Message to the future me

Hi guys,

Today’s post is going to be completely different than any of my posts before. I would like to share with you what I would like to say to the future me. I hope it will bring some value to you. Here it comes:

Daria!

I hope you are doing great! When you are reading it, you have probably forgotten that you’ve even written it. But here it is. When I am writing it, it is the 19th of October 2020. The world is upside down. I hope that you’ll read it at the end of 2021 and that by that time everything will return to the norm. I hope that you found a job by this time or figured out how to make money on your own.

At the moment I am not getting a lot of sleep as your son has trouble with sleeping at night. But I know this time will pass. And although there is the time when I am losing it with him, I also can’t get mad at him. I think this is the reason why little children are so cute and mothers naturally fall in love with them. Otherwise, it would be extremely hard to look after them. Maybe by now, it got much easier? But even if not, I am sure that you are doing great, just because you give all your heart and strength to give him everything you can and everything he deserves.

At the moment I have a lot of ideas in my head. There are possibilities and opportunities. It is hard to decide what to do. You probably remember that company where we worked, recently closed down. Due to pandemic, they had not enough money to keep it running. You also remember that while working there you saved some money but that your savings are getting smaller each week. It’s not easy to find a new job nowadays, a lot of businesses closed down. But slowly, everything is going to come back to the norm and all this will be another story to tell our grandchildren.

But why I decided to write this message now? I haven’t done it since childhood. Well, the answer is simple. Although I believe that there is going to be better soon, I am also aware that it hasn’t to happen by the end of 2021. A bit over a year is a lot of time and very little at the same time. At the beginning of 2020, I’ve made a new year’s resolutions. And some of them I’ve already completed, but some of them I will need to reconsider. This year has been weird and unpredictable for everyone. There was a lot of uncertainty and to be honest, it still is. But we have pushed through almost all year. Was it easy? It wasn’t. But it was worth it.

And here is the most important thing. The reason why I am writing all this. I hope, that even if it is hard, you haven’t given up. That no matter what, you are pushing through all the difficulties, that you pass through all obstacles and that there is nothing to stop you. I hope, that even if projects I am planning now to start will not work as you wish, you will keep searching for something new to do. And if they will, that success will not change you. That you will always remember who you are and what does matter in life.

I wish you good luck with everything you are doing now and I can’t wait to become you and see on my own how are we doing. I see you in about a year and keep smiling.

Daria from the past

I hope you like this kind of post and that at the end of 2021 I will be able to read it and hopefully share my thoughts with you. I wish you a very productive day for now and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

What I want to do before giving birth?

Hi guys,

Today is a very special day for me. I’ve managed to make up all my tasks (that’s why this post is being uploaded later that usually, but I hoped to be able to share this with you). It has been very hard two weeks and I will try and make sure that I will not get so behind any more (well, everyone is saying that my world will turn around when my son is going to be born and they are probably right). That’s why my plan for now is to prepare.

I don’t know if you remember my post about holiday where I shared some tips on preparing for taking longer break. One of the tips was to get some tasks done in advance. And this is exactly what I am going to do before delivery (which can actualy happen very soon). I have also realised that we are completely unprepared for a little human being to come, literally we have nothing. So this is the priority task for now: to equip our son properly.

I used to be very scared at the beginning, as even if I wanted a child very badly, I had doubts if we are able to cope with all new responsibilities. And I will not lie, I am still scared. I don’t think you can ever be ready for a baby. But having this small feet kicking me each day, seeing my bump moving as my baby is changing position and even playing with my son (really, it is possible to play with a baby in your tummy; I’ve never believed in that) makes me more confident. I know I won’t be a perfect mother, but the only thing I know for sure, is that I am going to do my best.

And just to ease my mind I want to have as much work done as possible. It will allow me to spend these early weeks of his life with my son, without worrying too much about things to do. Of course, I can’t do everything in advance, but at least I will sort out posts for this blog, so I can just have them ready to upload. Also episodes for my channel (with episodes is easier, as each of them is a next part of one series, so I just need to schedule them for each Friday). This will keep my projects going, without me spending time on them. When I will have holiday to look after my son.

So these are my plans for the next couple of weeks (or maybe a bit longer). I will prepare post about my planning schedule as well and it will be uploaded on Monday or Wednesday (preparing screenshots and pictures will make it a bit more time-consuming, but I hope you will like it).

So this is it for today’s post. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Where shall I take motivation from?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about days, when you just can’t do anything. Whenever you think about doing any work, you have a feeling that this is not the day. Everything seems impossible.

I think that these kind of days are happening to all of us. We are just humans and we can’t work day after day. That’s why it is important to take some breaks sometimes. However, if this happens to us every day for a long time, we should analyse what is causing that. There might be a lot of reasons for this, starting from tiredness, the nature of our tasks (they might be not something what we really enjoy to do), fear of failure (it is better not to start, if I might fail) or success (what will people think?) and in the worse scenario: it might be one of the signs of burnt out or depression. The last one is the worst, as it is a serious problem and it is very important to get help, if it is the case.

However, if you are sure that depression is not the case, there are some steps you can take to make yourself more motivated. First of all, is to determine what is causing this kind of behaviour. Maybe it is just tiredness and the only thing you need to do is to take some holiday (you can read here to see my advises before taking a holiday). Or simply one week of break from these tasks should do the job.

A bit harder thing is fear. Why so? To realise that you are afraid (whether of failure or success) might be very tricky. You can have that feeling without realising it. I used to be worried about failing. Although, I knew that every attempt of leaving my comfort zone will be connected with fear, I didn’t realised that it was keeping me away from work for quite long time. Similarly, applying for my uni two years ago made me feel same: “What if I will not manage language wise?” or “What if I will not be able even to get to university?” and finally: “What will people around me say? Will they make a fun of me?”. These were just some of the questions didding my head. And do you know what? None of them was valid. Ok, at the beginning it was a bit hard for me to understand what lecturers are saying to us. But eventually, I am able to follow their speach without special effort. Almost as English were my mother language. Well, it looks like practice really makes pefect and if I wouldn’t try, I wouldn’t know till now.

If your problem is the nature of tasks, this might be also quite hard to handle in some cases. But what you might want to consider, is to change subject of you actions. If this is not possible at the moment, just find something what you love to do and incorporate it into your schedule. I know, including more work, while you can’t force yourself to complete current tasks seems a bit weird. But remember, it does not have to be another task. Try to go for something what you actually enjoy doing. Maybe a netflix session? Going for a walk with your family? Choose what suits you the most and enjoy! Having something what you are looking forward to might motivate you to work. Any way, you’ll just finish these tasks and you are going to spend amazing time, aren’t you?

And I am going to leave you with this thought. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Appriciation and a success

Hi guys,

Today, I would like to talk about appreciation. A lot of us, can’t really get anywhere, because we are focusing too much on the stuff we don’t have. Instead of being gratefull for the roof over our head and food on our plates, we tend to get jelous that other people have better home, car or technological gadgets. In reality, we can’t get all this stuff, if we are not able to be happy of what we have.

You might ask why? Well, answer is quite simple. Life will never be easy; having money will sort some of our problems, like rent and bills. However, it will create some new one. One of the common problems is worrying about losing your wealth. There is a saying, that as higher you climb, as more painful it will be when you’ll fall.

I heard stories about people, who after getting rich very quickly, became scared to leave their property, as they were worried that someone can rob it while they’re gone. They stopped believing their family members and friends. They thought that each person is trying to steal money from them.

That’s why it is very important to treat material goods as a tool, but focusing on things, which are much more important in life. Money is important nowadays, but if you lose it, there are multiple options to get them back. However, if you lose people around you, getting them back as your allies might be impossible.

The other thing connected to having a lot of money is a mindset. I know people who started earning more than they used to, let’s say for the purpose of this example, they doubled their incomes, but at the same time they doubled cost of their life style also. Although, they were supposed to get their finances straight after rise of their salary, they have exactly same problems, except that they have to face them in let’s say bigger home. Instead of staying in same, or just a bit better level of life, where they are able to get rid of their debts and maybe save some emergency funds before they start living better, they do it the other way around. It might be good option for some people, but before you make the decision, make sure you’ll analyse it first. Just to be sure that it is not worth it to appriciate your salary’s rise, as a way to get peace of mind and start thinking about renting bigger home when your debts are sorted, so you can start with the blank page.

And with this short thought I am going to finish today. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

How to plan, when so many unexpected things happen?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to tell you about time management, when your daily routine is full of unexpected events, so you can’t really predict what is going to happen. I’ll explain it on my example: since I’ve started working, I never know when my shift is going to happen, as at the moment I am working through agency. This means that I will get a message each midday, whether I can go to work or not.

That makes me unable to plan what I intend to do today evening (especially that I will be in university till 4:30; having a shift tonight means that I have to go to work straight after).

And there might be many more situations of this kind. You might have children, who are unpredictable; you might have some health issues that make you unable to know, how are you going to feel each day, etc. In fact, as many people in the world, this many possibilities.

So if you are in this kind of situation, how can you achieve your long term goals? We already know, that incorporating tasks from you plan into your schedule is impossible, isn’t it? Well, not really. You just need to be a bit more clever than all these unexpected events. Let me explain, how am I trying to cope with this.

First of all, I always make sure that I plan two days at a time, and each of these days doesn’t have too many tasks scheduled. Seeing just two things to do is going to make you more likely to actualy do this. The other thing is, that I am trying to schedule for these days tasks, which I will be able to do in as many places as possible, or in the place, where I have to be any way.

For example, this post is a task, which I can write while I am commuting, at home or in uni. Or even during the break at my work. That makes it a perfect task for today. Similarly, as I am going to be in university any way and I will have my computer with me, I am able to work on some parts of my assignments. That gives me few tasks being checked today.

Similarly, if I have no work today, I’ve already scheduled some tasks for tomorrow and I can work on them instead. Having two light days of tasks ticked as done, gives me one quite productive day. And as soon as I’ll finish my day, I can plan next day again.

This way, I am not the most productive person in the world, but at least I am taking an advantage of all the available time I have. Although, I move towards my goals much slower than I wish to, I am still closer than if I would decide that I have no time and simply gave up.

This is the only tip I will share with you today, because I am taking advantage out of only this one. As I will try some more, I will let you know.

For now I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

16th day and 17th: and again?

Hi guys,

Next two days and another fail. Completely out of control. On Saturday night, there were another terrorist incidents. The worse thing if you are alone at home and you know that your relatives are somewhere in the city. You are trying to call them, but no signal. Well, you are not the only one trying. Network is not able to manage this.

And this is what I’ve done. I’ve been sitting at home and running out of my mind. I was worrying if my dad is going to come, if my husband is safe on his way back from work. And most of all: trying to call them.

Fortunatelly they came. It has taken longer as city centre was paralised. They were lucky. But I’ve started thinking about other people. Those who’s family members or friends weren’t so lucky. Who were waiting same as I was, but they haven’t heard sound of the key in the door. They couldn’t hug their family members. They’ve recieved bad news instead.

Mostly we are thinking: “Well, it’s sad. I feel sorry for them, but it doesn’t boder me. My family was home”. But what we don’t realise, next time it might meet us or our parents, children, brothers, sister or friends. Or us. We can’t be sure for tomorrow at all. We can’t even predict, if we’ll come back from simple grocery shopping. Maybe it’ll be our last yourney?

And here huge problem comes for those of us, who will do this realisation. Because no matter what is going to happen, we need to carry on like everything is ok. Like we are going to live for ever.

Someone told: “Work like you are going to live for ever, live like you are going to die tomorrow”. I can’t remember now, who’s words are they (not mine for sure 😉 ). But this is exactly what we need to do. We are working most of the time, to make sure we can have better future or at least survive.  And we are doing this, even though we have no idea who of us is going to be alive.

All of this freezed me for a while. We are living in such dangerous time, so we are thinking about this (at least I do). But to be honest, even if we would live any time before or after all those attacks, we wouldn’t be sure as well. What is my conclusion? Life is unpredictible. Any time accidents happen, people are getting sick and we can never be sure, when is our last day going to be. We never know, if person who is just living to work or going for holiday is going to come back. But any way, life is worth living, worth fighting for better future and most important: worth being a good person.

Very often people are arguing about so silly thigs. They are hurting each other. I am doing this as well, mostly unintentionally. Or I am just getting upset with my husband or father, because they dared to breathe (I am not getting upset for breathing, but similarly “huge” deals 😉 ). But this is what it is. If something is going to happen to anyone, try and make sure, you are not having any bad emotions towards this person. For instance I was so glad yesterday, that all of us have left home happy, talking to each other and just being happy. Otherwise all this would be even bigger nightmare. This knowledge, that any of them might not come back and last memory would be huge fight. After all, they are some of the closest people to me. And I think, live is too short for fights. Especially if there is no real reason to argue. But even if there is, we should try and sort it out calmly. To make sure, there will not be any words said, we are going to regret after.

Changing subject, just a little bit, today in work I’ve been talking to one of my mates. He said:

“Daria, I haven’t belive you, when you’ve told me those terrorist aren’t muslims. Now I do.”

“What made you change your mind?” 

“Well, when they’ve been doing all those things any time, with ‘Allahu akbar’ on their lips, I was sure they are muslims. But if they do this in ramadan… even I know, it’s one of the biggest sins for muslims”.

I’ve shared this conversation just to make you understand, that by calling all muslims terrorists, people are very unfair. They are hurting all REAL muslims, who are good people, always ready to help.

Dou you know, what came to my head. Another quote, I will not bring it exactly, but the meaning is: if you want to win with any country, first damage it from inside. Strong citizens, who can work together are harder enemies, than those who are enemies for each other.

In my opinion, this is what they are trying to do. Make all of us be enemies to each other. And what is sad, they are achieving their goal. And now, it’s up to us: are we going to be strong societies, who will fight real enemies together, or are we going to destroy our countries on our own, by fighting each other instead and doing job for them?

Finishing all my thoughts, I am going to move to my two days summaries.

16th’s day summary:

Chapter of book – checked

Arabic practise – checked

Small project in HTML + CSS (started) – checked

Plan for next day – checked

Being active – checked

17th’s day summary:

Chapter of book – checked

Project HTML + CSS (finished)- checked

Being active – checked

Arabic lesson – checked

Chapter of next motivational book – checked

Plan for tomorrow – checked

Two day’s post – checked
And for today I wish you very productive day and a lot of appreciation to people who are always with you and who won’t leave you no matter what. Do all the best, that time you are spending together will be quality time, not world war.

For now I am going to sleep. I’ll see you in tomorrow’s post

Daria
P.S. Unfortunatelly my internet still doesn’t work. Router had been changed, but it looks like this wasn’t the case. But my neighbours let me use their wi-fi to keep publishing my posts so any time, they are home in the evening I’ll be able to share my thoughts and everything what had been done. I hope my internet will be sorted once for good soon 😉

And post with book will appear on next Sunday. I will do all my best to publish them every Sunday, instead of every second one. But I’ve decided to keep Sunday as a day, when they are going to see daylight (another polish saying 😉 ). I hope you’ll forgive me this delay.