Appriciation and a success

Hi guys,

Today, I would like to talk about appreciation. A lot of us, can’t really get anywhere, because we are focusing too much on the stuff we don’t have. Instead of being gratefull for the roof over our head and food on our plates, we tend to get jelous that other people have better home, car or technological gadgets. In reality, we can’t get all this stuff, if we are not able to be happy of what we have.

You might ask why? Well, answer is quite simple. Life will never be easy; having money will sort some of our problems, like rent and bills. However, it will create some new one. One of the common problems is worrying about losing your wealth. There is a saying, that as higher you climb, as more painful it will be when you’ll fall.

I heard stories about people, who after getting rich very quickly, became scared to leave their property, as they were worried that someone can rob it while they’re gone. They stopped believing their family members and friends. They thought that each person is trying to steal money from them.

That’s why it is very important to treat material goods as a tool, but focusing on things, which are much more important in life. Money is important nowadays, but if you lose it, there are multiple options to get them back. However, if you lose people around you, getting them back as your allies might be impossible.

The other thing connected to having a lot of money is a mindset. I know people who started earning more than they used to, let’s say for the purpose of this example, they doubled their incomes, but at the same time they doubled cost of their life style also. Although, they were supposed to get their finances straight after rise of their salary, they have exactly same problems, except that they have to face them in let’s say bigger home. Instead of staying in same, or just a bit better level of life, where they are able to get rid of their debts and maybe save some emergency funds before they start living better, they do it the other way around. It might be good option for some people, but before you make the decision, make sure you’ll analyse it first. Just to be sure that it is not worth it to appriciate your salary’s rise, as a way to get peace of mind and start thinking about renting bigger home when your debts are sorted, so you can start with the blank page.

And with this short thought I am going to finish today. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Trespass the fence of your fear to gain creativity

Hi guys,

Today, before I jump into the content, I will say that I am just amazing. I have prepared this post on Tuesday and scheduled it for Wednesday (at least this is what I believed). But as soon as I opened a wordpress app, I have realised that in reality, I have scheduled it for today. So here it is, again late.

However, today’s topic came out of nowhere. I have been thinking, how it is possible, that some people seem to be natural in their talent, it almost looks like that they have been born and they already knew how to be good at something, while others need years and years to bring the same skill to similar level. As it isn’t topic of this subject, I will tell you about my conlusion in the next post. Today, I would like to focus on creativity. Have you ever wonder, why some people are so open, always come out with great ideas, their art work stands out (not only because of their talent, but the way how they presented the topic)? While on the other hand, some people seem to just copy everyone around, without having anything original to show?

Propably, you would call the first group creative, but why the other are not? What characteristic you need to have, to be creative? Or maybe, it is a genes work and you can not do anything about it?

I have been thinking about it since quite long time. Myself, I struggle with creativity quite often. But what I have realised, my struggle is not to have an idea, but to accept any of them. Propably, it doesn’t make sense now, but let me explain it further:

When I am trying to brainstorm any problem (if it is about my personal projects, I do this on my own), I usually have a lot of ideas how to solve it. However, some of them are being rejected, before I (at least!) looked closer at them and analysed them. Simply, I am just ignoring them and forget almost right away.

When I realised this process taking place in my mind, I started to wonder why I am doing this. I mean, I complain very often about my lack of creativity, but when I have ideas, I am not even trying to analyse them. And I came to very interesting conclusion, when I figure out, what creativity means.

For me, to come out with a good idea, you need to reveal a part of yourself. The ability of sneaking your way into things that already exist, delivering it in your way – this is what creativity is. Wheather you are an artist, you try to create a website, or try to set up a business, which will be standing out from many other similar businesses; you have to come up with something, what haven’t been done before. And here is the problem. That means, that this part of your personality or past will be exposed to everyone. In my case, it cause a fear. Eventhough, I am not aware of it. But in the back of my head, I am predicting all judgements I would hear, if I would just get it into the real world: “what a stupid idea!”; “how she could think, that this is going to work?”; “there is not even slight chance of a success!”; and so on. All this can make me put my head down and just back up. It is easier, isn’t it?

Well, not always. I have heard a lot stories of people on their death bed. They almost never regretted what they did, but almost always did regret things, they didn’t do. All these things, they were lacking courage to achieve. They wish, they haven’t pay as much attention to other people’s opinion and just live their life instead.

I am the person, who has a lot of ideas in my head, some of them might not be good. But I will never know, if I will not try them. However, I am not spending enough time, to get them ready. I still keep starting new projects, before the previous one are finished and I am ending up with nothing. Because, what if people don’t like, what I am doing? What, if they will laugh and keep pointing fingers at me?

But what is the funniest thing in all that? Reasonable part of me knows, that nothing like this is going to happen. And even if it would, I wouldn’t care as much propably. So the only thing, what could propably happen, is just a failure. Which propably will be forgotten by everyone (including myself) quite soon.

And this part of you, which you would let out with your creative way of doing things, will propably not be spotted by anyone. Just because random people don’t know you well enough, to determine what comes from your personal experiences and what have been coloured a bit, to make it more atractive. They know almost nothing about your emotions, about this small part of your soul, you are exposing to them. They can see it, but they won’t be knowing, that you did this because this and this happened. They will just appreciate it or not, but as a whole only. Not each piece of it, as they will not analyse it as deeply.

And even if your project fails, you will learn something new about yourself. And what is more important, you will be able to move to the next project, without thoughts in your head wondering: “What, if I would tried that one?”. You will just know, it wouldn’t work. And by doing this, you will teach yourself to open more. To let your creativity to be free and keep yourself motivated (if you are not afraid of surreal consequences, it will be easier for you, to do what you love).

And with this thought, I am going to finish this post. I hope you like it and, as always, I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria