What should you learn from a child?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about self-development, but from a bit different perspective. We all know so many various tips and tricks on becoming a better, healthier, more productive person. We can read books about it, watch videos and despite of knowing all these advices, still there is something missing. Like one piece of the jigsaw puzzle which has been lost a while. You can see the picture without it, but just knowing that it is not there triggers something inside. I personally think, that jigsaw puzzle comparison is very accurate, as in fact most of use have lost a small piece, which is a child’s mindset.

We have replaced it with advanced planning, thinking about the future and basically trying to have everything under control. However, life doesn’t work this way. Such thing does not exist. And even when we seem to have a control over some aspects of our life, this control stands on pillars of sand. It can collapse in the most unexpected moment. We simply can’t predict what is going to happen even in the next minute (you know, this is how most of accidents happen).

But in this world of uncertainty, there is a huge group in every society, who can adapt to new situations pretty quickly and who seems to embrace new things. This group are children.

I am personally lucky mother of 17-months-old boy, who is become more and more interested in everything around here. There is no more: ‘my space’ or ‘my belongings’ in my home. Well, this phrases exist still, but only when my son is asleep. It is such a shame, though, that I am pretty much done too at the time. I had no idea that changing, feeding and chasing this little munchkin could be so exhausting! And, by the way, where children are taking so much energy from? But coming back to our topic: since I’ve had my son, I’ve started wondering, how is it possible that he can learn new thing almost each and every day. And I’ve observed some characteristics, that I am missing. In today’s post I would like to share them with you.

Interest in everything

This is the thing, which I am missing since my later school years. I used to think that I don’t need to learn subjects which I simply find boring. Although, my son is still far before going to school, I see him exploring everything around him. He tries copying everyone around him. All this makes him learn so many things every day.

As we are getting into a certain age, we are less likely to try new things. We prefer to stick to our routine and not to go out of our comfort zone. Having our eyes attached to all the screens around, we are forgetting just to look around and see the beauty of the world. There is no place in our life to stop and wonder for a while, how it is made, what makes it work, etc. But the truth is, that ideas are being reused in different fields and in each of them, they have completely different role to play. Most of inventions are inspired by the nature or other existing things. But how can we get our inspiration, if we don’t even have a time to look for it?


The other important thing I can see in my son is persistence. He is trying to get what he wants, till he manages to get it. Same is with the new skills. He taught himself walking without any aids like baby walkers or holding someone’s hand. He kept trying and trying till he managed to walk on his own. It took him a while, he did fall many times, but he managed.

As I can say for myself, even the smallest obstacle or failure stops me from getting into my goal. I am giving up very easily and as a result, I am starting a lot of projects, but there are just a few brought to an end. Having a child’s persistence is a very valuable characteristic.

Not caring about other’s opinion

My son is a kind of child (I thin they all are at some point), when he doesn’t take ‘No’ as an answer. He will try to fight to get what he wants no matter what. Although, it is a bit frustrating for me at some point, I thing it is very useful characteristic too.

As adults, we’ve been taught about so many rules for the society’s members. We have to follow the law and respect older. We need to obey our religion, we have to follow all regulations. All this made us unwilling to fight for what we want. One ‘No’ answer very often make us stop to look for other solution. We are just giving up and forgetting what we even wanted. And of course I am not telling you to stop following all rules or anything like this, but to try to look for some solutions to your problems and other ways to achieve your goals, even if it seems impossible.

And that are three characteristics that I think are very important and we, as we were growing up, have forgotten them. What other people would think about us, have made us not think what we our self will think.

I hope this post was interesting for you. For today I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.


What can we learn from five-year-old

Hi guys,

In today’s post I am going to leave subject of self-awareness for a while (at least till the moment, when I will have some results to share with you). However, at the moment I am enjoying three days off in my work. As I have quite a lot of medical things to sort out and university related tasks, which are going to get over due soon, I have decided to take short holiday. And that makes me excited a lot. I know, I have been desperately wanting to come back to work after my dehydration thing (yeah, and how you can understand a women 😉 ), but as I mentioned, I think the reason for that was just being forced to take off.

I am also planning to get as much work on my channel as I possibly can (I have ordered microphone already and I hope that it will arrive till Monday), so I keep my fingers crossed that I will be able to get it going by the end of the next week. Of course I will share here the results of my hours and hours of work and I hope it was worthed so much effort.

Other than that, there is so much things going on next week and I am looking forward for it to come. One of the things is my cousin’s son birthday. He is going to be 5 on Thursday and he is so amazing human being. Every time I talk to him, I am learning something new. His innocence and straight-forwardness (I hope this word actually exist and I am not making it up) make me realise so much about my adult life.

So today, I have decided to share some stories, where my nephew play a main part in and I’ll explain you what have I lernt from these events.


This story have taken place one and a half year ago on Christmas Eve. But before I will jump into the story, I am going to tell you something about polish tradition (and as far as I know, at least in UK, Christmas celebration is very different than in my back home). So in Poland the very special event is a Christmas Eve, to be more detailed, Christmas Eve’s supper. According to the tradition, people start all celebrations, when first star appear on the sky. There is huge excitement among the children, who usually are in charge of spotting it, while adults are trying to take care of last bits of pieces, to make the whole evening perfect (and there is a lot to do, as polish tradition includes twelve meals for Christmas Eve’s supper; what usually is interesting for people, who I am talking to, is that each participant have to (at least) try each of them, no matter how full she or he is or if this is something they like or not; the only exception are alergies and food intollerances). This day everyone is wearing elegant clothes, etc. So that year we were celebrating in my aunties home and me and my cousin decided to meet in her home before, get ready there and go together. When I was ready, I asked her if I look ok, she confirmed. “What do you think, Darek?”. And his answer made me laugh, as he said: “This dress makes you look fat”.

And this made my cousin mad. She started to appologise and tried to explain him, that it isn’t right to say that. However, I think, he had full right to tell this (he could say it in more delicate way, but as a child he wouldn’t know how to do it). This is something what annoyes me about adult. First of all, people who ask for opinion, but they want to hear only good things. And second of all, people asked for opinion, who lie to you, just because they don’t want to hurt you. I think this second one comes out of first, as people came across someone, who blasted at them, when they said what they think and they just want to keep their opinion in the future. Moreover, parents who are getting angry at their children, when they are saying what they think. As a result, growing up makes us less honest after each situation of this kind.

So what I have learnt from this situation, is to be honest and say what you think; and the other thing is to have distance to myself (if I ask for opinion, I prefer to hear opinion, not what I would like to hear).


This story is much shorter than the previous one. So what have happened at one time when I was visiting them, was that Darek grabbed my bag and threw all the stuff on the floor. I have to admit, that I have gotten mad at first. But when I’ve asked him, why he did this, he answered that his mum is always doing this after their walk, so it is not a big deal.

Children are innocent by default, as they haven’t got chance to learn how to be bad, yet. They make mistakes and sometimes are getting on other people’s nerves, however they don’t do this intentionally (at least in most of cases). They are just copying people’s behaviour, these who are around them. How they would learn otherwise? They don’t know all written and unwritten rules playing a huge part in adult’s world.

This taught me to be understanding, as we can hurt the person, who didn’t have an intention to do anything wrong. The best way is to talk first 😉 at least you will know that blasting at them is a right thing 😉


This is propably the best one. Children are just striving to learn about the world. They keep asking questions, and they won’t stop till they fully understand what they want to know. How I see it with my nephew? Every time when I am doing something, Darek keeps asking questions: what are you doing? Why are you doing this? Why can’t you do this this or that way?

Children don’t know about the rules you need to follow, if you want to leave in society. They don’t worry about getting knowledge and skills for their future job, yet. They just strive to get knowledge just for the sake of… having knowledge. Simple as that. But what is even more amazing, they don’t just want to know, they want to understand, too. And this is ability that a lot of us, adults, are missing.

These are all things I am going to mention today, eventhough there are many more. I am sure, if you are lucky to spend time with children, you can find many of them by yourself.

For today, I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.


P.S. Today’s post is one day late, but since tomorrow, I am going to go back to regular schedule (Monday, Wednesday and Friday). I hope you liked today’s post and I will be happy to read, if you can think of any other things to learn from the children.