Life in 3-hours intervals and full of unpredictable events

Hi guys,

Today it is a week, since my son came home from hospital. I won’t lie, our family’s life turned of whole 180°. Trip for shopping or to the bank became the big adventure and really hard task. Sleep? Well, I used to complain about lack of sleep before, but now I just miss that time.

But the biggest change in my life is having to do everything in 3 hours intervals (as every four hours approx my son is waking up and feeding, changing nappies and just talking to him takes around 1 hour). This gives me six three hours slots, when I can get anything done. Usually, three of them are already booked for sleeping and doing some work around house, so I am getting nine hours in total to carry on my tasks. I am well behind with my tasks again and first few days I wasn’t able to do anything. I needed to adjust to the new situation.

But today I am going to talk about working in 3 hours intervals. Basically, there are no full 3 hours, as I need to eat also, have some tea or coffee. But just to make it easier, let’s assume for simplicity, that this is the case.

Being so time-restricted, I needed to start planning very well (post on how I do this will appear on Friday). I can’t afford just sitting and doing nothing, as I would wake up in extremely dirty home and with tasks to do from one year before (now it is just one month, but I started getting on top of it 😉 ).

Generally speaking, having a plan in my situation (much more detailed than it used to be) is esential. I have been asked by my friends, why I am wasting so much time for planning though? The answer is simple, to be able to work more efficient, when I have a chance. Also, I have to be much more prepared for distractions and changes of plans. Sometimes my little one have a problem with digesting food he has just eaten, so he needs me to comfort him, while he struggles, sometimes he is not well.

Today’s post is very short and general, just to allow me to get back on track after another break. I hope you enjoyed it any way.

Also, as always, I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Where shall I take motivation from?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about days, when you just can’t do anything. Whenever you think about doing any work, you have a feeling that this is not the day. Everything seems impossible.

I think that these kind of days are happening to all of us. We are just humans and we can’t work day after day. That’s why it is important to take some breaks sometimes. However, if this happens to us every day for a long time, we should analyse what is causing that. There might be a lot of reasons for this, starting from tiredness, the nature of our tasks (they might be not something what we really enjoy to do), fear of failure (it is better not to start, if I might fail) or success (what will people think?) and in the worse scenario: it might be one of the signs of burnt out or depression. The last one is the worst, as it is a serious problem and it is very important to get help, if it is the case.

However, if you are sure that depression is not the case, there are some steps you can take to make yourself more motivated. First of all, is to determine what is causing this kind of behaviour. Maybe it is just tiredness and the only thing you need to do is to take some holiday (you can read here to see my advises before taking a holiday). Or simply one week of break from these tasks should do the job.

A bit harder thing is fear. Why so? To realise that you are afraid (whether of failure or success) might be very tricky. You can have that feeling without realising it. I used to be worried about failing. Although, I knew that every attempt of leaving my comfort zone will be connected with fear, I didn’t realised that it was keeping me away from work for quite long time. Similarly, applying for my uni two years ago made me feel same: “What if I will not manage language wise?” or “What if I will not be able even to get to university?” and finally: “What will people around me say? Will they make a fun of me?”. These were just some of the questions didding my head. And do you know what? None of them was valid. Ok, at the beginning it was a bit hard for me to understand what lecturers are saying to us. But eventually, I am able to follow their speach without special effort. Almost as English were my mother language. Well, it looks like practice really makes pefect and if I wouldn’t try, I wouldn’t know till now.

If your problem is the nature of tasks, this might be also quite hard to handle in some cases. But what you might want to consider, is to change subject of you actions. If this is not possible at the moment, just find something what you love to do and incorporate it into your schedule. I know, including more work, while you can’t force yourself to complete current tasks seems a bit weird. But remember, it does not have to be another task. Try to go for something what you actually enjoy doing. Maybe a netflix session? Going for a walk with your family? Choose what suits you the most and enjoy! Having something what you are looking forward to might motivate you to work. Any way, you’ll just finish these tasks and you are going to spend amazing time, aren’t you?

And I am going to leave you with this thought. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Forbidden friut tastes the best

Hi guys,

Today is a third day since I have returned to work. And I have mixed feelings about it. First of all, I hate being out of work doing nothing. I know that health is the most important (that is the reason, why I haven’t do anything; usually, I tend to break doctor’s rules). However, last few days, my head felt very heavy, eventhough I slept much more than usually. And I felt generally tired. As my employer believed me that I was unable to work (he visited me in hospital), he did not need to see my doctor’s leave and as I feel much better than yesterday, I’ve decided to forget that I can stay at home till end of the week.

What I’ve realised recently, staying at home on doctor’s leave makes me feel much more unwell, than I actually am. Maybe it is just a think, that I sleep a lot, but simply, I don’t like it. I feel like I am not able to do anything. Like nothing has sense. What I have learnt, returning to work makes me feel better (any way, my boss doesn’t let me do too hard work straight after returning back; this actually cause my mixed feelings).

There is one saying in polish (and I am not sure, if it exists only in polish language; you can let me know in comment section, if in your country you have it too), which goes: “Forbidden fruit tastes the best”. That means that if you shouldn’t be doing something, you will do it. Just because it is forbidden. I can’t explain, why it happens this way, but when I think about it closely, it really does happen to me quite often.

Since I was a child, I remember that things, my parents asked me not to do, always seemed more attractive. I think,6 it was some kind of adrenaline. You know, this voice in my head: “What if I will get caught?”. Or maybe it was just a need of independence? Whatever it was, it was worthed breaking rules. This feeling, that: “Hey! I did it and I am still ok!”.

However, things being forbidden very often are some kind of a hazard for our health or safety. Propably this is a reason, why we are not supposed to do them. Similar is with my work.

I have to admit that I like my job in general. But there are some aspects of it making me not want to go there. Every here and then I just pray for few days off. A little time to rest. However, any time I am on a doctor leave, I can’t wait to go to work. There is some force out there pushing me and staying at home makes me feel worse. And this time I’ve started wondering, why this is happening. Does it mean that I am a workaholic? Or maybe it is kind of my forbidden fruit?

I came to a conclusion, that it must be the second one. This kind of thing, when I don’t really want to do something and I need a break, but because it is a forced break, I am getting frustrated about it. Does it sound weird? For me it does, eventhough I am guilty of it. And as I am thinking about it more, I am realising that this is not a first time when I am doing it.

Ok, but why am I actually thinking about it? It is just happening, isn’t it? Well, I believe that if we want to take real control over our life, we need to understand what causes our behaviours. As long as we are not aware of them, we can’t really prevent them. And on the other side, if there is some behaviour, we want to incorporate in our life more, we should determine what needs to happen to make us behave this particular way.

And I believe that self-awareness is a neccessary tool in self-development. How can you change something, if you don’t know what is going on? It is like if you would go to doctor with a headache and he would give you random medicines without figuring out what is the problem. This would be weird, wouldn’t it?

That’s the reason why I think, that first thing to sort any problem, is to figure out what causes it. If you can prevent it, you can stop this problem to occur again. Or, if it is about behaviours, better understanding of yourself will improve the control you have over your emotions and will help you to make more reasonable decisions in the future and give you chance to think them through before, instead of acting afected by emotions.

And with this thought, I am going to end this post. Have a productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Getting into routine (day five)

Hi guys,

Today has been very hard day. There were two shifts (to be honest one and a half), as my friend asked me to replace her in her work, while she is on holiday.

So today again I am not going to share any thought with you. Only thing, which makes me happy is, that I am getting into routine of working. In between my two jobs I had four hours to spare at home. And what is great, it was very productive time. I haven’t have to force myself to do anything. Automaticaly I’ve started doing, point after point from my today’s plan (it was shorter than usualy, as I knew, that today I won’t have too much time).

So please forgive me, but I am going to go straight to my summary:

Two chapters of book – checked

Next self-development book: started – checked

My arabic revision – checked

HTML&CSS lesson – checked

Today’s post – checked

Plan for tomorrow – checked
At the moment I am going to sleep, as my eyes are closing without my permission. As always I wish you very productive day and I’ll see you in tomorrow’s post.

Daria