Designing your dream life

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about something what is very important, yet mostly forgotten. I want to talk about dream life. All of us have some idea, how they would their life to look like. What they would like to do for a living, or not to have to work any more and have time for their passion.

Personally, I wish that one day I will own my property, not to be forced to move as often as I do now. I want to have a passive income on such level which allows me to pay all property related things and live decently.

Although, these seem like financial goals, they are just my way to achieve an alternative goal, which is to be able to spend as much time with my family as I want. I want to be able to visit my mum in Poland without begging for holiday first.

All this stuff require me to build my passive income such a way, that I will be able to receive a bit more money each month, than my regular spending. This would give me an opportunity to live my life with enough time for things that really matter: family and memories for my family.

This is my dream life and I am sure that most (if not all) of us would like to be in a place which is different than the current one. Maybe it is being a debt free, or being able to travel freely. Maybe just like me you want to simply have time for your family, without facing the fear of losing roof over your head.

Whatever it is, you might be in a place where I used to be. Thinking that it is what it is and you have to take it. That there is no point to try, as it isn’t going to change anyway.

Well, I have a good and a bad news for you. All in one. Let me quote:

Whether you think you can, orΒ you think you can’t – you’re right

Henry Ford

You have much more control over your life and, what’s more important, over your mindset. You can sit and keep taking everything as it is (and it is completely fine, if you chose so) or you can become more proactive and start changing your life bit by bit.

Let me be honest, before I’ll share my tips to design a dream life. Not everything is going to work plus it might turn out that your dream life isn’t as dreamed as you might think now. At the same time, it is important not to give up. Otherwise how are you going to judge, if you’ll never get there? And what is very important, the journey is what matters.

But let’s get to my tips (or steps) of designing a dream life:

Step 1: Analyse

This should be done even before you start thinking about designing your dream life, it might be a good idea to analyse your current situation. My way to do it is to write all this things that I like in my life on the one site of a paper and everything what I want to change on the other site. You can include everything, what you want. In my case some of the good things will be my family, the fact that we can afford to pay for roof over our head, that we have food on our plates, etc. Small things that I like, let me see, that my life is not a nightmare. Thinks I would change, is to move to our own property, to have a passive income, to spend more time with my son, etc.

As soon as I have these two list, I start asking “why” questions to things to change. For example, why do I want to move to our own property? Because I don’t want to keep moving. Why don’t you want to keep moving? I don’t want to have my son to change his school because of that. Why? It would take a sense of belonging out from his life. Why? Because his surrounding would be changing all the time?

As answers start being about one thing, or I simply don’t have any more of them I move to the next one. And all this till I’ll get definite answers for all of the things on this list.

That time I am going back to the other list and check if there are answers connected to things from it. As more I have, as more sure I am to be on the right path. And then, I move to the next step.

Step 2: Action plan and action itself

This is where all the hard work starts. You just need to pick up one of the things from your things to change list and write as many options or ways to change it as you could. But don’t get caught in a ‘there is no way to change it’ mindset. Let’s say you have picked to have a passive income one. You could create a digital product, you could write a book, or invest. For simplicity we have these three options only (in your it is good to include more in your action plan). You can go through everything you came up with and pick one of them again. If you’d have an cash laying around (except your emergency funds), you could chose investments, but there might be some risks connected to it. And let’s be honest, probably not many of us have money to invest. So you might decide to write a book. Think what your book could be about. Will it be a fiction, or non fiction book? Prepare an outline and start working on it in your spare time.

And here there are two things that can happen when you finish: you’ll either succeed or fail. In the first scenario, you need to decide whether you are happy with level of income you are getting? Will it decrease over a time? Are you fine with that? If no (or you failed), pick another option ( like creating your digital product) and start all over again. Just remember to learn from mistakes you could have made on your way. If yes, pick another thing from things to change list and repeat step 2.

All this might seem easy, but it is hard in fact. Changes are rarely happening within a days or even weeks. They are more likely to take a lot of time. But this is what it takes. Hard work, to get where you want to be or at least as close to that place as possible.

That’s all for today’s post. I would like to hear from you, what changes would you like to do in your life? Or maybe you are already living your dream life? Share it in a comment section below. I’ll be happy to read it.

For now I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Set up a routine which works for everyone at home and stick to it

Hi guys,

Today I will talk about last of my 2020 resolutions. As you could see in this post, I have decided to focus on some things which are very important to me at the moment. It might seem that I went easy on myself this year (and this is most likely true), but I wanted to set goals, which will be possible to achieve. A lot of them (if not all in some way) are connected to my financial situation, as this is the biggest problem at the moment. Although, I know that there are a lot of people in much worse situation, I am also aware that in case of any emergency, we will struggle to get back on our feet, if we will not fix it as soon as possible.

This is one of the reasons why we need to set up a routine. Having me and my husband working full time is helping us to keep paying our debt relatively quickly. But it also makes it very hard to manage. We were advised to employ someone to look after our son while we are in work. But I can’t trust any stranger to look after such small baby, especially that even if something would go wrong, he wouldn’t be able to tell us. This forced us to work in different shifts and as I can’t imagine being all day away from my son, I’ve chosen night shift (night shifts are hard too, but at least when I am working, little guy is sleeping most of the time).

There are some small things I would like to achieve in our family life, even though me and my husband are working on different shifts. I wish to be able to spend as much quality time with my son as it is possible, I would like to spend time with my husband and make sure that both of us can have time for ourselves (whether it is for working on personal projects or just relaxing). I want to make sure that our home is clean and that there is always food in our fridge too. It might seem impossible, especially with a small child. Some of you might think that I am neglecting my son just because I am working full time and I, dreaming about free time, might seem like a horrible mother. But I am a true believer that sacrificing all your dreams and goals for a baby will not do well for you and at the end for your child. Also, I think that being able to get an extra income is good for my son too. Hopefully, very soon will be able to put some funds aside for his future, we’ll be able to buy a home, so wherever life is going to take my son, he’ll always have a place to come and forget about all his problem. And finally, we’ll be able to provide for his development, give him opportunities to find his way, by simply being able to afford things, he wants to try.

Kids are very amazing and they learn unbelievably fast. But at the same time, they are not reading books or taking various courses secretly. They are learning by watching their surrounding. Especially in the beginning of their lives, we, as a parents, are all their world. I want to create believe in my son’s head that he can manage a lot of things, without neglecting anything, as long as he will try very hard. And that if you work hard on something you love doing, you can steer your life in any direction you want.

Altgough, I would like to share our routine now, I haven’t found any so far. We are still testing and keep changing small bits and pieces of it. I might be even wrong and I can’t make it work for all of my requirements, but about this I am going to tell you, when we are going to find something what will be at least the best for us.

And this is it for today’s post. I hope you enjoyed reading it. If yes, I will appreciate if you will like this post and leave your thoughts in this subject in the comment section (I will be happy to read and reply to every single comment). But for now I wish you all a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

What shall I study to find a job after?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about something what have been bothering me for a long time, namely: new responsibilities. As we are all living in rapidly changing world, where we can’t really be sure what is going to happen tomorrow, we are exposed to many unexpected situations. On the top of this, more and more often we can hear, that soon robots are going to replace people in many jobs.

Sometimes, during conversations with my friends, I am finding out that they don’t see any point in further learning, as it will leave them as another uneployed master or phd diploma holder. And unfortunatelly, very often they are right. Especially if they are associating their education with standard institutions only, like schools, universities and some kind of courses on top of that. Even now, we have a lot of people being graduated with the best possible marks, but still struggling to find a job of their dream. But on the other hand, there are a lot of people, who hardly graduated from primary school, but doing great any way.

So what in reality matters when we are trying to plan our future? How to choose a degree, which will not end up as three years being wasted, leaving us with student loan? While thinking about answers for these questions, I came up with some tips for myself:

  • Whatever degree you choose, make sure you have a plan

This is very important thing for me. Starting a university, you are going to learn a lot of various things. At the same time, you are not going to need all knowledge, which you are going to get there. Having some kind of plan might help you decide, on which subjects do you need to focus more and which of them require you to have just some basic knowledge. Even if during your course you’ll change my mind, you will still have basic knowledge to explore the topic much quicker.

  • Make sure that you are going to learn something, what is interesting for you

This is something what a lot of people are forgetting about. Studying for even just three years might be quite a hard task. But if you study something what makes you bored… well, I wish you good luck… But if you are thinking that it is just three years, you can survive it, remember that there are many years of work in choosen profession ahead of you. So maybe it is worthed to consider, wether you really can survive?

  • Don’t focus just on your university work

I think, this is the most important thing. While you are learning, try to find as many opportunities as you can to gain some experience. It is connected with your plan. You might try to gain skills, which you will be able to take advantage in your future work of (and they don’t have to be gained in your dream field of work). Try to meet as many people from your future field. They are experienced and they can keep advising you during your learning process.

  • Don’t stop learning

Having your dreamed job, doesn’t mean that you are done with learning. As I mentioned at the begining, today’s world changes with light speed and you need to keep up with it. So make sure you do and you’ll be able to sleep with peace. If you think that your profession might disappear in short future, learn something new, so you’ll have more opportunities when you are forced to look for new job.

To summarise, living in changing world requires from us much more awareness and taking responsibility for our choices. We can’t think just about present, but we should consider how our skills might help us in the future. Just in case, if what we intend to do, does not exist any more.

And with this thought I will leave you today. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Happy New Year! And 2018 resolutions :)

Hi guys,

As this end of the year was just crazy, full of unexpected events, guests and many, many beautifull moments, I’ve decided to take break (well, not first time, any way). People, who I haven’t seen for ages came to share this special time with me. Huge surprise, but how amazing at the same time!

Any way, today, while everyone is getting ready for New Year’s party, I’ve decided to use this time to write something for you, guys. First of all: Happy 2018 Year! I wish all your dreams will come true this year and I hope that this 2017 year, we are saying goodbye to, left some great memories in your hearts.

Tomorrow, we are going to start with new, blank page to write on. When I was a child, I liked to think about new year like this. Everything what have been good in all years was kept in memory, but all bad things have been forgotten. That time I was writting in my journal. Everything what happened each day, used to be documented. And by everything, I mean everything. I went to school – in my journal; I ate chocolate bar for snack – in my journal; even I thought at some point of the day, that it would be nice if it were snowing – guess what? – I can read it now, in my journal πŸ˜€ So unexpected, isn’t it πŸ˜€

I’ve lost my point: every year I used to buy new notebook to write in, so for me new year really meant a new blank page (or better notebook). Every 1st of January, when I used to sit behind my desk to tell about everything what happened, there was nothing to come back to. No bad bad things, only good things in my memory. Believe me, amazing feeling!

Nowadays I don’t have journal (well, I have my bullet journal, but let’s be honest: I use it more as a planner, than a place where I can just write every single detail of my day), but I found my old ones. And in the begining of each of them, there is some short summary of my previous year’s resolutions and new year’s resolutions. Every year very ambitious (like for a child), but what is most important, at the end of almost every year, they were just done. In all of my summaries it was written: this was something I wanted to do in the beginning of 2000 year and I’ve done it in this month. Unbelievable!

A the moment, I still do my resolution list, but let’s be honest, by the end of the year I don’t even have an idea, where this list is gone. So today, I am going to share with you some goals for 2018 year (I have another, bit bigger list in my bullet journal, but forgive me leaving my personal goals in secret πŸ˜‰ ).

2018 resolution list:

  • Keep my schedule of blog posts

As you might remember, I introduced my schedule some time ago and so far following it was just a fail. Huge fail! So at the end of the year I want to be able to say: Hey, for the whole year I kept publishing my posts ON TIME!”.

  • Bring projects from my head into the reality

You might know about some of those projects, as I wrote about them in my very first post. By now, I have few new one, being ideas in my head. Some of them where supposed to be ready by now… well.. This year, I want to work seriously hard and handle maximum two big projects at the time. And what really important, I want to have plan: my projects divided into small tasks with deadlines. Hopefully, before 2018 will end, you will already know, that some of them are actually done.

  • Start doing my university assignments when they are posted, not week before deadline

Yep, even if I know, that something will take a lot of time, I procrastinate it a lot, so when I am starting, I have only little time to finish it (be honest, not as well as I wish to) and only if I will not sleep for at least two or three nights providing my organism with huge ammount of coffee. Well, this new year I want to change it.

  • Last, but not least is to be more consistent

This is the harder one for me. I like to start a lot of different things, but quite quickly I am giving up. Even before I am able to judge, whether this particular activity is right for me or not. This was always a big challenge for me, but since this year, I want to make sure, that whatever I will start doing, I will do it consistently for at least half year.

And those are all my resolutions I want to share. There are some more, but as I said before, they are very personal.

So again, I wish you a happy New Year. I hope it will be much better than 2017 (even if 2017 was perfect, it can always be better πŸ˜‰ ). Now I wish you great new year’s party. I hope you will enjoy it and stay safe.

I’ll see you in brand new 2018 year.

Daria

P.S. I will up date post after New Year with New Years cover photo πŸ˜‰

Art of saying “No” (days eight to eleven)

Hi guys,

Today again after some break (I think it’s four days). And unfortunately now I have no choice, but change days when posts are going to be published. Instead of every day, posts are going to be published every Monday, Wednesday, Friday and Sunday (except that yesterday it wasn’t any and one is today instead) and self-development’s book post is going to be published every Wednesday. All those changes, because I have been asked to work for two months, as my friend is going for holiday. So every evening plus full day every Sunday I am going to take her shift. Why? Because even if I knew I won’t have time for much alse, even if I was desperate to say “No”, I’ve said “Yes” instead.

So now after my regular job, I have four hours to be spent in restaurant as a waitress. It has been already one week since I am working like this and I can’t say it’s easy. It’s very hard actually.

To be honest on the beginning I was very upset, because by agreeing, I said “goodbye” to my free time. Now I am still upset, but the reason is different. Because of lack of time, I need to be very choosy, if it is about spending my time. I can’t do everything, so I needed to set priorities, what have been very hard for me since I remember (I’ve just wanted to do everything at the same time). But now, I have huge opportunity to practise this.

And any way, now, when I have only 2-4 hours every day, I can get skills, which are going to be very usefull in the future, when I’ll have much more of free time. This is the only think about it, which makes me happy.

I think increasing my free time (and how I am going to do this) is worthed to be mention as well. So as I’ve said before, working for twelve plus hours every day is extremely hard, but not impossible. So I’ve decided, that for next one year I’ll give it a chance. Well, a bit less, as in the end of September my uni starts. But any way, for whole this time, me and my husband (as he admited it is worth trying) are going to work a lot and save as much as we can, so after that, we can slow down without worrying about our finances and fully focus on our personal goals.

So this is a reason why posts are going to appear every second day. As except my two works, I am stil going to work on my personal stuff, so when I’ll be able to slow down, I won’t need to start everything from zero.

Ok, I have written a lot about what had happened and what is going to happen, but let’s talk about right subject of this post.

Art of saying “No”

So during this past week, I have been asking myself, why I have agreed fo all this. I could just say “No” and live like I have been living before. And to be honest, “No” was the most desired word I wanted to say, when my friend asked me for this favour. Well, I haven’t. Why? I was thinking, that I don’t want to make her life hard (if she wouldn’t find anyone to take her place, after coming back she would be without job).

And I think this is the reason, why a lot of us is doing things, we don’t realy want. We are trying to please everyone else, but ourselves. I’ve catched myself on doing this many times. Especially when I was much younger (well, now I’ve presented, that not too much had changed since that time). I have been doing some things to make others happy. Even if it wasn’t so exciting for me.

So this is my new goal: learn how to say no.

And I don’t mean, that I am not going to help anyone. It isn’t about it. But next time I am going to make sure first, that this is not going to be harmful for me. If I am not going to sacrifise something, what is very important to me, I will propably be very happy to help. I’ve realised, that after all, I need to care for myself, as there aren’t a lot of people who will do this if I won’t.

Ok, I think for today that’s all what I wanted to share (as this post is being produced in bus on my way back home). I will see you tomorrow in next post. But for now, I wish you productive day and ability to say “No”, when it’s neccessary.

Daria
PS. I’ve decided, that I will keep skipping daily summary and replace it with weekly one. In tomorrow’s post I am going to explain in details why, but to make it short: I’ve decided to focus on one thing each day. So if summary will contain only one thing, there is no point of having one.

Energy equals zero (days six and seven)

Hi guys,

Today’s post contains two days. This time nothing bad happen (fortunately, otherwise I would suspect, that I am magness for bad things). So let me explain what happened yesterday I’ve started coding my website, as I’ve decided I need to get some practice, not only theory. And it took me quite a lot of time (well, on the way I’ve came across some issues, my lessons haven’t cover so far and I’ve needed to search for some solutions online – thank God for internet!). And even if I’ve spend a lot of time on doing this, I gave my website look, I wished it will have.

Ok, but why there was no post? Well, I can’t say how long exactly I have been doing this (when last time I’ve checked my phone it was already five hours), as next thing I remember is lifting my head from my desk. Yeah, that happened at 7:30am. I falled asleep and don’t have any idea when. After realising what had happened, I needed to rush to work. Normaly I am leaving such a way, that when I arrive to work, I still have 15 minutes to start my job. Today I’ve arrived 1 minute before.

Ok, but was it worthed to spend at least five hours to get only home page ready? Because it’s going to be my first website, done without anyone’s help (except internet courses, of course), I think it was. I believe, that speed is going to come with some more practise.

Ok, but this is not what I wanted to talk about. Today, on my way to work, I’ve been thinking about this situation. And I think, this is unbelievable, how person can be so much into some activity, that is not able to see, how quickly time goes and how he or she is falling asleep. So I’ve made some characteristic of such activity (remember: I am not specialist, this is my opinion only). Here are some points with explanations:

  • It has to be connected with something, you are dreaming about – you need to be excited about it.

    Well, when I was starting, in my head I had picture of my website. Fact, that proccess of coding will make it become reality, that I would be able to type my website’s address and see it (every one is going to be able), made me so excited.

    Ok, on the begining I had no idea it will take so long and that I will fall asleep without any control, but I knew it won’t be easy. Any way, my excitation hasn’t alowed me to think about it.

    • You need to have something to check/prove to yourself

    In my case, I wanted to check, if all lessons I’ve done so far, will be enough to actualy design something what I want.

    Every small thing I’ve been doing yesterday cause some changes to my website: new colour, feature, or just shape. And every time I’ve refreshed my website, it looked better and better. And this assured me, that time spent on learning HTML and CSS, wasn’t wasted. Even if still I needed to find some solutions on the internet, I’ve done it on my own.

    • This activity need to be fun for you

    Ok, you might ask me now, how on the Earth sitting more than five hour in front of screen can be considered as fun?

    Well, for me it was. I had some time only for myself, I have been doing everything my way. And yes, I had a lot of fun. Not only that. I was looking forward to sit again and go to my own world – without any advises or suggestions – just me and my imagination.
    Well, I think, this is everything, what came into my mind. The only thing left is two days’ summary. So let’s move into it:
    Day’s sixth summary:

    Home page of my website (without content – I mean I have part of the content ready, but I haven’t implemented it to my code) – checked

    Chapter of book – checked

    Being active (finaly I wasn’t scared of wind causing harm to my eye and I’ve rode my bike) – checked

    Day’s sixth post – failed

    Plan for next day – failed
    Day’s seventh summary:

    Two last chapters of book + review – checked

    Being active – checked

    Implemetation of content to my website’s homepage – checked

    Today’s post – checked

    Plan for tomorrow – checked
    Ok, I think that’s everything for today. I wish you, that you’ll find something to do, what is going to help you to forget about whole world and as usually I wish you very productive day πŸ˜‰ I’ll see you in tomorrow’s post.

    Daria

    Getting into routine (day five)

    Hi guys,

    Today has been very hard day. There were two shifts (to be honest one and a half), as my friend asked me to replace her in her work, while she is on holiday.

    So today again I am not going to share any thought with you. Only thing, which makes me happy is, that I am getting into routine of working. In between my two jobs I had four hours to spare at home. And what is great, it was very productive time. I haven’t have to force myself to do anything. Automaticaly I’ve started doing, point after point from my today’s plan (it was shorter than usualy, as I knew, that today I won’t have too much time).

    So please forgive me, but I am going to go straight to my summary:

    Two chapters of book – checked

    Next self-development book: started – checked

    My arabic revision – checked

    HTML&CSS lesson – checked

    Today’s post – checked

    Plan for tomorrow – checked
    At the moment I am going to sleep, as my eyes are closing without my permission. As always I wish you very productive day and I’ll see you in tomorrow’s post.

    Daria

    Struggling does pay of (day four)

    Hi guys,

    Here it is, day four. There is no fail so far. And there is no thought to do so even. So I am proud of myself.

    What is good, my eyes are getting used to work as well. They aren’t as good as they were before, but yesterday I was able to work for four hours with fifteen minutes break in between only. For me it’s huge progress.

    And today, I would like to talk about struggling. We all know, that there is nothing good in struggling. We are putting so much efford and instead of things going on smoother and easier, it is becoming harder and harder.

    But what is important? If we are only able to stand this tough time, we are going to be so proud, like never before. Just only because we managed. No matter what. And even if we’ll fail, but get up and start all over again, we are still going to fight and we won’t give up, we will achieve any way. We will get knowledge about our limits. So we’re going to know, how much we need to do, to become better version of ourselves. Well, if we won’t get to those limits, we can only guess. Isn’t it right?

    What I mean by: you won’t know, how long distance you can run, how long you can work, etc. if you will not get to the point, when you can’t.

    I remember in my gymnasium (just to explain, in Poland we graduate from gymnasium at the age of 15-16) a lot of girls got pregnant. It became some kind of fashion to have a child and a lot of my school mates were dreaming to catch occasion to have one. No matter how, or who will be father of their child. Well, they wouldn’t even care, if they know who is the father.

    Scaring? So try to imagine, that in my school were around two hundred girls, of wich sixty were pregnant or had their child already.

    What did our head teacher do? He gave to each girl one doll. It looked like normall doll, but it was crying every 15 minutes. Parents agreed, that they are not going to help us with it and every girl had to carry this doll everywhere. It was tiring. A lot of us was crying, that we don’t want child after one night of struggling with this doll (I needed three nights). After we had some speach delivered by our school psycologist.

    But what was the point. After this experience I knew, I can start work at night, as long as every three shifts I will have at least two days off. And this was what I did. Before I was worrying, whether I can manage or not (it was very important as my parents alowed me to work only if I am not going to fail even one day in school because of that. If I would, after I wouldn’t have any chance to work before I will turn 18).

    To be honest, I am not sure why I was thinking all day about limits, struggling and stuff like this, but I’ve decided to share it with you, guys. I hope you like it.

    Now, I am going to present my today’s summary:

    Five (or four) chapters of book – checked

    One HTML&CSS lesson – checked

    Revision before my tomorrow’s arabic lesson – checked

    Today’s post – checked

    Plan for tomorrow – checked
    Now I wish you good night and productive day.

    Daria
    PS. After around two maybe three hours self-development’s book post is going to appear, as at the moment I am in the car, coming back from my friend’s birthday party (that’s why today’s summary isn’t very impressive, as after work I was away and my HTML&CSS lesson I have done in the morning, rest had been done in a car).

    I hope you’re going to enjoy it. And see you in tomorrow’s post.

    18th and 19th day: what did they teach you?

    Hi guys,

    It’s next day (or to be more precised two days) when I was in work. Well, after my short break, while I was in Poland, I haven’t even realised how much I missed it. I complain a lot about it (you know: work too hard, people too anoying and stuff like this), but only few days off made me long for coming back.

    And those two days were very hard, as our muslim part of team is more and more tired. But already half of ramadan is done, so soon everything is going to come back to norm.

    Yesterday I’ve slept quite a lot. To be honest I don’t know why. Normally around 4-5 hours of good sleep is doing it’s job. But yesterday I felt asleep, before my neighbours came (any way I wouldn’t have bother them late). It looks like you have to forgive me two days in one post for some time. Let’s hope, at least this much I’ll be able to do. And of course book on Sunday πŸ˜‰

    Ok, but let’s go to my today’s post (excuses are done for today πŸ˜‰ ). Last post was quite depresive, so I’ve decided, to write about something more positive today πŸ˜‰ and what (or who) I want to talk about today are our teachers. But not those, we remember from our schools, more or less capable to do their work, but about our life teachers. People who showed us, how this world works, what is right and what is wrong and who influenced us the most, so now we are who we are. Do you know who I am talking about? Of course our parents (or other people who took care of us when we were children).

    Why I want to talk about this? Because today in work one of my work mates was complaining a lot. He was saying that it’s too hot, too much work and stuff like this, while he was just sitting and doing nothing at the same time (well, except superwising others how to do his job properly). Everything has started to boil inside of me, as one of the worst things for me is using others to get your job done, without even trying to do it on your own. And what is even worse: taking money for that. But don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind if someone asks for help, but help, according to my knowledge, means you are doing and someone is giving you hand, because you can’t manage or just to get work done quicker. Deffinitely not when someone is working and you are busy with your phone.

    So I’ve just told him, that he is behaving very bad and showing disrespect to all of us, working there. And he told me one sentence:

    “This is what your parents tought you?” (When I’ve told him, that he is very spoiled person and he should do his work, as he isn’t old or sick – only one year older than me)

    Well, the answer is yes. This is what my parents were trying to teach me for whole my childhood. That you have to know how to work hard and you have to always respect other people and their work. According to my work mate, my parents made huge mistake, when they were bringing me up, as they shouldn’t have let me tell everything what I thing, if I am not asked (well, to be honest I haven’t say everything, what I wanted. Lucky him).

    So here is my question: as a parents, shall we teach children to tell their opinion? Or shall we just warn them to keep quiet, if there is something wrong happening around?

    I’ve been thinking about this for long time and what I think is, that we should teach younger one to react. As this might help others (who can’t face people and do whatever they are asked to).

    Nowadays, very often there are bad things happening around us. Starting from school: children being bullied, and crowds of viewers (or worse, camera operators), and finishing on streets where someone is being robbed and so many people around pretend not to see.

    It happened to my dad one day and what I’ve heard from him, I wouldn’t wish even to the worse enemy of mine. But what was really sad, after this incident, unable to move (because of his ankle completely dislocated), whithout phone (has been stolen during robbery) he was asking people for help. Just simple call for police or ambulance. And no respond. After two hours of crawling in mud, one women stopped and helped him. Only one out of many, many passing by. The only one who knew, that you need to react. And she hadn’t only called. She stayed with my dad (even if she must have been scared, as it was night already) till police came and after came to me to inform about my dad’s accident.

    My dad was lucky. At least this only one women, who possibly saved his life (I suppose staying all night in rainy weather wouldn’t be the savest thing to do). And there are a lot of people who are not so lucky. Who are getting frozen, because they’ve just had stroke or heart attack and people took them as drunk and went away. Or so many being beaten in front of crowd pretending to be blind.

    So yes, we should teach our children to react. In safe for them way, but react (if you are afraid or simply can’t help, at least call police or ambulance. This is going to help a lot). Simple thing, but can safe someone’s life.

    Ok, and this was conclusion. So I will carry on with my summaries πŸ˜‰ today two in one as both of those days were very similar:

    Being active – checked

    Arabic practise – checked

    CSS lesson – checked

    Second motivational book: chapter with notes each day – checked

    Chapter of book – checked

    Plan for next day – checked

    And today’s post (only for today) – checked
    For today I wish you a productive day and courage to help others. And if your parents (or whoever else tought you this, be very gratefull for them. Well, you should be gratefull for parents any way πŸ˜‰ ).

    I am heading to bed now (after saying “thank you” to my neighbours of course). And I see you in next post.

    Daria

    16th day and 17th: and again?

    Hi guys,

    Next two days and another fail. Completely out of control. On Saturday night, there were another terrorist incidents. The worse thing if you are alone at home and you know that your relatives are somewhere in the city. You are trying to call them, but no signal. Well, you are not the only one trying. Network is not able to manage this.

    And this is what I’ve done. I’ve been sitting at home and running out of my mind. I was worrying if my dad is going to come, if my husband is safe on his way back from work. And most of all: trying to call them.

    Fortunatelly they came. It has taken longer as city centre was paralised. They were lucky. But I’ve started thinking about other people. Those who’s family members or friends weren’t so lucky. Who were waiting same as I was, but they haven’t heard sound of the key in the door. They couldn’t hug their family members. They’ve recieved bad news instead.

    Mostly we are thinking: “Well, it’s sad. I feel sorry for them, but it doesn’t boder me. My family was home”. But what we don’t realise, next time it might meet us or our parents, children, brothers, sister or friends. Or us. We can’t be sure for tomorrow at all. We can’t even predict, if we’ll come back from simple grocery shopping. Maybe it’ll be our last yourney?

    And here huge problem comes for those of us, who will do this realisation. Because no matter what is going to happen, we need to carry on like everything is ok. Like we are going to live for ever.

    Someone told: “Work like you are going to live for ever, live like you are going to die tomorrow”. I can’t remember now, who’s words are they (not mine for sure πŸ˜‰ ). But this is exactly what we need to do. We are working most of the time, to make sure we can have better future or at least survive.  And we are doing this, even though we have no idea who of us is going to be alive.

    All of this freezed me for a while. We are living in such dangerous time, so we are thinking about this (at least I do). But to be honest, even if we would live any time before or after all those attacks, we wouldn’t be sure as well. What is my conclusion? Life is unpredictible. Any time accidents happen, people are getting sick and we can never be sure, when is our last day going to be. We never know, if person who is just living to work or going for holiday is going to come back. But any way, life is worth living, worth fighting for better future and most important: worth being a good person.

    Very often people are arguing about so silly thigs. They are hurting each other. I am doing this as well, mostly unintentionally. Or I am just getting upset with my husband or father, because they dared to breathe (I am not getting upset for breathing, but similarly “huge” deals πŸ˜‰ ). But this is what it is. If something is going to happen to anyone, try and make sure, you are not having any bad emotions towards this person. For instance I was so glad yesterday, that all of us have left home happy, talking to each other and just being happy. Otherwise all this would be even bigger nightmare. This knowledge, that any of them might not come back and last memory would be huge fight. After all, they are some of the closest people to me. And I think, live is too short for fights. Especially if there is no real reason to argue. But even if there is, we should try and sort it out calmly. To make sure, there will not be any words said, we are going to regret after.

    Changing subject, just a little bit, today in work I’ve been talking to one of my mates. He said:

    “Daria, I haven’t belive you, when you’ve told me those terrorist aren’t muslims. Now I do.”

    “What made you change your mind?” 

    “Well, when they’ve been doing all those things any time, with ‘Allahu akbar’ on their lips, I was sure they are muslims. But if they do this in ramadan… even I know, it’s one of the biggest sins for muslims”.

    I’ve shared this conversation just to make you understand, that by calling all muslims terrorists, people are very unfair. They are hurting all REAL muslims, who are good people, always ready to help.

    Dou you know, what came to my head. Another quote, I will not bring it exactly, but the meaning is: if you want to win with any country, first damage it from inside. Strong citizens, who can work together are harder enemies, than those who are enemies for each other.

    In my opinion, this is what they are trying to do. Make all of us be enemies to each other. And what is sad, they are achieving their goal. And now, it’s up to us: are we going to be strong societies, who will fight real enemies together, or are we going to destroy our countries on our own, by fighting each other instead and doing job for them?

    Finishing all my thoughts, I am going to move to my two days summaries.

    16th’s day summary:

    Chapter of book – checked

    Arabic practise – checked

    Small project in HTML + CSS (started) – checked

    Plan for next day – checked

    Being active – checked

    17th’s day summary:

    Chapter of book – checked

    Project HTML + CSS (finished)- checked

    Being active – checked

    Arabic lesson – checked

    Chapter of next motivational book – checked

    Plan for tomorrow – checked

    Two day’s post – checked
    And for today I wish you very productive day and a lot of appreciation to people who are always with you and who won’t leave you no matter what. Do all the best, that time you are spending together will be quality time, not world war.

    For now I am going to sleep. I’ll see you in tomorrow’s post

    Daria
    P.S. Unfortunatelly my internet still doesn’t work. Router had been changed, but it looks like this wasn’t the case. But my neighbours let me use their wi-fi to keep publishing my posts so any time, they are home in the evening I’ll be able to share my thoughts and everything what had been done. I hope my internet will be sorted once for good soon πŸ˜‰

    And post with book will appear on next Sunday. I will do all my best to publish them every Sunday, instead of every second one. But I’ve decided to keep Sunday as a day, when they are going to see daylight (another polish saying πŸ˜‰ ). I hope you’ll forgive me this delay.