Where shall I take motivation from?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about days, when you just can’t do anything. Whenever you think about doing any work, you have a feeling that this is not the day. Everything seems impossible.

I think that these kind of days are happening to all of us. We are just humans and we can’t work day after day. That’s why it is important to take some breaks sometimes. However, if this happens to us every day for a long time, we should analyse what is causing that. There might be a lot of reasons for this, starting from tiredness, the nature of our tasks (they might be not something what we really enjoy to do), fear of failure (it is better not to start, if I might fail) or success (what will people think?) and in the worse scenario: it might be one of the signs of burnt out or depression. The last one is the worst, as it is a serious problem and it is very important to get help, if it is the case.

However, if you are sure that depression is not the case, there are some steps you can take to make yourself more motivated. First of all, is to determine what is causing this kind of behaviour. Maybe it is just tiredness and the only thing you need to do is to take some holiday (you can read here to see my advises before taking a holiday). Or simply one week of break from these tasks should do the job.

A bit harder thing is fear. Why so? To realise that you are afraid (whether of failure or success) might be very tricky. You can have that feeling without realising it. I used to be worried about failing. Although, I knew that every attempt of leaving my comfort zone will be connected with fear, I didn’t realised that it was keeping me away from work for quite long time. Similarly, applying for my uni two years ago made me feel same: “What if I will not manage language wise?” or “What if I will not be able even to get to university?” and finally: “What will people around me say? Will they make a fun of me?”. These were just some of the questions didding my head. And do you know what? None of them was valid. Ok, at the beginning it was a bit hard for me to understand what lecturers are saying to us. But eventually, I am able to follow their speach without special effort. Almost as English were my mother language. Well, it looks like practice really makes pefect and if I wouldn’t try, I wouldn’t know till now.

If your problem is the nature of tasks, this might be also quite hard to handle in some cases. But what you might want to consider, is to change subject of you actions. If this is not possible at the moment, just find something what you love to do and incorporate it into your schedule. I know, including more work, while you can’t force yourself to complete current tasks seems a bit weird. But remember, it does not have to be another task. Try to go for something what you actually enjoy doing. Maybe a netflix session? Going for a walk with your family? Choose what suits you the most and enjoy! Having something what you are looking forward to might motivate you to work. Any way, you’ll just finish these tasks and you are going to spend amazing time, aren’t you?

And I am going to leave you with this thought. I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria

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So you have plan – what next?

Hi guys,

Today I would like to talk about the way, how we can work on goals, when we have a plan. It seems simple, doesn’t it? Just make plan and follow it. But in that case, why so many people who prepare plans fail?

The answer is relatively easy: they don’t have good tactics to work with the plan. Very often (I used to be one of these people too), they don’t really know what they are supposed to do. Plan, of course is a very important part, but all work is on our side. We can’t forget, that writing something on the piece of paper or in any electronic form will not make it just happen.

And here are a lot of possibilities to attempt your plan. You might just leave it and hoe for better tomorrow, or you can actually keep progressing. But even if you decide to work on your plan, you have to do this wisely, in such a way that will suit you. I will try to introduce one possible way to work on your goals, but bear in mind that there are many other available. As each of us is different, different things will be perfect for each of us. If this technique will not be perfect for you, do your research, or let me know in the comment section below, so I can write about some other technique, too.

  • Set particular time for your work

This might be a very wise and helpful step. You know your schedule the best, so you might decide that every day at 6 pm, or any other time, you will be sitting and working. Completely focused on what you have to do. If your schedule allow you for more such days every week, you can decide to work towards different goal each day a week. But even if you don’t have as much time, you can set just one session a week and plan in advance, what are you going to work on. For sure, you don’t want to waste your productive time for wondering what to do).

  • Switch off all distractions

This might be quite hard sometimes. Of course, switching off your phone or TV playing in the background might be already challenging, but if on top of this you have children, it might become even harder. That’s why make sure, that you plan your working session at the time when your children are asleep. TV and phone? Just switch them off. It might seem hard at the beginning, but I am sure you will survive for this 2 hours 😉

Other distraction is also mess in your workplace. Try to make sure, that your desk (if you are working by the desk) is clean and tidy, that there are no unnecessary things to catch your attention while you are working.

Don’t give up

You should remember that not always everything will go according to your plan. Keep in mind that everyone has worse days in their life. What is important, don’t take it as a reason to stop carry on. Any way, there is still the whole year left. But remember don’t push it away too long either. Time flies and if you leave everything for last moment, you will probably not be able to catch on in the future. Your list, even if it used to seem manageable, might overwhelm you (especially when you’ll try to catch up everything in December). That’s why it is so important to be consistent and slowly keep moving towards your goals.

These are all advises I would like to share with you today. I hope they will help you to achieve your goals. For now I wish you a very productive day and I’ll see you in my next post.

Daria