Priorities and their impact on my life

Hi guys,

Today I would like to share with you some of my thoughts about priorities. I’ve heard a lot of opinions, that you can’t have a family and pursue your career at the same time. On the other hand, there are a lot of people who are managing it just fine.

If you are reading my posts since some time, you will already know it, but if you are new: I have recently became a mother to a cute little guy, who brights my life each and every day. But he provides for me a full time, unpaid job as well. If you will look at dates of my posts, you will see that I haven’t been posting regulary since some time and reasons for it are my priorities.

I figured out that the most important thing for me now is my family. But at the same time, my brain convinced itself, that I can’t be a good mother and a good wife and do stuff which I love too (one of them is writting posts for this blog). I thought about leaving my university too. Fortunately, my husband helped me while I was going through all this stuff and made me understand few things. Here are they:

Baby is a joy, not just a responsibility

Ok, I knew this. Although, they were extremely hard four months since my son was born, each time when I can’t see him for a while (when I am at work for example), make me miss him so much. All 12 hours I spend working, I just can’t wait to see my son’s cute smile when he sees me for the first time after I was away. No matter how tired I am, it is just melting my heart and I am forgeting everything. But there is also time, when I just have a feeling that everything I do now is connected to baby: feeding, changing nappies, cleaning and sterylising bottles, bathing, etc. It takes huge amount of time out of my day. Especialy, when I am after my night shift, I just sleep and look after my baby. Nothing more at all. There is no “me” time. But now I understand, that this is what I love. Waking up being exhausted, just to see smile on my son’s face, just because he wanted to simply be in my arms for a while. To see how he finaly tries to talk (I mean he thinks so, it is more of weird sounds, he is making), catch some toys with his tiny hands… These are the best moments in my life.

Better organisation is the key

And this is something what I am trying to encourage you since this blog exists, but I have forgotten about it when I needed it the most. Having a baby doesn’t mean that you are busy all the time. Babies sleep during the day too. And what you’ll do with this time, depends on you. There are many options: youtube, netfix, some games, or you can just get productive and get your stuff done. You might just take a nap, so you’ll stop be so grumpy 😉 whatever you choose, is good. Just don’t complain about this choice.

And now coming back to priorities. At the moment the most important thing in my life is family. But at the same time, I know that my son will learn by watching me. If he sees me grumpy and so unhappy about life, he will be same. This is why it is so important for me to find a balance between my career and family. Although, I can’t share any idea with you at the moment and I know it is going to be hard, I also know that I have to do this. So here I am, back after another break. I hope, that this time it is a last one.

What I want to do before giving birth?

Hi guys,

Today is a very special day for me. I’ve managed to make up all my tasks (that’s why this post is being uploaded later that usually, but I hoped to be able to share this with you). It has been very hard two weeks and I will try and make sure that I will not get so behind any more (well, everyone is saying that my world will turn around when my son is going to be born and they are probably right). That’s why my plan for now is to prepare.

I don’t know if you remember my post about holiday where I shared some tips on preparing for taking longer break. One of the tips was to get some tasks done in advance. And this is exactly what I am going to do before delivery (which can actualy happen very soon). I have also realised that we are completely unprepared for a little human being to come, literally we have nothing. So this is the priority task for now: to equip our son properly.

I used to be very scared at the beginning, as even if I wanted a child very badly, I had doubts if we are able to cope with all new responsibilities. And I will not lie, I am still scared. I don’t think you can ever be ready for a baby. But having this small feet kicking me each day, seeing my bump moving as my baby is changing position and even playing with my son (really, it is possible to play with a baby in your tummy; I’ve never believed in that) makes me more confident. I know I won’t be a perfect mother, but the only thing I know for sure, is that I am going to do my best.

And just to ease my mind I want to have as much work done as possible. It will allow me to spend these early weeks of his life with my son, without worrying too much about things to do. Of course, I can’t do everything in advance, but at least I will sort out posts for this blog, so I can just have them ready to upload. Also episodes for my channel (with episodes is easier, as each of them is a next part of one series, so I just need to schedule them for each Friday). This will keep my projects going, without me spending time on them. When I will have holiday to look after my son.

So these are my plans for the next couple of weeks (or maybe a bit longer). I will prepare post about my planning schedule as well and it will be uploaded on Monday or Wednesday (preparing screenshots and pictures will make it a bit more time-consuming, but I hope you will like it).

So this is it for today’s post. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Changes, changes and again: changes all around us!

Hi guys,

Well, it’s me again. After long, long time of absence. But I went for unplanned holiday. I intended to keep publishing, but after not seeing my family for more than half year, I wanted to spend as much time as I possibly can with them. And this is what I did.

As you may know, I have been having some health problems recently and this made me to go for holiday. I had to stop working for some time, so I can recover properly and who knows better place to recover than home you were growing in?

Now I am still back in my home, where there are so many great memories round every corner. All games, we were playing with my brothers, all conversations we had with our parents. Everything what have been making me happy, every struggle I needed to face… All this came to me.

But even if there is so many things, which hasn’t changed since I was a child, there is a lot of things I can’t reconize. Buildings in my home town have been renovated, there are many new ones as well. Some shopes I use to go before, don’t exist any more, but they are many more open instead. And finally people. Children I used to play with in past, aren’t children any more. They are adults now. Some of them have their own children already and everything what have left are our memories.

When we are staying in one place, we don’t see how many changes are taking place in our surrounding. We are meeting our family members and friends on daily basis, so we can’t record how different they are becoming. Our surrounding is changing as well, but all those changes are happening one by one and we are just getting used to them. They are becoming something, what we see every day. And we can’t even realise, when an old place have been changed and replaced by the new one.

Those changes are happening all the time. Not only in places where we used to live or where we are living currently. They are taking place all around the word. Let’s take technology for instance. Even if you were born in 90’s, when you were growing up, you propably haven’t got even simple cell phone. And children who were born just ten years after you, have smartphones (well, at least a lot of them do). When you have been spending hours and hours in library, just to find some information for your homework, they have everything at home (well, uncle google does know everything, doesn’t he?). Ok, when I was going to school, I could only dream to have at least computer without internet connection.

And what about medicine? Before, if you were born without leg, for example or you have loose some in the accident, you had to learn how to survive without it. At the moment, you can have a brand new robot one. That just amazing. Nowadays almost everything seem possible. Just imagine, than not so long ago people could only dream about flying. At the moment, any time you need or just want, you can book a ticket and plane is going to take you wherever you want. Simple like that…

You might be wondering, why I am talking so much about changes. Everyone knows, they are all around us, we don’t need to be super-perceptive to see that. But in my opinion very often we can’t realize, how quickly all those changes are going. We can easily say: with rocket’s speed. And this is amazing, but a bit scaring at the same time. Because how can we be sure, that tomorrow some invention will not get out of control?

But the biggest concern of mine is, that a lot of this changes seem to make us, human-beings less human-alike. People prefer to record someone’s accident, to upload it on youtube or anywhere else, instead of simply help. There is a lot of people (and what is more worrying: children as well), who can damage their health in various types of challenges, just to get new subscribers or likes and, what is much worse, there is a lot of people, who can ruin someone’s else life, for the same reasons.

Ok, but as an optimist, I need to belive, that people will still be people, who can enjoy all those changes wisely and use them to make our world a better place for everyone. And with this I am going to finish this post. I wish a very productive day to all of you (or if you are on holiday like me, I wish you to have a lot of relax, so you can face your normal schedule with smile on your face).

I see you in my next post

Daria

P.S. As I was talking about changes everywhere around us, I need to tell you about one change in my attitude, which is highly connected with this post. What I have realised while being in my mum’s home is, that I’ve started seeing this blog, as some kind of commitment (well, it is some kind of commitment, but in my case it was in very negative way). My own website became for me something, what I HAVE to do, instead of what I WANT to do. No matter what, no matter how I have to produce something. While, in my opinion, it should be nothing more, but fun. So I’ve decided not writting about what have been done, even if this was main purpose of this website. But simply write random things I’ve been thinking about or I’ve red recently. And just have fun about it. But to keep this blog as “My motivation” blog, I will be simply updating you as soon as any of my big projects will be finished, or when any new will come on sight.

I hope you will enjoy it as well 🙂