Don’t expect different results, when you keep doing same things all over again

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about an aspect known probably by most of us. Either we are guilty of doing it or at least we know someone, who’s description I am going to present to you now.

Imagine the person, who says: “I would like to change my job, but there is no other job for me”. When asked: “Have you try to apply anywhere else?”.
“Yes, I did. But I haven’t got any response.”
“Have you thought why?”
“They all were requiring certain skills, which I don’t have. But I will keep trying to apply.”
“Have you done anything to get those skills?”
“No, but I will keep applying till I will get my dream job”.
This was just example. Person, who tries to get something, knows why he is not getting it, knows, what he should do to change it, but does nothing. Just keeps doing same, not working things, hoping that next time results will be different.
He might be lucky and that might be the case, but as he keeps trying with no desired results, chances for that are very low.
Any way, the person feels that he is doing his best. He keeps thinking that everything will change one day, even if he is making same mistakes all over again (in this made up story, he doesn’t get skills necessary for his dreamed job).
Although this isn’t a real story, I think all (or at least most) of us were in that place at least once. I like to call this kind of situation as ‘one day I will…’ time. After these three dots you can put whatever you want: one day I will get new job, start my business, travel, spend more time with my family, get skills I’ve always dreamed of and many more. Possibilities are endless, as many people as many cases (and also there are some, including myself, who could think about a lot of things to include in this statement). You know, this ‘I need to get my life together. One day I will…’
The only problem is that our life is passing by, it will not stop and take a break, just because we want it to. We also tend to forget that changes take time. We can change our attitude right away, but to see results of these changes, usually takes some time. It is very important thing to realise our power and believe in our ability to change the situation we are in.
Especially, that our actions might not work and we need to look for some other ways to make changes. If we will not give ourselves a chance to make a mistake, who else will?
So today, I have a challenge for each of you: think about your perfect life and decide what is your first step to get there. And most important: take this step, no matter how bouncy and hard this road seems to be.
That’s it for today’s post. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.
Daria

Why it is important to make good choices? And what, if we didn’t?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about choices. As everything we are doing is a result of decission we have made at some point, being able to make a good choice is a very important skill. Things we are doing at the moment might have huge impact on our future life, either positive or negative. However, it is very often difficult to detrmine which of the possible options is the best and whether it is going to bring anything good into our lives.

There are also things, we just can’t predict. I’ve heard very often, when after some let’s say car accident where someone died, person who survived is blaming him or herself for this death. Even if this was something, what wasn’t anyone’s fault. But they have these thoughts in their heads like: “If only I have choosen the other way” or “If only I would agreed to change place with her” and so on.

There is always this if. But as in case of accidents we was not able to prevent it (of course if we weren’t this drunk driver speeding 150 miles per hour), certain actions will most likely bring some kind of results, which at the time of making decissions, we might not be aware of.

The good example are people who decide to start their business and spend all their free time working on it. They resign from contact with their family and friends, just to achieve this one goal. However, when their business turn out to be a great success (or failure), they is no one around them to share the joy or there is no one to give them a shoulder to cry on. Everything started, when they decided that working is the most important thing which they want to spend their time on, while they weren’t able to predict that they will be left alone with whatever outcome they will get.

I would like to share with you some tips on making good decissions in life, but I don’t know any of them. The only thing I can think of is to do research and analyse, but again, everyone’s life is different. You have to take the risk (as long as it will be wise risk) and go for your goals. However, it is also important to be ready to pay for consequences of your choices. I think, this is what makes you an adult. Being able to say: “Hey, sorry it was my mistake, what can I do to fix it?”. This make you a responsible person, even if your soul seems to stop at the age of three 😉

I will leave you with this thought today. I wish you a very productive day with only good choices and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria