Where shall I take motivation from?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about days, when you just can’t do anything. Whenever you think about doing any work, you have a feeling that this is not the day. Everything seems impossible.

I think that these kind of days are happening to all of us. We are just humans and we can’t work day after day. That’s why it is important to take some breaks sometimes. However, if this happens to us every day for a long time, we should analyse what is causing that. There might be a lot of reasons for this, starting from tiredness, the nature of our tasks (they might be not something what we really enjoy to do), fear of failure (it is better not to start, if I might fail) or success (what will people think?) and in the worse scenario: it might be one of the signs of burnt out or depression. The last one is the worst, as it is a serious problem and it is very important to get help, if it is the case.

However, if you are sure that depression is not the case, there are some steps you can take to make yourself more motivated. First of all, is to determine what is causing this kind of behaviour. Maybe it is just tiredness and the only thing you need to do is to take some holiday (you can read here to see my advises before taking a holiday). Or simply one week of break from these tasks should do the job.

A bit harder thing is fear. Why so? To realise that you are afraid (whether of failure or success) might be very tricky. You can have that feeling without realising it. I used to be worried about failing. Although, I knew that every attempt of leaving my comfort zone will be connected with fear, I didn’t realised that it was keeping me away from work for quite long time. Similarly, applying for my uni two years ago made me feel same: “What if I will not manage language wise?” or “What if I will not be able even to get to university?” and finally: “What will people around me say? Will they make a fun of me?”. These were just some of the questions didding my head. And do you know what? None of them was valid. Ok, at the beginning it was a bit hard for me to understand what lecturers are saying to us. But eventually, I am able to follow their speach without special effort. Almost as English were my mother language. Well, it looks like practice really makes pefect and if I wouldn’t try, I wouldn’t know till now.

If your problem is the nature of tasks, this might be also quite hard to handle in some cases. But what you might want to consider, is to change subject of you actions. If this is not possible at the moment, just find something what you love to do and incorporate it into your schedule. I know, including more work, while you can’t force yourself to complete current tasks seems a bit weird. But remember, it does not have to be another task. Try to go for something what you actually enjoy doing. Maybe a netflix session? Going for a walk with your family? Choose what suits you the most and enjoy! Having something what you are looking forward to might motivate you to work. Any way, you’ll just finish these tasks and you are going to spend amazing time, aren’t you?

And I am going to leave you with this thought. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

2nd day: little steps are counted, aren’t they?

Hi guys,

Another day. I can’t even believe, how helpful this blog became for me. Even if only few people visited it and very likely most of those few will never come back, still it’s so motivating. First thing I do after wake up is thinking what I am going to do.

Even today, for instance, I woke up and I was thinking: “Daria, today you just rest, don’t do anything, you are tired, aren’t you?”, but just one minute after another thought came into my mind: “Ok, but what are you going to write about in the evening? That you were laying in bed all day?”. It made me move straight away. Great feeling. I haven’t had to force myself. And it doesn’t matter, that working haven’t been as easy and quick like yesterday (when, obviously, I had much less time then today, as today was my day-off in job). It doesn’t matter, that when I’ve started, at least hundred times I considered coming back into my bed. Why? Because I managed to beat my laziness, which today was very hard enemy of mine.

I suppose my achievements won’t throw anyone to one’s knees, but I feel proud of what I’ve done, anyway 😉 No matter what people will tell, I thing that little tiny steps are better than standing in one place without moving 🙂

So today I couldn’t force myself to start jogging or going by bike anywhere. But I took long walk instead. I’ve sorted out my shopping on the way, but still I haven’t chosen to go by bus. It took me around an hour and half altogether, so I think being active – checked 😀

I’ve done one HTML lesson, which isn’t very impressive (especially that they are very basic classes, just to remind myself what I’ve been learning at school), but at least I haven’t leave it completely. So learning HTML – checked 🙂

Next thing, which is not going to be checked (at least not today), but I think it’s huge step to actually start working on this goal is, that I’ve finally found my Arabic teacher! So even if I haven’t started yet, I am happy about that. And I can’t wait to have my first lesson 😉

And one thing, I am disappointed about today, is that I haven’t write review of book I finished yesterday, but simply I haven’t got enough time for this. But at least, I put all my thoughts about it in my head in right order, so tomorrow, after my work I am going to sort it out as a first. So this isn’t checked yet, but let’s hope it’s going to be tomorrow.

What I’ve forgot to mention yesterday and have been done today as well is plan for next day – checked 🙂 I was thinking if there is really any point to keep planing, but what I’ve realized today is, that it is saving huge amount of time, especially during so lazy days, like this today one. Normally, just to gain another hour (or two) of sitting and thinking what to do (read: sitting and doing nothing). Today I couldn’t use this excuse, as everything was clearly written, so the only thing I could do, was to actually start working 😉

And last thing I’ve done today (to be more precise: I am doing at the moment) was writing this post. So the only think I can do is to mark it – checked.

Whole this day is making me a very happy 🙂 Before, if I decided in the morning about staying in bed, this exactly what was taking place. That’s how a lot of my days was being wasted. Today it wasn’t very productive time, but some of my stuff are already done. So no matter how I am going to call this day in the future, for sure it won’t be “another wasted day” 🙂

I think this is going to be end of this post, as I am getting a little tired. The only thing I am dreaming about at this moment is to go to bed and read one, maybe two chapters of next book and sleep straight after.

That’s why I wish all of you extremely productive days and having all your dreams becoming a reality. But for now I wish you good night (or day if there is brightly behind your window) and I can’t wait to write you about my next day 🙂

My only request is, if you are having any ways to get some motivation and they are working for you, please let me know in comment below 🙂 I will be very happy to try it myself 😉 Again have a good and productive time 🙂

Daria

 

P.S. What I’ve decided I won’t keep my timing as I promised in my first post. But not because of laziness, but what I’ve realized today, sometimes at 11 pm I still think like do something (like doing plan for next day, for instance 😉 ), so post is going to appear every day, as it was said, but without any time precised. When I will feel, that I am not going to do anything else this day, I will be sitting in front of my screen and produce post for you. Just not to lose my do-it-now attitude 😉 And I think, that any way time, when all work is done is the best time, so my summary will contain everything what have been done 🙂

P.S.2 If we are talking about summary…

 

Today’s summary:

Being active: checked 😀

Learn HTML: checked 🙂

Today’s post: checked 🙂

Plan for tomorrow: checked 🙂

Read book: checked (not yet, but I am going to read straight after publishing this post)

 

Stuff done, but not checked:

Arabic teacher: found