One more thing that I’ve learnt since having my son

Hi guys,

Recently I’ve been getting caught in watching my son’s development. It is an amazing feeling to see how every day he is being less of a baby and how every day he is learning something new. These simple things for me and you like walking, holding a spoon or simply communicating what he needs at any given moment, make him more independent.

And we could say, that such a small creature can not teach us anything. He is the one who is learning, isn’t he? For me, looking after him is the hardest, but at the same time the most rewarding lesson in my life. So today I would like to share with you one more thing that my son has taught me.

Let me tell you the backstory first. The company I used to work for has closed down a month ago and before all workers have been laid out for a while, so as a result, I haven’t been at work for quite a while. But as I’ve got the news that there won’t be any returning to my previous workplace, I’ve decided to look for the new one. After consulting with my husband, we got to the conclusion that the best option for us would be if I would start working part-time, so I wouldn’t be too tired to look after our son. However, we all know what times we are living in, and we all know that it hasn’t been so hard to find employment since a long time as it is now. So when I got a full-time job offer, I just took it. This way, here I am working over 40 hours a week during nights and watching my son in the day time. But I have to admit: although sometimes my brain switches into zombie mode for a while, there are moments when I just want sit in a corner of my bed and cry, I am very grateful for having this job and an opportunity to still have a lot of time with my son.

Nevertheless coming back to the story, when I am very sleepy, it takes me a bit more time to figure out what my son is asking me for (he doesn’t talk apart of few single worlds, he communicates his needs and wants by showing us). And he keeps telling me on his way, till he gets what he wants. No matter how long it takes me to understand him, he doesn’t give up till I’ll finally realize.

Where is the lesson? You might be thinking now. All children do this, as otherwise, we would be leaving them hungry, in dirty nappies and even forgot about them sometimes. That’s, of course, true, mother nature made them able to survive this way. As they don’t know any of the world’s rules, there are no impossible things for them. Danger doesn’t exist too, that’s why parents grow invisible eyes on the back of their heads, but this is a story for the other time 😉 But having no limits (at least in their heads), children do fight for what they think they should have (read: everything).

As we grew up, we learnt that we can’t have whatever we want. On the way, our self-esteem got lower too, so even things that are within our capability seem impossible to get. We are not good enough to pursue this or that profession, we are not able to earn enough money to buy a home or car or whatever else we dream of. We can’t and that’s it.

On the other hand, children will keep looking for the other way to get what they want. They will not give up (at least until something else will distract them). Their small goals, which for us are worthed nothing, for them are everything that they want to live for at that moment. And they just go for it.

To conclude, a very important lesson from my son is to stay persistent on the way to achieving goals. Get failures quickly and try the other way. Because you cannot have a destination if there is no road to lead to it. And even if there is no road, you can still be the one, who will build a new one for others to follow.

That’s it for today’s post. If you have a different lesson to learn from children, please share it in the comment. I will be happy to read all of them. For now, I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Are failures pointless?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about failures. What is my opinion about them and how to cope with their consequenses.

But before this, let me explain what is a failure in my understanding? I would consider anything as a failure, if two condition are met: I have to work on something myself and expectations I had before starting my job are not met at the end of it. What I mean by that? Let’s say, at the moment I am trying to set up my business and my expectation is that some day it will start being profitable. Now, if I want to decide whether it is a failure, I have to finish working on it. That means, if I will decide that my work is pointless and just resign and I will not get any profit out of it, I will say: “It was a failure”.

So let’s talk about the way, how to deal with it. To do so, I will take an example with setting up your company. So, you’ve spent a lot of time researching, preparing all resources needed to work, maybe you’ve created some product, stocked the warehouse with some materials to produce… so what now?

I can see two options, bad and good. Bad one is that you can just give up, forget and find a full-time job. Why is it bad? Because failures happen for some reason. They are a lesson you’ve got from life to learn from your mistakes. Giving up and forgetting means that you haven’t take chance of this opportunity. It is hard of course, but it will make you stronger and wiser, if you would like to try the other time.

Good one is to take an advantage of this lesson. Analyse problem and try to figure out what went wrong. If you would manage to figure out how to improve your actions next time (if you fell in debt, getting some full-time job temporary might be a good thing) and come up with another idea, you will be one step closer to succeed this time. Maybe you were just this only one step away when you failed?

And according to me, it is also a good thing, if you will learn your lesson, but decide that business is not your thing. I know many people, who wouldn’t start their business, just because they don’t want to cope with stress connected to it on a daily basis. And this is wise decission after all. If you were to do something you don’t enjoy and what exhaust you mentaly, it might be worth it to look for the other way and not to struggle.

I hope this post was helpful. This is it for today. I wish you very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria