Today I would like to talk about slightly different thing than my usual topic. As you know, I am into all this motivational and organisational stuff. If I could, I would spend my whole life on increasing my motivation’s level. However, recently I’ve seen a youtube video, where it has been told that motivation is realy a kind of emotion and same as with emotions, you can’t really maintain it for the whole time. No matter how hard you try, you can’t be all the time happy, make yourself calm easily when something or someone makes you mad and finally you can’t get motivated when you are just not feeling it.
As I dived deeper in this topic, I found out that there are more sources stating this. It made me a bit worried. Does it mean, that if I am not able to feel this motivation, I am just meant to fail? There is no help for me? Am I going to always have a bunch of to do lists from before a month, still hoping that at least one of the tasks will be checked out of them?
Also, is it possible that you need to be born a certain way, to become successfull? You know, like some people seem to be grumpy all the time, while others tend to be happy without break, some people seem to be soft for everyone, while others are just harsh. Is it same with motivation? You must have THIS set of genes to keep getting your stuff done?
Well, it would be horrible, wouldn’t it? However, there is something what can save us, born procrastinators. Although, it will be a bit hard, it is worth trying.
Let’s start from an example. Imagine tha you have group work in your school or work and you have been alocted with people who you just can’t stand. If you could, you would just forget everything, and not work on this particular project. Ok, but you need this mark or this project could bring you closer to the promotion in work. What you do? You put a happy mask (or at least let’s-do-this-if-we-have-to mask) and try to make it work. It is just one project, isn’t it?
Or another example, you are invited to your significant other’s family party (wedding, birthday or whatever it is) and everything would be ok, but there is this one uncle. You know, there is one uncle like this in each family – everyone hates him, but because he is a part of family, he is being invited any way (by the way, have you noticed, that usually this kind of uncles have the best wifes in the world? The most nice and caring?). You are sitting there and this uncle found a buddy in you and can’t stop talking to you, interviewing you, showing how much better he is than you (you know, your home has 50ft sq? His has 51! Your grass is green, his is even greener!). What you do? You are just making a good face in the bad game and (while counting seconds to the end of the meeting) you are carrying conversations, praying for some excuse to leave a table at least for a while.
In both of this situations you are going against yourself, just to make the best of it. You should do similar thing with your motivation. You have a mountain of laundry waiting to be ironed? Just say to yourself that for 30 minutes you will be ironing. You have a huge project to do? Just tackle one task to get closer. Go against your feelings (and excuses) and at least start. You might even find out that instead of half an hour, you’ve spent one hour and this huge mountain of laundry magicaly disapeared.
The only thing is, that you have to start. Starting is the hardest thing for all procrastinators. When you’ll master the ability of starting, you’ll be way more productive. And also it will become a habit as time flies, so it will be even easier in the future.
And with this thought I am going to leave you today. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.