What I want to do before giving birth?

Hi guys,

Today is a very special day for me. I’ve managed to make up all my tasks (that’s why this post is being uploaded later that usually, but I hoped to be able to share this with you). It has been very hard two weeks and I will try and make sure that I will not get so behind any more (well, everyone is saying that my world will turn around when my son is going to be born and they are probably right). That’s why my plan for now is to prepare.

I don’t know if you remember my post about holiday where I shared some tips on preparing for taking longer break. One of the tips was to get some tasks done in advance. And this is exactly what I am going to do before delivery (which can actualy happen very soon). I have also realised that we are completely unprepared for a little human being to come, literally we have nothing. So this is the priority task for now: to equip our son properly.

I used to be very scared at the beginning, as even if I wanted a child very badly, I had doubts if we are able to cope with all new responsibilities. And I will not lie, I am still scared. I don’t think you can ever be ready for a baby. But having this small feet kicking me each day, seeing my bump moving as my baby is changing position and even playing with my son (really, it is possible to play with a baby in your tummy; I’ve never believed in that) makes me more confident. I know I won’t be a perfect mother, but the only thing I know for sure, is that I am going to do my best.

And just to ease my mind I want to have as much work done as possible. It will allow me to spend these early weeks of his life with my son, without worrying too much about things to do. Of course, I can’t do everything in advance, but at least I will sort out posts for this blog, so I can just have them ready to upload. Also episodes for my channel (with episodes is easier, as each of them is a next part of one series, so I just need to schedule them for each Friday). This will keep my projects going, without me spending time on them. When I will have holiday to look after my son.

So these are my plans for the next couple of weeks (or maybe a bit longer). I will prepare post about my planning schedule as well and it will be uploaded on Monday or Wednesday (preparing screenshots and pictures will make it a bit more time-consuming, but I hope you will like it).

So this is it for today’s post. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Where shall I take motivation from?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about days, when you just can’t do anything. Whenever you think about doing any work, you have a feeling that this is not the day. Everything seems impossible.

I think that these kind of days are happening to all of us. We are just humans and we can’t work day after day. That’s why it is important to take some breaks sometimes. However, if this happens to us every day for a long time, we should analyse what is causing that. There might be a lot of reasons for this, starting from tiredness, the nature of our tasks (they might be not something what we really enjoy to do), fear of failure (it is better not to start, if I might fail) or success (what will people think?) and in the worse scenario: it might be one of the signs of burnt out or depression. The last one is the worst, as it is a serious problem and it is very important to get help, if it is the case.

However, if you are sure that depression is not the case, there are some steps you can take to make yourself more motivated. First of all, is to determine what is causing this kind of behaviour. Maybe it is just tiredness and the only thing you need to do is to take some holiday (you can read here to see my advises before taking a holiday). Or simply one week of break from these tasks should do the job.

A bit harder thing is fear. Why so? To realise that you are afraid (whether of failure or success) might be very tricky. You can have that feeling without realising it. I used to be worried about failing. Although, I knew that every attempt of leaving my comfort zone will be connected with fear, I didn’t realised that it was keeping me away from work for quite long time. Similarly, applying for my uni two years ago made me feel same: “What if I will not manage language wise?” or “What if I will not be able even to get to university?” and finally: “What will people around me say? Will they make a fun of me?”. These were just some of the questions didding my head. And do you know what? None of them was valid. Ok, at the beginning it was a bit hard for me to understand what lecturers are saying to us. But eventually, I am able to follow their speach without special effort. Almost as English were my mother language. Well, it looks like practice really makes pefect and if I wouldn’t try, I wouldn’t know till now.

If your problem is the nature of tasks, this might be also quite hard to handle in some cases. But what you might want to consider, is to change subject of you actions. If this is not possible at the moment, just find something what you love to do and incorporate it into your schedule. I know, including more work, while you can’t force yourself to complete current tasks seems a bit weird. But remember, it does not have to be another task. Try to go for something what you actually enjoy doing. Maybe a netflix session? Going for a walk with your family? Choose what suits you the most and enjoy! Having something what you are looking forward to might motivate you to work. Any way, you’ll just finish these tasks and you are going to spend amazing time, aren’t you?

And I am going to leave you with this thought. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

How to be creative? And what for?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about creativity and it’s importance. I will also share some tips, how to train your creativity.

But before we’ll go to training, let me explain, why I think that creativity is important. If you’ve read my last post, about changes in job environment, you might know that with technological development a lot of professions might disappear. However, I do think that it doesn’t mean that skills you need to do these jobs will become useless. The only think is to find the other way to use them, in order to provide for yourself and your family. And here creativity will come in handy.

Even now, there are a lot of universities producing unemployed graduates with huge loans to be paid for their studies. Even if their job haven’t disappear, there are so many specialists in their field, that finding a good job is being considered something close to mirracle. And very often these educated young people are forced to take some low paid job, or to stay unemployed, hoping that they are going to be part of mirracle.

At the same time, there are some grduates with the same degree, who managed to create very well paid job for themself. They just used their creativity to fill a gap between what people need and what market has to offer to these people.

That’s why I do believe, that creativity is one of the most important skills (or maybe characteristics will be a better word) in today’s world.

Ok, but what can you do, when you are not creative at all? Firstly, I think that this is a pure lie. Each and every of us is creative. The only difference between people who succeed and these who don’t is what these people do with their ideas. One of the examples for that might be my friend. Around five years ago he wanted to write a story or, if it’d turned like this, a book. He had great idea, I had an opportunity to read some fragment and I really thought that it will be very good job. However, after few days, he decided that there is no point, there will be no one who would like to read it. And he gave up. But I still think, that only if he wouldn’t give up that time, now he would be a very good writer.

So this is the main point of this post: to realise, that all of us are creative. We just can’t believe that it would work, so we are leaving our ideas far behind, just wondering what would happen if we would try.

However, we are never so creative, that we cannot be any more. So I will present you some of my tips to boost your creativity (most of them I found on various YouTube channels and blog post, but as it was long time ago, I will not be able to mention where exactly).

First of these excercises is to create a problem each day and write as many solution to solve it as we can (I put my minimum as five). Examples of such problem might be: “I lost my job out of blue, what I am going to do?” or “I found that I no longer have place to live, what I am going to do?”. This examples are quite challenging, especially that you have to find five possible solutions to them. But you can choose something less depressing, like “I want to develop an application, what it will be?”.

Another thing, I do to feel more creative, is that I am writting all crazy ideas that come to my mind. Each of them will do, if only while having them I was thinking: “this is pointless”. And from this list I pick one and try to make it happen (by the way, this blog is one of these ideas and so is my YouTube channel). They not always turn out to be good ideas, but at least I tried.

And last, but not least, have a hobby which requires you to create something. It might be writting, painting, drawing, making movies, designing clothes, etc. You don’t have to show it to anyone, if you don’t want to. Just do it for yourself, and do everything crazy what will come to your mind with it. You’ll see the difference very quickly, trust me. And who knows? Maybe it will become one more skill to help you in the future?

And with this thought I am going to leave you today. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

What have changed in more than one year of blogging?

Hi guys,

Mondays became my favourite days recently. I usually have so much to do, but all my tasks for the day make me really excited. I had to delay my YouTube channel, as it turnes out that there are a lot of noises in the background, so it would be quite annoying to watch (yeah, I’ve got so excited, that I didn’t think about listening it till last moment). However, it doesn’t mean that I have stopped working on it. While I am saving money to buy a proper microphone, I am preparing episodes, so after I can add a voiceover and they will be ready. It will hopefully help me, in case of any kind of emergency happening in my life, after it will start. They will be just ready to upload. And YouTube is a first task for me for Monday.

I also write a post on Monday, which literally make my day. I wouldn’t even suspect it, when I first started. I had a feeling that I will just write few post and I will get bored of it. However, I have been posting for more than one year! Of course, there were times, when I haven’t posted anything for a long time, but mostly it was caused by some emergency (like my recent visit to the hospital).

So today, I would like to share with you, what have changed in my life, since mymotivation.blog exists.

Let’s move right into the content.

I became more organised and stopped procrastinate as much

It might sound funny. How in the world one website might make you more organised? And how it influences your procrastination? I am not sure, if I will be able to explain it, but having a posts schedule made me keep planning all other tasks around my posts. Not only that, it helped me to actualy stick to this plan (yeah, I am not perfect; I have worse days too, but most of the time it is true). The reason for this is that I feel very bad, when I will not make it on time with my new post. Even if sometimes, there is not even one person reading it, it is so fun to actualy write something and be able to see it on my own website. And there is such rewarding feeling, when I can manage to do it on time. But to be able to keep it up, I have to make sure that other tasks are done, too. First of all, tasks have a magical power (seriously!). One day you are adding them to your to-do list, with the feeling that you still have a lot of time to get it done, while next time when you see them on the list, they are so close to the due date, that you have no idea what to do to be on time. So if I will let more than one task become urgent (or sometimes one time consuming is enough), I will be propably forced to put all other tasks aside and focus on what needs to be done now. And mostly in this situation, my blog post used to be late or left till other things were accomplished.

I have progressed in planning bigger projects

This is a very important one for me. Although I haven’t became a master yet (what you can see on the example of my YouTube channel), I became much better. Before, I used to plan my projects by starting planning job. This is what have happen with this blog. I have started posting, without any idea what or how I am going to keep up. For some of you (especially more experienced bloggers) my blog might be something, what does not really make any sense. I am posting since more than one year and it is very hard to find any focus of this blog. Sometimes I have this feeling too. However, this is my first serious project; requiring commitment, a lot of creativity to find an inspiration for a topic of each post. And in this project I have made a lot of mistakes, which are very precious lessons for the future. The most important of them, is to try to imagine the whole proccess, before you go for it. Visualise all steps you need to take to do, whatever you are trying to do. And after: do your research! This is something what I couldn’t figure out. That it is worthed to hear opinion of more experienced people, find out what kind of mistakes they’ve made and what advises they have (there are tons of blog post’s and YouTube videos about almost everything) and after that sit and plan your steps, try to figure out, what kind of obstacles you might find on the way and how you want to deal with them.

This leads to the next point:

I have learnt a lot about myself

This might be quite weird as well, but sharing your thoughts and feelings is giving you a lot of materials to come back to. Just reading my old posts makes me realise what shall I change in myself and let me understand better my thinking proccesses. And believe me or not, but sometimes, when I am reading my old posts, I am finding so many things about myself, that would annoy me in the other person. But it also gave me an opportunity to see, how much I have already changed during this time. And I believe, this is something usefull to know about yourself.

My English improved

This might be a bit unbelievable for some, as I still have a lot to do with my English skills. However, personaly I can see a difference already. First of all, writing comes much easier to me. On the beginning of my journey I had to check up a lot of words, which I needed to express my thoughts. Now it does happen occasionaly. And eventhough I know, I still make a lot spelling mistakes, maybe sometimes I am missusing words, however I am already proud of my progress (especially, that wordpress app on the phone doesn’t highlight spelling mistakes). There is also one more aspect of writting in the language which is not your native one. And what I want to talk about, is fear. When I was starting, I was anxious that people will start pointing my mistakes in negative way (I wouldn’t mind pointing them for learning purpose), call me stupid, illiteratare, etc. And it was not only on the blog. Before I would be scared to send any message to my boss, or friends because there might be some mistake. But I have understood, that people don’t care, at least as long as they are able to understand your point. So if you are in similar situation like me, I would advise you to ignore other people’s opinion and start writting as much as you can, because this is the best way to actually improve your writting.

I found place, where I can just throw all my thoughts out of my head

This is a good one, too. This blog became a place, where I can just write everything, what is in my head. My observations, opinions, feelings, frustrations, etc. This leaves my head so light, give me some place for new ideas. Journal would propably do same work, however keeping up with the journal never happen to me. So this is a perfect solution.

And these are all things, which have changed in my life (at least these, which I am aware of at the moment). I hoped you have enjoyed it and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

18th and 19th day: what did they teach you?

Hi guys,

It’s next day (or to be more precised two days) when I was in work. Well, after my short break, while I was in Poland, I haven’t even realised how much I missed it. I complain a lot about it (you know: work too hard, people too anoying and stuff like this), but only few days off made me long for coming back.

And those two days were very hard, as our muslim part of team is more and more tired. But already half of ramadan is done, so soon everything is going to come back to norm.

Yesterday I’ve slept quite a lot. To be honest I don’t know why. Normally around 4-5 hours of good sleep is doing it’s job. But yesterday I felt asleep, before my neighbours came (any way I wouldn’t have bother them late). It looks like you have to forgive me two days in one post for some time. Let’s hope, at least this much I’ll be able to do. And of course book on Sunday 😉

Ok, but let’s go to my today’s post (excuses are done for today 😉 ). Last post was quite depresive, so I’ve decided, to write about something more positive today 😉 and what (or who) I want to talk about today are our teachers. But not those, we remember from our schools, more or less capable to do their work, but about our life teachers. People who showed us, how this world works, what is right and what is wrong and who influenced us the most, so now we are who we are. Do you know who I am talking about? Of course our parents (or other people who took care of us when we were children).

Why I want to talk about this? Because today in work one of my work mates was complaining a lot. He was saying that it’s too hot, too much work and stuff like this, while he was just sitting and doing nothing at the same time (well, except superwising others how to do his job properly). Everything has started to boil inside of me, as one of the worst things for me is using others to get your job done, without even trying to do it on your own. And what is even worse: taking money for that. But don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind if someone asks for help, but help, according to my knowledge, means you are doing and someone is giving you hand, because you can’t manage or just to get work done quicker. Deffinitely not when someone is working and you are busy with your phone.

So I’ve just told him, that he is behaving very bad and showing disrespect to all of us, working there. And he told me one sentence:

“This is what your parents tought you?” (When I’ve told him, that he is very spoiled person and he should do his work, as he isn’t old or sick – only one year older than me)

Well, the answer is yes. This is what my parents were trying to teach me for whole my childhood. That you have to know how to work hard and you have to always respect other people and their work. According to my work mate, my parents made huge mistake, when they were bringing me up, as they shouldn’t have let me tell everything what I thing, if I am not asked (well, to be honest I haven’t say everything, what I wanted. Lucky him).

So here is my question: as a parents, shall we teach children to tell their opinion? Or shall we just warn them to keep quiet, if there is something wrong happening around?

I’ve been thinking about this for long time and what I think is, that we should teach younger one to react. As this might help others (who can’t face people and do whatever they are asked to).

Nowadays, very often there are bad things happening around us. Starting from school: children being bullied, and crowds of viewers (or worse, camera operators), and finishing on streets where someone is being robbed and so many people around pretend not to see.

It happened to my dad one day and what I’ve heard from him, I wouldn’t wish even to the worse enemy of mine. But what was really sad, after this incident, unable to move (because of his ankle completely dislocated), whithout phone (has been stolen during robbery) he was asking people for help. Just simple call for police or ambulance. And no respond. After two hours of crawling in mud, one women stopped and helped him. Only one out of many, many passing by. The only one who knew, that you need to react. And she hadn’t only called. She stayed with my dad (even if she must have been scared, as it was night already) till police came and after came to me to inform about my dad’s accident.

My dad was lucky. At least this only one women, who possibly saved his life (I suppose staying all night in rainy weather wouldn’t be the savest thing to do). And there are a lot of people who are not so lucky. Who are getting frozen, because they’ve just had stroke or heart attack and people took them as drunk and went away. Or so many being beaten in front of crowd pretending to be blind.

So yes, we should teach our children to react. In safe for them way, but react (if you are afraid or simply can’t help, at least call police or ambulance. This is going to help a lot). Simple thing, but can safe someone’s life.

Ok, and this was conclusion. So I will carry on with my summaries 😉 today two in one as both of those days were very similar:

Being active – checked

Arabic practise – checked

CSS lesson – checked

Second motivational book: chapter with notes each day – checked

Chapter of book – checked

Plan for next day – checked

And today’s post (only for today) – checked
For today I wish you a productive day and courage to help others. And if your parents (or whoever else tought you this, be very gratefull for them. Well, you should be gratefull for parents any way 😉 ).

I am heading to bed now (after saying “thank you” to my neighbours of course). And I see you in next post.

Daria