Is motivation a thing?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about slightly different thing than my usual topic. As you know, I am into all this motivational and organisational stuff. If I could, I would spend my whole life on increasing my motivation’s level. However, recently I’ve seen a youtube video, where it has been told that motivation is realy a kind of emotion and same as with emotions, you can’t really maintain it for the whole time. No matter how hard you try, you can’t be all the time happy, make yourself calm easily when something or someone makes you mad and finally you can’t get motivated when you are just not feeling it.

As I dived deeper in this topic, I found out that there are more sources stating this. It made me a bit worried. Does it mean, that if I am not able to feel this motivation, I am just meant to fail? There is no help for me? Am I going to always have a bunch of to do lists from before a month, still hoping that at least one of the tasks will be checked out of them?

Also, is it possible that you need to be born a certain way, to become successfull? You know, like some people seem to be grumpy all the time, while others tend to be happy without break, some people seem to be soft for everyone, while others are just harsh. Is it same with motivation? You must have THIS set of genes to keep getting your stuff done?

Well, it would be horrible, wouldn’t it? However, there is something what can save us, born procrastinators. Although, it will be a bit hard, it is worth trying.

Let’s start from an example. Imagine tha you have group work in your school or work and you have been alocted with people who you just can’t stand. If you could, you would just forget everything, and not work on this particular project. Ok, but you need this mark or this project could bring you closer to the promotion in work. What you do? You put a happy mask (or at least let’s-do-this-if-we-have-to mask) and try to make it work. It is just one project, isn’t it?

Or another example, you are invited to your significant other’s family party (wedding, birthday or whatever it is) and everything would be ok, but there is this one uncle. You know, there is one uncle like this in each family – everyone hates him, but because he is a part of family, he is being invited any way (by the way, have you noticed, that usually this kind of uncles have the best wifes in the world? The most nice and caring?). You are sitting there and this uncle found a buddy in you and can’t stop talking to you, interviewing you, showing how much better he is than you (you know, your home has 50ft sq? His has 51! Your grass is green, his is even greener!). What you do? You are just making a good face in the bad game and (while counting seconds to the end of the meeting) you are carrying conversations, praying for some excuse to leave a table at least for a while.

In both of this situations you are going against yourself, just to make the best of it. You should do similar thing with your motivation. You have a mountain of laundry waiting to be ironed? Just say to yourself that for 30 minutes you will be ironing. You have a huge project to do? Just tackle one task to get closer. Go against your feelings (and excuses) and at least start. You might even find out that instead of half an hour, you’ve spent one hour and this huge mountain of laundry magicaly disapeared.

The only thing is, that you have to start. Starting is the hardest thing for all procrastinators. When you’ll master the ability of starting, you’ll be way more productive. And also it will become a habit as time flies, so it will be even easier in the future.

And with this thought I am going to leave you today. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

What next, if we are self-aware?

Hi guys,

As you might have realised, I became interested in the topic of self-awareness recently. At the end of the proccess, I would like to understand as much about myself, as I possibly can. I am a kind of person, who sometimes make decesion being influenced by emotions. And eventhough I was regretting it after, I couldn’t change it. Most of the time, I was not aware why I am doing it. It was just happening.

Many times I’ve heard from other people, that I behave like a spoiled child. I just wasn’t able to control some of my reactions. Especially, when someone has driven me mad. I would go on and on on a subject, till my anger disapeared and I could say my sorry. At that moments I had seriously felt like a child, the only difference was that this time no one asked me to say sorry, I just knew I went over board and this is what I should do.

And eventhough it isn’t happening to often (it is quite hard to drive me mad, luckily), but these rare events make me feel really bad about myself. So I have decided to make notes about everything connected to this situation: my emotions, feelings, even weather and my general well-being. The point of it was to figure out, what makes me loose control and blast without any particular reason (seriously, situations when it happened wasn’t as important as I used to think when I was hurting people around).

And as I mentioned before, I used to act being influenced by emotions. I think, this is something most of us is dealing with. Even if only occasionally, it is still quite embarassing, when it happens. So this is the reason, why I want to eliminate this kind of behaviours from my life. Just to be able to get over them every time, when they decide to hit.

At the moment, I am conducting a research on how to fight with them. And as soon, as I will find some ideas, I am going to share them with you.

Of course, proccess of learning about myself isn’t done. There are still many things I want to change. However, I will deal with one change at the time.

Today’s post is a short one, but I hope you enjoyed it any way. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria