Where is the world we know?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to share with me some thoughts regarding the current situation basically all over the world. And reading this post, you could be taking a different place. I personally know people, who are panicking and if they could, they would close themselves in the basement with all the toilet paper and pasta they bought. Some of my friends, on the other hand, don’t believe that this virus exists and all this is done to control people all over the world. There are also people somehow between that. They believe that virus exists and it is dangerous for some group of people, but not all. So they do not need to worry, as they are out of the risk.

I could discuss my opinion here. What and why I think a certain way, but because I am not an expert, I won’t. I wouldn’t give you advise if you came to me with any medical problem, as lack of my knowledge in this field could put your health or even life in danger. We have exactly the same thing here. Coronavirus is a disease and I simply don’t feel educated enough to speak publicly about it.

However, whether you believe that this virus exists or not, it has a huge impact on your and your family’s life. You could lose your job, or maybe you have been put on unpaid leave, your children are at home, while you might be working from home too. A lot of services are taking longer, we went through a phase, where shelves in shops were pretty much empty. There were cases when mothers couldn’t buy nappies for their children, simply because they weren’t available. Many people became homeless. For many families, the future is as unsure as it never was. All this is being called ‘the new normal’ and most of us got used to it already. Especially that most of the restriction has been lifted and we are able to live our ‘new normal life’ in a bit more similar way to our old normal.

Did it make it better? Well, definitely did. But we are still living in ‘the new normal’ reality. There are many people looking for jobs and realising that there isn’t as many. We don’t know if or rather when the lockdown will take place again. How many more companies will bankrupt? Will we be able to survive? And finally, how the world will look like when coronavirus will get under control, no matter what does it mean. How long it will take for people to gain trust that there is no risk? How long it will take for the economy to return to the state from before? Will it ever be the same?

I don’t think anyone knows the answer to this question. We need to wait to see what will happen. Most of us knew since the very long time that world changes constantly. Our world is different than the one our parents lived in, their was different than their parent’s one and so one. But I don’t think any of us suspected that it can change so fast. That is a matter of months, the entire world will be at home waiting for news and hoping they will be good.

So here we all are, trying to adjust, missing our families and looking forward to the time, when ‘our new normal’ will become ‘used to be normal’ and we will be free to live our lives as we want again. We hope, that we will manage to survive and that all this will become just an interesting story for our grandchildren. Many of us will probably start it something like this:

‘In 2020 all our lives turned over by 180 degrees. We’ve got an opportunity to realise how unstable our world could be, that one event might make us lose everything we have. But also in 2020, we understood what really is important in life: family, friends and all people around. Because when we were locked at home, with all the technology, with all money we had, we understood how much we missed our closest ones. We will never forget this feeling’.

I want to end this post slightly unusually. I would like to ask you for a favour for yourself. As soon as it will be safe, visit your friends and family and give each of them the biggest hug you are able too. And remember to appreciate all those who care about you, as they are more important than all the goods and wealth you’ll ever be able to collect.

And that’s it for today’s post. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Designing your dream life

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about something what is very important, yet mostly forgotten. I want to talk about dream life. All of us have some idea, how they would their life to look like. What they would like to do for a living, or not to have to work any more and have time for their passion.

Personally, I wish that one day I will own my property, not to be forced to move as often as I do now. I want to have a passive income on such level which allows me to pay all property related things and live decently.

Although, these seem like financial goals, they are just my way to achieve an alternative goal, which is to be able to spend as much time with my family as I want. I want to be able to visit my mum in Poland without begging for holiday first.

All this stuff require me to build my passive income such a way, that I will be able to receive a bit more money each month, than my regular spending. This would give me an opportunity to live my life with enough time for things that really matter: family and memories for my family.

This is my dream life and I am sure that most (if not all) of us would like to be in a place which is different than the current one. Maybe it is being a debt free, or being able to travel freely. Maybe just like me you want to simply have time for your family, without facing the fear of losing roof over your head.

Whatever it is, you might be in a place where I used to be. Thinking that it is what it is and you have to take it. That there is no point to try, as it isn’t going to change anyway.

Well, I have a good and a bad news for you. All in one. Let me quote:

Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right

Henry Ford

You have much more control over your life and, what’s more important, over your mindset. You can sit and keep taking everything as it is (and it is completely fine, if you chose so) or you can become more proactive and start changing your life bit by bit.

Let me be honest, before I’ll share my tips to design a dream life. Not everything is going to work plus it might turn out that your dream life isn’t as dreamed as you might think now. At the same time, it is important not to give up. Otherwise how are you going to judge, if you’ll never get there? And what is very important, the journey is what matters.

But let’s get to my tips (or steps) of designing a dream life:

Step 1: Analyse

This should be done even before you start thinking about designing your dream life, it might be a good idea to analyse your current situation. My way to do it is to write all this things that I like in my life on the one site of a paper and everything what I want to change on the other site. You can include everything, what you want. In my case some of the good things will be my family, the fact that we can afford to pay for roof over our head, that we have food on our plates, etc. Small things that I like, let me see, that my life is not a nightmare. Thinks I would change, is to move to our own property, to have a passive income, to spend more time with my son, etc.

As soon as I have these two list, I start asking “why” questions to things to change. For example, why do I want to move to our own property? Because I don’t want to keep moving. Why don’t you want to keep moving? I don’t want to have my son to change his school because of that. Why? It would take a sense of belonging out from his life. Why? Because his surrounding would be changing all the time?

As answers start being about one thing, or I simply don’t have any more of them I move to the next one. And all this till I’ll get definite answers for all of the things on this list.

That time I am going back to the other list and check if there are answers connected to things from it. As more I have, as more sure I am to be on the right path. And then, I move to the next step.

Step 2: Action plan and action itself

This is where all the hard work starts. You just need to pick up one of the things from your things to change list and write as many options or ways to change it as you could. But don’t get caught in a ‘there is no way to change it’ mindset. Let’s say you have picked to have a passive income one. You could create a digital product, you could write a book, or invest. For simplicity we have these three options only (in your it is good to include more in your action plan). You can go through everything you came up with and pick one of them again. If you’d have an cash laying around (except your emergency funds), you could chose investments, but there might be some risks connected to it. And let’s be honest, probably not many of us have money to invest. So you might decide to write a book. Think what your book could be about. Will it be a fiction, or non fiction book? Prepare an outline and start working on it in your spare time.

And here there are two things that can happen when you finish: you’ll either succeed or fail. In the first scenario, you need to decide whether you are happy with level of income you are getting? Will it decrease over a time? Are you fine with that? If no (or you failed), pick another option ( like creating your digital product) and start all over again. Just remember to learn from mistakes you could have made on your way. If yes, pick another thing from things to change list and repeat step 2.

All this might seem easy, but it is hard in fact. Changes are rarely happening within a days or even weeks. They are more likely to take a lot of time. But this is what it takes. Hard work, to get where you want to be or at least as close to that place as possible.

That’s all for today’s post. I would like to hear from you, what changes would you like to do in your life? Or maybe you are already living your dream life? Share it in a comment section below. I’ll be happy to read it.

For now I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Don’t expect different results, when you keep doing same things all over again

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about an aspect known probably by most of us. Either we are guilty of doing it or at least we know someone, who’s description I am going to present to you now.

Imagine the person, who says: “I would like to change my job, but there is no other job for me”. When asked: “Have you try to apply anywhere else?”.
“Yes, I did. But I haven’t got any response.”
“Have you thought why?”
“They all were requiring certain skills, which I don’t have. But I will keep trying to apply.”
“Have you done anything to get those skills?”
“No, but I will keep applying till I will get my dream job”.
This was just example. Person, who tries to get something, knows why he is not getting it, knows, what he should do to change it, but does nothing. Just keeps doing same, not working things, hoping that next time results will be different.
He might be lucky and that might be the case, but as he keeps trying with no desired results, chances for that are very low.
Any way, the person feels that he is doing his best. He keeps thinking that everything will change one day, even if he is making same mistakes all over again (in this made up story, he doesn’t get skills necessary for his dreamed job).
Although this isn’t a real story, I think all (or at least most) of us were in that place at least once. I like to call this kind of situation as ‘one day I will…’ time. After these three dots you can put whatever you want: one day I will get new job, start my business, travel, spend more time with my family, get skills I’ve always dreamed of and many more. Possibilities are endless, as many people as many cases (and also there are some, including myself, who could think about a lot of things to include in this statement). You know, this ‘I need to get my life together. One day I will…’
The only problem is that our life is passing by, it will not stop and take a break, just because we want it to. We also tend to forget that changes take time. We can change our attitude right away, but to see results of these changes, usually takes some time. It is very important thing to realise our power and believe in our ability to change the situation we are in.
Especially, that our actions might not work and we need to look for some other ways to make changes. If we will not give ourselves a chance to make a mistake, who else will?
So today, I have a challenge for each of you: think about your perfect life and decide what is your first step to get there. And most important: take this step, no matter how bouncy and hard this road seems to be.
That’s it for today’s post. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.
Daria

Set up a routine which works for everyone at home and stick to it

Hi guys,

Today I will talk about last of my 2020 resolutions. As you could see in this post, I have decided to focus on some things which are very important to me at the moment. It might seem that I went easy on myself this year (and this is most likely true), but I wanted to set goals, which will be possible to achieve. A lot of them (if not all in some way) are connected to my financial situation, as this is the biggest problem at the moment. Although, I know that there are a lot of people in much worse situation, I am also aware that in case of any emergency, we will struggle to get back on our feet, if we will not fix it as soon as possible.

This is one of the reasons why we need to set up a routine. Having me and my husband working full time is helping us to keep paying our debt relatively quickly. But it also makes it very hard to manage. We were advised to employ someone to look after our son while we are in work. But I can’t trust any stranger to look after such small baby, especially that even if something would go wrong, he wouldn’t be able to tell us. This forced us to work in different shifts and as I can’t imagine being all day away from my son, I’ve chosen night shift (night shifts are hard too, but at least when I am working, little guy is sleeping most of the time).

There are some small things I would like to achieve in our family life, even though me and my husband are working on different shifts. I wish to be able to spend as much quality time with my son as it is possible, I would like to spend time with my husband and make sure that both of us can have time for ourselves (whether it is for working on personal projects or just relaxing). I want to make sure that our home is clean and that there is always food in our fridge too. It might seem impossible, especially with a small child. Some of you might think that I am neglecting my son just because I am working full time and I, dreaming about free time, might seem like a horrible mother. But I am a true believer that sacrificing all your dreams and goals for a baby will not do well for you and at the end for your child. Also, I think that being able to get an extra income is good for my son too. Hopefully, very soon will be able to put some funds aside for his future, we’ll be able to buy a home, so wherever life is going to take my son, he’ll always have a place to come and forget about all his problem. And finally, we’ll be able to provide for his development, give him opportunities to find his way, by simply being able to afford things, he wants to try.

Kids are very amazing and they learn unbelievably fast. But at the same time, they are not reading books or taking various courses secretly. They are learning by watching their surrounding. Especially in the beginning of their lives, we, as a parents, are all their world. I want to create believe in my son’s head that he can manage a lot of things, without neglecting anything, as long as he will try very hard. And that if you work hard on something you love doing, you can steer your life in any direction you want.

Altgough, I would like to share our routine now, I haven’t found any so far. We are still testing and keep changing small bits and pieces of it. I might be even wrong and I can’t make it work for all of my requirements, but about this I am going to tell you, when we are going to find something what will be at least the best for us.

And this is it for today’s post. I hope you enjoyed reading it. If yes, I will appreciate if you will like this post and leave your thoughts in this subject in the comment section (I will be happy to read and reply to every single comment). But for now I wish you all a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

How to be creative? And what for?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about creativity and it’s importance. I will also share some tips, how to train your creativity.

But before we’ll go to training, let me explain, why I think that creativity is important. If you’ve read my last post, about changes in job environment, you might know that with technological development a lot of professions might disappear. However, I do think that it doesn’t mean that skills you need to do these jobs will become useless. The only think is to find the other way to use them, in order to provide for yourself and your family. And here creativity will come in handy.

Even now, there are a lot of universities producing unemployed graduates with huge loans to be paid for their studies. Even if their job haven’t disappear, there are so many specialists in their field, that finding a good job is being considered something close to mirracle. And very often these educated young people are forced to take some low paid job, or to stay unemployed, hoping that they are going to be part of mirracle.

At the same time, there are some grduates with the same degree, who managed to create very well paid job for themself. They just used their creativity to fill a gap between what people need and what market has to offer to these people.

That’s why I do believe, that creativity is one of the most important skills (or maybe characteristics will be a better word) in today’s world.

Ok, but what can you do, when you are not creative at all? Firstly, I think that this is a pure lie. Each and every of us is creative. The only difference between people who succeed and these who don’t is what these people do with their ideas. One of the examples for that might be my friend. Around five years ago he wanted to write a story or, if it’d turned like this, a book. He had great idea, I had an opportunity to read some fragment and I really thought that it will be very good job. However, after few days, he decided that there is no point, there will be no one who would like to read it. And he gave up. But I still think, that only if he wouldn’t give up that time, now he would be a very good writer.

So this is the main point of this post: to realise, that all of us are creative. We just can’t believe that it would work, so we are leaving our ideas far behind, just wondering what would happen if we would try.

However, we are never so creative, that we cannot be any more. So I will present you some of my tips to boost your creativity (most of them I found on various YouTube channels and blog post, but as it was long time ago, I will not be able to mention where exactly).

First of these excercises is to create a problem each day and write as many solution to solve it as we can (I put my minimum as five). Examples of such problem might be: “I lost my job out of blue, what I am going to do?” or “I found that I no longer have place to live, what I am going to do?”. This examples are quite challenging, especially that you have to find five possible solutions to them. But you can choose something less depressing, like “I want to develop an application, what it will be?”.

Another thing, I do to feel more creative, is that I am writting all crazy ideas that come to my mind. Each of them will do, if only while having them I was thinking: “this is pointless”. And from this list I pick one and try to make it happen (by the way, this blog is one of these ideas and so is my YouTube channel). They not always turn out to be good ideas, but at least I tried.

And last, but not least, have a hobby which requires you to create something. It might be writting, painting, drawing, making movies, designing clothes, etc. You don’t have to show it to anyone, if you don’t want to. Just do it for yourself, and do everything crazy what will come to your mind with it. You’ll see the difference very quickly, trust me. And who knows? Maybe it will become one more skill to help you in the future?

And with this thought I am going to leave you today. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

What shall I study to find a job after?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about something what have been bothering me for a long time, namely: new responsibilities. As we are all living in rapidly changing world, where we can’t really be sure what is going to happen tomorrow, we are exposed to many unexpected situations. On the top of this, more and more often we can hear, that soon robots are going to replace people in many jobs.

Sometimes, during conversations with my friends, I am finding out that they don’t see any point in further learning, as it will leave them as another uneployed master or phd diploma holder. And unfortunatelly, very often they are right. Especially if they are associating their education with standard institutions only, like schools, universities and some kind of courses on top of that. Even now, we have a lot of people being graduated with the best possible marks, but still struggling to find a job of their dream. But on the other hand, there are a lot of people, who hardly graduated from primary school, but doing great any way.

So what in reality matters when we are trying to plan our future? How to choose a degree, which will not end up as three years being wasted, leaving us with student loan? While thinking about answers for these questions, I came up with some tips for myself:

  • Whatever degree you choose, make sure you have a plan

This is very important thing for me. Starting a university, you are going to learn a lot of various things. At the same time, you are not going to need all knowledge, which you are going to get there. Having some kind of plan might help you decide, on which subjects do you need to focus more and which of them require you to have just some basic knowledge. Even if during your course you’ll change my mind, you will still have basic knowledge to explore the topic much quicker.

  • Make sure that you are going to learn something, what is interesting for you

This is something what a lot of people are forgetting about. Studying for even just three years might be quite a hard task. But if you study something what makes you bored… well, I wish you good luck… But if you are thinking that it is just three years, you can survive it, remember that there are many years of work in choosen profession ahead of you. So maybe it is worthed to consider, wether you really can survive?

  • Don’t focus just on your university work

I think, this is the most important thing. While you are learning, try to find as many opportunities as you can to gain some experience. It is connected with your plan. You might try to gain skills, which you will be able to take advantage in your future work of (and they don’t have to be gained in your dream field of work). Try to meet as many people from your future field. They are experienced and they can keep advising you during your learning process.

  • Don’t stop learning

Having your dreamed job, doesn’t mean that you are done with learning. As I mentioned at the begining, today’s world changes with light speed and you need to keep up with it. So make sure you do and you’ll be able to sleep with peace. If you think that your profession might disappear in short future, learn something new, so you’ll have more opportunities when you are forced to look for new job.

To summarise, living in changing world requires from us much more awareness and taking responsibility for our choices. We can’t think just about present, but we should consider how our skills might help us in the future. Just in case, if what we intend to do, does not exist any more.

And with this thought I will leave you today. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Why to plan, If I am going to change them over the time?

Hi guys,

Last three posts have been about planning for the New Year: setting your goals and working on them to actually achieve them. This topic is very long and we touched it just a bit. To go very deep into it, we could spend hundreds of posts on explaining various ways of planning for different people. As I’ve mentioned before, each of us is different. All of us are at different stage of life, experiencing different responsibilities, having different priorities, facing various difficulties… All of this makes different solutions more suitable for each of us. As I am not an expert, I don’t want to tell you what you should do and I am not able to give you any direction, which will lead you towards your goal for sure. In my opinion, there is no one solution, which will be perfect for everyone.

However, today I would like to focus on something else, which is actually connected with planning. As I was going to bed last night, I’ve decided to watch something on YouTube, before I will fall asleep. I saw an episode of a of Mateusz Kupilas’s podcast. He summarises his 2018 year. But he said very important thing (which will not be quoted here, just paraphrased). He said, that he never found himself in a situation, when at the end of the year, he thought that he from the past was right, while planning this year. That his goals and things he wants to achieve changed over the year. (If you are interested, here is a link to Mateusz Kupilas’s video, which is in polish and maybe I don’t know where to look for but I couldn’t find subtitles).

So after hearing such statement, there is one question popping up into the head, which is: “If everything change, what is the point of planning ahead?”. In mentioned above video, this question is answered too. The whole point of planning is actually quite crucial, as it is a kick start for our action.

And I can agree with that completely. Of course each of us is going to keep changing. Each event happening in our life makes us a bit different, some situations change our priorities. We are getting older too. This makes us more experienced, we are more likely to think about settling down (no matter what that means for us). As we go we can realise, that what we wanted so much at the beginning of the year, might loose on it’s importance as we go. Or it might be same important, but there is something else being more important and will be better to focus on it at first.

That’s why it is important to look at your plan as at something which is going to change. If it will not, you know what to do. Otherwise, you can just adjust it a bit to your needs. Make sure that it will not put your down. After thinking a bit on this subject, I see my plan as a map shown on GPS. As you travel, it might change proposed way, as there might be some accident, or maybe it will find some solution, which will lead you quicker and easier to your destination.

That’s why, it is very important to me to plan my goal and some steps to achieve them. As I go, I might realise, that steps I need to take are not the best for me for some reason, but at the same time I might find the other way to achieve my goal. And if it will be more convenient at that time, of course I am going to go for it. Any way, I will get to the same point, eventually.

Before I’ll end this post, I would like to share one more advice (or maybe not advice, you can decide how are you going to look at this), but try to make your life as constant search. I’ve learnt this from my experience. If you think, that something is not for you, just change it for something else. Look for other solutions, for small things you might change. And I can promise you, that you will end up with ideas, which are meant for you. They will cause a drill each time, when you’ll think about them. The only thing is, that you have to give them a chance, see if after going through the rough time (which will most likely come, when starting new things), that this doesn’t mean that this is not for you. Very often beginnings are hard, what is going to happen after is important. But remember also, that each experience will teach you some lesson. Even if this lesson will be that this particular thing is not for you.

And this is it for today’s post. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Another point of view about changes

Hi guys,

As I said last time, I am returning to my schedule and this is the first post being on track. I have decided to postpone it a bit, because of all my deadlines in university and Christmas preparation, but here I am. I can’t believe that I have managed with catching up in my university. At the beginning it seemed manageable, but as I started working on all assignments, I’ve realised that there is much more to do than I thought. Any way, everything is ready now, so let’s move into today’s topic.

I am about to touch the subject, I have been talking about on this blog many times. However, today I would like to share a bit different point of view at it. Today, I am going to figure out, if there is as many changes as I thought there are. Obviously, they are some. Our environment changes, people around us change and finally each of us changes too. We experience new things every day and as a result we start looking at everything in a bit different way. And here came my question: as our perception changes, is it possible that in reality nothing else changes? Is it possible that because of the fact that we change, we look differently at things and we think they have changed, while we are the ones who are different?

I would like to share with you two examples. First of them are all the things we used to like as a children, but we don’t like them any more. In my case, there will be a lot of cartoons I used to watch as a child. That time they seemed very interesting and funny, I couldn’t forgive myself, when I missed even one episode (especially that at that time it was impossible to catch up online after) and basically it was so huge part of my life. Recently, I have been watching some of them again with my cousins and I can say that some of these old cartoons are valuable (however much more boring than they seemed to be in the past), while the other are just stupid. And looking for something funny in them does not make any sense.

The other thing is Christmas. I remember that as a child I used to wait for it since summer holiday ended. I couldn’t wait to meet my cousins, all family, to find out what Santa Claus is going to leave under the tree… All this made this time very special. It was hard to wait so long and so many times I wished that Christmas happened more than once in a year. At the moment, there is no such excitement. There are gifts, there is a family and of course I still enjoy it. But it is not the same any more. Maybe it is because of all magic, I used to believe as a child. Well, I don’t any more… And although Christmas is still very similar to this from my childhood, there are same people (more or less) coming to celebrate, the whole experience is completely different. Not as joyful as it used to be.

These two examples (well, I have some more, but I think you’ve got the point 🙂 ) shows, some things, which haven’t changed in a long time. But the way how we look at them make them completely different, than they used to be. So sometimes it might be worth it to stop and ask this one question:

Did anything change around me? Or it is just me, looking at it in the different way?

And with this questions I am going to leave you today. I hope you enjoyed this post and I see you on Wednesday. I wish you a very productive day

Daria

PS. By the way, I hope your Christmas were amazing and very merry. I haven’t got chance to wish you all the best before 😉 And of course I wish you a happy New Year!

Getting rid of the worse habit of mine. New challenge!

Hi guys,

Today, I am going to talk about very important part of self-development, which is getting rid of bad habits and I will take on the new challenge.

As I mentioned in few of my previous posts, habits are a very powerful tools in achieving anything you want. You want to learn something? Make a habit to spend time to master this skill. You want to be stronger? Make habit of exercising every morning. Just simply include it in your routine and before you’ll realise, you will be doing it on autopilot. Without wondering about all excuses.

However, not every habit is good. There are some, which are devastating for us. But before I will tell you about this group, let me tell you, how one of my friend explained me, what habit mean (please note that this is not an official definition):

Habits and addictions are actually same. Bad habit is called an addiction and good addiction is called a habit.

Why I have mentioned that? First I will tell you, that I am writing this post on Saturday and Sunday. Although, it will be published on Monday, I want to keep it as a preparation for war with the worse of my habits, namely: smoking.

This is one of my bad habits, I had a lot of attempts to stop. As I still struggle with it, you can figure out that they were just failures. Sometimes, things you want to get rid of, are being so rooted in your everyday life, that you are reaching for them automatically. This is how it looks like with my smoking. I have been smoking for about eight or nine years, but I have reached amount of 20 to 30 cigarettes a day. I started to smoke so much after beginning of this year, when there were just too many things happening and I couldn’t handle it. However, I really can see an impact of smoking in my body, but in my mental balance, too. I became much weaker, very often I need a break to catch some air, even if I just walk a bit quicker. But what is the worse, I became very prone to getting frustrated. It doesn’t make me blow or anything. But inside I can feel it. My failures from the past, the amount of money, I have to spend each week and finally, this shade of possible diseases I can get from smoking. All this makes me stop right away, but at the same time, there is this voice in my head saying: “You will fail again, don’t waste your time and effort!”.

Well, this is going to change, when you are reading it. This time I just know, I will be able to take control in my life and my schedule won’t be driven by cigarettes breaks. This time, I had done a great research and I know that being aware of symptoms connected to nicotine withdrawal, will help me to overcome them.

So here it is! My first day of not smoking! So far it is not that bad, but I also know that real struggle will start tomorrow. Keep your fingers crossed.

I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

P.S. To be more precised, this is first half day of not smoking, as I had three cigarettes left from yesterday. But it is first day of my challenge. If you are interested what tricks I am using to make sure I am not smoking, let me know in the comment section below. They might be useful if you are at the same place as me.

What have changed in more than one year of blogging?

Hi guys,

Mondays became my favourite days recently. I usually have so much to do, but all my tasks for the day make me really excited. I had to delay my YouTube channel, as it turnes out that there are a lot of noises in the background, so it would be quite annoying to watch (yeah, I’ve got so excited, that I didn’t think about listening it till last moment). However, it doesn’t mean that I have stopped working on it. While I am saving money to buy a proper microphone, I am preparing episodes, so after I can add a voiceover and they will be ready. It will hopefully help me, in case of any kind of emergency happening in my life, after it will start. They will be just ready to upload. And YouTube is a first task for me for Monday.

I also write a post on Monday, which literally make my day. I wouldn’t even suspect it, when I first started. I had a feeling that I will just write few post and I will get bored of it. However, I have been posting for more than one year! Of course, there were times, when I haven’t posted anything for a long time, but mostly it was caused by some emergency (like my recent visit to the hospital).

So today, I would like to share with you, what have changed in my life, since mymotivation.blog exists.

Let’s move right into the content.

I became more organised and stopped procrastinate as much

It might sound funny. How in the world one website might make you more organised? And how it influences your procrastination? I am not sure, if I will be able to explain it, but having a posts schedule made me keep planning all other tasks around my posts. Not only that, it helped me to actualy stick to this plan (yeah, I am not perfect; I have worse days too, but most of the time it is true). The reason for this is that I feel very bad, when I will not make it on time with my new post. Even if sometimes, there is not even one person reading it, it is so fun to actualy write something and be able to see it on my own website. And there is such rewarding feeling, when I can manage to do it on time. But to be able to keep it up, I have to make sure that other tasks are done, too. First of all, tasks have a magical power (seriously!). One day you are adding them to your to-do list, with the feeling that you still have a lot of time to get it done, while next time when you see them on the list, they are so close to the due date, that you have no idea what to do to be on time. So if I will let more than one task become urgent (or sometimes one time consuming is enough), I will be propably forced to put all other tasks aside and focus on what needs to be done now. And mostly in this situation, my blog post used to be late or left till other things were accomplished.

I have progressed in planning bigger projects

This is a very important one for me. Although I haven’t became a master yet (what you can see on the example of my YouTube channel), I became much better. Before, I used to plan my projects by starting planning job. This is what have happen with this blog. I have started posting, without any idea what or how I am going to keep up. For some of you (especially more experienced bloggers) my blog might be something, what does not really make any sense. I am posting since more than one year and it is very hard to find any focus of this blog. Sometimes I have this feeling too. However, this is my first serious project; requiring commitment, a lot of creativity to find an inspiration for a topic of each post. And in this project I have made a lot of mistakes, which are very precious lessons for the future. The most important of them, is to try to imagine the whole proccess, before you go for it. Visualise all steps you need to take to do, whatever you are trying to do. And after: do your research! This is something what I couldn’t figure out. That it is worthed to hear opinion of more experienced people, find out what kind of mistakes they’ve made and what advises they have (there are tons of blog post’s and YouTube videos about almost everything) and after that sit and plan your steps, try to figure out, what kind of obstacles you might find on the way and how you want to deal with them.

This leads to the next point:

I have learnt a lot about myself

This might be quite weird as well, but sharing your thoughts and feelings is giving you a lot of materials to come back to. Just reading my old posts makes me realise what shall I change in myself and let me understand better my thinking proccesses. And believe me or not, but sometimes, when I am reading my old posts, I am finding so many things about myself, that would annoy me in the other person. But it also gave me an opportunity to see, how much I have already changed during this time. And I believe, this is something usefull to know about yourself.

My English improved

This might be a bit unbelievable for some, as I still have a lot to do with my English skills. However, personaly I can see a difference already. First of all, writing comes much easier to me. On the beginning of my journey I had to check up a lot of words, which I needed to express my thoughts. Now it does happen occasionaly. And eventhough I know, I still make a lot spelling mistakes, maybe sometimes I am missusing words, however I am already proud of my progress (especially, that wordpress app on the phone doesn’t highlight spelling mistakes). There is also one more aspect of writting in the language which is not your native one. And what I want to talk about, is fear. When I was starting, I was anxious that people will start pointing my mistakes in negative way (I wouldn’t mind pointing them for learning purpose), call me stupid, illiteratare, etc. And it was not only on the blog. Before I would be scared to send any message to my boss, or friends because there might be some mistake. But I have understood, that people don’t care, at least as long as they are able to understand your point. So if you are in similar situation like me, I would advise you to ignore other people’s opinion and start writting as much as you can, because this is the best way to actually improve your writting.

I found place, where I can just throw all my thoughts out of my head

This is a good one, too. This blog became a place, where I can just write everything, what is in my head. My observations, opinions, feelings, frustrations, etc. This leaves my head so light, give me some place for new ideas. Journal would propably do same work, however keeping up with the journal never happen to me. So this is a perfect solution.

And these are all things, which have changed in my life (at least these, which I am aware of at the moment). I hoped you have enjoyed it and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria