it. However, I have been posting for more than one year! Of course, there were times, when I haven’t posted anything for a long time, but mostly it was caused by some emergency (like my recent visit to the hospital).

So today, I would like to share with you, what have changed in my life, since mymotivation.blog exists.

Let’s move right into the content.

I became more organised and stopped procrastinate as much

It might sound funny. How in the world one website might make you more organised? And how it influences your procrastination? I am not sure, if I will be able to explain it, but having a posts schedule made me keep planning all other tasks around my posts. Not only that, it helped me to actualy stick to this plan (yeah, I am not perfect; I have worse days too, but most of the time it is true). The reason for this is that I feel very bad, when I will not make it on time with my new post. Even if sometimes, there is not even one person reading it, it is so fun to actualy write something and be able to see it on my own website. And there is such rewarding feeling, when I can manage to do it on time. But to be able to keep it up, I have to make sure that other tasks are done, too. First of all, tasks have a magical power (seriously!). One day you are adding them to your to-do list, with the feeling that you still have a lot of time to get it done, while next time when you see them on the list, they are so close to the due date, that you have no idea what to do to be on time. So if I will let more than one task become urgent (or sometimes one time consuming is enough), I will be propably forced to put all other tasks aside and focus on what needs to be done now. And mostly in this situation, my blog post used to be late or left till other things were accomplished.

I have progressed in planning bigger projects

This is a very important one for me. Although I haven’t became a master yet (what you can see on the example of my YouTube channel), I became much better. Before, I used to plan my projects by starting planning job. This is what have happen with this blog. I have started posting, without any idea what or how I am going to keep up. For some of you (especially more experienced bloggers) my blog might be something, what does not really make any sense. I am posting since more than one year and it is very hard to find any focus of this blog. Sometimes I have this feeling too. However, this is my first serious project; requiring commitment, a lot of creativity to find an inspiration for a topic of each post. And in this project I have made a lot of mistakes, which are very precious lessons for the future. The most important of them, is to try to imagine the whole proccess, before you go for it. Visualise all steps you need to take to do, whatever you are trying to do. And after: do your research! This is something what I couldn’t figure out. That it is worthed to hear opinion of more experienced people, find out what kind of mistakes they’ve made and what advises they have (there are tons of blog post’s and YouTube videos about almost everything) and after that sit and plan your steps, try to figure out, what kind of obstacles you might find on the way and how you want to deal with them.

This leads to the next point:

I have learnt a lot about myself

This might be quite weird as well, but sharing your thoughts and feelings is giving you a lot of materials to come back to. Just reading my old posts makes me realise what shall I change in myself and let me understand better my thinking proccesses. And believe me or not, but sometimes, when I am reading my old posts, I am finding so many things about myself, that would annoy me in the other person. But it also gave me an opportunity to see, how much I have already changed during this time. And I believe, this is something usefull to know about yourself.

My English improved

This might be a bit unbelievable for some, as I still have a lot to do with my English skills. However, personaly I can see a difference already. First of all, writing comes much easier to me. On the beginning of my journey I had to check up a lot of words, which I needed to express my thoughts. Now it does happen occasionaly. And eventhough I know, I still make a lot spelling mistakes, maybe sometimes I am missusing words, however I am already proud of my progress (especially, that wordpress app on the phone doesn’t highlight spelling mistakes). There is also one more aspect of writting in the language which is not your native one. And what I want to talk about, is fear. When I was starting, I was anxious that people will start pointing my mistakes in negative way (I wouldn’t mind pointing them for learning purpose), call me stupid, illiteratare, etc. And it was not only on the blog. Before I would be scared to send any message to my boss, or friends because there might be some mistake. But I have understood, that people don’t care, at least as long as they are able to understand your point. So if you are in similar situation like me, I would advise you to ignore other people’s opinion and start writting as much as you can, because this is the best way to actually improve your writting.

I found place, where I can just throw all my thoughts out of my head

This is a good one, too. This blog became a place, where I can just write everything, what is in my head. My observations, opinions, feelings, frustrations, etc. This leaves my head so light, give me some place for new ideas. Journal would propably do same work, however keeping up with the journal never happen to me. So this is a perfect solution.

And these are all things, which have changed in my life (at least these, which I am aware of at the moment). I hoped you have enjoyed it and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Happy New Year! And 2018 resolutions :)

Hi guys,

As this end of the year was just crazy, full of unexpected events, guests and many, many beautifull moments, I’ve decided to take break (well, not first time, any way). People, who I haven’t seen for ages came to share this special time with me. Huge surprise, but how amazing at the same time!

Any way, today, while everyone is getting ready for New Year’s party, I’ve decided to use this time to write something for you, guys. First of all: Happy 2018 Year! I wish all your dreams will come true this year and I hope that this 2017 year, we are saying goodbye to, left some great memories in your hearts.

Tomorrow, we are going to start with new, blank page to write on. When I was a child, I liked to think about new year like this. Everything what have been good in all years was kept in memory, but all bad things have been forgotten. That time I was writting in my journal. Everything what happened each day, used to be documented. And by everything, I mean everything. I went to school – in my journal; I ate chocolate bar for snack – in my journal; even I thought at some point of the day, that it would be nice if it were snowing – guess what? – I can read it now, in my journal πŸ˜€ So unexpected, isn’t it πŸ˜€

I’ve lost my point: every year I used to buy new notebook to write in, so for me new year really meant a new blank page (or better notebook). Every 1st of January, when I used to sit behind my desk to tell about everything what happened, there was nothing to come back to. No bad bad things, only good things in my memory. Believe me, amazing feeling!

Nowadays I don’t have journal (well, I have my bullet journal, but let’s be honest: I use it more as a planner, than a place where I can just write every single detail of my day), but I found my old ones. And in the begining of each of them, there is some short summary of my previous year’s resolutions and new year’s resolutions. Every year very ambitious (like for a child), but what is most important, at the end of almost every year, they were just done. In all of my summaries it was written: this was something I wanted to do in the beginning of 2000 year and I’ve done it in this month. Unbelievable!

A the moment, I still do my resolution list, but let’s be honest, by the end of the year I don’t even have an idea, where this list is gone. So today, I am going to share with you some goals for 2018 year (I have another, bit bigger list in my bullet journal, but forgive me leaving my personal goals in secret πŸ˜‰ ).

2018 resolution list:

  • Keep my schedule of blog posts

As you might remember, I introduced my schedule some time ago and so far following it was just a fail. Huge fail! So at the end of the year I want to be able to say: Hey, for the whole year I kept publishing my posts ON TIME!”.

  • Bring projects from my head into the reality

You might know about some of those projects, as I wrote about them in my very first post. By now, I have few new one, being ideas in my head. Some of them where supposed to be ready by now… well.. This year, I want to work seriously hard and handle maximum two big projects at the time. And what really important, I want to have plan: my projects divided into small tasks with deadlines. Hopefully, before 2018 will end, you will already know, that some of them are actually done.

  • Start doing my university assignments when they are posted, not week before deadline

Yep, even if I know, that something will take a lot of time, I procrastinate it a lot, so when I am starting, I have only little time to finish it (be honest, not as well as I wish to) and only if I will not sleep for at least two or three nights providing my organism with huge ammount of coffee. Well, this new year I want to change it.

  • Last, but not least is to be more consistent

This is the harder one for me. I like to start a lot of different things, but quite quickly I am giving up. Even before I am able to judge, whether this particular activity is right for me or not. This was always a big challenge for me, but since this year, I want to make sure, that whatever I will start doing, I will do it consistently for at least half year.

And those are all my resolutions I want to share. There are some more, but as I said before, they are very personal.

So again, I wish you a happy New Year. I hope it will be much better than 2017 (even if 2017 was perfect, it can always be better πŸ˜‰ ). Now I wish you great new year’s party. I hope you will enjoy it and stay safe.

I’ll see you in brand new 2018 year.

Daria

P.S. I will up date post after New Year with New Years cover photo πŸ˜‰

Changes, changes and again: changes all around us!

Hi guys,

Well, it’s me again. After long, long time of absence. But I went for unplanned holiday. I intended to keep publishing, but after not seeing my family for more than half year, I wanted to spend as much time as I possibly can with them. And this is what I did.

As you may know, I have been having some health problems recently and this made me to go for holiday. I had to stop working for some time, so I can recover properly and who knows better place to recover than home you were growing in?

Now I am still back in my home, where there are so many great memories round every corner. All games, we were playing with my brothers, all conversations we had with our parents. Everything what have been making me happy, every struggle I needed to face… All this came to me.

But even if there is so many things, which hasn’t changed since I was a child, there is a lot of things I can’t reconize. Buildings in my home town have been renovated, there are many new ones as well. Some shopes I use to go before, don’t exist any more, but they are many more open instead. And finally people. Children I used to play with in past, aren’t children any more. They are adults now. Some of them have their own children already and everything what have left are our memories.

When we are staying in one place, we don’t see how many changes are taking place in our surrounding. We are meeting our family members and friends on daily basis, so we can’t record how different they are becoming. Our surrounding is changing as well, but all those changes are happening one by one and we are just getting used to them. They are becoming something, what we see every day. And we can’t even realise, when an old place have been changed and replaced by the new one.

Those changes are happening all the time. Not only in places where we used to live or where we are living currently. They are taking place all around the word. Let’s take technology for instance. Even if you were born in 90’s, when you were growing up, you propably haven’t got even simple cell phone. And children who were born just ten years after you, have smartphones (well, at least a lot of them do). When you have been spending hours and hours in library, just to find some information for your homework, they have everything at home (well, uncle google does know everything, doesn’t he?). Ok, when I was going to school, I could only dream to have at least computer without internet connection.

And what about medicine? Before, if you were born without leg, for example or you have loose some in the accident, you had to learn how to survive without it. At the moment, you can have a brand new robot one. That just amazing. Nowadays almost everything seem possible. Just imagine, than not so long ago people could only dream about flying. At the moment, any time you need or just want, you can book a ticket and plane is going to take you wherever you want. Simple like that…

You might be wondering, why I am talking so much about changes. Everyone knows, they are all around us, we don’t need to be super-perceptive to see that. But in my opinion very often we can’t realize, how quickly all those changes are going. We can easily say: with rocket’s speed. And this is amazing, but a bit scaring at the same time. Because how can we be sure, that tomorrow some invention will not get out of control?

But the biggest concern of mine is, that a lot of this changes seem to make us, human-beings less human-alike. People prefer to record someone’s accident, to upload it on youtube or anywhere else, instead of simply help. There is a lot of people (and what is more worrying: children as well), who can damage their health in various types of challenges, just to get new subscribers or likes and, what is much worse, there is a lot of people, who can ruin someone’s else life, for the same reasons.

Ok, but as an optimist, I need to belive, that people will still be people, who can enjoy all those changes wisely and use them to make our world a better place for everyone. And with this I am going to finish this post. I wish a very productive day to all of you (or if you are on holiday like me, I wish you to have a lot of relax, so you can face your normal schedule with smile on your face).

I see you in my next post

Daria

P.S. As I was talking about changes everywhere around us, I need to tell you about one change in my attitude, which is highly connected with this post. What I have realised while being in my mum’s home is, that I’ve started seeing this blog, as some kind of commitment (well, it is some kind of commitment, but in my case it was in very negative way). My own website became for me something, what I HAVE to do, instead of what I WANT to do. No matter what, no matter how I have to produce something. While, in my opinion, it should be nothing more, but fun. So I’ve decided not writting about what have been done, even if this was main purpose of this website. But simply write random things I’ve been thinking about or I’ve red recently. And just have fun about it. But to keep this blog as “My motivation” blog, I will be simply updating you as soon as any of my big projects will be finished, or when any new will come on sight.

I hope you will enjoy it as well πŸ™‚

12th day: why do people change?

Hi guys,

It’s already 12th day. I can’t belive, how fast our time goes. I still have a feeling, that I had settled this blog yesterday and at the same time I know, that it changed my life completely, like 180Β° turn. So I think, it’s great opportunity to talk about changes.

Very often we can see two people, who seem to do everything together. Like they never separate. They are just so similar: same hobby, dreams, goals… They spend every minute together. Like anyone else exists.

But after some time something goes wrong. One of them (or sometimes both) realizes, that they don’t have too much in common any more. When they’re meet, they have very little to talk about and almost nothing to do. And each of them thinks: “This other one changed. He/she used to be my soulmate, but now we are strangers to each other”.

And here is very important question: why all those changes have happened? People should be always same, shouldn’t they? Otherwise they aren’t themselves any more. They are becoming someone else. Someone new.

I have been thinking about this quite a lot (I’ve started long time before an idea of this blog appeared in my head) and I’ve came to some conclusions. Let me point them out:

Environment

You can say, what you want, but people around influence us a lot. Very often we adopt some of their behaviours, without even thinking about it. This is one of those things, which happen automatically. And some people will call it “learning process”, while for others it will be just copying. But no matter how you are going to name it, it’s going to happen.

Dreams and goals

This is quite important thing. While setting goals, we need to be aware of who we need to become, to actually achieve them. Each activity we are going to do, will require different behaviours, habits and even ways of thinking. For example, if our dream is to have a child and at the moment we are completely unorganized and carefree, we need to change it (well, at least if we want our child to survive with us). When we want to travel the world and we hardly can afflrd to make it till next payday, we have to have a closer look into our spendings and try to save some money. And many, many other.

Our “experiences bag”

Well, let’s make something clear: no matter what we are doing we are human beings. We make a lot of mistakes. And even if we get up after failures, we still keep them in our mind, so next time when similar situation happen, we know at least, what should we avoid and we look for other solution.

Financial situation

Ok, here we can say whatever we want, but we need to admit one thing: money change people. I am not saying that always for worse (very often happen), but for better as well. When we have enough money, we don’t need to think about where to get some from. We can afford for more, so we are trying new things, getting new experiences and learn from them. That changes us a lot.

Roles, we are playing in life

Well, most of people change, when they get job, when they become husbands, wife, or parents. Their priorities change, so they need to change their life to adjust to new situation.

Things we learn

This is kind a simple. When we learn new stuff, we understand more and our way of thinking changes according to what we know.
And those are things, which came to my mind so far. If you have any other idea, don’t hesitate to let me know in comment box below. I will love to find out what do you think about changes.

I don’t thing, that changes are bad. They are the best prove, that we are actually doing something with our life. That we develop ourself. Even if we change for worse, there is a possibility, that we are going to realize it and we will change again, this time for better. And as long, as all those changes don’t stop us to be who we are, they cannot be bad (at least not so bad). And this is my conclusion πŸ˜‰

And because it’s late already, I will move straight to today’s summary:

Being active – checked πŸ˜‰

CSS lesson – checked πŸ™‚

Next few chapters of Sunday book – checked πŸ™‚

Two chapter of book – checked πŸ™‚

Today’s post – checked πŸ™‚

And, of course, plan for tomorrow – checked πŸ™‚
For now I wish very productive day and a lots of good changes in your lives (there is never so good, that it cannot be better). And I’ll see you in next post πŸ™‚

Daria