How to plan, when so many unexpected things happen?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to tell you about time management, when your daily routine is full of unexpected events, so you can’t really predict what is going to happen. I’ll explain it on my example: since I’ve started working, I never know when my shift is going to happen, as at the moment I am working through agency. This means that I will get a message each midday, whether I can go to work or not.

That makes me unable to plan what I intend to do today evening (especially that I will be in university till 4:30; having a shift tonight means that I have to go to work straight after).

And there might be many more situations of this kind. You might have children, who are unpredictable; you might have some health issues that make you unable to know, how are you going to feel each day, etc. In fact, as many people in the world, this many possibilities.

So if you are in this kind of situation, how can you achieve your long term goals? We already know, that incorporating tasks from you plan into your schedule is impossible, isn’t it? Well, not really. You just need to be a bit more clever than all these unexpected events. Let me explain, how am I trying to cope with this.

First of all, I always make sure that I plan two days at a time, and each of these days doesn’t have too many tasks scheduled. Seeing just two things to do is going to make you more likely to actualy do this. The other thing is, that I am trying to schedule for these days tasks, which I will be able to do in as many places as possible, or in the place, where I have to be any way.

For example, this post is a task, which I can write while I am commuting, at home or in uni. Or even during the break at my work. That makes it a perfect task for today. Similarly, as I am going to be in university any way and I will have my computer with me, I am able to work on some parts of my assignments. That gives me few tasks being checked today.

Similarly, if I have no work today, I’ve already scheduled some tasks for tomorrow and I can work on them instead. Having two light days of tasks ticked as done, gives me one quite productive day. And as soon as I’ll finish my day, I can plan next day again.

This way, I am not the most productive person in the world, but at least I am taking an advantage of all the available time I have. Although, I move towards my goals much slower than I wish to, I am still closer than if I would decide that I have no time and simply gave up.

This is the only tip I will share with you today, because I am taking advantage out of only this one. As I will try some more, I will let you know.

For now I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Importance of having goals and including them in your plan

Hi guys,

Today, I have decided to write about importance of having goals and including them in your plan (or schedule). I think I will leave topic of planning for now (at least till I will not discover something new), so this is going to be last post of this “series”.

Why having goals is important? Whether you are going to achieve them or not, they are some kind of signposts on the way. You can follow them, or choose some other way, but whenever you are lost, they are always there for you.

I can’t really think of all moments, where I had no idea what to do, so I’ve just wasted my time doing nothing. List of goals might be great list of possible things to do while you are bored. I saw some videos on YouTube, where people said that they are preparing a list, where they put all possible activities, they can do while bored. It might be something like clean the flat, read book, work out, etc. They don’t necessary have to be things connected to achieving their goals. But if, you have list which completing will lead you to tick this box near next goal, why not go for it? Any way… You are looking for something to do…

Also, it is quite important to just have at least some kind of guidance, when it comes to become someone, who you want to be. There are a lot of people, who want to become let’s say a pilot, programmer or doctor, but they are not even trying to get closer to their goals. Simply, because they have no idea what shall they do. They are not really aware, what would bring them closer to their goal, so they just keep spending next hours wondering about that.

I know this from my experience. I want to be a programmer. But I haven’t got any plan how to get there. So I was just stuck in my dreams without progressing. Since I’ve prepared my plan, the very first thing was to do research and find out what do I need to be able to do what I wish to do. It included what technologies do I need learn and after I looked for a YouTube tutorials for beginners, where I got some basics about chosen technology.

My next step was to create an application, which probably will not bring me any incomes, but by developing it, I am able to know what to research to progress. As I already know, that in programming there are many ways to achieve one goal, I am trying to find as many solutions as I can and see what gives me a better performance. This way, I am learning many more commands and libraries. I believe, that this will allow me to decide which solution will be more convenient for my future applications and I hope that I will be able to understand why.

All this became possible for me, as I did a research on the topic of how to learn programming and I picked all tips, which seemed perfect for me to incorporate them into my plan. I also have list with all other tips which I am not taking advantage of at the moment. I’ve decided to keep these ideas any way, just in case, if my current plan does not work as I wish.

You might also ask, how do I incorporate these things I’ve spoken about. It was quite simple (but it was quite hard to think about it in the first place), as I just added one task each week, which is find as many solutions to chosen programming problem and pick the best one after testing all of them.

This is just one of the examples why having planned goals included in your schedule can be very powerful tool on the way to become more productive person. It can also help you to get closer to the place, where you wish to see yourself.

I am going to leave you with this thought for now. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my Wednesday’s post.

Daria

How do I plan?

Hi guys,

Today, as we have tips on setting goals and actually working towards them, I am going to tell you, how I am personally planning my goals. The important thing is, that I am not the perfect planner and the most motivated person on the internet. But what is important too, most of the people out there were at the similar point as me (and maybe you), where they had to figure out the next step, how to boost amount of task they are getting done and finally, how to work smart, so they are getting closer to their goals with each task they are doing.

As I have been watching a lot of YouTube videos of people who achieved their goals (or they are on great path to do so) and I’ve read a lot of blogs showing such stories, I came to some conclusions. First of it was, that some of the ways these people have taken are simply not for me. And it is not because their way is wrong, it is not working or something like this. No! There is a lot of great ideas out there! The only thing which was making it not suitable for me, was difference in priorities of these people and priorities of mine.

Let me explain it. For a lot of people, the most important thing was to earn some particular amount of money, so that their families can have better life. You know… children can take any course they want, have great Christmas gifts, designed clothes, the best holiday, etc. My goal is very similar in the long run. I wish that in the future I don’t have to worry about each bill, make sure that after paying it we will still have anything to put into the pot, etc. But at the same time, I can’t afford to work 16 hours each day to achieve this. And this is not because of my laziness (or at least not only because of it). Having enough money is important, but not at the cost of my family. I don’t want my husband to be able to see me just once a week, I don’t want my son, who is going to be born quite soon, not to be sure who his mother is and things like this. I am sure there are a lot of you out there, who think similarly.

So having this example in mind, I saw stories of people, who have worked for 16 hours for let’s say a year or two (now their work count looks much better), but for me it isn’t the possibility. Although, I don’t say that their way is wrong, for me it would be as I am trying to give better life to my family, but not at the cost of my family. I hope, it does make sense. So I have made some schedule, which works for me.

But before I’ll move into it, I would like to tell you what I am using to do my plan. Track of all my goals, meetings, task, deadlines, etc. I keep it in my bullet journal. I’ve started my in 2017, but I haven’t kept up with it for very long time, as I saw it as waste of time (setting up each page, making it look clean, etc). But as I’ve started having more and more specific goals, and my schedule became more and more congested, I’ve realised that this is the best option for me. It gives me great flexibility, as I can add any page, any tracker or whatever I want. And this haven’t been possible in any of my other planners (well, I had one on my phone, where I could add whatever I wanted too, but the problem was, that whenever my battery died, I couldn’t add or check anything).

So what do I have in my bullet journal? First of all I have calendar for the whole year. I can put there all meetings and all things which are going to happen in the future. That makes it easy to have quick glimpse at everything, without necessity of going through all pages to find any particular date.

I have also my goals pages, where I have all my goals written and split up for the steps. That gives me an overview on what I need to do to achieve each of my goals. If some tasks have deadlines, they are written there as well. This is very helpful, when IĀ  am planning my days. As after handling my everyday tasks, I can see what should be done next, to allow me to achieve my goals.

My planing schedule happens every evening. I am scheduling all my tasks according to time I have available next day (when I book time for my every day things, like cooking, cleaning, going to work or appointments, spending my time with my husband, etc.). I make sure that every day I have at least one task, on which I can work on the way, as my travelling to work (yeah, I found a job recently too) and university takes around one hour. Usually, I don’t decide on order of my tasks. I know that it might be very helpful thing to do, but as there is a lot of unexpected things happening in the course of the day, I have realised, that not always it is possible to follow very strict schedule. The only exception is, if the task has a very short deadline (like needs to be done same day or very early the next day; that time I am making sure I handle it as a first).

There are also some days, where I am not able to managed all I have planned. These task are being handled as first the very next day. This way, at the end of each week, I don’t have any tasks, which are too overdue (it used to happen a lot to me in past). So this is just basic planning, which happens every evening, before I go to bed.

There is also one bigger session of planning every end of the month. I’ve been doing it for three months now and it is working amazing so far. During this sessions, I am picking one or two goals in which I wish to progress the most during coming month. I have one monthly to do list, with tasks associated with these goals and as I am picking task for each day, I am starting with these tasks first.

This is basically my way of planning for now. It might change overtime, but at the moment it works for me perfectly. This ends my post, so as always, I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

So you have plan – what next?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about the way, how we can work on goals, when we have a plan. It seems simple, doesn’t it? Just make plan and follow it. But in that case, why so many people who prepare plans fail?

The answer is relatively easy: they don’t have good tactics to work with the plan. Very often (I used to be one of these people too), they don’t really know what they are supposed to do. Plan, of course is a very important part, but all work is on our side. We can’t forget, that writing something on the piece of paper or in any electronic form will not make it just happen.

And here are a lot of possibilities to attempt your plan. You might just leave it and hoe for better tomorrow, or you can actually keep progressing. But even if you decide to work on your plan, you have to do this wisely, in such a way that will suit you. I will try to introduce one possible way to work on your goals, but bear in mind that there are many other available. As each of us is different, different things will be perfect for each of us. If this technique will not be perfect for you, do your research, or let me know in the comment section below, so I can write about some other technique, too.

  • Set particular time for your work

This might be a very wise and helpful step. You know your schedule the best, so you might decide that every day at 6 pm, or any other time, you will be sitting and working. Completely focused on what you have to do. If your schedule allow you for more such days every week, you can decide to work towards different goal each day a week. But even if you don’t have as much time, you can set just one session a week and plan in advance, what are you going to work on. For sure, you don’t want to waste your productive time for wondering what to do).

  • Switch off all distractions

This might be quite hard sometimes. Of course, switching off your phone or TV playing in the background might be already challenging, but if on top of this you have children, it might become even harder. That’s why make sure, that you plan your working session at the time when your children are asleep. TV and phone? Just switch them off. It might seem hard at the beginning, but I am sure you will survive for this 2 hours šŸ˜‰

Other distraction is also mess in your workplace. Try to make sure, that your desk (if you are working by the desk) is clean and tidy, that there are no unnecessary things to catch your attention while you are working.

Don’t give up

You should remember that not always everything will go according to your plan. Keep in mind that everyone has worse days in their life. What is important, don’t take it as a reason to stop carry on. Any way, there is still the whole year left. But remember don’t push it away too long either. Time flies and if you leave everything for last moment, you will probably not be able to catch on in the future. Your list, even if it used to seem manageable, might overwhelm you (especially when you’ll try to catch up everything in December). That’s why it is so important to be consistent and slowly keep moving towards your goals.

These are all advises I would like to share with you today. I hope they will help you to achieve your goals. For now I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Getting rid of the worse habit of mine. New challenge!

Hi guys,

Today, I am going to talk about very important part of self-development, which is getting rid of bad habits and I will take on the new challenge.

As I mentioned in few of my previous posts, habits are a very powerful tools in achieving anything you want. You want to learn something? Make a habit to spend time to master this skill. You want to be stronger? Make habit of exercising every morning. Just simply include it in your routine and before you’ll realise, you will be doing it on autopilot. Without wondering about all excuses.

However, not every habit is good. There are some, which are devastating for us. But before I will tell you about this group, let me tell you, how one of my friend explained me, what habit mean (please note that this is not an official definition):

Habits and addictions are actually same. Bad habit is called an addiction and good addiction is called a habit.

Why I have mentioned that? First I will tell you, that I am writing this post on Saturday and Sunday. Although, it will be published on Monday, I want to keep it as a preparation for war with the worse of my habits, namely: smoking.

This is one of my bad habits, I had a lot of attempts to stop. As I still struggle with it, you can figure out that they were just failures. Sometimes, things you want to get rid of, are being so rooted in your everyday life, that you are reaching for them automatically. This is how it looks like with my smoking. I have been smoking for about eight or nine years, but I have reached amount of 20 to 30 cigarettes a day. I started to smoke so much after beginning of this year, when there were just too many things happening and I couldn’t handle it. However, I really can see an impact of smoking in my body, but in my mental balance, too. I became much weaker, very often I need a break to catch some air, even if I just walk a bit quicker. But what is the worse, I became very prone to getting frustrated. It doesn’t make me blow or anything. But inside I can feel it. My failures from the past, the amount of money, I have to spend each week and finally, this shade of possible diseases I can get from smoking. All this makes me stop right away, but at the same time, there is this voice in my head saying: “You will fail again, don’t waste your time and effort!”.

Well, this is going to change, when you are reading it. This time I just know, I will be able to take control in my life and my schedule won’t be driven by cigarettes breaks. This time, I had done a great research and I know that being aware of symptoms connected to nicotine withdrawal, will help me to overcome them.

So here it is! My first day of not smoking! So far it is not that bad, but I also know that real struggle will start tomorrow. Keep your fingers crossed.

I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

P.S. To be more precised, this is first half day of not smoking, as I had three cigarettes left from yesterday. But it is first day of my challenge. If you are interested what tricks I am using to make sure I am not smoking, let me know in the comment section below. They might be useful if you are at the same place as me.

Goals? But what are they?

Hi guys,

Today’s post is going to be about goals. I think, having goals is very important, as it gives purpose to your life. But goals aren’t all the same. In fact, there are no two goals, which you can say, they are same.

Let’s take for example two people wanting to have Ā£100 000 on their account by the end of the year. And you might say: “Their goals are same”. But goals are much more complicated than just name. They have a story behind them and their purpose purpose.

Let’s stick to the example above. We can’t say that having Ā£100 000 is their goal on it’s own. For one person this amount might be the savings for the worse time, for other it can be necessary to pay for a treatment of family member, another might need it to prove his or her status. And these are only some of possibilities. There are much more out there. Propably, if you have similar goal in your life, you might want to use it in completely different way.

Similarly, each of them might be influenced by different feeling. There will be people, who will be frustrated, because at the moment they are struggling to pay their bills; other might became responsible for the other life, as they became a new parent, and they want everything what’s the best for their child; and other might be just jealous, because their neighbour has Ā£99 999 on their account, so they need at least Ā£1 more (I know such people, even if before I thought that they don’t exist – well, they do).

But to achieve any goal, you need to have strong believes driving you towards success. No matter, why you want to achieve particular thing, if your reason is very important for you, there is great chance that you will eventually get there. No matter what other people will say, how tired you will be. Deep inside your heart you will know that this is what you are suppose to do.

Long time ago I had a friend. Both of us were a bit different then rest of our colleagues, so we became very close. She was doing very well in school. She never went out, if her homework wasn’t done; if we had an exam within next few days, she wouldn’t even pick up her phone (eventhough she new the subject better than our teacher). Most of the people thought that she is just very ambitious, however the truth was that she wanted to be the best for her dad. He suffered from cancer and she wanted to make sure that in case if something will go wrong, he would die being calm about her. She just wanted to reasure him, that she will manage, no matter what. That even if he wouldn’t be able to be with them, she is responsible enough to take care for the family. At that time, (we were 13 or maybe 14) in her mind, this was the way to prove all this.

One day, before I knew the reason, I’ve told her that she is lucky, because she loves to learn and she can actually motivate herself to do it. She answered that she hate studying.

Even after hearing her reasoning, I couldn’t understand her. I was learning for myself and very often it was hard for me to grab a book and study. Even if I loved (actualt, I stll love) studying. She was doing it for her father and she was doing very well (I could even say: perfect). And it wasn’t fear of punishment to make her do this. All this was just blowing my mind at that point.

However, no matter that no one understood it. For her it was so strong feeling that nothing could stop her. She could stay awake at night, to make sure everything is perfectly done (I mean, can you imagine yourself doing this at the age of 14? That time I was hoping that someone will do everything for me šŸ˜‰ and I will be able to keep rsdting till end of my life šŸ˜‰ ).

So this is what goals are about. They are not just things we want to do. They are a result of our experiences, feelings and ambitions. I even think that they are always proving something. Sometimes we are just proving to ourself that we can do particular thing, the other time we want to prove it to the whole world. That’s why goals are very special (at least in some way).

Moreover, they are defining who we are. They make us wake up in the morning and follow the path towards them. Whether it’s easy or extremely hard, we are just moving there. In our own speed, trying to face all difficulties. And that makes us special, shows our personality (even if only to ourselves). We are getting upset, when we are failing; sometimes we just give up, but if we strongly believe in our goal, we will get up after each failure. Retaking this way (very often very hard way), just because we know what is waiting for us at the end of it, make us unbreakable in some meaning. And for us, it is one of the most important thing, whether it’s easy life for our child; pride of being better than our neighbour; or just our own contentment. For us, this is all waht does matter.

This is all for today’s post. I wish you very productive day and I hope that all goals you did set or will set in the future will be the ones, you just won’t give up on. And I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

P.S. I will not include my thoughts and experiences connected to my challenge today. I’ve decided, that for next 4 Sundays I will just publish an extra post, where I will tell you all about the whole week. I am making notes on the daily basis (just to make sure I will learn as much about myself, as I possibly can during this challenge) and I will use these notes to tell you how whole my week went. In much more details, than I would be able to describe it at the end of the regular post.

How to win with mistakes?

Hi guys,

Today, I would like to talk about failures in planning. Especially, when you don’t have an experience, you might under-estimate the time, you need to complete particular task. It happened to me last week. I said, that first of my episodes on YouTube is going to be uploaded on last Wednesday or Thursday. However, it had happen, that there was much more work needed to make it presentable, than I thought at the beginning. I haven’t realised, that to meet this deadline I need some more software to proccess my video, after I need to learn (at least on basic level) how to use it, and so on. I also wasn’t aware, that using a completely new kind of program will be so difficult and time-consuming. At least for me (well, actualy I knew, but haven’t thought about it while planning).

So what with my plan? As you can guess, my plan went completely wrong. Everything collapsed just because of one task. And I won’t lie: at the beginning I was about to give up. Just leave all this planning think and try to work like before – without any plan. You know this feeling, when you really want to do something right, but it turns out like always? But fortunately, I have realised, that this is all about. As planning is like riding a bike. Before you’ll become a pro, you need to fall down many times. But if you will give up, you will not even get the idea, how to keep your balance. Same with planning. How you can know, how long particular task is going to take, if you have never tried to plan similar one before?

So when assigning time to tasks you might make a lot of mistakes on the beginning of your planning journey. Maybe just like me, you might not be aware, how particular activity has to be done; or it can simply take longer than you thought it will. But there is no reason to give up on whole plan.

I will share with you some tips on how to actualy minimise consequences of being late because of failing to accomplish one task on time.

Check, if you can reschedule it without major consequences

This is something I failed to do. But before I’ll tell you about it, let me shortly explain, how my planning proccess looks like. Basically, I create huge to-do list filled with task for one week. They are sorted by deadlines and importance. What is kind of important, these task are quite general. Just end product and in reality it contains smaller tasks, which are being assigned to particular day in a week. I don’t plan, what time I am going to do what, as my life style needs a lot of improvements to be called regular. So generally, rescheduling is something new in my planning, which I found out too late. I have spent a lot of time trying to solve one task, which I could easily leave and move deadline (my channel doesn’t have any content yet, so it wouldn’t let anyone down – except me). Instead, I have focused on it ignoring other tasks, so they became late (like my last post being uploaded one day later and today’s three hours later). But this is something I am going to try next time, hopefully šŸ˜‰

Analyse your mistakes and learn from them

This rule actually applies not only to planning, but to every aspect of our lifes. It is important to, whenever you make mistake, try and find the reason causing it. Maybe you were too tired, or you have underestimated time needed for your task. Maybe you have just scheduled too much and you had no chance to cope with it (it still happens to me, sometimes). There might be a lot of reasons and it is crucial to find them and try to avoid them in the future.

Don’t think about past mistakes

You know, past is past. You can’t change it. Just learn your lesson (after analysing it) and don’t think about it any more. It will not help you at all. It happened already. Going over it again and again might make you fail with next tasks. So don’t bother any more. And start this next task you have planned. It will have much better consequences than crying about the thing, that can’t be changed.

Don’t be afraid to change the way you plan

I know, this is very painfull, when you invented perfect way to plan. But hey! It doesn’t work! You don’t need to change whole system. Just try to incorporate small changes at the time, so you can find something what works better for you. And keep in your mind possibility of mistakes (propably it will take some time till you will stop doing them). So next time you will be prepared and you’ll be able to nail it, even with this small failure in the background.

Don’t give up

This is actualy the worst thing you can do (and I almost did it). As long as you keep going, you still have chance to get everything done (even if it will be slightly later than you wanted, it is still better than if you wouldn’t done it at all).

And this is all for today’s post. I hope it is helpfull for you. As always, I wish you very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Happy New Year! And 2018 resolutions :)

Hi guys,

As this end of the year was just crazy, full of unexpected events, guests and many, many beautifull moments, I’ve decided to take break (well, not first time, any way). People, who I haven’t seen for ages came to share this special time with me. Huge surprise, but how amazing at the same time!

Any way, today, while everyone is getting ready for New Year’s party, I’ve decided to use this time to write something for you, guys. First of all: Happy 2018 Year! I wish all your dreams will come true this year and I hope that this 2017 year, we are saying goodbye to, left some great memories in your hearts.

Tomorrow, we are going to start with new, blank page to write on. When I was a child, I liked to think about new year like this. Everything what have been good in all years was kept in memory, but all bad things have been forgotten. That time I was writting in my journal. Everything what happened each day, used to be documented. And by everything, I mean everything. I went to school – in my journal; I ate chocolate bar for snack – in my journal; even I thought at some point of the day, that it would be nice if it were snowing – guess what? – I can read it now, in my journal šŸ˜€ So unexpected, isn’t it šŸ˜€

I’ve lost my point: every year I used to buy new notebook to write in, so for me new year really meant a new blank page (or better notebook). Every 1st of January, when I used to sit behind my desk to tell about everything what happened, there was nothing to come back to. No bad bad things, only good things in my memory. Believe me, amazing feeling!

Nowadays I don’t have journal (well, I have my bullet journal, but let’s be honest: I use it more as a planner, than a place where I can just write every single detail of my day), but I found my old ones. And in the begining of each of them, there is some short summary of my previous year’s resolutions and new year’s resolutions. Every year very ambitious (like for a child), but what is most important, at the end of almost every year, they were just done. In all of my summaries it was written: this was something I wanted to do in the beginning of 2000 year and I’ve done it in this month. Unbelievable!

A the moment, I still do my resolution list, but let’s be honest, by the end of the year I don’t even have an idea, where this list is gone. So today, I am going to share with you some goals for 2018 year (I have another, bit bigger list in my bullet journal, but forgive me leaving my personal goals in secret šŸ˜‰ ).

2018 resolution list:

  • Keep my schedule of blog posts

As you might remember, I introduced my schedule some time ago and so far following it was just a fail. Huge fail! So at the end of the year I want to be able to say: Hey, for the whole year I kept publishing my posts ON TIME!”.

  • Bring projects from my head into the reality

You might know about some of those projects, as I wrote about them in my very first post. By now, I have few new one, being ideas in my head. Some of them where supposed to be ready by now… well.. This year, I want to work seriously hard and handle maximum two big projects at the time. And what really important, I want to have plan: my projects divided into small tasks with deadlines. Hopefully, before 2018 will end, you will already know, that some of them are actually done.

  • Start doing my university assignments when they are posted, not week before deadline

Yep, even if I know, that something will take a lot of time, I procrastinate it a lot, so when I am starting, I have only little time to finish it (be honest, not as well as I wish to) and only if I will not sleep for at least two or three nights providing my organism with huge ammount of coffee. Well, this new year I want to change it.

  • Last, but not least is to be more consistent

This is the harder one for me. I like to start a lot of different things, but quite quickly I am giving up. Even before I am able to judge, whether this particular activity is right for me or not. This was always a big challenge for me, but since this year, I want to make sure, that whatever I will start doing, I will do it consistently for at least half year.

And those are all my resolutions I want to share. There are some more, but as I said before, they are very personal.

So again, I wish you a happy New Year. I hope it will be much better than 2017 (even if 2017 was perfect, it can always be better šŸ˜‰ ). Now I wish you great new year’s party. I hope you will enjoy it and stay safe.

I’ll see you in brand new 2018 year.

Daria

P.S. I will up date post after New Year with New Years cover photo šŸ˜‰

Changes, changes and again: changes all around us!

Hi guys,

Well, it’s me again. After long, long time of absence. But I went for unplanned holiday. I intended to keep publishing, but after not seeing my family for more than half year, I wanted to spend as much time as I possibly can with them. And this is what I did.

As you may know, I have been having some health problems recently and this made me to go for holiday. I had to stop working for some time, so I can recover properly and who knows better place to recover than home you were growing in?

Now I am still back in my home, where there are so many great memories round every corner. All games, we were playing with my brothers, all conversations we had with our parents. Everything what have been making me happy, every struggle I needed to face… All this came to me.

But even if there is so many things, which hasn’t changed since I was a child, there is a lot of things I can’t reconize. Buildings in my home town have been renovated, there are many new ones as well. Some shopes I use to go before, don’t exist any more, but they are many more open instead. And finally people. Children I used to play with in past, aren’t children any more. They are adults now. Some of them have their own children already and everything what have left are our memories.

When we are staying in one place, we don’t see how many changes are taking place in our surrounding. We are meeting our family members and friends on daily basis, so we can’t record how different they are becoming. Our surrounding is changing as well, but all those changes are happening one by one and we are just getting used to them. They are becoming something, what we see every day. And we can’t even realise, when an old place have been changed and replaced by the new one.

Those changes are happening all the time. Not only in places where we used to live or where we are living currently. They are taking place all around the word. Let’s take technology for instance. Even if you were born in 90’s, when you were growing up, you propably haven’t got even simple cell phone. And children who were born just ten years after you, have smartphones (well, at least a lot of them do). When you have been spending hours and hours in library, just to find some information for your homework, they have everything at home (well, uncle google does know everything, doesn’t he?). Ok, when I was going to school, I could only dream to have at least computer without internet connection.

And what about medicine? Before, if you were born without leg, for example or you have loose some in the accident, you had to learn how to survive without it. At the moment, you can have a brand new robot one. That just amazing. Nowadays almost everything seem possible. Just imagine, than not so long ago people could only dream about flying. At the moment, any time you need or just want, you can book a ticket and plane is going to take you wherever you want. Simple like that…

You might be wondering, why I am talking so much about changes. Everyone knows, they are all around us, we don’t need to be super-perceptive to see that. But in my opinion very often we can’t realize, how quickly all those changes are going. We can easily say: with rocket’s speed. And this is amazing, but a bit scaring at the same time. Because how can we be sure, that tomorrow some invention will not get out of control?

But the biggest concern of mine is, that a lot of this changes seem to make us, human-beings less human-alike. People prefer to record someone’s accident, to upload it on youtube or anywhere else, instead of simply help. There is a lot of people (and what is more worrying: children as well), who can damage their health in various types of challenges, just to get new subscribers or likes and, what is much worse, there is a lot of people, who can ruin someone’s else life, for the same reasons.

Ok, but as an optimist, I need to belive, that people will still be people, who can enjoy all those changes wisely and use them to make our world a better place for everyone. And with this I am going to finish this post. I wish a very productive day to all of you (or if you are on holiday like me, I wish you to have a lot of relax, so you can face your normal schedule with smile on your face).

I see you in my next post

Daria

P.S. As I was talking about changes everywhere around us, I need to tell you about one change in my attitude, which is highly connected with this post. What I have realised while being in my mum’s home is, that I’ve started seeing this blog, as some kind of commitment (well, it is some kind of commitment, but in my case it was in very negative way). My own website became for me something, what I HAVE to do, instead of what I WANT to do. No matter what, no matter how I have to produce something. While, in my opinion, it should be nothing more, but fun. So I’ve decided not writting about what have been done, even if this was main purpose of this website. But simply write random things I’ve been thinking about or I’ve red recently. And just have fun about it. But to keep this blog as “My motivation” blog, I will be simply updating you as soon as any of my big projects will be finished, or when any new will come on sight.

I hope you will enjoy it as well šŸ™‚

Art of saying “No” (days eight to eleven)

Hi guys,

Today again after some break (I think it’s four days). And unfortunately now I have no choice, but change days when posts are going to be published. Instead of every day, posts are going to be published every Monday, Wednesday, Friday and Sunday (except that yesterday it wasn’t any and one is today instead) and self-development’s book post is going to be published every Wednesday. All those changes, because I have been asked to work for two months, as my friend is going for holiday. So every evening plus full day every Sunday I am going to take her shift. Why? Because even if I knew I won’t have time for much alse, even if I was desperate to say “No”, I’ve said “Yes” instead.

So now after my regular job, I have four hours to be spent in restaurant as a waitress. It has been already one week since I am working like this and I can’t say it’s easy. It’s very hard actually.

To be honest on the beginning I was very upset, because by agreeing, I said “goodbye” to my free time. Now I am still upset, but the reason is different. Because of lack of time, I need to be very choosy, if it is about spending my time. I can’t do everything, so I needed to set priorities, what have been very hard for me since I remember (I’ve just wanted to do everything at the same time). But now, I have huge opportunity to practise this.

And any way, now, when I have only 2-4 hours every day, I can get skills, which are going to be very usefull in the future, when I’ll have much more of free time. This is the only think about it, which makes me happy.

I think increasing my free time (and how I am going to do this) is worthed to be mention as well. So as I’ve said before, working for twelve plus hours every day is extremely hard, but not impossible. So I’ve decided, that for next one year I’ll give it a chance. Well, a bit less, as in the end of September my uni starts. But any way, for whole this time, me and my husband (as he admited it is worth trying) are going to work a lot and save as much as we can, so after that, we can slow down without worrying about our finances and fully focus on our personal goals.

So this is a reason why posts are going to appear every second day. As except my two works, I am stil going to work on my personal stuff, so when I’ll be able to slow down, I won’t need to start everything from zero.

Ok, I have written a lot about what had happened and what is going to happen, but let’s talk about right subject of this post.

Art of saying “No”

So during this past week, I have been asking myself, why I have agreed fo all this. I could just say “No” and live like I have been living before. And to be honest, “No” was the most desired word I wanted to say, when my friend asked me for this favour. Well, I haven’t. Why? I was thinking, that I don’t want to make her life hard (if she wouldn’t find anyone to take her place, after coming back she would be without job).

And I think this is the reason, why a lot of us is doing things, we don’t realy want. We are trying to please everyone else, but ourselves. I’ve catched myself on doing this many times. Especially when I was much younger (well, now I’ve presented, that not too much had changed since that time). I have been doing some things to make others happy. Even if it wasn’t so exciting for me.

So this is my new goal: learn how to say no.

And I don’t mean, that I am not going to help anyone. It isn’t about it. But next time I am going to make sure first, that this is not going to be harmful for me. If I am not going to sacrifise something, what is very important to me, I will propably be very happy to help. I’ve realised, that after all, I need to care for myself, as there aren’t a lot of people who will do this if I won’t.

Ok, I think for today that’s all what I wanted to share (as this post is being produced in bus on my way back home). I will see you tomorrow in next post. But for now, I wish you productive day and ability to say “No”, when it’s neccessary.

Daria
PS. I’ve decided, that I will keep skipping daily summary and replace it with weekly one. In tomorrow’s post I am going to explain in details why, but to make it short: I’ve decided to focus on one thing each day. So if summary will contain only one thing, there is no point of having one.