Where shall I take motivation from?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about days, when you just can’t do anything. Whenever you think about doing any work, you have a feeling that this is not the day. Everything seems impossible.

I think that these kind of days are happening to all of us. We are just humans and we can’t work day after day. That’s why it is important to take some breaks sometimes. However, if this happens to us every day for a long time, we should analyse what is causing that. There might be a lot of reasons for this, starting from tiredness, the nature of our tasks (they might be not something what we really enjoy to do), fear of failure (it is better not to start, if I might fail) or success (what will people think?) and in the worse scenario: it might be one of the signs of burnt out or depression. The last one is the worst, as it is a serious problem and it is very important to get help, if it is the case.

However, if you are sure that depression is not the case, there are some steps you can take to make yourself more motivated. First of all, is to determine what is causing this kind of behaviour. Maybe it is just tiredness and the only thing you need to do is to take some holiday (you can read here to see my advises before taking a holiday). Or simply one week of break from these tasks should do the job.

A bit harder thing is fear. Why so? To realise that you are afraid (whether of failure or success) might be very tricky. You can have that feeling without realising it. I used to be worried about failing. Although, I knew that every attempt of leaving my comfort zone will be connected with fear, I didn’t realised that it was keeping me away from work for quite long time. Similarly, applying for my uni two years ago made me feel same: “What if I will not manage language wise?” or “What if I will not be able even to get to university?” and finally: “What will people around me say? Will they make a fun of me?”. These were just some of the questions didding my head. And do you know what? None of them was valid. Ok, at the beginning it was a bit hard for me to understand what lecturers are saying to us. But eventually, I am able to follow their speach without special effort. Almost as English were my mother language. Well, it looks like practice really makes pefect and if I wouldn’t try, I wouldn’t know till now.

If your problem is the nature of tasks, this might be also quite hard to handle in some cases. But what you might want to consider, is to change subject of you actions. If this is not possible at the moment, just find something what you love to do and incorporate it into your schedule. I know, including more work, while you can’t force yourself to complete current tasks seems a bit weird. But remember, it does not have to be another task. Try to go for something what you actually enjoy doing. Maybe a netflix session? Going for a walk with your family? Choose what suits you the most and enjoy! Having something what you are looking forward to might motivate you to work. Any way, you’ll just finish these tasks and you are going to spend amazing time, aren’t you?

And I am going to leave you with this thought. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Power of believing in yourself

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about believing in yourself. I think that this is an important part of success. Especially that doing something different might make other people want to advise you and convince about pointlesness of your plan. They will find a lot of reasons why you shouldn’t do, what you intend to. They’ll point out everything that can go wrong and some of these black scenarios might scare you to death.

You can even know some people who tried to go similar way, but they failed. However, the most important word here is ‘similar’. Even if you are following their steps quite closely, you are completely different person: you might be in the different stage of life, your values are not the same either and, what the most important, your goals and dreams might lead you towards different place. Moreover, even if all above are same for both of you, still you are different person. And what a lot of people forget, in everything you do, you are leaving part of yourself (how ever weird it sounds). That makes everything you do very unique.

The only thing, which can help you stay motivated is believing that you can success. It is also important to hear what people around you have to say, as they probably don’t want anything wrong for you. While listening to their reasoning, just try to determine whether disadvantages, they are presenting to convince you, are really disadvantages in your opinion. As I have met a lot of people who were saying that they wouldn’t be able to work in a way I do, as they are tired enough after their regular job, while for me it is not a problem at all.

But let’s focus on believing in yourself. If you analysed all pros and cons of the project you are working on from your point of view, you are able to know what you might lose. You should remember that all kinds of bussinesses are connected to some kind of risk and if you are ready to take it, just go for it. Even if you fail, you’ll learn something for the next time. And this might be the most valuable lesson in your life, which can turn your life for 180°.

This is the reason, why I am starting so many projects (not all of them I am sharing here), which teach me something new. Although, they are not very beneficial in financial meaning and they might be seen by others as time-wasting, they have got me ready to start working on the biggest of my projects so far. And still I have a lot to learn, a lot of mistakes to do and tons of hours of work in front of me, but this experience I’ve gained (and I am still gaining), will make it much easier than it would be otherwise. The only thing keeping me motivated is a fact that I truly believe in success. And I know that one day my projects will allow me to take my son, who is going to be born soon, for holiday without worrying about finances. I think this will compensate me all this time I am spending on work now.

And with this thought I am going to leave you today. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Appriciation and a success

Hi guys,

Today, I would like to talk about appreciation. A lot of us, can’t really get anywhere, because we are focusing too much on the stuff we don’t have. Instead of being gratefull for the roof over our head and food on our plates, we tend to get jelous that other people have better home, car or technological gadgets. In reality, we can’t get all this stuff, if we are not able to be happy of what we have.

You might ask why? Well, answer is quite simple. Life will never be easy; having money will sort some of our problems, like rent and bills. However, it will create some new one. One of the common problems is worrying about losing your wealth. There is a saying, that as higher you climb, as more painful it will be when you’ll fall.

I heard stories about people, who after getting rich very quickly, became scared to leave their property, as they were worried that someone can rob it while they’re gone. They stopped believing their family members and friends. They thought that each person is trying to steal money from them.

That’s why it is very important to treat material goods as a tool, but focusing on things, which are much more important in life. Money is important nowadays, but if you lose it, there are multiple options to get them back. However, if you lose people around you, getting them back as your allies might be impossible.

The other thing connected to having a lot of money is a mindset. I know people who started earning more than they used to, let’s say for the purpose of this example, they doubled their incomes, but at the same time they doubled cost of their life style also. Although, they were supposed to get their finances straight after rise of their salary, they have exactly same problems, except that they have to face them in let’s say bigger home. Instead of staying in same, or just a bit better level of life, where they are able to get rid of their debts and maybe save some emergency funds before they start living better, they do it the other way around. It might be good option for some people, but before you make the decision, make sure you’ll analyse it first. Just to be sure that it is not worth it to appriciate your salary’s rise, as a way to get peace of mind and start thinking about renting bigger home when your debts are sorted, so you can start with the blank page.

And with this short thought I am going to finish today. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

Breaks and productivity

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about having a break. So far, I’ve been giving you tips on how to plan, stay productive and creative, etc. However, huge part of productivity is having breaks and holiday. We are not machines, who can work constantly. We would simply burn out very quickly. That’s why we should be including breaks in our schedule.

Ok, but sometimes having a break might seem impossible. This stress connected to busy schedule, deadlines being always just around the corner.. all this can make it impossible to rest, as our mind is still thinking about all this things. Sometimes, this is even the reason of all these sleepless nights and days passing by in zombie mode. All this make us very frustrated and is slowly bringing our motivation level towards the bottom. You must agree that it is very hard task to stay on the top of things, when we are exhausted.

That’s why it is very important to find time for resting and holiday from time to time. No matter how much packed is your schedule, it should be your priority to squeeze at least one hour for yourself each day. Time, when all your tasks stop existing, but there are only you, your family and friends instead. And maybe some netflix session from time to time 😉

This might seem impossible at some times, but as you include these breaks in your schedule, you’ll be able to enjoy your free time without feeling guilty.

And now, let’s talk about holiday. Like a proper, at least couple of days off, where you go somewhere out of the town, or just stay at home, but forget that you have anything to do. And as having a couple of hours just for yourself might already seem to be quite impossible, holiday require some preparation in advance. First of all, you might try to squeeze as many extra tasks before your time out, so there are as less deadlines hanging on you as possible.

If your project requires you to do something regularly (like posting something on your website, preparing some courses, etc.), make it in advance and schedule for the right time. Also, if you have some projects which must be ready around your holiday time (like school assignments, work projects, etc.), get them done before, so you can have less on your mind during your break.

And the most important thing, if you are able not to take any new challenges for some time, just don’t take them. As you return, there will be a lot of time for this and your holiday will be fully yours at the same time.

This is what I would like to share with you in today’s post. I hope you enjoyed it and as always, I wish you a very productive day. I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

How to plan, when so many unexpected things happen?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to tell you about time management, when your daily routine is full of unexpected events, so you can’t really predict what is going to happen. I’ll explain it on my example: since I’ve started working, I never know when my shift is going to happen, as at the moment I am working through agency. This means that I will get a message each midday, whether I can go to work or not.

That makes me unable to plan what I intend to do today evening (especially that I will be in university till 4:30; having a shift tonight means that I have to go to work straight after).

And there might be many more situations of this kind. You might have children, who are unpredictable; you might have some health issues that make you unable to know, how are you going to feel each day, etc. In fact, as many people in the world, this many possibilities.

So if you are in this kind of situation, how can you achieve your long term goals? We already know, that incorporating tasks from you plan into your schedule is impossible, isn’t it? Well, not really. You just need to be a bit more clever than all these unexpected events. Let me explain, how am I trying to cope with this.

First of all, I always make sure that I plan two days at a time, and each of these days doesn’t have too many tasks scheduled. Seeing just two things to do is going to make you more likely to actualy do this. The other thing is, that I am trying to schedule for these days tasks, which I will be able to do in as many places as possible, or in the place, where I have to be any way.

For example, this post is a task, which I can write while I am commuting, at home or in uni. Or even during the break at my work. That makes it a perfect task for today. Similarly, as I am going to be in university any way and I will have my computer with me, I am able to work on some parts of my assignments. That gives me few tasks being checked today.

Similarly, if I have no work today, I’ve already scheduled some tasks for tomorrow and I can work on them instead. Having two light days of tasks ticked as done, gives me one quite productive day. And as soon as I’ll finish my day, I can plan next day again.

This way, I am not the most productive person in the world, but at least I am taking an advantage of all the available time I have. Although, I move towards my goals much slower than I wish to, I am still closer than if I would decide that I have no time and simply gave up.

This is the only tip I will share with you today, because I am taking advantage out of only this one. As I will try some more, I will let you know.

For now I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

How to overcome obstacles on the way to success

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about struggles on the way to achieving your goals. It might seem, that successful people’s life is easy. That everything comes right to them. However, in reality this is not the case. There is one main difference between people who manages to get everything and those who don’t. This difference is, how they see all these obstacles appearing on the way.

I can use my example as the way you shouldn’t do. I am trying to fight against it, too. When there is any problem to be faced, I am usually giving up (fortunately only for a while), instead of looking for some solution. I simply loose all the will to do anything. Sometimes my to-do list cause this kind of chain reaction. Especially now, when I found a job, which is kind of perfect for a time being, as this is the only I was able to find being almost 6 months pregnant. It does not provide any kind of development, but what I like about it, it is a night shift, so I am able to work, without resigning from my uni.

At the same time, having to work at night, attend classes and trying to keep up with my personal projects happened to be quite overwhelming. Being tired of pregnancy plays a role in this as well. That makes me give up very often. I just want to delete this blog and forget about my channel (which by the way has been left behind recently any way), till I will adjust to the new schedule. And this is very bad attitude, because this way I won’t be able to keep up with anything. Giving up is the worst thing people can do in any situation.

On the other hand, how would successful people look at all this? For them it would just be another challenge to deal with. A temporary difficulty. A way, to build stronger personality, to test their limits. And no matter, if they can manage, they will at least try to do their best. That makes them arrive at their goal at some point. Or, if they can’t help with everything, at least they are way ahead towards it.

And with this thought, I am going to leave you today. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria