Set up a routine which works for everyone at home and stick to it

Hi guys,

Today I will talk about last of my 2020 resolutions. As you could see in this post, I have decided to focus on some things which are very important to me at the moment. It might seem that I went easy on myself this year (and this is most likely true), but I wanted to set goals, which will be possible to achieve. A lot of them (if not all in some way) are connected to my financial situation, as this is the biggest problem at the moment. Although, I know that there are a lot of people in much worse situation, I am also aware that in case of any emergency, we will struggle to get back on our feet, if we will not fix it as soon as possible.

This is one of the reasons why we need to set up a routine. Having me and my husband working full time is helping us to keep paying our debt relatively quickly. But it also makes it very hard to manage. We were advised to employ someone to look after our son while we are in work. But I can’t trust any stranger to look after such small baby, especially that even if something would go wrong, he wouldn’t be able to tell us. This forced us to work in different shifts and as I can’t imagine being all day away from my son, I’ve chosen night shift (night shifts are hard too, but at least when I am working, little guy is sleeping most of the time).

There are some small things I would like to achieve in our family life, even though me and my husband are working on different shifts. I wish to be able to spend as much quality time with my son as it is possible, I would like to spend time with my husband and make sure that both of us can have time for ourselves (whether it is for working on personal projects or just relaxing). I want to make sure that our home is clean and that there is always food in our fridge too. It might seem impossible, especially with a small child. Some of you might think that I am neglecting my son just because I am working full time and I, dreaming about free time, might seem like a horrible mother. But I am a true believer that sacrificing all your dreams and goals for a baby will not do well for you and at the end for your child. Also, I think that being able to get an extra income is good for my son too. Hopefully, very soon will be able to put some funds aside for his future, we’ll be able to buy a home, so wherever life is going to take my son, he’ll always have a place to come and forget about all his problem. And finally, we’ll be able to provide for his development, give him opportunities to find his way, by simply being able to afford things, he wants to try.

Kids are very amazing and they learn unbelievably fast. But at the same time, they are not reading books or taking various courses secretly. They are learning by watching their surrounding. Especially in the beginning of their lives, we, as a parents, are all their world. I want to create believe in my son’s head that he can manage a lot of things, without neglecting anything, as long as he will try very hard. And that if you work hard on something you love doing, you can steer your life in any direction you want.

Altgough, I would like to share our routine now, I haven’t found any so far. We are still testing and keep changing small bits and pieces of it. I might be even wrong and I can’t make it work for all of my requirements, but about this I am going to tell you, when we are going to find something what will be at least the best for us.

And this is it for today’s post. I hope you enjoyed reading it. If yes, I will appreciate if you will like this post and leave your thoughts in this subject in the comment section (I will be happy to read and reply to every single comment). But for now I wish you all a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Having routine and creativity

Hi guys,

Today I will be talking about something I have mentioned in my last post. I said that having a routine can make you more creative and now I will explain you why. So let’s get right into the topic.

Human’s brain is the most productive, yet, still not fully understood muscle of our body. It’s not responsible for only thinking processes, but it actualy keeps us alive (what you propably already know). It regulates breathing, digesting, our hormons level… It informs us also, when we feel pain, are hungry or thursty. And it does all this automatically. We don’t have to put any effort for example to digest, it just happens.

But brain is responsible for activities, which we are more aware of. It allows us to learn new things, to analyse our surrounding and to make decision.

And the ability of making decision is directly connected with routines and creativity. For example, if you are a runner, no matter how good you are, at some point your muscles will be too tired. You will get crumps and you just need some time for them to recover. Similarly with brain. It makes decisions almost all the time. Shall I get out of my bed? What shall I eat for breakfast? What shall I wear today? What shall I do next? All this are decisions, we are not even taking notice of. But our brain does. And as we are moving towards the end of the day, our brain is getting more and more tired. Sometimes even happens that at the end of the day, we are not able to make even very simple decision. Propably you came across someone (or even you were the one), who have been asked a simple question like: “What movie shall we watch?”, will answer “I don’t know”, or “It doesn’t matter, you choose”. And it might happen, if you want to see both of these movies any way, otherwise it can be a symptom of your brain being tired of making decision.

So what does routine have to making decision? Basically, if something become your routine, you do this automaticaly, without even thinking. You don’t need to decide what to do, as your brain is already programmed to do certain things. So because of it, there is a lot of brain’s energy being saved, to do other things, like being creative.

If you follow successfull people, you might have noticed that many of them are actually keeping decisions (at least some of them) to the minimum. The most known example (well, I found the most information about it) is Mark Zuckerberg, who developed facebook. He is known, that all the time he is wearing same kind of clothes, even in same colour. Taking on account amount of money he is earning, it is not caused by the fact, that these particular clothes were on sale at the time when he was buying them. And a lot of people who analyse his habits say that this is the way, to eliminate “What shall I wear today?” problem.

Similarly, having a routine helps you avoid a lot of decisions. Mostly, you don’t have to thing, what to do next. You just do this automaticaly and at the same time your brain is resting and you have much more energy for being creative.

So this is it for today’s post. I hope I’ve explained you corelation between having a routine and creativity. I can’t confirm yet, if it does really work, as my planned activities haven’t become my routines yet, but as soon as it will happen, I will let you know.

For today, I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

PS. Let me tell you how next two days of my challenge went. On Monday I couldn’t fall asleep at 23, so I ended up being very tired on Tuesday. I couldn’t really get too much done because of it. And again, falling asleep haven’t gone as planned. However, on Wednesday I managed to wake up at 5am. And I thought that I will fall asleep while standing (it hasn’t happen of course). When I am finishing this line, it is 20:45 so I am going to start my evening routine now and I am going to let you know how it went in my next post.