Priorities and their impact on my life

Hi guys,

Today I would like to share with you some of my thoughts about priorities. I’ve heard a lot of opinions, that you can’t have a family and pursue your career at the same time. On the other hand, there are a lot of people who are managing it just fine.

If you are reading my posts since some time, you will already know it, but if you are new: I have recently became a mother to a cute little guy, who brights my life each and every day. But he provides for me a full time, unpaid job as well. If you will look at dates of my posts, you will see that I haven’t been posting regulary since some time and reasons for it are my priorities.

I figured out that the most important thing for me now is my family. But at the same time, my brain convinced itself, that I can’t be a good mother and a good wife and do stuff which I love too (one of them is writting posts for this blog). I thought about leaving my university too. Fortunately, my husband helped me while I was going through all this stuff and made me understand few things. Here are they:

Baby is a joy, not just a responsibility

Ok, I knew this. Although, they were extremely hard four months since my son was born, each time when I can’t see him for a while (when I am at work for example), make me miss him so much. All 12 hours I spend working, I just can’t wait to see my son’s cute smile when he sees me for the first time after I was away. No matter how tired I am, it is just melting my heart and I am forgeting everything. But there is also time, when I just have a feeling that everything I do now is connected to baby: feeding, changing nappies, cleaning and sterylising bottles, bathing, etc. It takes huge amount of time out of my day. Especialy, when I am after my night shift, I just sleep and look after my baby. Nothing more at all. There is no “me” time. But now I understand, that this is what I love. Waking up being exhausted, just to see smile on my son’s face, just because he wanted to simply be in my arms for a while. To see how he finaly tries to talk (I mean he thinks so, it is more of weird sounds, he is making), catch some toys with his tiny hands… These are the best moments in my life.

Better organisation is the key

And this is something what I am trying to encourage you since this blog exists, but I have forgotten about it when I needed it the most. Having a baby doesn’t mean that you are busy all the time. Babies sleep during the day too. And what you’ll do with this time, depends on you. There are many options: youtube, netfix, some games, or you can just get productive and get your stuff done. You might just take a nap, so you’ll stop be so grumpy 😉 whatever you choose, is good. Just don’t complain about this choice.

And now coming back to priorities. At the moment the most important thing in my life is family. But at the same time, I know that my son will learn by watching me. If he sees me grumpy and so unhappy about life, he will be same. This is why it is so important for me to find a balance between my career and family. Although, I can’t share any idea with you at the moment and I know it is going to be hard, I also know that I have to do this. So here I am, back after another break. I hope, that this time it is a last one.

Where shall I take motivation from?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about days, when you just can’t do anything. Whenever you think about doing any work, you have a feeling that this is not the day. Everything seems impossible.

I think that these kind of days are happening to all of us. We are just humans and we can’t work day after day. That’s why it is important to take some breaks sometimes. However, if this happens to us every day for a long time, we should analyse what is causing that. There might be a lot of reasons for this, starting from tiredness, the nature of our tasks (they might be not something what we really enjoy to do), fear of failure (it is better not to start, if I might fail) or success (what will people think?) and in the worse scenario: it might be one of the signs of burnt out or depression. The last one is the worst, as it is a serious problem and it is very important to get help, if it is the case.

However, if you are sure that depression is not the case, there are some steps you can take to make yourself more motivated. First of all, is to determine what is causing this kind of behaviour. Maybe it is just tiredness and the only thing you need to do is to take some holiday (you can read here to see my advises before taking a holiday). Or simply one week of break from these tasks should do the job.

A bit harder thing is fear. Why so? To realise that you are afraid (whether of failure or success) might be very tricky. You can have that feeling without realising it. I used to be worried about failing. Although, I knew that every attempt of leaving my comfort zone will be connected with fear, I didn’t realised that it was keeping me away from work for quite long time. Similarly, applying for my uni two years ago made me feel same: “What if I will not manage language wise?” or “What if I will not be able even to get to university?” and finally: “What will people around me say? Will they make a fun of me?”. These were just some of the questions didding my head. And do you know what? None of them was valid. Ok, at the beginning it was a bit hard for me to understand what lecturers are saying to us. But eventually, I am able to follow their speach without special effort. Almost as English were my mother language. Well, it looks like practice really makes pefect and if I wouldn’t try, I wouldn’t know till now.

If your problem is the nature of tasks, this might be also quite hard to handle in some cases. But what you might want to consider, is to change subject of you actions. If this is not possible at the moment, just find something what you love to do and incorporate it into your schedule. I know, including more work, while you can’t force yourself to complete current tasks seems a bit weird. But remember, it does not have to be another task. Try to go for something what you actually enjoy doing. Maybe a netflix session? Going for a walk with your family? Choose what suits you the most and enjoy! Having something what you are looking forward to might motivate you to work. Any way, you’ll just finish these tasks and you are going to spend amazing time, aren’t you?

And I am going to leave you with this thought. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Breaks and productivity

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about having a break. So far, I’ve been giving you tips on how to plan, stay productive and creative, etc. However, huge part of productivity is having breaks and holiday. We are not machines, who can work constantly. We would simply burn out very quickly. That’s why we should be including breaks in our schedule.

Ok, but sometimes having a break might seem impossible. This stress connected to busy schedule, deadlines being always just around the corner.. all this can make it impossible to rest, as our mind is still thinking about all this things. Sometimes, this is even the reason of all these sleepless nights and days passing by in zombie mode. All this make us very frustrated and is slowly bringing our motivation level towards the bottom. You must agree that it is very hard task to stay on the top of things, when we are exhausted.

That’s why it is very important to find time for resting and holiday from time to time. No matter how much packed is your schedule, it should be your priority to squeeze at least one hour for yourself each day. Time, when all your tasks stop existing, but there are only you, your family and friends instead. And maybe some netflix session from time to time 😉

This might seem impossible at some times, but as you include these breaks in your schedule, you’ll be able to enjoy your free time without feeling guilty.

And now, let’s talk about holiday. Like a proper, at least couple of days off, where you go somewhere out of the town, or just stay at home, but forget that you have anything to do. And as having a couple of hours just for yourself might already seem to be quite impossible, holiday require some preparation in advance. First of all, you might try to squeeze as many extra tasks before your time out, so there are as less deadlines hanging on you as possible.

If your project requires you to do something regularly (like posting something on your website, preparing some courses, etc.), make it in advance and schedule for the right time. Also, if you have some projects which must be ready around your holiday time (like school assignments, work projects, etc.), get them done before, so you can have less on your mind during your break.

And the most important thing, if you are able not to take any new challenges for some time, just don’t take them. As you return, there will be a lot of time for this and your holiday will be fully yours at the same time.

This is what I would like to share with you in today’s post. I hope you enjoyed it and as always, I wish you a very productive day. I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

How to overcome obstacles on the way to success

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about struggles on the way to achieving your goals. It might seem, that successful people’s life is easy. That everything comes right to them. However, in reality this is not the case. There is one main difference between people who manages to get everything and those who don’t. This difference is, how they see all these obstacles appearing on the way.

I can use my example as the way you shouldn’t do. I am trying to fight against it, too. When there is any problem to be faced, I am usually giving up (fortunately only for a while), instead of looking for some solution. I simply loose all the will to do anything. Sometimes my to-do list cause this kind of chain reaction. Especially now, when I found a job, which is kind of perfect for a time being, as this is the only I was able to find being almost 6 months pregnant. It does not provide any kind of development, but what I like about it, it is a night shift, so I am able to work, without resigning from my uni.

At the same time, having to work at night, attend classes and trying to keep up with my personal projects happened to be quite overwhelming. Being tired of pregnancy plays a role in this as well. That makes me give up very often. I just want to delete this blog and forget about my channel (which by the way has been left behind recently any way), till I will adjust to the new schedule. And this is very bad attitude, because this way I won’t be able to keep up with anything. Giving up is the worst thing people can do in any situation.

On the other hand, how would successful people look at all this? For them it would just be another challenge to deal with. A temporary difficulty. A way, to build stronger personality, to test their limits. And no matter, if they can manage, they will at least try to do their best. That makes them arrive at their goal at some point. Or, if they can’t help with everything, at least they are way ahead towards it.

And with this thought, I am going to leave you today. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria